Ladies on a Mission: The Official Site

[scottish lass]

I don't feel like working -- can't you tell??

me either!!!

[jane27]

Oh gawd, I just noticed my redundant posts. I got booted off my computer before posting the 1st one and wgen I logged back on, nothing was there. Wrote the 2nd much longer version in ms word to safeguard against losing another post. Sorry bout that folks. Weird.

[scottish lass]

Hmmm - divorced twice, once from my ex and once from wine!

The Stages Of Falling Head Over Heels For Wine -

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2015/05/11/falling-in-love-wine_n_7232348.html

[Pie]

Hmmm - divorced twice, once from my ex and once from wine!

The Stages Of Falling Head Over Heels For Wine -
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2015/0...n_7232348.html

OMG, SL! Hysterically funny, and frighteningly true! Thanks for posting the link.

[little beagle]

Feeling a bit better today. Yes i think of that trip to Florida with you Jane. And I had a great breeze this weekend. Maybe a bit too much of a breeze. It was so windy there was no internet or television reception, but even more time to rest and relax. Love the beagle picture. Ahhhhhh. And a double post was nice. I was thinking today. The main thing I really want in life is tonsee my husband well and happy.
Mein it's great to see you here. I've thought about you often. I'm glad you are joining us in our mission. Keeping al out of our lives permanently.
I've watched my husband struggle with his addiction for years. I struggled with him for years. The past two years I've watched and held my breath each time he quit, but he refuses to find a community. Thinks he can go it alone. He can't. We all find our ways out of this thing individually. But doing nothing results in nothing. No visible results.
Nar i love the Unhung feeling. Best feeling in the world on Sunday morning. It just doesn't get old to me. And I'm glad you are here with us. I look for your posts.

[little beagle]

Sorry. My internet isn't cooperating tonight. But it makes me feel secure in my quit to come here and read and talk to everyone. Thanks for all support. It means so much.

[scottish lass]

LB - not really sure how to respond to what you are facing...it seems like a really tough situation, and you have done so well in spite of it. That is something to be proud of. I do not want to suggest anything to you - it seems as if you are struggling whether to continue to fight to help him, or to take care of yourself. I know how much easier things became for me once I decided that I needed to put me first, but I sincerely wish that I had an alternative.
Whatever you do, take care of yourself or you will not be able to make any decisions...and you are worth it....never forget that...

[narilly]

LilB, you are amazing! Mr. B is so lucky to have such a loving partner. Ya, Un Hung Sun, love that.

Hello Pie!

SL, that was a good link.

Good night sweet Gloamers.

[jane27]

Thinking of all my Gloamers & wishing you guys a peaceful MAE. If there isn't a psychiatric condition relating to phantom poison ivy, there should be. Damn gardening makes me feel so itchy. Or maybe its the damn tic & insect repellant I've been dousing myself with.
Duckina came out to accept some tossed bread crumbs from me today. Here she is having just finished her snack, fixing her feathers before sitting back down on her nest. Those babies should be hatching any day now. There must be 12 of them! You can see a couple in the pic. She's such a good Mom to be and I think we've become friends.



ps Nar, I wrote a step by step work instruction with screen shots for Byrdie on how to post photos. Happy to email it to you (or anyone else) if you'd like it. Just let moi know/ send me email address via PM. Nightie night....

[available]

Hi loamers

Well in advance there are going to be a lot of "fuck" words in this post. I am so fucking cranky. I even thought tonight "fuck it i may as well drink no one will care and no one respects me anyways". A half bottle of wine in the fridge when i opened the door, slammed it and thought "fuck you too wine". AHHHHHHHHHHH. I told my boys before i went away that when i came back that during the week after 5pm i wanted no one in my house except for their girlfriends on and off. I spoke to Liams friend and explained that i am very stressed with Robert and travelling 2 hours a day and 8 hours of work. He said he understood. Well i started back at work yesterday and he just popped in at 8.30pm last night and is here again when i arrived home. I just said i did not understand which fucking part of our conversation we had that he did not understand. My son asked why i hate him, and im like, i dont fucking hate him but i do hate the no respect aspect when i specifically stated what i wanted in my own home. So i have made a cup of coffee, slammed the fucking bedroom door and am on here. I did not think i would have such an intense urge to drink and that scared me but i am so fucking cranky, infuriated actually, blind rage red. I will not drink at anyone!

LB i am so sorry you are going through crap with hubs. I have no advice except to say i am thinking of you and hope the decisions you have to make and him work out.

MS welcome to loamers. As TT says we are a committed bunch of alkies who make every effort daily not to drink. Take it easy on yourself, forgive yourself and use all the pure grit and determination you have inside you to say no to al. We are here at anytime to help you.

Well now i have gotten that off my chest i had better think about making dinner as the man is coming over. now i am sure i will be smiling by morning and i am sure he will talk to the boys and get them to understand how i feel as obviously they dont understand my English.

Take care loamers xxx

[treetops]

Yes you are mad Ava, I read that loud and clear. Its the stress of everything and starting back at work won't help. I am the last person to give advice about dealing with children, especially young men - but I know its so bloody hard. they say, yes Mum I will do this etc etc - and next thing, they are doing the exact opposite. I hope you can breathe - deep breaths - and chill out a bit tonight. With a man, no less!
But I can say that I know all about the 'f..K it, no one cares if I drink', they think I am a pushover, kind of thinking. You and I know both know that we have to care - and the bottom line is that our sobriety it is about us. Our kids (faults and all) do love us dearly but they can't be held responsible for whether or not we drink. I am not saying that you were saying that either (am I confusing you yet)? But both you and I partly quit drinking because of our role as mothers, and yet we still deal with crap from our kids. There are separate issues going on here. Yeah yeah, I know you know - but just reminding you.
Good on you girl for not slugging that wine - half a bottle wouldn't have cut the mustard anyway (although after being sober so long who knows what effect it would have). But the consequences would have been so awful. Anyway we are not even going there and playing that DVD. Its been banned!
There might be more arguments with the boys tonight - but try to breathe - and cut yourself some slack.

I am by the way having a teenage daughter angst night - something going on with her and school/friends and she won't say. Its made her pretty upset and moody - which is unusual for her. I want to talk about it but I know I have to hold back until she is ready.

[available]

Thanks TT, i practically run to get onto mwo to vent. I know in myself i wont drink but it was the strongest urge i have had for months. I am okay now. Talked to my other son and his gf who is relative new to the structure of our house also. I apologised to her for the screaming ranting mother and we actually had a good chat for 1/2 hour so it was a bit of a 'get to know each other" which is a positive. Tye my youngest is going to cook dinner so there is serenity in the house now. A patient of mine who i had a lot of dealings with died of and epileptic fit and cardiac arrest last week and she was my daughters age (28) and it has gutted me. So very very sad for her parents and i had spoken to her only a week or so before i went on leave. Life sucks sometimes but i am sober.

Teenagers are their own creatures, like boys. Thank god my two girls are in their 20's and we have such a great relationship now they are not so "erratic" as i like to call it lol.

Im off to get motivated. Thanks lots xx

[narilly]

Ava, I know exactly how you feel about this kid not giving you your space. It's like "dude, go home! This is my home, not yours, so F'off!" I have had some of my son's friends do similar things where they don't leave for days. It is pretty frustrating to come home after work and find a 19 year old laying on your couch with bare feet watching TV. I just want to say "get off my couch and get the hell out of my house!" I haven't had to deal with that for awhile but I remember the frustration. Hang in there Ava. It is kinda weird though that the dude did not get it when you talked to him about it. Stupid kids.

TT, hope your girl is feeling better. My girl goes through the same kind of stuff. Usually she is really good but once in awhile I guess stuff just happens with friends etc.

Have a great Un Hung Day. Mein, I hope you are doing ok. Don't drink today!

[jane27]

Ava, I get the feeling the kids really like you, and the comfort of your home. You couldn't have been any clearer lol. Hopefully the one two punch of the man backing you up will add some weight to your message. I think its so cool that your son is going to cook dinner for all of you. Would love to hear your planting & pruning tips on that.
Wishing everyone a great day! It must be bee hive season around here. I notice single bees hovering around and I think that means they're scouting for hive/nest locations. I don't like bees! They thscare me!

[satz123]

Oh poor Ava :hug:
Tell them all to FECK OFF !!!
Will read all later and tell you how great you were to resist hurting you by drinking wine :thumbsup: