Ladies on a Mission: The Official Site

[Pavati]

Hi, Everyone--

I love a busy thread - filled with busy lives.

Glad you checked in, Dot. I ventured up to the Steppers to make sure you were checking in somewhere.

SL - I love your post about that boss, and it was perfectly timed for me. I am pretty frustrated and angry with a lot of what is going on at work, and I have been feeling the stress and anger more acutely than I usually do. So much of what we experience has to do with our attitude going in. I have to make the choice to do my best, work hard, and not allow others control my emotions. Phew, I needed that reminder.

So many other things I want to say, but my drooping eyelids say no chance. A quick shout out to Duckina - post picts when you can!

xo
Pav

[Dottie Belle]

Hi all,
Dad is back at the nursing home and the nurse manager emailed me to let me know he is back to normal as if he never left. Glad for him but I am tired. Yes it was very hard to be in the hospital after losing hubbs but there is no one else so I had to go.
Going to get my hair done then go to grocery and Costco. What fun.
Lady from church called and woke me up. She lost her husband suddenly too and wants to meet for lunch. Nice of her but not sure I want to go. Started my day off in a crying funk and I dont want to do that every day. Drat....gotta think on this one. Another lady called the other day to invite me to the "widows" group at church but it is full of really older ladies and I just dont fit in. I am not going to sit here and wait to die to be with my hubbs...OK debbie downer again.
Had a great time a the fundraiser last night. It was nice to be in the downtown are with so much going on. Baseball game in town and folks milling around having a good time. It was good for my soul to be out. So many memories of my childhood shopping with my mother. It looks nothing like it did when I was a kid but I could still pick out the places we went and remember what they used to be. Sigh
Beautiful day out. Good day to open the sun roof and turn up the tunes.

[scottish lass]

LB - exactly! What on earth are brownies if not cake???

NS - I think this teacher would not be pleased if I brought fruit - she is rather large and always has a pot of chocolates in her room - think she has a sweet tooth!

Pav - I have found life so much better when I try to be glass half full, I am by nature a pessimist, but really working to reverse that and it feels good. I am conciously telling myself to smile and it is a great start. I am doing this for me, and it spills over to others...I am very aware when driving to work - as my commute is 70 miles, I have plenty of time to get an attitude adjustment!

Pepper - so sorry about your MIL - my great aunt did the same, fell and broke her hip - had surgery and did not recover. I do wish she had just died in her sleep, but I am relieved she did not have to recover from a broken hip - she was 92. It is the last of my relatives in that generation and just makes me realize my parents are now the oldest generation...

DB - open that sun roof and sing away!

Just read on one of my work emails that the reason for liver transplants is moving to non-alcoholic fatty liver....maybe that's all of us turning to chocolate and ice-cream instead of the wine! Oh well, tis Friday - ice cream time, right Pav??

Off to get hair did - wondering about being daring and getting a splash of colour...hmmm, not sure if I am ready....one of the younger (well younger than me) managers at work was trying to talk me into a tattoo - maybe there is a new, daring me coming out of this non drinking change....

[treetops]

I say go for a colour change- maybe some different coloured lowlights or highlights. Or a different base. A good hairdresser should know what works for your hair and not do anything too drastic. I have gone slightly darker as I got older but every now and then we reach for the copper or gold pot! The dyes these days are so much better than in the past as well.
I sort of supervised a drinks event last night at work and it was not a problem. Most people are so restrained.
I could not have done this when I was drinking as I would have either resented others imbibing or I would have drunk myself. And who knows what?

[treetops]

PS. Glad you are having fun Dots.
I would think that a widows group is not for you from what you write. And it's too early for you to be a rock for other grieving people but that depends on the person. Sometimes it helps both people.

[Dottie Belle]

tree tops It isn't about being a rock it is about sharing common feelings and experiences and having some fun. Not sitting alone at home and being sad. I am going to meet some folks who "get it" like u all get it here. Same thing sort of.

[scottish lass]

Finding people is similar situations can be very helpful, I agree DB - empathy can be great, that's why we are good for each other here!
TT - I am a greying blond that has gone darker where not grey, so have blond highlights (until I am grey enough to just go grey) - so got the blond bits topped and had about 5 of the highlights done in violet! Will see what the girls say when they get home....

[NoSugar]

Can we see a photo from the top, SL? Do you still have those sexy wild curls going??

[Pie]

I'd love to see a pic too, SL. Violet highlights sound so playful and lighthearted!

[Pavati]

Hi, All:

Violet hair, tattoos - love it, SL. I want a tattoo, but I can't think of anything I would get that I would want for the rest of my life. Maybe for my 50th next year...

My husband had a biopsy on a large lump he found. I didn't think it was worrying me, but I realized today that my greater general anxiety might be related - that was amplified by the fact that I thought about it a lot today. His mom and grandmother both died of cancer (breast and ovarian), so he is worried, too (not that he'd tell me that - he's pretty stoic). Anyway - the patience of waiting is hard. I have to remember that I have so much going on in my life right now I can't forget to take care of myself. Plenty of rest and exercise on the list for this weekend. I will also clean my house a little, and we're having a birthday party for my son. Hmmm. Maybe not so much rest, but relaxation...

Off to eat a good meal and hang with the family.

xo
Pav

[narilly]

Supervising drinks TT? How things have changed for you eh? That is great.

I got my hair cut short in a Pixie sort of cut. It looks Awesome! I stopped getting it coloured at the hair dresser because he charges too much. My hubby helps me do it at home. What a guy.
I went to the market today and my daughter came with me. It was amazing how much nicer some of the 'young' shopkeepers were when there was a cutie pie girl with me. It was funny. I got a few discounts from the pork guy and he was way more talkative, I noticed him giving my daughter little glances. Haha.

I'm in bed now, reading my book 'Cutting For Stone' by Abraham Verghese. It's a good book.
Goodnight.
Looking forward to Being Un Hung in the morning.

[NoSugar]

Morning, Loamers

New hair sounds fun. Long, straight hair parted in the middle with no bangs was the IT style when I was growing up and I didn't have any of that. Such a tragedy! (in my teenage brain's opinion). So, I came to my senses and have had the same short hair that works easily most of my adult life. It doesn't take much effort, which is nice, but it would be fun to get a new cut or have longer hair. I guess I could try the purple stripes!

I hope your husband gets the all-clear next week, Pav. I also try to wait to worry when there is something to actually worry about, but it's tough. I bet having that in the background did affect your ability to respond to the more everyday life stresses. Enjoy all the physical activities you have planned this weekend!

I'm visiting non-drinking family this weekend. Visits here used to be so stressful with all the figuring out how to sneakily consume wine (from those nasty little plastic bottles) and get rid of the evidence. I can replay what I went through as I sit here and get tired just thinking about it! I just wish I would have realized that quitting was so much easier than it seemed like it would be (actually, I thought it was impossible).

xx

[Dottie Belle]

Raining and gloomy...visited dad today and he is so confused. He was talking about mother and that she was visiting a friend and he needs to go pick her up...she died 6 years ago...poor man I wonder where his mind is.
Going to a "meet up" group tonight. Nice new little restaurant that is close to home. This is a new huge leap for me so wish me luck. If it is too hard I will just leave. It is supposed to be folks my age so we shall see. Very scary to venture out alone like this. But I just hate sitting here alone so what is a widow to do????

[scottish lass]

Hi all - got my walk in, lovely day today.

I will have to see about posting a photo - I tried a couple of "selfies" but it didn't work - they are really pretty subtle. One girl really approves, the other seems a bit taken aback!

Pav - I think I know what I want for my tattoo - a Celtic design, but cant work out where - I don't really think I want one, but would have if I was 20 yrs younger. It is funny this morning I was thinking that these bits of fun were how I saw my 50th, but I didn't managed to stop drinking as planned, so three years later I am celebrating as I had wanted to! Nar - love pixie cuts!!

I hope that the biopsy results don't take too long to come back - enjoy the birthday celebrations and don't get too hooked up on the wait!

OK - back to the list - trying to make a mad dash to get #1 girls grades to be able to pass sophomore year - my hopes are on a great junior year now we have got some stuff sorted out, so trying to just squeak by with passing some subjects and getting some credits....never thought I would be so delighted with D's...

[available]

Hi loamers

I am trying to grown my hair. I have always been a short haired redhead but i need a change so i am going to give it a shot.

Wanted to check in with you all. I have had a virus but feel a lot better now. Not that i want to get back to work in a hurry. I went to the football last night with my son and his gf. we had an absolute ball although the seating was way up in the sky (felt like it). I started to have a panic attack as i am not a fan of heights but I talked to myself that i had to go on a balloon ride with Robert so for gods sakes "get over it". Bars everywhere but had no urge for a beverage, feels good to realise that over time it just gets better and better and that overwhelming urge i had last week is just a distant memory. I know i can never drink again and thats okay. As i said to someone the other day i am not on a drinking site for beauty tips. I came on here as i had a major problem with alcohol and i mean major!

Pav i hope all goes well with hubs, will be thinking of you.

Its a nice sunny day here so the washing is all done and I am going out for brunch with 3 of the children. Brunched yesterday with 2 of them so 3 will be extra nice.

Take care xx

How are the ducklings Jane?