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[jane27]

Pav, Congrats on 500! Sort of a trip isn't it? I'm proud and happy for you; I'm also very grateful for your consistent and thoughtful posts. Your success is a huge part of mine. I wish I could think of a different / less co dependent way to say it, but I cant. Your strategy, style & constancy were a support beam to me. Because you did it, I believed I could too. Thanks and big hugs xo

[little beagle]

Have a nice, relaxing time NS.
Congratulations Pav. 500 days is a reason to celebrate.
I hope the RV starts for you Dottie. And you get all the business taken care of. (((Hugs))).
Jane I am going for my physical tomorrow. And I'm going to ask gor hormonal levals checked and a few other things, but I think my ear is infected. It's not draining properly and it's just draining me.
I am going to the beach thiscweekend. Finally. I am celebrating a bit early but that 2 year mark is here. The 24th of this month. When I will be doggie sitting for my daughter when she goes to San Francisco. 4 dogs in my tiny house. One a BIG dog and two very active. I hope I survive in one piece. With my sanity intact.

[Pavati]

Good night, Gloamers:

My lazy consisted of a lunch out, reading a book all day, a nap, dinner out, and finishing my book. VERY lazy and pretty delightful because I just gave in to it instead of fighting it. Off camping tomorrow, so may miss posting.

Dot - hang tough. I can't imagine what going through all of that stuff must be like.

NS - Is this the same place as last year? Have fun! It has been "cold" (for No. CA in April) here lately. I hope you get some warm, nice weather.

Thanks for the congrats. I feel silly telling my husband about milestones sometimes - good to celebrate them here.

Jane - I feel the same way about ALL of you. If you all can do it, so can I. That's why I love the MWO family.

If you don't hear from me for a couple of days, I am roasting marshmallows over a fire and getting dirty, but definitely NOT drinking.

xo
Pav

[narilly]

500 days, Yippee! That IS a nice round number.
Way to go Pav, you have been such a great help to me. I know what you mean about telling your husband. People who don't have a problem with AL just can't relate to what a big deal it is.

I got my two week notice yesterday at work so now I am going to be Un employed starting May. That sucks but I will enjoy some time off I guess
Money will be an issue, but I am sure I will get another job. Hopefully we see some oil rebound.

NS, enjoy your time at the resort. It is really nice here today, around 70F/20C and sunny. Love that.

Lil B- the beach? Awesome.
Jane, everyone, thanks for being here. You too SL, TT, Rox, Ava, Cowboy, and everyone else.

gotta go!

[Dottie Belle]

Heading off to my grief counselor. I have been crying all day and I have no clue why. Gym after the counselor...I so want out of this fog and I know that takes time and I am so impatient to be in a better place.
Tomorrow we take the RV to be sold I hope and Monday the house closes....maybe I will feel better after that stress is gone...I hope so....I want to survive this and feel better....sigh...

[peppersnow]

Pav - 500 days!! That definitely is a beautiful number! Glad you had a relaxing day.

L.B., if you're celebrating 2 years early, please accept my congratulations a few weeks early too. That's an amazing accomplishment!

Have fun on your trip, N.S., and everyone else have a wonderful Friday. I read somewhere that it feels like Friday today -- that's how I'm feeling. But I read somewhere that the happiest people in the world are people who give themselves permission to be happy about things that seem unreasonable to be happy about, so I'm going with it being Friday today. When I wake up tomorrow and still have to work, I'll be happy again that it's Friday.

Nar - sorry about the job loss, but glad you sound so okay with it, and optimistic.

Dottie - I hope that talking with the counselor helps. I can't imagine going through what you're enduring right now, and my heart is with you.

Take care and a safe weekend to all!

[NoSugar]

Nar, I am so sorry you've lost your job. I had no idea the oil industry could turn around so quickly. When prices go back up (which I've read they will), all these companies are going to be scrambling to get their talent back! I hope you'll be able to take advantage of that when the time comes. It sounds like you know you worth, which is great, so you won't be taken advantage of.

I just went for a 3 hour hike in the hills and along the ocean. I'm tired now but it is the "good tired".

Have fun camping, Pav, and at the beach, LB! Isn't it great to plan these activities and not have to figure out how to make room for that nasty AL?? A glass of wine costs $12-16 here (heck, an omlette costs $28) so I would have had a hard time getting "enough".

Jane, I'm glad your cleanse is over; as you know, I'm not a fan. I hope it made you feel good, though, and you can build a good diet from this baseline.

Have a good day, Gloamers! NS

[available]

Hi Loamers

I read here everyday to see how you all are but life has been so busy with work, kids, Robert, sick dogs etc. And i thought i would be bored when i stopped drinking!

Today I am off to Thailand. A year ago i was lunatic Linda and you all gave me so much help, advice and wisdom on getting through not drinking. Fast forward a year and i just know i wont drink, i may have an urge but it wont be a battle to say no. Mum is here now and nagging me to pack, dont know why since we leave today. She is so proud of me and our relationship although not perfect, has not been destroyed by my drinking.

I just wanted to say if it was not for you all here i would not be living the life i have now and i will always be eternally grateful to you all. My anxiety is through the roof about flying but i read that is due to me having no control over the flight and that is so true. Valium is my true friend today! ha ha.

Nar sorry to hear about you losing your job but life throws us shit and we know we can deal with it sober now. I will say hi to your boy if i see him (highly doubtful) but one never knows!

xxxx

[Lizann]

Congrats on 500 days Pav!!! That's fanastic. I too have issues with flying. I would drink before as well. Planning to go to Switzerland this summer. Need to get a few more sober days under my belt so I'm good and strong for that!

[little beagle]

Great to see you Ava. Have a great trip. I remember the stress from last year and it's so wonderful that you're confident this time.
Narilly so sorry about your job. But please enjoy your time off.
Dottie you are in my thoughts. I'm glad you're not drinking.
Have a great time NS. Those prices are crazy. It really is a good thing you aren't drinking
Thanks Pepper.

[narilly]

Ava, enjoy your trip. This year will be even better than last.

NS, that sure is a good tired. I have been tired lately and I think it is from stress, darn job stress! I think way too much about money, it drives me crazy.

Lizann, Switzerland sounds amazing. I have never been there.
Pepper, nice to hear from you.

Have a good night everyone. Tomorrow is Friday, yay!

[jane27]

Nar, ugh! I hope this turns out to be a cloud with a silver lining; I'll betcha it does. Big hugs

[NoSugar]

Hi, Gloamers

I've had time to cruise around MWO while on vacay and boy, this place is pretty slow! It would be nice to think that that is because we've all rewired our brains and are out living full and happy sober lives... but I have my doubts. I'm really glad to see that this thread is staying pretty active. It's been a huge part of my Sobriety Maintenance Program. From what I can tell, it takes a village... at least for me.

While I've been on this holiday that included parties with fabulous food and beverage, it crossed my mind to try having A glass of wine. This wasn't a craving or a desire to become a moderate drinker --- it arose because I like to run experiments on myself (actually, on others, also, but I don't have too many volunteers :wink. It seemed like such a unique envionment - like a "what happens at the resort stays at the resort" kind of thing. I really "feel" like I could do that. But -- I'm stopped by everything that I've read and written here and by the fact that I cannot even imagine logging on and telling you guys about the little trial I decided to run. The other thing is, I can't imagine risking the mindpeace I've gained on the whole subject. While I don't "feel" like I would immediately go back to where I was, what if I did??? or what if it set me on the path of thinking about it every day?? That obviously isn't worth the risk - I'll just have to remain curious about what would happen if I had just one. Enough other people have run that experiment and shared their resullts -- I just need to remind myself (over and over!) that there is no reason to think I'm different.

Anyway, I'm glad you're all here. I hope you all keep posting and that maybe some other ladies and gents on a mission chime in. When a thread loses energy, it brings everyone down. I think it is critical to stay upbeat and enthused about this change in our lives or to share when we've got struggles of any sort and get some feedback and understanding. I know for me, it is too easy to believe I've not got a problem anymore.

Hope you're having a good day/evening. NS

[Byrdlady]

Hey NS!
Just for grins, do an Advanced Search on this site with these key words 'One Glass Relapse.' You will find page after page of folks who have tried the experiment! No need to wonder any more! Turns out, alcoholism doesn't take vacation! BAH! I know you are just expressing thoughts, but thought I'd shake it up with my two cents! Hope you are having a wonderful time!!! Byrdie

[NoSugar]

I knew you would just love my idea, Ms. Byrdie! And you're right, they're just (crazy) thoughts. My concern is that if I didn't stay involved here (and took off for wherever all the missing MWOers are), I'm not convinced I'd think they were so crazy after all...