Ladies on a Mission: The Official Site

[scottish lass]

Thanks to all who mention missing me - and I am sorry for not posting.
I have a couple of reasons - one, I can't stick to this thread and go wandering - and sadly don't like what I read - I don't need the anxiety, or unpleasant feelings this causes. I feel better to avoid being in situations that I want to 'fix" and at the same time, don't feel like I can post as I might say the wrong thing.
I also find that I don't think about drinking as much - when I am here, it seems to keep it forefront.
I am sorry as I take and don't give back - but feeling that I need to continue to be selfish and do things that make me stronger in my feelings of being content and strong.
I get the gloamers daily posts in email as a summary each day, so I keep a tab on the group of gals I consider to be my friends, and I am strengthened by all your continued success....
I will sign on weekly to do a Sunday shoutout and will aim to leave before reading around. I am so sorry, but don't need the other stuff I seem to find each time is sign on!
Keep on gloaming dear gloamers - and again, so sorry for not contributing!

[NoSugar]

No worries, Jane! You weren't even saying anything bad about MILs - you were describing dealing with a crochety, frustrating woman who happens to be your MIL. The topic just got me thinking. I've seen negative MIL posts around MWO the whole time I've been here - that's why I've always loved hearing how much Pav cared about hers. Heck, with Mother's day coming up, negative MIL jokes even are used in advertising! I heard one on the radio today. I think for me it's a matter of 'joining' a stereotyped group and noticing what I'd never even heard before. It's much like hearing the general public's (and close family and friends'!) comments about the sterotypical addict or alcoholic -- things I'm sure I casually said myself and didn't react negatively to until it became a problem for me. And none of us fit those stereotypes!

[jane27]

OK! I'm glad I didn't upset you! xo

[available]

Hi Loamers

SL i get where you are coming from with other threads and i try not to read many of them now. NN and here is enough for my brain to deal with. I do know that i need to stay accountable for not drinking so i log on here daily, left to my own devices and i am sure i would drink eventually but only you can know what is right for you and makes you happy.

Dot that was lovely to get flowers and know you are being thought of. Children are children no matter what age and will always have their own opinions regarding their parents and partners. i know mine do and god forbid if i have an opinion regarding theirs! i try and keep my nose out of their business now, they are adults and i am lucky they all have lovely "other halves". I know my SIL could not stand me when i was drinking for some reason! Now it is a different story thank god.

Glad to see you checking in Nar. I go back to work on Monday so back to the grind of life and no time. Mum goes on Tuesday so life will return to my "normal".

Today i am rearranging my wardrobe from summer to winter. How the hell can one woman have so many clothes is beyond me and i wear the same stuff everyday for work. Time for a cull and of course i bought new stuff when i was on holidays.

Mothers day and kieras 28th birthday tomorrow, i am trying to figure out when did i get old enough to have a 28 year old! i am so looking forward to lunch at the pub with all the children and mum.

Take care xxx

[Pavati]

Hi, Gloamers:

We'll miss you, SL, but I'll still stalk you, don't worry.

Dinner with good friends tonight, and thankfully one of them made sure I didn't have to pay for the alcohol when the bill was split. We had a great time and I didn't miss AL at all.

My work is still crazy in that I have to deal with some VERY crazy people, but at least it has calmed down a tad.

Happy Friday, everyone. Hope you all have great weekends planned.

xo
Pav

[Pavati]

Quiet day. Hope all is well. I'm off to sleep after a good long day. I did have a moment of deprivation looking at a cold beer today. Just confessing here - I don't drink.

xo
Pav

[treetops]

Good on you for confessing Pav. and it was just that a moment. Hope you have a good rest.
Great to see you SL - I understand where you are coming from. But I am too nosey to not read other threads sometimes.
Hope you had a great Mother's Day Ava. It was quiet at home here as my daughter was working on an overdue assignment. She did make me a touching card, took me for a short walk (makes me sound like a pet) and gave me some lovely bath bombs. I still did my usual cooking and chores - there is no point in making a scene about one day a year. I think the quality of the relationship is what matters an since ours has been a bit tense lately it was great to just go back to doing what we do best together. The little daily stuff.
Hi there to everyone else. I have meetings galore tomorrow and so have to do some prep. The joys of life in the fast lane - not - haha!!

[jane27]

Hi Gloamers,

I feel itchy everywhere. Tends to happen regularly post gardening. Wanted to wish all my beautiful loamer Mom's a beautiful day! Its the most important, demanding and unselfish job there is. Your children are blessed to have you. Enjoy the day! xoxo

When God Created Mothers by Erma Bombeck

When the Good Lord was creating mothers, He was into His sixth day of "overtime" when the angel appeared and said. "You're doing a lot of fiddling around on this one."

And God said, "Have you read the specs on this order?" She has to be completely washable, but not plastic. Have 180 moveable parts...all replaceable. Run on black coffee and leftovers. Have a lap that disappears when she stands up. A kiss that can cure anything from a broken leg to a disappointed love affair. And six pairs of hands."

The angel shook her head slowly and said. "Six pairs of hands.... no way."

It's not the hands that are causing me problems," God remarked, "it's the three pairs of eyes that mothers have to have."

That's on the standard model?" asked the angel. God nodded.

One pair that sees through closed doors when she asks, 'What are you kids doing in there?' when she already knows. Another here in the back of her head that sees what she shouldn't but what she has to know, and of course the ones here in front that can look at a child when he goofs up and say. 'I understand and I love you' without so much as uttering a word."

God," said the angel touching his sleeve gently, "Get some rest tomorrow...."

I can't," said God, "I'm so close to creating something so close to myself. Already I have one who heals herself when she is sick...can feed a family of six on one pound of hamburger...and can get a nine year old to stand under a shower."

The angel circled the model of a mother very slowly. "It's too soft," she sighed.

But tough!" said God excitedly. "You can imagine what this mother can do or endure."

Can it think?"

Not only can it think, but it can reason and compromise," said the Creator.

Finally, the angel bent over and ran her finger across the cheek.

There's a leak," she pronounced. "I told You that You were trying to put too much into this model."

It's not a leak," said the Lord, "It's a tear."

What's it for?"

It's for joy, sadness, disappointment, pain, loneliness, and pride."

You are a genius, " said the angel.

Somberly, God said, "I didn't put it there.”

[available]

Hey Loamers

Happy mothers day to you all overseas and Tree sounds like you had a nice mothers day. I agree it is the 365 days a year that is important. I do miss mothers day when they were little and the cold toast and cold cup of tea that was made with such love. The toilet roll wrapped in paper they had coloured in with a poem of how their love was inside, the pictures of their little hands. Now i just have smart arse comments ha ha, but oh said with such love.

We had a lovely day. We are so loud when we get together but it was fun. The food was good but it took about 2 1/2 hours to give us 3 courses, they lost our order! We did get a free drink out of it so i got my coffee which was nice. By the time we did finish the meal everyone was drunk from waiting except the designated drivers, one of which was me!

Tree i go back to work tomorrow after 3 weeks off work so i am dreading that. The hour plus drive in peak hour will be enough i think. I did ask mum if she would write me a note so i didnt have to go, i thought that would work.

[treetops]

Ava - can't you forge a note from your Mum just like when you were at school?

[available]

lol, i never could forge her signature, her handwriting was too neat. My kids had no problem with mine at all!

[abcowboy]

[Dottie Belle]

Didnt sleep well. Tooth ache. I have one tooth that gives me fits sometimes. I dont want to have it pulled unless that is the last resort. It has already had a root canal and crown so not much left I can do and no dental insurance so I hope it will resolve or I can get an antibiotic tomorrow.
Light in my bathroom is on the fritz too. Flipped the switch and nothing. Changed the light bulbs and nothing. Checked the GFI and breaker and nothing...so will call an electrician tomorrow. More stuff dh would take care of and I am plodding along.
Dogs decided to get in a fight this morning too...bad Karma today....boohiss...
Doing laundry and not sure what else for today. I do so much better on the weekdays. More to do I guess and the weekends everyone is busy with their families.
This has got to change but I just dont know how.

[little beagle]

Sorry to be MIA. I took myself off to the beach for the weekend. Hubby went on a huge binge and I just couldn't stand being around him and knowing what was going on. I have some decisions to make. There are never ant consequences for his actions. No real reason for him to change what he's doing. I think I'm enabling him. I'm just really confused right now.
Dottie I'm glad you got that worked out about your dad. When I feel crappy lately I think about you and find the strength to go on.
SL I think taking time for yoirself is so important. Just know we are here for you. I know I personally get something new every day I check in here.

[treetops]

LB - this is not good and it sounds very distressing for you. It sounds as if you did the right thing and that is to remove and protect yourself. I hope you can find a way to resolve this. Please keep in touch here so that we can offer whatever little support we can.
Dot - even for those with families or partners, the weekends can be tough. Many people who are flat out during the week working in busy jobs also find the down time on the weekends hard to handle. My partner has suffered from serious depression and it affected him by making him truly horrible to be around. Many was the weekend that that I dreaded him being at home.
I am not belittling your situation but just pointing out that being with others and being alone can each carry their burdens. But you are grieving and that is so very hard.
I hope the rest of the week goes well for you both - and all the other Gloamers. I survived the first onslaught of meetings and now have the paper mountain to tackle!