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[scottish lass]

I do appreciate the support that i get here - it is good to know I am not off my rocker:welldone:
My girls ride horses and compete at weekends, which is great - but I do think the oldest misses a huge social learning environment. She also is involved in community and has well over the required volunteer hours to get HS acknowledgement for community service....Oh well, just have to keep plodding on.
Have a great Friday 13th dear Gloamers...

[NoSugar]

Hey, Pat, not that it was a good experience to say the least but wasn't it great that your sickness wasn't caused by alcohol? Even if you did make a mistake, it wasn't that soul-crushing one!

Great work on 11 months, Nar. Almost a year - can you believe it? You've been so open and honest about the good and the bad all these months. I think that's the way to do it and your upbeat appreciation of AF living has been so helpful to me to read when I've started to take it for granted sometimes. So, thank you.

Jane, I'm sorry you're feeling poorly again. Mysterious illnesses are so confusing and sometimes scary. I have a recurring allergy for which I cannot identify a food, contact, air exposure, or emotional trigger. It is so frustrating. Some of the tools I used to become AF come in handy, though - staying in the moment, appreciate what is feeling good, etc. I hope you start feeling better soon.

Bear, it happened and that's a shame. The important thing is not to allow it to get bigger than a 1-off mistake. You've learned something and now can renew your commitment with more information about yourself and your addiction than you had yesterday. If you have a smart phone, how about posting here first if you ever are considering drinking again? Just that break in the action will probably stop you and I guarantee you that if you wait a bit for an answer, no one is going to suggest that you go ahead and have just one! You're still on our mission, Bear. Hang in there.

Gosh, the US school system needs an overhaul. Given their ages, our kids made it through before everything was measured ad nauseum. I hope it gets straightened out b/f the next generation is getting educated but I'm sorry you're all dealing with this. It's sad when schools rip the fun right out of learning, isn't it? I have several educator friends who are overwhelmed and disheartened by all the rules, requirements, and testing. Some have left a career they loved. I'm sorry some of you have kids who are being subjected to this nationwide experiment. (I was HS educated during the loosy-goosy, no classroom walls, project-oriented 70s - pretty much the opposite of the way it is now!).

TT, it's great you can fully enjoy those moments with your daughter. Once they enter high school, the time flies, just like it did when they were small. And just like infancy, I found that I spent the longest, highest quality time with them in the middle of the night after they returned from an evening out. I guess I'm lucky my AL problem wasn't totally out of control until after they'd left. But the best situation of all is getting AL out of your lives before your kids are that age - they like to seem independent but it turns out they really need their parents during those years (and after :wink:!).

Dottie, you are going to be on an emotional roller coaster for awhile. It's so good that you're not adding to that the horrible ups and downs we experience if we drink.

I checked the latest Bubble Hour earlier today and was surprised to find that the topic was Drinking Dreams. I know others besides me have had this experience recently. Anyway, here's a link if you're interested: http://www.thebubblehour.com/2015/03...ng-dreams.html.

Hope all Gloamers are having/have a great weekend. xx, NS

[narilly]

Thank you NS, what a great post.

SL, you are not off your rocker! Pat, I will have some ginger water too.

Dottie, I'm thinking of you.

Hello Pav, TT, everyone.
Sober Friday night here. Yay!!

[Dottie Belle]

I went to the train club meeting that hubby and I would go to and I had a major meltdown on the way home and now I just cant stop crying. Why was he taken from me.....he was my life and I just dont know how to move forward.....I am miserable and alone.....

[NoSugar]

Hey, Dottie. Some questions just don't have easy answers. We don't get to know all the whys. I'm sorry you're really hurting tonight. Going to that meeting probably stirred up memories that someday you'll cherish but right now are too painful.

I hope you can get some rest tonight. xx, NS

[bear73]

Thanks to everyone for supporting me to refocus,I am and that's how I want to live my life now. Dottie, it must be so so hard,you are being so strong with how you're dealing with it.My housemate died suddenly a few years ago,not as close as partner at all,I'm not equating it.I found I was up and down like a yoyo,and just had to go with it.Unlike you tho,that is when my drinking really ramped up, you are dealing with it in a really good way,you're going through it.Sending you lots of positive and healing thoughts. xxx

Quick whizz in before I go to hairdressers and music do,no way am I drinking today felt ill until 9pm at night yesterday.Today I just feel tired,but focused,I'm aware that can be a danger though so will leave early from music do if I need to.
I will also make sure I eat!Happy Saturday everyone,got lots of new bedding,cheap and quite funky.

[Dottie Belle]

There is an event at my church tonight for PI day...3.14.15...... I will stay as long as I am comfortable then leave if needed.
The weekends are hard. We always had things to do and this time of year there were so many train events to attend. I am just lost and floundering with no direction or clue how to do much of anything...
I have a grief group on Monday and the gym. I have to find a way to fill the weekends up with something. Just not sure how to do that. My friends who are also widows have grand-kids to keep them busy...I have the dogs but it is too messy to do much with them. I dont know...

[Pavati]

Hi, All:

Byrdie always talks about service to others as helping her get through tough times, Dot. Maybe it is too early, but what if you volunteered with kids, or older people? Or animals? It might help you feel better and meet some more people. Like I said, it may be too early to think about that at all.

SL - I have found that a lot of kids who struggle in high school end up becoming great adults, especially if they have support (like you) behind them. I have that talk with students at my school a lot - not to tell them not to try now, but to let them know that there are many different paths to a happy and successful life.

In negotiation with my son who wants to go to a big St. Patrick's Day event - usually is a big drink fest, although he tells me he doesn't drink. I don't even know why he wants to go. Well, ok, I do. But blech.

I am off to work - didn't squeeze it all in this week and have some catching up to do. At least I'm not hungover and I know I can focus and get it done.

xo
Pav

[scottish lass]

Pav - here is to our wonderful children who indeed will be amazing adults! I can work for that!
So sorry you have to go to work today. The weather is so wonderful, hopefully you will get some outside time?
Dottie - hopefully you can find something fulfilling for your weekends?
I got my walk in today - and feel great, so great that I want a cold glass of wine - so thank you Bear for reminding me of why the reality is not the same as the illusion!
So, its the weekend, and as with many of you Gals, I enjoy ice cream at the weekend - and recently a wee brownie has crept in, balanced by raspberries of course - well, I walk every Saturday so on Friday I justify it as I will be walking and on Saturday I justify it as I have walked, and then Sunday as it is the last day of the weekend and I deserve it - well now, doesn't that all sound so familiar - was wondering why my scales were starting to creep in the positive direction! Ha!

[Dottie Belle]

Pav I used to volunteer at a hospital, not the one where he died, so may go back to that. I need something that will challenge me. And I need it to be for just a few hours a day. Cant leave the doggies alone for hours at a time. poor puppies...

[treetops]

Hi there Gloamers -and especially hi to you Dottie. Hope you are Ok this weekend. Doing some part-time volunteering might be a good idea.

My weekend is almost over. I ended up spending quite a lot of time with my daughter - , today a lovely walk exploring some new paths in a forest and over some hills - found out we were trespassing but no hassles! Then she begged me to help her henna her hair. I was very reluctant to do this as she has natural shiny hair and now yup, the henna has made her hair look dull and flat. Guess we all do this sort of thing to our hair. But its one of those days that goes so well and then disappointment sets in - I think many here can relate to that, even if it is very trivial.
SL - for many months after I quit, I used to really feel like I deserved a glass of wine after working hard or when things felt good. Then I reminded myself that I used to be just as likely to want a glass of wine when things went bad. Or when things were flat. And it would never be a glass of wine. I don't seem to feel that way now. But I do confess that I did have a bit of 'damn -I don't drink now' when I walked through the wine section of the supermarket yesterday. 'Everybody' seemed to be buying wine - and 'everybody' I knew yesterday seemed to be posting cheerful pictures on Facebook of winding down with AL. Of course - not everybody did this - and who knows what lies behind the FB images. I met someone in person a while back who does that - often posts the smiling FB image, civilized drink in hand - and the reality was much more messy. All I can say is that I am really glad I quit before I got more used to Facebook!
OK - bit of a rambling on here. You all enjoy the rest of your weekend.

[Dottie Belle]

Friends coming over later to help me take apart the flowers from the funeral.
I had a dream that we were dancing...very strange dream....maybe he was telling me something but not sure...
Sun is out and maybe it will warm up a bit. Grocery later too.

[scottish lass]

Dottie! Go dancing!! Are you able to do that without a partner? I am sorry I don't know. I am sure he was letting you know that he wants you to live!
TT - glad you had such a good weekend! And it is fun experimenting as a teen/ young women, lots of things don't work out but that is all part of it.
No alarm this morning - and of course awake before it would have gone off!
Watched Schindlers list last night with my two - part of a homework project.....it is good to be reminded...
Birds are singing outside - off to put kettle on and have a cup of tea in bed! Love this quiet time

[Dottie Belle]

A friend from church came over this afternoon to help me take apart the flowers so I could throw them away tomorrow. So darn sad....I have good minutes and bad minutes.....I was able to talk about him today without bursting into tears...
Starting a new chapter in my life was NOT what I wanted....

[Ginger999]

A friend from church came over this afternoon to help me take apart the flowers so I could throw them away tomorrow. So darn sad....I have good minutes and bad minutes.....I was able to talk about him today without bursting into tears...
Starting a new chapter in my life was NOT what I wanted....

Hugs :hug: