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[treetops]

Its definitely the 24th here today LB - so congratulations on a lovely 2 years of being AF. I recall when you first came on and I was really struck by your story. Many ,many hugs.

I am going out tonight with my daughter to a fancy fashion show - its a big thing and cost a lot but it was planned ages ago. She seems keen to still do this so I will just chill out and enjoy the spectacle. It will give us something to gossip about. I won't even be bothered by all the other silly ladies glugging their complimentary champers (which is really sparkling wine). Some of the best fashion designers are AF anyway!

[jane27]

Happy 2nd anniversary to the most beautiful, determined & courageous LilB in the whole world! ILY
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[abcowboy]

Congrats on your 2 year sobriety birthday little beagle!

[Pavati]

Flying in this morning before work, and what do I see? A two year anniversary!

Congratulations, LB. You are a model of sobriety, humility, and kindness. I know that we are lucky to have you here with us - you have shown us all how to stay sober in ANY circumstance.

I don't have a picture for you - so you'll have to settle for admiration and respect.

xo
Pav

[paulywogg]

Happy 2-years Little Beagle,I love reading your posts and it's been nice to watch you grow in these past two years btw,that cake is too cute to cut

[Dottie Belle]

Congrats LB!!!!:goodjob::sohappy::welldone:

[narilly]

Pav, you are so cute. Your post made me smile.

Dottie, glad you are coming here everyday to post. I know it is really really tough.

Well, another Un Hung Friday here and loving it. I am going out with my hubby tonight which will be nice. I don't seem to see him much since he has been doing reno work in the City. I hear my boy is alive and well in Thailand so that is good. I'm going to kick him in the arse when he gets back for not keeping in touch!
Have a great night Gloamers.
Nice to see you are still around Cowboy. You are an inspiration.

And Again, Way to go Lil B! As Det. would say, you Raawk!

[available]

Oh nar so happy about that, i can stop looking now. Its a big place so i was pretty exhausted. whereabouts is he? we are staying in Khao lak but heading to Bangkok in 3 days. Where has the time gone!

[Pavati]

Night, Gloamers.

Things are a bit quiet around here lately. Hope all is ok with everyone.

Things have switched pretty quickly around here - I hardly ever see my teenager. I tried to grab him tonight for dinner, but he is in rehearsal for a play he's in that opens this weekend. It is a good thing that they pull away gradually...

LB - how did you celebrate your big day? Beach with the pups? Hope it was great.

I am working both days this weekend - will have time to sneak in a little teeny family time and some time with my book and pillow but that is about all.

I had my last session with my therapist last night. I started seeing her with my husband several years ago (7?), and after he stopped coming with me, I started seeing her on my own. I danced around the alcohol subject for a while and tried to fix myself in any other way possible. I finally came clean after the Thanksgiving massacre, but I do think that some of the work I had done along the way helped me get and stay sober. Namely the ability to identify more accurately what I can't control, so I can let that go and focus on getting through the stuff I can control (at least influence). I can't believe how far I have come in these 7 years, mostly in the last 17 months. It felt very good to end it and feel very confident in doing that. Phew.

Anyway... Off to the pillow and book portion of the weekend. Glad you heard from your son, Ava - is that the park on the west side? Nar, where is your son?

Good night.

Pav

[little beagle]

Pav i too have spent a lot of time this past year working on the way I handle the uncontrollable. Not easy. It's about changing how I react to it. That's been the hard part. I am so use to throwing a temper tantrum when faced with a situation beyond my control. Walking away. Sometimes just mentally. That's helped. Then dealing with it later in a rational manner.
As you all know, the hardest challenge I face is watching my hubby struggle with his addiction. He's doing ok right now, but he insists on going at it alone. But not being able to help him, not being able to have him stop. Well it has made me bonkers. But knowing I am in charge of my life. That I am setting an example of how it can be done has helped me tremendously. All I can really do is change me.
And the negative, downward spiral of mt thoughts when I'm tired. That's been hard, but I really have been working on it and making progress. Just catching myself and deliberately thinking about something positive has helped.
Thanks everyone for the congrats. I still have a lot of work to do and I could never do this alone. I'm grateful for the help of everyone here. :love:

[Dottie Belle]

I haven't left the house today. Cold and raining all day. I have been very depressed today and cried a lot. Some days it just seems too hard to keep on going without him but what choice do I have??
Meetup thingy tonight was rescheduled so here I sit all alone with the dogs. Not what I had planned for my life right now. How cruel life can be....Sorry just having a pity party today....

[abcowboy]

Howdy (g)loamers! Haven’t been doing a lot of posting lately, well other than my normal everyday posts, and thought I’d stop by to say hello again. It’s great to see so many of the loamers reaching big milestones and birthdays! It goes to show how powerful this thread is and how much help and support it can be.

I have come to enjoy an inner peace with myself, understanding why I drank and therefore more importantly why I can’t drink! As I continue to accept my life as it is, the obsession to find my value in things outside of myself stays lifted. Manipulation and control are now seen as the broken toys of my immaturity. Life takes on new meaning and I realize that I am free. Not just of the problems I had with alcohol, but also of the self centered nature of all my defects of character. I no longer have to defend myself against fear, denial, or rejection. I can be exactly who I am without an overwhelming need to be understood by anybody.

The process of recovery has brought me to an even greater reality which I call the process of life. I recognize that a daily relationship with my God helps to equip me for the journey of living. My spiritual needs are met and I no longer want to indulge in things that have the appearance of instant gratification. I can remain teachable (which keeps me in harmony with life), I can remain humble (which helps me to understand others), and I can always ask for direction (which isolates the disease of addiction).

It’s so great to have people such as all of you to lean on when that extra little bit of help and motivation is needed! Have a great weekend everyone! Remember, no drinkin’ eh!

[narilly]

Good Morning everyone.
Another UnHung morning for me. Love that. Our hockey team won the first series last night against Vancouver and so there are probably a ton of hung over people here today. So glad I am not one of them.
Ava, my son is in Pai. He sent a two sentence message to my hubby. I guess he is having a great time. A couple from Canada put him up for a few days when he lost his id and credit cards. They fed him and everything. I can't even imagine the adventure he is having.
Pav, it does change so fast with kids. One day they need you the next day they don't and then you never see them.
Cowboy, you sound really good. Glad you are here. I am going to do some painting today, it's so amazing what I can get done when my day starts before noon and I feel good.

[Pavati]

Good night, Gloamers--

Off to see my son's play after working today. I am four days short of getting over this crazy time and then I can relax at least a little.

Nar - I didn't know your son lost his stuff - must have missed that.

Hope all is well.

Pav

[peppersnow]

Hey there, Gloamers...just checking in. I'm on vacation with a dear friend of mine -- I spontaneously invited her with me to visit my parents in Florida (as a buffer to my parents...whom I love but drive me crazy and are drinkers). She's someone whom I isolated myself from when my drinking became heavy and it's been a joy to reconnect with her over the past year. It turns out that she has been active in Al-Anon these past several years, to help herself through her husband's alcoholism -'- he's a heavy, active drinker. The conversations we've had these past 4 days have been incredibly enlightening for both of us. She's opened a window for me into the world of what my husband must have been going through (and now I'm convinced we need to go to therapy, or at least he does) and I've been helping her to better understand the thought patterns and decision-making processes of her husband, which to her don't seem to make any sense and are infuriating and seem selfish. An example: She was furious that her DH refused to drive their son to a good-bye party last night for someone their son was very close to and who was moving. As she was telling me about this, she mentioned, "And his excuse was so stupid -- it's 30 miles away, so what?! He drives 120 miles every day for work!" I asked her more, and after finding out the party was scheduled for 7 p.m., explained that he doesn't want to be that far away from home driving his son while drinking - and doesn't think he can wait until he's home at 9 to start drinking. Anyway, I've never cared for her husband but can completely relate to him. We've spent 4 days being translators for one another, which has been surreal and wonderful and an amazing experience, and neither one of us can seem to stop talking about this whenever we're away from my parents and have a chance.

Nar, glad your son is okay - what an adventure he's having!! Lil-B, congratulations, and I hope you enjoyed your special day!

Pav, I'm still thinking of trying another therapist. But is there a reason you are seeing yours for the last time ? Is someone moving, or are you just done? Sorry if you've already explained that and I missed it.

Take care, all! :happy2: