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[scottish lass]

http://blog.sfgate.com/smellthetruth/2015/03/16/pediatrician-decides-alcohol-or-marijuana

Interesting.....

[little beagle]

Jane and Dottie I too am a person who bonds with one person.
That was a great post Jane.
Well I got a good run in tonight. My new dog had the leash clasp come off her collar and she can run for a chubby dog. I haven't run that much in 10 years. Whew. Finally she saw some men in the car lot behind the house and stopped for a pet. Thank goodness.

[Pavati]

Hi, All:

Thanks for that post, Jane. Made good sense. Sorry about your mother - that sounds like it would be so hard to live with.

Patrice and TT - yum. I'm hungry.

Eloise posts on the Gratitude thread - she is sober and doing well.

I had a big meeting that I was partly responsible for today - I can take the BS whining so much better now that I have more clarity with sobriety. So very grateful to be sober today.

Have great nights, Gloamers.

xo
Pav

[narilly]

Pav, it is amazing how we can cope with situations much better now that we are sober. I guess it's that continuous improvement thing.

Hey, I'm tire so going to sleep now.
Goodnight.

[bear73]

quick post before work,I went to sleep at 830 last night,feel much better for it.
Busy day today,today I will do some exercise and eat better food.I will feel better and be healthier.
Have a lovely day everyone,determined to stick with sobriety.
Love to you all,thinking of you Dottie

[treetops]

Have a good day Bear. My work day has just ended as yours starts!
too tired to write much - see you all tomorrow.

[patrice]

Me too, too tired to write but feeling good...
Love love love dogs!!!
Xx
Pat

[abcowboy]

[Dottie Belle]

I didn't sleep and woke crying. This is just horrible and I am not coping well. My life is just a mess and it was so happy and we had such plans together and now I am alone and struggling to get through each day. I know he wouldn't want me to suffer but he was my life and I only see darkness and sadness in my future. Pleas pray for me ladies I am just so messed up right now.
I haven't visited my dad in over a month. And I have resentment there too. Why is he still here and my loving husband is gone. My dad and I were never close. He was cold and controlling and drank way too much and was not very nice to my mother so why is the best man ever gone and he is still here. I just dont understand anything.
I am not going to the Wednesday class either. I cant commit to anything right now. She will just have to find another helper. I can barely get myself together as it is and to need to be there early etc is just not working for me right now. Nothing is working for me right now......

[jane27]

Dottie, Can you identify one small thing to do today that would take you out of your head? Something redundant (weed pulling?), creative (drawing), productive (organizing)?

[NoSugar]

Oh... I think everyone needs a dog :heart: I know they're a lot of work and can be quite expensive but I sure love having one in my life. I didn't grow up with animals but have always had a dog for the last 30 years. I hope all of your lives have room for one soon!!

Dottie, you get up each day and you're not drinking. To me, that sounds like you're coping. Please don't have too many expectations of yourself right now. Do what you absolutely must do and other than that, just do what feels right at that moment. Jane's idea of a small project that you want to do sounds good to me. Most of all, please try not to judge yourself :hug:.

You sound good, Bear, and motivated to be healthy. Being an all-or-none sort, for me, good habits feed on one another (but bad ones do, also). So when I'm exercising and eating well, I want to do other positive things. When I'm not doing either, I want to do nothing. It helps me that spring is coming - I've always got more energy when we have longer days and better weather for getting outside.

Interesting article, SL. Personally, I think it's illogical that alcohol is legal (it would never be approved by the FDA now if it were a new product) and ridiculous that we're legalizing marijuana (except for medical use). On they other hand, if alcohol is legal it makes sense for the less toxic marijuana to be legal, if only for consistency. I know there is a debate about whether marijuana is addictive but frankly, I've never wanted to run the experiment. I know I have a brain that "likes" the rewards of certain substances that affect that pathway so I really don't want to mess with it ever again. I was protected from the illegal drugs by my goody-two-shoes nature, thank goodness! If only alcohol had been illegal, I doubt I ever would have tried it and so many things would have been different.

Hope you're all enjoying the day!

[treetops]

Beauty sleep over! Boy did my aging body need that! Lets hope a few brain cells got re-energised as well because from now until Friday evening its a line-up of meetings, presentations, dealing with tricky things. Plus being a domestic goddess as well!

Dottie - I try to think of words of support and it always sounds so cliched and I am sure you are fed up with these cliches. Grief can't be rushed so as others suggest its trying to get through one day at a time. The nights are very hard, and just try and get some rest at other times when you can. The anger and unfairness with your father is to be expected. I know its hardly the same but when my lovely Mum died some time ago - I was so angry that my father was still alive - and he would live for many many years. He treated my mother like s__t and he had also been a violent drinker. But I had to live with it, and while not exactly over-enthusiastic, I showed compassion towards this old alone man - who was after all my father.

We don't do St patrick's day in my house although my a partner and daughter have Irish ancestry from another century. The kids at my daughter's school dressed up and I think there were green cupcakes for some. Plenty of drunk university students in some of the bars.

Better go - I can't turn up at work in my PJs. You all take care now.

[Dottie Belle]

I went to see the lawyer and Costco. Also stopped to visit my dad and thankfully he did not remember that I had a husband that was always there with me. He did ask if I had a boyfriend and I said no. He didn't remember that he was married to my mother for 55 years. So sad and he is still here and I didn't even get 20 with mine...so darn sad on both things.

[Eloise]

sending you lots of white light and positive energy Dottie! i am so sorry for what has happened. no, sometimes life just makes no sense at all. none.
i have been there, you do not deserve any of this.
a lovely friend told me once 'throw yourself into your work, paint until the pain subsides.'

[Eloise]

and yes, NS... everyone does need a dog!! :sohappy: