Ladies on a Mission: The Official Site

[jane27]

Lil, what a nice poem. Pav, I've veen reading about Adrenal Fatigue Syndrome. It gets into stepped up production of cortisol during high stress times which can often be followed by a crash. Makes sense to me. NS, loved the photo of the club soda. I really appreciate good quality & creative packaging! Hard to believe Friday has come zipping round the corner again. The boys come back to us tomorrow for the week. We finally received a check from our insurance company for all of the damage, so tomorrow I have to match up some paint colors, and pick a new one for the family room. The room faces south west but doesn't get much light even with sliding doors that go out to a pergola. To brighten it up, were going to put down Pergo wood laminate instead of going with wall to wall carpet. I'm thinking something light green might look cheerful & warm. BM has a color called apples & pears but I'm not sold on it. If anyone has color suggestions, please send them my way. Gonna snow here tomorrow
So nice to hear some chatting going on. Hi G, NS, SL, Nar, Pat, Bear, TT, Ginger, Pav, Ava, lil, and sweet Dottie. Love to all of you

[bear73]

hey lovelies,hey Pav I'm a bit like that atm, waking and thinking about work,loads on,coming to an end though for me soon, hope it is for you too.
All last minute as well.Feels like not enough hours in the day atm, I've been sleeping in make up and not cleaning teeth before bed,not exercising,not eating enough fruit and veg.Bit of cause and effect at work for me.I'm off to spa on Monday and I feel like it's much needed.Planning to buy some one wipe stuff to remove make up at night and also get other healthy routines back.

I also have birthday do in May with work peeps where people are talking about staying over and being boozy,I lapsed with these guys last thursday,thinking of driving as I really want to see them,it won't start off mega boozy and then can sneak off when it gets a bit boozy.
Old friend anxiety is back,I have my period but also not been looking after myself.
Me first time again I think.

[Dottie Belle]

Morning all,
Had dreams about hubby last night. He wasn't talking to me just a presence. Woke missing him so much.
Gym later then I guess home alone tonight. No clue how I could occupy myself somewhere alone. I was OK doing that a few decades ago but not now.
Money stuff is still messed up. Investment folks called today to say that the holder of some of them couldnt reach me...how hard did they try, so I need to sign more forms and it will take yet more time....I am very frustrated. Well that does not seem to take much now. We saved so much so we could travel this and next year so now what. I watch the sun set over the storage shed in the back yard???? Damn this makes me so mad. We did without so we could enjoy things and now I am here alone with no one to enjoy things with...double damn!!
Gloomy out today and that does not help my disposition one little bit.
Dogs are all over me today. Guess they feel my pain and are trying to console me maybe??? If it wernt for them I am not sure I would have gotten out of bed the last few weeks. Bless their little hearts...

[narilly]

Good morning!
TT, no soda water? That really sucks. That bugs me when people don't have drinks for us non drinkers although I never cared about that before.

Dottie, you do sound like you are working through it but this is going to take a long time. It Just happened, don't Rush yourself.
SL, teenage girls are a handful, I know.. Mine is 20 now and things are great with her. Whew!

Hello G Man. Thanks for sharing, it helps us all.

Well, off to the market on my Friday off. Yeah!

[scottish lass]

Hi all - TGIF - though the day started with multiple calls from school about a student threatening to "shoot up the school" - what has society come to???
Pav - three day weekend, how do you manage that? ENJOY!
Jane - love the floors - I have hardwood floors with no carpet anywhere and love it! I have a brick fireplace wall that is painted white - it does make the room light. It is nice to highlight art and accents - I say go for it....(you sound as if you are enjoying this!!)IMG_1548.JPG
Dottie - give your doggies tummy rubs for me - glad they are looking after you..
Bear - My birthday is May too - lets get there sober, ok? You are sounding wobbly - can we help? Really work on that you first idea, it does help!

[paulywogg]

Jane and SL,I love your fireplaces! I have tile downstairs and wood upstairs, in Vegas having carpet is nasty, my 2 huge area rugs get so dusty, I can't imagine full carpeting, gross!

[Dottie Belle]

Jane I love the stone and white too. We have 1970's red brick on one entire wall and had planned to white wash it white to brighten up the room....doubt I will ever get to that as I am not that creative and he had such good taste..
Gal at the front desk at the gym asked where hubby was and I just lost it then she lost it and we were both standing there crying. This is so hard and each day is a new challenge just to go through the motions.

[jane27]

Thanks for the feedback folks. SL, Ohhhhhh for my family room to look more like yours! A girl can wish!

[scottish lass]

Jane - I tend to think you are way more creative than I can ever imagine - so if you have ideas you have ability to make them work...I look forward to seeing end result...
Dottie - it must be heartwarming to find people who care like that, and can show you...
Hi there Pauly...

[bear73]

hey there - I'm planning to get bedroom decorated and a new bathroom.Looking forward to it. I need to chill a bit,curry and early night tonight and going to chill.
Good food and exercise coming back,busy time almost done after tomorrow.

[treetops]

Hi everyone - good to see those pics of the white brick fireplaces. I was thinking about this but will keep to the red brick color we have - more in keeping with the overall era and style of the house. Your room looks much more tidier than my living room is SL. We have to have carpet here as it gets very cold and we don't have any underfloor heating.
Good to see you Pauly - hope things are OK. You too Bear.
I guess Pav is off on her weekend.
Dot - don't read any further if you don't want to hear old misery-guts here.

I am a bit down at the moment- I often get a bit like this at weekends -and its not surprising I am down this weekend after the crazy busy week. (And computer problems that have caused much frustration). I have really thought a lot about why I am like this and what to do. Because of my job I just don't feel like socializing in the weekends - and to be honest I am not so keen on socializing much these days. Sometimes with special people or a visitor but not much in groups unlessI have to. I don't know if its got worse after I quit AL - because I had cut myself off from people years before I quit. But now I don't have my AL buddy - so the gaps seem a little bigger.
Also going through one of those periods of self doubt that probably sounds so familiar to you all.
Its really good to be able to share some of this here - hope I am not miserabilising anyone (think I just made up a word!). No desire to drink but its hit me hard that there are social activities that I once enjoyed and now in all honesty, I don't enjoy. I have leisure activities I do like (e.g. walking, travelling, movies) but sometimes like tonight I have that 'missing out' feeling. Its silly and irrational but just needed to say it.

[Dottie Belle]

Morning all,
Wretched nights sleep. Dreaming about hubby and I didn't take the Benadryl because I feel so dopey when I wake up. But sleep I did not for very long. I am tired of feeling this way.
Supposed to meed friend later to do some errands and lunch. Need distractions. Sitting here gets me in a real depressive funk.
I want to feel better but dont know how. Hope they counseling groups help some. At least it will get me out of the house for a while.
They say it will warm up some today. Hope they are right.
Treetops I feel like I am missing out on life in general. Nothing to look forward to. No Friday night drinking or going out with hubby and no Saturday doing silly things. It all sucks and there is nothing I can do about it.....I hear ya..

[treetops]

Thanks Dot - my feeling low is very different than your loss. I also have my work - which although demanding gives me great satisfaction at times. I do a lot of research and writing in my work and last night thats what I ended up doing for a few hours.

I greatly sympathise on the lack of and the broken sleep as that has been something I have experienced during much of my life. My sleep was a real mess for years when I was going through grief - but then its like that at other times too (not forgetting the baby/young child years - how did I cope?). When I was much much younger I also got addicted to prescription sleeping tablets (some are now no longer prescribed) that really messed with me. These were dished out like lolly water when I was deserted by my then husband and also trying to write a thesis. I came to use AL as a sleeping aid. Bad bad bad.

The best solution for me with sleeping was to quit AL and quit all other sleeping-related medication. I still think the latter are over-prescribed and there is a huge market in over the counter aids. I suspect this is more so in the US than in some other countries. I know some people need help with sleeping or relaxing, especially on a temporary basis but relying on drugs is not always the ultimate answer.
So hang on in there Dottie and good on you for trying to cope with the sleep. You will feel really tired anyway -many people describe grief after a close loved one as having been hit by a truck and then carrying their own body that feels like lead.

These days I have learned to function with broken sleep - or to grab a nap when I can. Most importantly, I try not to watch the clock or to count the hours. I listen to the sounds of the night (I am lucky that its very silent or the sounds are natural, such as night birds or the wind or rain, where I live). Its an attitude that seems to also help me when I travel and when I have to deal with time differences and jet lag. Of course I have my crazy moments! I put some sleep and rest along with other things - like eating well, getting some exercise and slowing down. But I don't find it useful for me to track these against numbers or averages. I try to listen to my body and my moods - which is partly why I put my misery-guts feelings up there yesterday.
Where is everyone else? Are you guys in the North looking forward to spring and summer? Autumn here now and its getting colder.

[Dottie Belle]

I went to church this afternoon to help my friend with her Sunday school prep. They had put a copy of our directory picture in my mail slot. He looked so handsome...on the way home I had a screaming hysterical fit in the car. I am glad I didn't wreck it. The pain is so raw and deep. I can not fathom life without him. I am sitting here looking out the door and wishing I could join him but I know that is not what he would want and I have to take care of the dogs but this emptiness is overwhelming...how/why did this happen now. WE were do happy with so many plans and now I am here alone and miserable. Even when I try to go out I am miserable because he should be with me.
It will be one month on Monday. Seems like an eternity....

[treetops]

Really sorry and sad for you Dot. Sending strength and hugs across the water. Yes your husband would want you to live a good life and you have to care for the dogs. pain and grief is a slow process and there are so many things like the photograph that will hit you so very hard.

But if those kind of thoughts get worse please call a friend now. Xxxx