Ladies on a Mission: The Official Site

[narilly]

Hello everyone.
Dottie, you are going through the motions and they really suck. It has been a month which is really a very short time. Just keep working through it and keep talking to us.

Jane, I loke the white stone look with the hardwood, that is nice. My house has hardwood floors which I really like.
Hello Bear, curry is always good!
SL, I am sure you are creative too. I get the feeling that Jane is a natural at it, I definitely am not.

Just watched The Book Thief, it was really good. I am glad I watched it.
Another sober Saturday here. Love being sober.

[scottish lass]

You and me Narilly - I know when I see something I like, but getting there is a mystery!
Dottie - I am a little taken abck that it is a month. Keep on going, you are doing well even though it feels like hell. You are going to survive and you will find pleasure in the world again.
TT - sorry dear....I do go down too, usually around a full moon - I am not a social creature and used wine to help to get over my dislike of small talk and socializing - I have not been "out" for a very long time, and if I allow myself I get despondent about it - I try not to think too much and try to enjoy what I do and be happy with what I have. My youngest asked me when I would start to date again, and I just looked at her - I left my ex four and a half years ago, and have come nowhere near a date - I am scared of being alone when the girls leave, but will face that when I get there - I do feel lucky that I am alone by myself and not alone with a partner...
Well, TT - just read what I wrote and it was no help at all was it - hope you can find joy in the things that you do have and your low-ness passes over...

[treetops]

Oh I am OK SL and thanks for asking! Each day brings its new challenges and today has indeed done that. At least I don't have to worry about dating - or even think about it. I just couldn't imagine all that rigmarole again.

Some cute birds are in the garden - that is cheering me up. And my daughter and I talked about paint colors for the laundry/toilet. She has a great eye for color.

[narilly]

Cute birds in the garden sounds so nice. It was overcast and gloomy here all day. Hubby and I watched a bunch of shows and just sat on the couch. SL, it is so good you are comfortable being by yourself, you can do anything you want
I made a yummy bacon hash with cauliflower for lunch though, and a desert with whip cream and soft goat cheese- lots of Fat!
We used to go out or have people over Every weekend. Now since I/we quit drinking, we don't do that hardly at all. It is amazing how much my socializing was tied to drinking. Now on to a new sober life with maybe just a little less socializing. That's just fine by me, now I don't have to worry all the time about drinking too much.
Hugs Dottie.

[NoSugar]

Hi, Gloamers

I love reading your posts even when (for once :wink, I don't have much to say.

Nar, we might need to share some recipes!

xx, NS

[little beagle]

Jane as a housekeeper I have to add my favorite. It's fairly new on the mm arket I believe because I am just seeing people use it. It's ceramic tile that looks like wood. I really couldn't tell the difference when I first saw it. And it's super easy to take care of.
Hubby is redoing the bathroom flooring right now as I'm typing. And of course he's putting in ceramic tile. With 3 dogs now I wouldn't put anything else down. I love the durability and easy clean up.
Dottie you remind me of one of my clients. She lost her husband during an operation. She told me that it took her about 6 months to stop crying at church every time someone lookec at her. But she has adjusted and is happy now. I love her dearly. She's one of my favorite people. I know that you will come through this and things will fall into place. I'm just glad you keep coming here every day.
Weekends have become my favorite time. I use to really stress with that much down time, but now it just feels way too short.
I am sitting outside in shorts, tanktop and flipflops. It's getting hot here way too quick. My spring flowers didn't even bloom. Straight to dead. Sigh. But I'm sure the summer ones will be lovely.
Happy unhung weekend Narilly.
Take care of yourself Bear. And if you feel that yoi are in danger, don't go. The idea of leaving early is a great one. Just don't put yourself in danger.
I keep telling my husband this over and over, but he is REALLY struggling. It's terrible. I feel so sad for him.

[bear73]

hey everyone,on sofa v man flu,taking it as a signal to slow down - so I am!
Lots of nothing and bit of reading,snoozing and good food planned today,with a few naughty treats!
TT - sorry you've been feeling low,it comes and goes sometimes,coming on here and being able to be honest and feel it is a big help,to me anyway.I don't have any words of wisdom - just know that coming here helps you and others

house decorator - I like your style and you have reminded me that making my home a more pleasant place to be is on the cards for me this year,lets see how we get on.

SL - I think it is a huge help,to me anyway,just to read others struggle - and how they cope

Dottie - it's good you come here each day,and that you have your dogs,and keep reaching out.You're being so brave feeling it,I didn't feel my loss,blocked it with booze and had to feel it tenfold later on. Day by day,and you are in my thoughts.

sorry everyone I'm not great at who posted what but I'm loving being here and hearing from you all.Have a good day everyone xx

[Dottie Belle]

Morning ladies,
Restless sleep. Dreams but I cant remember them. Dogs would not leave the dog next door alone at the fence. Barking and growling I just stood in the yard and cried. When will this end?? I am so darn miserable. I want to run away and start a new life. But I am here and cant go anywhere.
One month tomorrow brings back so many things. Why didn't I take him home when the scheduling was messed up. why, why, why didn't I tell him not to have the surgery....I could go on and on and it changes nothing. I am just lost and alone and I hate all of this.

[scottish lass]

Morning all - just checking in before my day.
Dottie - hindsight would be great, there are so many things we would have done differently. Looking back and wanting to change outcomes is natural but don't get stuck there. Sadly what is done is done. You are actually starting a new life, or at least a new phase, and you are doing it sober. The acuteness will start to ease - it is really early days...be kind to yourself...

[narilly]

Good morning everyone. Dottie hand in there, just keep posting.

NS, yes we should share recipes. I am making beef stroganoff today with lots of sour cream and mushrooms.
For supper, chicken wings and whatever else I can think of. I usually cook on Sunday for the rest of the week.
TT, hope you feel a bit better today. I am very jealous of LilB who is sitting outside in shorts and a tank top. It's -5c here today. Nice and sunny but a bit cold. Oh well.

Back to cooking. Talk soon.

[NoSugar]

Hi, Gloamers

Life is pretty full right now - of many positive things and a few not so good ones. My job is extra-busy this time of year and while I'm no longer quite the perfectionist, over-achiever I used to be, I still get stressed when I get behind in my work. However, the good things in life take time and attention and I have to keep reminding myself of what is really important after all. So, unlike in the old days, I'm not letting myself work like a maniac to catch up. On top of that, I have quite a bit of upcoming travel - some for work and some for fun. But, being a person who really enjoys my home and day-to-day life, 3 fairly big trips in rapid succession don't look as good to me as they might to other more adventurous sorts. I'm going to try to relax, stay in the moment, and enjoy what is happening at the time - without too much worry about what I may not be getting done. Easier said than done but I'm going to try! Thank goodness I don't have the burden of figuring out how to acquire and consume enough wine on these trips (although I must admit that that completely overwhelming stress used to keep my mind off the other concerns of life... I'm so glad that's over!).

Hope you've all found some peace and contentment this weekend. xx, NS

[peppersnow]

Hey all - I haven't posted in ages....my laptop went down, so my only access for the past 10 days to a keyboard was my work computer, which I'd rather not use. But I have popped in on my phone to try to keep up with the forums. I'm a terrible typist on my phone and am relieved to have access to my keyboard again! Tomorrow is my 1 year anniversary. Coincidentally, our office "Holiday Party" which has been rescheduled like 10 times is officially happening tomorrow, which includes a spa treatment for each of us as staff. So that will be my secret treat to mark my 1 year.

Thank you to all of you on MWO for the amazing support you provide to everyone who comes here and simply asks. What an amazing community. I know I don't give back what I've been given, and have promised myself 100 times that I'm going to get better about that. I started writing a 1-year reflection and think I'll share that in the Nest in the upcoming days, as a starting point. Have a great week, all and thank you again for everything you give to everyone here. I love you all. Here's to a sober forever for all of us!

[narilly]

I second that Pepper! A sober forever to all of us. Sounds perfect!
Congratulations tomorrow on 1 year, that is freakin awesome Pepper!!! Enjoy your spa treatment tomorrow. Xo I am very proud of you.

NS, you do sound super busy, thanks for checking in. Where are you travelling for fun? No vacation for me, my husband still doesn't have a job but has an interview tomorrow. Send good wishes our way!
Good night Gloamers.
I am looking forward to an UnHung Mon.

[narilly]

Lol! UnHung Mon. I am UnHung Mon...I sound Jamacian! Lol

[NoSugar]

Congratulations on your first of many years of truly living, Peppersnow! You may not post as often as you would like but when you do, your insight is so helpful and your appreciation of all you've gained is an important reminder to all of us to value what we've done. I'll be looking forward to reading your year's end reflections.

I'm so glad to have gotten to know you this year. :hug: NS