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Oh Nar,you must be worried to death about your boy. I mean i love Thailand but i do 50+ stuff not teenage stuff and its a party paradise here for the young. I am glad he is safe. They are always our babies!

Pepper what a wonderful thing to reconnect with your friend and to be able to hear the other side of the story for both of you. I try and tell my friends and kids what it was like day in and day out to try and stop drinking but they dont truly understand. they do know though that i can never drink again and they are very protective of that fact and i have told them i could possibly relapse as it is a very powerful addiction but i have no plans thank god. My son who is an ex crack addict certainly understands the power of addiction. There is no way known on earth i would have driven 30 miles at 7pm, damn i would have been annoyed, cutting into good drinking time and the excuses i used! I love that you feel safe enough to talk openly and honestly, it takes all the shame away for us addicts.

Well last day at the resort and off to Bangkok tomorrow for 4 days shopping. If i have to repeat myself one more fecking time i am going to scream. I am now at the stage where i cant be bothered to talk to mum as i know i am going to have to say it 3 or 4 more times. I am nearly ready to go home and even my boys are missing me!

[jane27]

Hi Gloamers,

Nar, I'm glad your son is OK. How does he get all of his documents replaced? Kids are so resilient. I would be a nervous wreck.
Pav, Hope your son rocked it in his play.
Ava, Glad your vaca has been nice so far and wishing you energy for your 4 days of power shopping.
Pepper, Your husband not wanting to delay his drinking- certainly been there before, but I don't think I ever could have admitted it to another person. Too darn ashamed.
Wishing everyone a good MAE! Looking forward to the weather forecast this week which includes temperatures in the 70's.

[narilly]

Pepper,
That sounds like such a good conversation you had with your friend. How awesome is that? I would love to have a friend here I could talk to that really understood what it was like to have a problem with AL. People that don't have the problem just don't get it.
Ava, my son sent me an email last night wishing me Happy Birthday, 3 days late! I was just happy to get the email. I don't think about the trip too much otherwise I will freak out. I just think he will get home safe and sound. Right now he is with his buddy and that makes me feel good. The buddy's mom gives me updates. I would love to go to Thailand sometime. Shopping in Bankok sounds fabulous! I know what you mean about your mom, oh well, that's what happens...my mom is the same.

Jane, you sound good and thanks for your well wishes. Hope your decorating is going well.

Enjoying an Un Hung Monday here in Calgary. The sun is shining and I am off work in 2.5 hours. Yay!

[little beagle]

Whew. One dog less in my house. My daughter went to a wedding and I doggie sat this weekend. She's SO upset. Her friend is an alcoholic and she spent most of the time drinking. It is hard to understand unless you've been there. My daughter has no empathy for other's shortcomings.
Pepper I'm glad you reconnected with your friend. And you're able to help her understand a little bit.
Ava enjoy that shopping.
Narilly big hugs.

[treetops]

Lots of hugs to everyone. I would not have the calmness that you seem to have Nar, over your son in Thailand. I am very glad he is OK.
Sorry I have been missing but its been hard this past week with emotional stuff I am going through at the moment. Not drinking though. No desire to do so but my vulnerability has been at an all time high - as in what's the point of it all?
Then on top of that today I went to a colleague's funeral. Sudden death of a very healthy and fit woman in her 60s. Really sad but here I am back at work and carrying on - because there are people who need my help and support and expertise. And I hope I can make a difference.

[NoSugar]

Hi, Gloamers

Seems like we all have pretty full lives at the moment. Busy is good when it keeps us out of trouble but not so good when it means we don't take time for self-care and sobriety maintenance. I've been in that unfortunate mode for the last week or more -- too busy traveling and then trying to catch up from too much time away from home and work. When that happens, I don't handle stress well, invent problems/slights/insults where none were intended, get going on the negative self-talk, and basically just feel sorry for myself.

When I was on MWO the last few days, I cruised around different threads, looking for some "energy" that would perk me up. What I found was a lot of sniping, anger, and personal attacks. It was really demoralizing - not at all what is needed on a mutual support forum. It made me grateful for you guys and the tone of this thread so even though it's slow right now as we all go about our full/busy/chaotic lives, it's where I need and want to to be.

LB, I have a couple people in my life about the age of your daughter - I'm shocked and saddened by how judgmental and intolerant they can be. I look back and know I used to be much less tolerant than I am now and can only hope that they, too, will mellow with age.

Pepper, I think you and this friend are amazing gifts to one another. You're offering each other a window into your spouse's brains, allowing you to understand them better. It must be so liberating to just talk and talk about the subject, too. What a great vacation!

Hope all of you are well and that some missing Gloamers return. xx, NS

[NoSugar]

x-post, TT - sounds like we're kind of emotional twins at the moment :hug:.

[peppersnow]

Lots of hugs to everyone. I would not have the calmness that you seem to have Nar, over your son in Thailand. I am very glad he is OK.
Sorry I have been missing but its been hard this past week with emotional stuff I am going through at the moment. Not drinking though. No desire to do so but my vulnerability has been at an all time high - as in what's the point of it all?
Then on top of that today I went to a colleague's funeral. Sudden death of a very healthy and fit woman in her 60s. Really sad but here I am back at work and carrying on - because there are people who need my help and support and expertise. And I hope I can make a difference.

Hi Treetops...I'm so sorry about the loss of your colleague. And that you're feeling vulnerable. There have been a few healthy people in my life who have become ill in the past year, which has made me feel some guilt about being relatively healthy now, considering all the poisonous toxins I poured into my body for so long. Life isn't fair, right? Anyway, whether or not that is contributing to some of the down-feelings you're having, I hope you hold tight to this second chance we all have. From my perspective, I'm feeling all kinds of things I blurred out over the years and that can be so raw. I hope you are able to take some time for yourself with a little pampering, in the midst of helping others like you do!

Hugs coming your way...

[Dottie Belle]

Evening all,
Last night of the grief group. They will pick back up in the fall. I will continue to see the f2f counselor all summer. I need the support.
Been going to the gym and that is helping me sleep a little better. Strange dreams some nights.
Had lunch with a friend then went to the park and waked for about an hour. It was good to get out in the sunshine and fresh air.
Gym tomorrow then my class tomorrow night.
I am trying to stay busy. When I sit here alone a lot I get very depressed and sad so I am working on that.

[little beagle]

I too was so judgemental when I was younger. But I think my daughter has a different problem. I think she's beginning to struggle with her drinking and just doesn't want to admit it. I KNOW i struggled for years. Oh NO I don't have a problem. Or so I told myself. And everyone else. Seeing how far this thing can drag a person down and wondering how long it is before you are where they are is frightening. But I am not going to confront her because she will stop talking to me. Instead I lead by example and just talk about my own personal experiences. That's all I know to do. And foster a dog whose life I AM changing. Who wants the help.
NS i hope things get settled and you feel less stress soon. I know when my schedule gets thrown off, I get out of sync.
TT I'm sorry for your loss. It is scary to see someone so healthy die so suddenly.

[little beagle]

X post Dottie. I was just thinking about you. Yes tye f2f counseling does sound like a good idea for you. And the sunshine. That always makes me feel better when I'm down.

[NoSugar]

You are an amazing example, LB. I hope you have as much effect on your family as you've had around here!

[Pavati]

Hi, All:

I see so much I want to comment on, but like you all, my life is FULL right now. Work is crazy and my family has a lot right now, too.

Pepper - sounds like a great weekend. I love connecting with people in that way.

xo
Pav

[jane27]

TT, sorry to hear about your colleague. I also lost a friend this week. An old friend going back 30 years. He od'd on heroin in Thailand. He'd been sober for a while and we'd chatted a bit via Facebook. He sounded vulnerable, scared and wobbly, but hopeful too. Losing friends & my sweet pups has been one of the most unsettling things I have experienced sober. Emotionally, it feels like unpredictable & highly changeable weather. Today I felt sad. I know that the hurt will heal with time. Love to all

[Dottie Belle]

Morning all,
Gym this morning then errands then my class. Trying to stay busy.
Sun is out so maybe spring is here to stay.