Ladies on a Mission: The Official Site

[treetops]

NS - Breakfast was pumpkin seed spread on one piece of seriously heavy rye-grain toast and vegemite on the other. Thats reasonably healthy and suits my diet. What I failed to tell you all about were the several cups of coffee because thats my treat and I love it.
I enjoy cooking most of the time. I did when I was drinking - and I still do. I am not usually a fancy cook and I like to get it done fairly early in the evening. I hate cooking with other people - as I work fast and have my own methods. Others can help clean up.
One of the big projects I did during the first 6 months of quitting AL was to get a new kitchen. It was long overdue - but this distracted me and I also felt the expense was worth it. Cooking is also more enjoyable with things that work and are efficient. We did a big clean-out and it kind of signified what was going on in my life. But don't read too much into that! The next year I tackled my bedroom. Then this year the laundry and bathroom. Nothing major but I want a house that is fairly comfortable, warm and works for us.
Still a lot of clutter but its a house lived in by 3 people and a cat.

[little beagle]

Tt your house sounds warm and inviting. The kitchen is such an important room, in my opinion. I would love a new one.
Glad you checked in Mein and you're doing well. Hanging in there. I spent a couple of hours outdoors working the gardens this evening. That's so relaxing for me.
Not much going on here. My daughter and I had a talk today. She's feeling better. It was a good day.

[scottish lass]

Hi all - another busy day, just grabbed something to eat and then back to it!
Stepping by to say hello.
Mein - you sound great! Well done
TT -- I want a new kitchen!
Ditto what Nar said....
Hi everyone else...
So much to do and not enough time - feels as if we are in a race to the end with the school year, wish it was spread out a bit thru the year - Pav, feeling for you

[jane27]

Gmae Loamers, Drove to Lowes at 6pm with hubs to buy an Anderson Red Maple Tree. They only had one and he was thrilled that we got it. Must have been 8' tall but not too heavy to lift & we didn't have a problem fitting it in the suv. The deer went to town on my pansies today. I forgot about that problem when I planted them. Duckinas babies hatched today. One didn't make it; the others were all out for dinner last I checked. Have 2 morning appointments tomorrow which is great because felt a little down today and just sat on my butt. Sending everyone love and hugs. Xx

[treetops]

where do you live Jane?

[jane27]

TT, I live in New Jersey.

[Dottie Belle]

Hey Loamers,
Been crazy busy with dad lately. He was anemic and put in hospital for blood transfusion and it all got complicated and he stayed 3 days and I just hated being in a hospital right now but I had no choice. Someone had to make sure he was taken care of. So miss hubbs at times like these. He would always make sure I was OK and fed.
Going to a fund raising event tonight. Should be interesting I guess. Just something to do really. I hate being here alone all the time. Need to find something for tomorrow night. I have a "meetup" group thingy on Saturday night. That will be a first for me but if I dont step out I will just sit here and get depressed and we all know where that can lead. sigh
Missed you all but will try to stay caught up.

[narilly]

Hey Dottie, sorry about your dad. I know how tough it is to take care of a sick parent. My dad was on dialysis for 7 years before he passed away. The last 6 months of his life was in hospital and it was Brutal. You sound good though even though life is really throwing one at you.

Dottie, NS, Pav, Jan, Lil B, Mein, SL, Ave, TT, Cowboy, everyone We Don't drink!

I am taking tomorrow off and we have Monday off for May long weekend. Yay! I am totally going to enjoy myself. We can plant after the May long weekend. As a rule of thumb nobody plants anything before May long weekend because there could be frost. Yup, its warming up here.
I am looking forward to an Un Hung weekend.

xo

[scottish lass]

Not drinking here - well at my desk at work, so better not be!
Just did a quick check in as I didn't want to move on to the next project, and boy it was sobering (pun intended) to see a few threads from people trying to get back on the sober path - some old friends looking as to how to achieve what so many of us here are hanging onto - makes me really understand how precious it is not to let this go...really great wake up message.
Friday tomorrow - yahoo.
Have to go to a awards dinner for my 14yo tonight - last year of a two year leadership program - I hope that the best lesson she learnt is what not to do - the teacher leading this is a tartar for sure! I will be so glad when she is out of this program! Not sure that I will be signing on later - will be sugared out as it is a dessert banquet and won't be home in time for supper, so will have to make do with cake for supper (aforementioned teacher returned the brownies my girl donated as they were not cake:cuss
Hope your dad is ok DB, and Nar - have a fabulous long weekend! We don't drink!

[treetops]

Hi there folks and SL I have raced you to Friday. But its a busy day and weekend also for me - also attending events and ceremonies but not for the family. I am not someone who relishes these kinds of things but I don't envy you on the leadership one - those school-type things can be so over the top and some teachers (I know its not easY for them either but why do they perpetuate it?) make the most patronizing noises. Silly woman who does not know that brownies are cake! Tell her she is is being culturally offensive. Us of the Scottish gene have a broad and inclusive view of cake! (bit like our concept of AL too but we dont do that do we?).
Dot - very sorry about your Dad and I hope the treatment starts to work for him soon. You will be exhausted and no, its not delightful spending so much time at the hospital. I do hope you get some fun out of your meet-up. Just enjoy it and don't take it too seriously. I am sure there will be other fragile souls there too but you need to nurture yourself first and you need to have fun.
Its been a homework marathon at home this week - a big big assignment that my daughter is doing and it never seems to end - but a lot hangs on it. I am trying to stay out of things but making sure she is fed and watered and warm.
Great to be with a bunch of Gloamers who don't drink - and it really gets so much easier with time behind you - but this week Ava reminded us that the sudden urge can just be a refrigerator away - whether it is in our house or in the grocery store. But urges and thoughts are just that - its the action that counts in my universe.
Mein - how are you doing this evening - it will be I am sure early evening in Germany - the light is just starting to emerge over the sea here. We are almost 12 hours apart.

[NoSugar]

Boy, SL, I bet the fruit arrangement I would have sent would have not been well received to say the least.. Doesn't cake just generally mean "dessert" ?? It was so rude of her to decline your daughter's offering, even if cake actually does mean cake. I hope all your events go really well!

I'm with you, TT, I love not needing to drink and it's just so great to have a group of friends I respect to share the experience. Last night I was with wine-drinking friends and absolutely the only thing that annoyed me was that the chilly room was fine for them (they took off sweaters as time went on) whereas by the end of the evening, I'd been frozen by ice water and the room temperature. Not bad that that's my only complaint!

[treetops]

Yep -NS - I also notice that I feel the cold much more when I am not drinking AL and in that kind of environment. AL warms up the body thats for sure.

I also notice that my sense of smell and tolerance of noise is now quite acute - AL used to mask that!

all these physiological and probably psychological factors...

[little beagle]

I enjoy haring about everyone's busy lives. Busy without alcohol.
Dottie a meet up sounds like it could be fun. I'm sorry you had to spend so much time at the hospital. Keep taking care of yourself.
Have a great May weekend. And enjoy planting. I ordered some scarlet runner beans over the internet, dug a fresh spot in the yard next to the trellis, added dxtra potting soil, and planted them last night. This morning I noticed that cat of hubby's had dug around in them. I cut some mintvand put it over the area to see if that will discourage that behavior. We have an ongoing battle. Grrrrrr.
I though brownies were a type of cake? Shows what I know. Enjoy the sweets buffet.
NS i too notice things just seem a lot louder and jumpier when I'm around drinkers now.

[available]

Hi loamers

SL some people are so unappreciative. I would not take anything, bugger them. Brownies are just delicious.

Cold in Melbourne atm and have had the heater on constantly, a stark reminder of the months to come as winter does not start till next month. I am off with a virus or probably just run down. I did manage 2 days back at work before i got sick.

Dot sorry to hear about your dad, i hope he recuperates son and is back at the home. I hate hospitals and i work in one! Robert is back in for three weeks so he will be taking up a lot of my time. In some respects it is easier for me if he is in hospital as i know he is looked after.

TT i love being around sober people on mwo, it keeps me on the straight and narrow and i read the pain the newbies go through and i dont want to go back there ever again. I also see the ones that say they can moderate and as much as i hope they can, i think an alcoholic is an alcoholic and we came on this site for a reason. I just know that i dont have to lie to myself or anyone about my drinking as i dont drink.

Nar, i'm glad you son finally came home and is in one piece. Sometimes i think i preferred it when they were little.

Well Mia has just bought poppy home and she has the runs again. She is well when on the steroids but they do do damage to her little shitzu body. She has made it 5 months longer than i thought when i nearly lost her so i take her health one day at a time.

LB arent daughters the best! i love spending time with my girls, they are humans, not like my boys.

take care xxxxx

[peppersnow]

Hi Loamers...just doing a fly-by to stay checked in. Sad times here. My MIL is dying, any hour now. She fell Sunday night, had surgery Monday, and never woke up - has been in hospice since transferred from hospital Tuesday. We all said goodbye yesterday, each of us took time alone in the room with her, including my girls and I'm grateful for that. She and I had a rocky relationship for many years but we grew very close these last several years, both of us having changed for the better to make the relationship happen. Docs thought she would pass last night, but 24 hours she's still here although only breathing about 5 times a minute now.

I've been cleaning everything in sight when not at hospice, and cooking. I don't know what for, but it feels good and she'd like it. I've had a few urges to drink but not cravings at all, just an instinct to pour a drink a few times because that's what I would have done before. AL is the very last thing I want in my life and I'm grateful for that. Funny though how that addiction just sits there hiding, though, waiting for when you're not paying attention. Never again.

SL, that teacher sounds like a total monster! What a nasty, humiliating thing to do to a child. Brownies ARE cake, but I don't care if she'd brought deviled eggs - you don't send a kid home with their contribution. What an ape!

Dottie, I'm sorry for what you're going through with your father after just having lost your husband. You're a very strong woman. The meet-up thing sounds fun, though -- I hope you enjoy yourself.

Ava, best of wishes for your puppy - you've been through the ringer with her! Hope she feels better soon.

Best to everyone and I hope all have a good week. :love: