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[scottish lass]

Silly busy day again.
Oh the woes of menopause - I am right in the thick of it!
I truly love the Marigold Hotel - will be watching the sequel for sure! Did think of you dear Nar when watching it - such fabulous colours!
Sober dates - what are those???
OK - window of opportunity to post finished - off to run around again!!

[narilly]

SL, you are so nice
Have a wonderful evening.

Goodnight Gloamers!

[treetops]

Quick check in. I actually found menopause a relative breeze compared to menarche and when I first started getting periods, as well as decades of PMS and various painful gynecological problems. Having a baby late in life seemed to stabilize matters there (not a suggestion to be followed!). Anyway so it affects us all differently - as I find out from some of my friends as well. Just feeling positively geriatric today - my cold has retuned and now is definitely flu-like but I can't take time off work.
Yes the Best marigold was a fun movie! But generally I prefer dark intense psychological Nordic ones with complicated plots these days.

[Pavati]

Goodnight!

Someone said instead of saying how busy we all are we should just say "my life is full."

Well, my life is really full.

TT - any recs in that genre?

I'll check out the black kohosh. Thanks.

Nighty night.
Pav

[treetops]

Pav - Forbrydelsen (original version of the Killing); Wallander (Swedish series and there is a UK series); Broen (aka the Bridge - Nordic version, English/French version and US version that I have not seen; Borgen (political - kind of like a Scandi House of Cards); The Legacy (brooding but not a crime story)
Not Nordic but really good IMO - Broadchurch; Happy Valley; The Fall; Missing; Top of the Lake (set in NZ, very brooding and disturbing - has Holly Hunter and Elisabeth Moss in it) http://www.imdb.com/title/tt2103085/
I also liked True Detective but I did not like the series Fargo

If you have any suggestions let me know. I don't have Netflix but I have other ways and means of accessing some of these little gems of misery.

[jane27]

Nar, This too shall pass, and you will emerge stronger. That just seems to be the way it works, but accumulated time really seems to help (me) shake off AL thoughts more quickly than before. God, it sucked being so hooked. I'm still amazed by how hard and how deep into the pit a person can fall because of the addictive properties that AL has. Every day I think about the fact that Dottie lost her husband, and how she cant just have him back. Puts gratitude into sharp focus for me. Wishing everyone a good MAE. xo

[little beagle]

Doing a quick check in. Feeling a bit better. I'm going to work today. No one is there.

[NoSugar]

I read what you wrote in the nest - brave of you, and more information about your addiction than you usually post. Was there something that inspired that?

When I first joined, I told some of the details of my story as I attempted to figure out what had happened. The thing is, stories like mine of lonely, isolated drinking are not very exciting or even sadly amusing. They are easy to forget. I see people in the NN who are like me in that there were no disasters or major humiliations. I think we're even more susceptible to convincing ourselves that we "weren't that bad" than those who have some public humiliation or personal crisis behind them so remembering the weird, secret behaviors, loneliness, emptiness, and despair are especially important. My point in the NN was that staying connected to a group such as this is a good way to keep those memories alive - to forgive but not forget.

[treetops]

I agree NS. I think the quiet addiction and problems many of us have faced here on this thread need more recognition, as well as we need to keep reminding ourselves. Also, some may not post all of their public humiliations or disasters because of privacy issues esp with work. I know its pretty revealing what we do say anyway but there may be events that we just don't want to post.
Glad you are on the mend LB - and I hope everyone else got some good sleep. I am firing on emergency reserves today - still sick and coughing a lot during the night. But its one of those days when I have to put on a good show in front of others and then privately collapse afterwards. Might be a day for special attention to makeup. Which I am useless at doing but needs must. I don't want to scare anyone!

[narilly]

Thanks Jane. I know I will get through. Thank goodness I have you all here.

TT, Forbrydelsen sounds good, if it is like The Killing, which I absolutely loved and The Fall too. I have seen The Bridge and Broadchurch and really enjoyed them as well. I will try and find the others you posted. I don't know if they are on our Canadian Netflix.

Pav, you are busy for sure! I used to be busier but now my kids are not around which is really weird.

Thanks NS, that is a good point. We do have to keep some of our drinking memories alive otherwise it would be way to easy to forget. I can see that happening to me but I am not going to let that happen.

[jane27]

Hi everyone, been feeling lazy recently. It seemed like months on end where some kind of home repair person was here at 8 am and that really kept me on my toes stamina wise. On weeks we don't have the kids, and I don't have an appointment or obligation during the day, I often don't feel like pushing myself to get stuff done. That in and of itself is ok, but i have to watch it because too much of that tends to breed a bit of agoraphobia in me. I also really have to work on the hoarding issue. I had no idea that thee was a form of ocd that relates specifically to collecting things to organize. (That sounds familiar. If I made this comment already, sorry.)Anyone else have an organizing addiction?

For anyone looking for a new series to watch on tv, hubs and I recently started watching Brothers & Sisters. I love it!

[LilBit]

Hi Jane. Funny you should mention that about hoarding and OCD organization. My massage therapist told me about a book today that (she says) is life-altering related to this: The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing by Marie Kondo. From what my therapist said, it's a fresh approach that deals with the reasons why we hang on to things. I just ordered the book on Amazon and, if you like, will let you know how it goes. But it makes sense to me that my OCD side just loves those neatly stacked, color-coded bins of household objects. Now about those 80 pairs of shoes in my basement closet...

[jane27]

Thanks LilBit. I have this little room that I originally named 'the sanctuary' as a joke because I moved in with my husband and his 2 sons. My thought was that this would be my own little safe space where I knew my stuff wouldn't get snooped through, used, or broken. It has turned into the messy room/ staging area where I park everything so that I can deal with it (perfectly) later. The weight of the accumulated stuff is definitely having a negative impact on me (making me feel like there's a chaotic traffic jam). I would like to understand more about why I hang onto stuff with almost a tiny bit of desperation. Like I'm going to lose something if I get rid of it (or feel empty?), when actually the bulk of it all is costing me energy I may otherwise be able to spend on positive things, creative projects, who knows? Holding onto bits of paper doesn't change the reality of what an experience was, and to my dismay it hasn't given me any great upper hand with regard to being in control /on top of things adequately to prevent unexpected problems. Or maybe it has, and there be more of them....lol. I wish I could feel more comfortable with my ability to filter what's worth hanging onto, and what's not, instead of clutching all this stuff like its going to save my life one day.

[little beagle]

Jane become a professional housekeeper and you will immediately come home and throw things away. I promise. Knick knacks? Papers? Old magazines? I have none of these things.
I have been having a bit of a rough time lately. I had to stop doing so much and cut back on my clients. Just way overdoing it. But I feel guilty. I hate feeling like I'm letting people down.
NS I hold onto memories of drinking and the results. Whenever I get one of those nigglings to indulge I pull out one of those memories and that is a reson not to.

[little beagle]

TT feel better.