Ladies on a Mission: The Official Site

[Pavati]

Hi, Nest:

Jane - your activity exhausts me! You are so productive. Sorry about your feet and the salt. And I'll be working out next to LB.

Sounds lovely, Ava.

I am still neck deep in work - about a week and a half more and things will calm down slightly.

Good night.

Pav

[jane27]

Just checking in to say gnight Gloamers. Pav, it makes me feel good that you think I sound productive. I have been, but I tend to run myself into the ground. I have trouble getting much of anything at all done on weeks when we have the kids. I can't think when there is chaos. Tomorrow planning to go to Lord & Taylor to try and find something new to throw into the mix for the conference. Also planning to check out a furniture store. I have looked at so many couches on line. They all look similar except for the price. Cant wait for the workmen to be gone. They are working so slowly. Hopefully they will be done by the end of the week. Later gators. xo

[narilly]

Jane, your poor feet! Now I have seen part of your body, that was pretty exciting!
Cute duck too.
Pav, black sweaters rock.
I am glad you are enjoying your trip Ava.

Thanks for the good wishes. My job is super stressful right now so it is gross.

I am at the doctors to get my thyroid prescription so I have a sec to message.
Stay sober everyone!

[little beagle]

Sorry your job is sonstressful Narilly.
I'm just so tired tonight. But I'm actually feeling better. I think being out in the sun has helped. I've been thinking about how much more enjoyable life has been without the alcohol in it. Sure some days can be rough, but when it's over, it's on to a new day tomorrow. No regretting drinking yesterday and strugglingto not drink today.

[narilly]

Thanks Lil B. I agree, life is much less stressful without the booze in it. I was telling my Doctor about it today and she was totally impressed. Sometimes I forget how impressive it is. We kick ass Gloamers, AL's ass!

Good night

[Pavati]

We do kick ass - in all areas which is why our lives are so FULL!

I will be back more when things settle down here.

xo
Pav

[treetops]

Well ladies we might kick ass and have busy lives and be AF, but it still can be hard some days. I am having more issues with my daughter and I have been a mess - well sort of - since last night. I haven't cried so much in ages, felt so anxious in ages or so sad. Its over the choices she wants to make about the future and the options. I've tried to talk to her rationally and I have tried to listen to her and explain my feelings - but its not been easy sailing. And I know this is common with teenagers but when you just have the one and little emotional support - its bloody tough.
I think things are a bit calmer now but I know there will be decisions that have to be made in the near future. On top of this work is piling up and I had to put on a happy face at work this morning. The odd saying about faking it - is a load of rubbish at times. More like a great big bloody strain.
Thought I better check in - even if I am not chirpy at the moment. Hugs to you all.

[NoSugar]

TT, I'm glad you checked in and I hope you've gotten to a more peaceful state over the last few hours. Is whatever decision your daughter makes at this point irreversible? In the U.S., the choices made by 17 year olds are often changed - to different schools or majors, to actually go to school instead of work, or vice versa. I'm not familiar with higher education in NZ so maybe the situation isn't that simple but in any case, I hope a decision can be made that is acceptable to all of you.

Little Beagle, I know your 2 year anniversary is about now but what's the right date? I signed in to check your signature line but - no luck. Anyway, CONGRATULATIONS! Your unshakeable commitment to yourself is so inspiring. I hope your husband is doing better, too. Thanks for being here, NS

[Dottie Belle]

2 months ago today my life was forever changed. I had no idea the depth of my grief but I can not change what happened. No amount of tears or anger will change this horrid event. I have things lined up for today i hope. I cant let the 23rd of every month ruin me forever. He would NOT have wanted that for me.
Grief counselor, gym then study group from the new church. It does feel a little strange going to a new church but if this is going to be a new chapter it has to include new things. Scary as it is I think I need this.
Sun is out but cold. I had to turn the heat back on...boohiss.....

[available]

LB happy 2 year anniversary (if NS is correct, and she is rarely wrong). So proud of you and what you have achieved. Through all your shit you have plodded along and i have followed your example. Nothing is worth a drink for, you have proven that ten fold. I will gladly keep walking in your footsteps lovely lady. You deserve all the happiness in the world. Big hugs to you. xxxxxxx

[NoSugar]

Well... I might have been a bit early. I went looking through the NN and found this on 4/28/2013:

hello

Just wanted to say hello. I am going to try and just take this thing one day at a time. I am so glad I found this site. I expect to use it a lot.

You sure as heck did use it, LB!! So... maybe we're starting your party a little early but that's ok - you deserve a big celebration!




While I was searching for your first post, I saw so many names of people that are no longer around - makes me really wonder how they are doing. On the more positive side, I saw many people who are still here either comfortably AF or willing to keep trying.

[treetops]

Haha NS - you started LB's party early. I have done that for others on MWO - especially as my new day starts before all of yours does.

It is really good to see Dot that you are moving along- not necessarily on - there is no rush. The important thing here is also that you did not turn to AL. I really respect that because I know that when I get into a moment of despair, the thoughts of "f__K it, whats the point?" and wipe everything out with booze do surface. Just a wee bit, but its there. I am not talking about daily workplace crises or even stress/anxiety but the existential sadness of aging and seeing loved ones pass on, or - as in my own case move on. My life is radically changing at the moment. Anyway, again, I am in awe Dottie of how you did not drown your despair.

Thanks also for the kind words NS. It is a different system here and I have explained to my daughter that there is no point her getting into debt if its not necessary. We can finance her to a point - but we are not paying her just to go off for lifestyle reasons and not sound educational/career reasons. I think I may have reached a compromise that still will be tough for me, and not what she wants - but a compromise. I am also aware that teenagers swap and change and test out ideas.

Checking in is important, even when we think its not. I am about two and half years AF now - and I am not going to delude myself that I am out of the woods and AL is not going to drag me down again. Like you all here I can be tough and I am fairly rational - and I love being AF.

Right now I am enjoying a strong mug of coffee and a clear head and the prospect of a new autumnal day.

[Myluck]

LB!!! Happy 2 years! I am so happy and proud. Thank you for giving me hand when I needed it most. You are a beautiful person. ❤️

[little beagle]

Yes it is offically TOMORROW. The 24th. 2 years. I love these kind of celebrations. And I did treat myself to a trip to the beach.
Dottie I am glad to see you trying so hard. Going to a new church and meeting new people. It's inspiring to the rest of us seeing you.
TT I'm glad you can come to a comprise with your daughter. I know how difficult it can be to watch someone you love make their way. There are many things that I would have done differently if I were in my daughter's shoes, but she had to do it her way. And I am very proud of the way she's turned out.
Thank you for the beagle cake NS. I can have all the pretend cake I want. Yippee!!!!

[narilly]

Congratulations Lil B!! Holy Smokes, 2 years, really? I love the cake too. You have been such an inspiration to all of us and such a support. I know you have played a big part in my sobriety and I thank you for that. You are an inspiration. Xo

TT, I know it's tough with teens. I guess you can only take it one day at a time but it is freakin hard to go through it. They are so self absorbed at that age and just don't get it. She will appreciate it when she gets older even though it doesn't seem like it now.

Ava, glad you are enjoying your trip. My son is still there even though I haven't heard from him in two weeks. Darn kid! Find him for me and tell him to call his momma!

Goodnight