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[jane27]

Dottie, I posted on the other thread as well. I am thinking of you and will pray for you. Such sad and shocking news. Please stay close.

[Overit-still]

Dot-I just don't even know what to say, I'm so sorry for your loss! I can't even imagine. My heart goes out to you and I will certainly be praying for peace for you. Hang in there, It has got to SUCK but you cannot give in! Stay close my friend.

[scottish lass]

Dottie - been thinking of you lots. Please stay awake from the drink, you know you will regret it!

Read this today - http://mic.com/articles/111142/new-s...rug-in-the-u-s

[peppersnow]

Dottie I am so, so, very sorry for your loss. I am saying prayers for you during this terrible time. You're strong - rely on your friends and support system. Glad your friend is with you, and will be thinking of you often.

[little beagle]

I too am glad someone is with you Dottie. You are in the thoughts of your friends here. Please do stay close here.

[Pavati]

Oh, My Goodness, Dottie. I am so sorry for your loss. I know how much your husband meant to you because of the loving way you posted about him here. What a shock.

I am happy you have support with you there at home. Ava is right - drinking won't make this any better. Now is the time for you to lean on us to help you make it through just like NoSugar posted - experience life, including its end, sober.

Love and hugs.

Pav

[narilly]

Dottie, I'm so sorry to hear about your husband, what a shock! I am glad you have someone staying over, please don't drink. It will make you feel way worse and won't change anything. We love you and are here for you.
Xx
Nar

[scottish lass]

Just checking in to say hello.
I am sure we are all feeling unsettled with Dotties situation and feeling for her. I do hope everyone is taking time to give themselves a little love, and giving those we love and extra hug.
We are all hoping that Dottie is getting the support that we all wish we were giving her, but it is hard in an anonymous site. News like this can be really unsettling, especially when people like us Gloamers are not able to "do" - we can't fix this and that is not easy.
take care of yourselves...

Dottie - we are all feeling your you, it sounds as if your church is gathering around, as you have done so many times for others. Hope you get rest tonight :hug:

Have a safe, sober night Gloamers (or morning, afternoon, evening....)

[treetops]

Great post SL - it feels kind of trite to post about what one cooked for dinner at such times as what Dot is going through.

All well here - just lots and lots of work so forgive the brief post.

[jane27]

Hi Gloamers, it's been a comfort to read everyone's kind and concerned posts in support of Dottie. Her posts have been short but the numbness, shock, disbelief and horror of it all is palpable. I feel so sad for her and I wish so much that it hadn't happened. It'll be a long road ahead. I hope she continues on posting and holding hands with us. There is no standard operating procedure for how to cope with suddenly losing your spouse, best friend, rock. I hope and pray that collectively we can keep her feet on the ground and provide clarity if and when needed. It's such a help to have the kinds of friends where you can say, what do I do now? And they respond with something as simple as, now you're gonna take off your shoes, eat a sandwich, then check in to say goodnight. I hope we can help her. I'm going to pray for her and all of us. All we have is today. I love you guys.

[patrice]

Hi all,
I woke up this morning thinking of Dottie..sending empathy your way all day
Dots.
Like TT, not much to say except that others' experiences often affect us on a deeper level than we may realise and remind us that we humans are totally connected. And that we only ever have the Now..
Take care
Pat
Xx

[jane27]

Morning Gloamers,
Another day, another donut. Super cold in my neck of the woods. My skin is so dry it feels like paper. Been making some good progressive dis positioning things that got thrown into a pile because of the flood. Feeling a bit lighter already. Pav, saw on the gratitude thread that you found a great tutor for your son. That is awesome. Those high school grades are so make or brake. I had a terrible time paying attention in school / connecting with the material being taught in a personal way. It just blew through my ears like wind. Getting teeth cleaned today. Maybe will get claw care too (mani pedi). Love to all.

[Dottie Belle]

Hello all,
Sorry I havent been posting here. I am still numb and hollow....
The doc gave me some Valium which helped me get some sleep last night.
I want desperately to drown my sorrow but have not.
His family will be here tomorrow and his sister is going to stay with me until next friday. Not sure how that will work out but maybe she can help me sort through his things....Otherwise I may just leave them forever waiting for him to return...Still ant believe this happened....I cry and get mad and cry some more....Not having any family is really hard too. I do have some friends from church and one of them stayed with me last night again. I took the Valium and wanted someone here in case I had a strange reaction.
Well the funeral guy will be here shortly to pick up clothes for the funeral...I am just livid.....

[NoSugar]

Dottie,

You've been in our thoughts ever since we heard your sad news. My husband almost died in similar circumstances several years ago so I've had a brief glimpse of how you are feeling and am so sad for you.

You've become a role model for us - keeping your commitment to yourself not to drink in the face of the greatest stress imaginable. I admire you so much.

Thank you for checking in here. I wish there were more we could do for our online buddies but please know that we are sending positive thoughts, prayers, and energy and sympathy and love to you.

xx, NS

[roxane]

dottie, if you want to sort through his things, do so. if you dont, dont. there is no 'right' way to deal with what you are going through. you may want to keep occupied, keep busy. it really is for you to decide. the only things you have to do are the essentials if you dont feel up to any more. maybe get the people who are with you to help, they would be very willing im sure.