Ladies on a Mission: The Official Site

[Dottie Belle]

I have 5 dogs, 3 of them are on my lap/legs.
I have NO artistic talent at all.
I need to find a hobby that is mine. All the hobbies we had were ones we shared and mostly his because I wanted him to be happy and have something to do.

[Eloise]

Gosh this is really tough Dottie. I am so glad you are AF though, everything would be much worse if you were drinking. At least you have a clear mind to take you through this, and it will.
I am happy to know you have some quality k9 company and certain they are missing him too. Please take good care of all of you these days and stay close.
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[little beagle]

Wow Dottie. 5 dogs. I'm really busy with 3. Big hugs sweet lady. I made a serenity corner in my bathroom. I put things from different people in it. Things from women I admire. Pictures of a couple of saints. And I light a candle in there at times. Especially when I am feeling troubled, angry, sad, or even thankful. I found it helps my peace of mind. And I have thought of you and prayed for serenity of mind for you.
Bear I can promise that not drinking is something that I have never regretted. It's been one of the most loving things I have ever done for myself.
NS I wanted to say that I'm glad you're here with us and that I'm glad alcohol is legal because otherwise we would not be able to benafit from you, but that sounds selfish. I'm just glad that we are in this together.
Thanks for your great post TT.

[Pavati]

Hi, Gloamers.

Yes, a dog will be in my life again - just when things smooth out a bit.

I definitely tried many things, but never really had the pull to anything but alcohol. When I quit I briefly discussed trying to smoke weed just to relax and/or "have fun," but I decided that the whole point of this is learning how to cope on my own, without a substance. So, I decided straight all the way.

Dottie - I am with TT - all of my sentiments seem cliche. My dear mother in law died young and we just got together with her brother who is a heavy smoking alcoholic and I did have a moment of "why her and not him?" Not very charitable, but there are so many questions that have no answers (and we're back to the cliche). Jane's advice is good - maybe pick one thing to get out of your head. And take care of yourself. I am so very proud of you for getting through this without drinking.

I may have converted my addiction to ice cream. I just ate more than I intended and really didn't stop when I told myself I would. Hmm. I'll get to step one one of these days... I'll just have to keep exercising to burn it off!

LB - I agree - so happy to have you all to go through this with. The serenity corner sounds lovely and like a good idea. Maybe I'll start taking over a corner here in my apt.

Good night gloamers. Happy St. Patrick's Day. I'm not going to lie - I had a wee hankering for some Irish whiskey tonight, and that old "I wish I was 'normal'" feeling. I am over it now, and happy to be going to bed with a clear head.

xo
Pav

[narilly]

5 dogs Dottie? I am sure they give you lots of love. That's so good to have right now.

El, I was wondering how you are doing. You sound good. I was talking about my love of daschunds the other day and that reminded me of you.

They are starting to market palcahol which is powdered alcohol. Can you imagine? I'm so glad they didn't have it when I was young.

Goodnight Gloamers

[scottish lass]

Evening all - yes, I need a dog - biding my time at present, though I am frequently tempted.
Pav - salut to you and ignoring the pull of the Irish:hug: That ice cream thing is a pain though isn't it! I was managing weekends, but it is creeping over!
This powdered alcohol is just too weird all round.....and so scary.
El - hi!

[patrice]

Hiya,
Hope everyone has a good day, mine is winding down, managed to get to the supermarket after work which is always an expensive chore ....
Found a place which is stocking local organic veges and kefir.. Absolutely delighted!!
There was a wine sale on at the supermarket.. I didn't look. I did want to.
Ava - sorry to hear about your sick dog and Robert's prognosis.. You give such a lot of strength to others, I'm sending you all mine xx
Dottie - I hope you are sleeping
Take care
Pat

[Dottie Belle]

Morning all,
Up and dressed. Fed the dogs and now catching up on emails and you all.
I just cant imagine life without him. We were having so much fun and now nothing to fill my days. Gym later but nothing until then. I have to figure something out. Counselor tomorrow so maybe she can help. I just dont know...very lost.

[narilly]

Dottie, I find going to the Counsellor is very helpful because you can say pretty well anything without fear of them being offended or judging you. Hopefully she helps you and gives you some suggestions on how to deal with this terrible grief.
Big hugs.

Pat, that supermarket sounds really good. Its nice to find a good place to shop.

Ava, Im thinking about you.

SL, ya, can you imagine having Palcahol when we were younger. That would have been bad news for me. I would have brought the stuff with me everywhere!

I have a function tonight, hopefully there is no wine there. I will check in later, maybe tonight or in the morning.

Bye Bye Gloamers!

[Dottie Belle]

Kinda looks like I ran everyone off the steppers thread and maybe here too...sorry I hate being so morbid and sad all the time. Hopefully the grief groups and the counselor will help me so I am not always talking here and bringing everyone down...sorry

[scottish lass]

Dear Dottie - I am so sorry!
I admit to signing in earlier but could not think of anything to say - I was going to post my normal, fairly frivolous comment, but it did not feel right.
I read your post a few times, and sorry did not cut it - so I chose to say nothing - and I do know how wrong that is.
I think it is terribly hard, we are a bunch of anonymous folks, who have built relationships (albeit around false names) and who do care a lot about people that we have no idea what they look like. I want to help, but have no idea how to. I work with families of people who are in a similar position as you all the time, and know how to help them - but I can't work out anything to say in an anonymous post.
So, yes, I did run away - which is no help to you...
Are there things we can do that help at all? Do you want to share stories of your husband? Share good memories?
Do you want us to carry on as normal, griping about our situations and celebrating our victories - does it help you for us all to carry on as normal?
Can you help us to help you???

[little beagle]

Thank you for the great, honest post SL.
Dottie you have NOT chased me off. We are here for each other. Through thick and thin. This is real life and helping each other through the tough times is what it's about. Cry, rage, vent, cuss, laugh, do what you need to to help yourself. And we will do our best to do the same in our turn. Big hugs at this difficult time sweet lady. You are amazing. I am proud of you.
Ava, this same thing goes for you. I am missing your waffles.
my dog Pippi is being spayed tomorrow.

[Dottie Belle]

I need some sense of normal so please come and rant and fuss about any and everything....There is nothing anyone can say or do except to be here so I have something to read so I am not looking around at this empty room.
I know you all feel bad for me and I do too but I have to keep going and hearing about everyone does help me.

[scottish lass]

Sounds great Dottie - and I know I have used MWO as a distraction when I was going thru bad stuff. It was helpful to read that life was carrying on, also that people had survived bad times sober and come out on the other end.

I actually don't have lots to say today - felt as if I crawled my way up to the top of hump day today - we are changing our name of our business - it is a huge endeavor, and it is supposed to be a secret until Monday (so don't tell anyone - ok?) - there is so much to do and to get ready....I have been with the old organisation for just over 20yrs so am feeling some loss, and trying to be upbeat and happy about the changes....and still get my "real" work done on top of all the hoopla!

So big staff meeting Monday to rebrand, then to one regional office 200 miles away Tuesday, back to office Wed then to other regional office another couple hundred miles away on Thursday - bring on next Friday!!!! It will be a killer week, and a great (or not great) excuse for lots of drinking a couple years ago!

[Pavati]

Hi, all:

It IS a bit slow around here lately - comes and goes like that. Dottie, i don't think you ran anyone off, but I struggle what to say in support, too. I am so proud of all of you who go through such awful things and keep your sobriety. Your posting here is helpful to me, too. So let's stick around and help each other out - just like LB says.

But not tonight for Pav. I am home late after my son's basketball finals (we lost). A lot going on here lately.

xo
Pav