Ladies on a Mission: The Official Site

[little beagle]

It was a good day here. Nice and calm. I had a lovely chat on Skype tonight.
I'll check in tomorrow.

[Pavati]

Hi,

Long, short, purple, red. I'm sure you all look fantastic. I am in the shortish range for me, and am so far just letting my brown hair go grey (pretty slowly so far). We'll see if I can gut it out.

I am home alone - usually an excuse for a drink fest, but tonight it was an excuse for a food fest. Thai food from my favorite place, and I'm binge watching Orphan Black. So good! This is so much better than downing vodka and getting blotto, and I'll actually sleep and have a great tomorrow.

Cleaned a lot of dusty and cluttered shelves today. It felt very good, but I got all stuffy and felt gross afterwards. It will be nice to have it clean until the next layer settles. I channeled you, Ava.

My sister once got anxiety from being too high at a stadium and had to scoot down the stairs on her bum. Made for some interesting conversations along the way. Good luck with that balloon!

Hope you all are having great weekends.

Pav

[treetops]

Hope things are OK for your husband Pav - and wishing you lots of strength. Great that you got that walk SL and good luck with the daughter's grades. We do what we can.
As for growing hair - as much as I would love to I just can't anymore - mine is really thin (always was). So a good cut is in order but even then it goes flat and well its just dreadful. I will not post picture thank you very much! But I am alive and sober so whats a few thinning hairs!
Am currently working from my laptop and can see my partner trimming some large bushes - and I am not sure if this is a good idea. He refuses to use a chainsaw and the result is just choppy and uneven. Kind of like a bad haircut.
Hope everyone is doing well and enjoying their weekend. I purchased a prom dress for my daughter today - well she choose it - it was on-line and we hope it gets here in time. The prom here is called a 'formal' and at her school it is not too big a deal - but it still gets expensive. She is not going with a male date this year - but with a girlfriend and as far as I am aware they are not an item. The girls just seem to treat it as an excuse to get glammed up and dance - the romantic side and even the boozy side seems to be non-existent in my daughter's group of friends.

[jane27]

Hi ladies, I have such a problem with heights, and I only learned about it via the hot balloon ride from hell in Palm Springs a few years back. Shortly after that we went to the Grand Canyon and I literally felt it sucking me in like a giant magnet. Had to stay far away from the edges. Oddly, I didn't have as big of a problem in Sedona, AZ- which is why I thought I could handle the hot air balloon ride to begin with. How one can go from feeling perfectly fine one minute to feeling like barfing & liquid pooping at the same time the next is a total mystery. I just wanted the damn thing to land.
Wishing everyone a GMAE. Xoxo

Ps Not a glimpse of Duckina or ducklings since hatching day...but I think I can hear them!

[Dottie Belle]

Morning all,
Up way too early. Going to an event downtown with a friend and she needs to be back for a sports event with her kids so off we go. I couldn't sleep anyway so I just got up. It is daylight so at least that is good.
I am a redhead too. Not too short. Like easy these days.

[peppersnow]

TT, my oldest went to prom with a girlfriend during her junior year, just like yours, and had a blast. This year my youngest went solo with a group of couples. She had asked a guy but he turned her down, and she didn't know that the couples group she was going with included this guy and his date! A little awkward at first but she had fun, and I was proud of her.

My MIL passed away on Friday morning. I was there with my husband and SIL. It was very peaceful. My girls were exceptionally close to her and are doing better than I thought, but we had a lot of time to prepare. She planned her funeral down to the smallest details, so there isn't much for us to do other than clean out her house, which we began yesterday. I had the urge to burn tons of paper last night in our fire pit. The old me would have sat out there until 1:00 getting smashed by myself, using my MIL's death as an excuse. I admit that triggered me. I got myself a diet tonic and grapefruit juice, and my special treat was a bag of potato chips and french onion dip, which is definitely NOT on my clean eating/paleo diet. I had a beautiful evening and was happy to wake up unhung.

One thing that does bug me a bit is that twice this week, I've had the experience of learning that people I barely know have been having conversations about how I quit drinking. A pastor I hardly know approached one of my best friends in her congregation and brought it up with her. Then it happened again with some neighbors this weekend who knew from their circle of busy-body moms who I haven't even talked to in 5 years. I know it makes ZERO sense for that to bother me, but it does. I hate that my personal business is being discussed by gossips I hardly know. But I know that this also might be proof that my problem wasn't as secret as I thought it was, and I should be grateful that I'm "out" and don't need to explain things anymore, even if it's because others are wagging their tongues and not on my terms.

Pav, you're in my thoughts as you await the biopsy results. I think the waiting time is the worst, but sounds like you have a really healthy outlook about it.

My hair is long, dark brown. I've had it short before, but I can't stand the feeling of hair on my forehead or neck, so I keep it long so I can pull it up. So my boring go-to- hairstyle is a bun, braid or ponytail.

Hope all are enjoying this sober Sunday morning!:happy2:

[scottish lass]

Hi all! Daughter has a tutoring session to finish English essay, the off fir them to both compete in horse show - way too busy for a Sunday
I am trying to grow my hair, but it is taking forever - it used to be very short! Growth slows down for age. I am hoping to go grey too Pav, but with the blond it is not grey enough yet, but definitely getting there.
I am scared of heights too - get twitchy on hikes when girls go too close to edge!
TT - Prom is such a big thing here, so much pressure it takes fun away - going with friends instead of dates sounds like a great idea!
Sorry about MIL Pepper - good for her for taking care of stuff though.
Hi DB Ava and Jane! LB you sound good.
Bought an outside table and chairs, looking forward to eating outside this summer. I would love a fire pit too....
Ok, off to get the day started...

[narilly]

Pepper, so sorry about your MIL. I can really imagine having a tug at the fire pit burning a bunch of stuff, grapefruit and tonic sounds great! That would bug me too if people were talking about me and it is kind of embarassing, I mean, we were not our best selves when we were drinking. Leave us alone...geez. We are sober now do we really have to talk about the past, mind your own business. Right? I would have felt the same way.

Pav, I hope your hubby is ok. Please let us know when you find out.xo

SL, you are such a good mom, TT, you too. It is a unique time for sure. My daughter had a really nice navy blue dress on her grad. and looked Beautiful!

I love my Short hair! I grew it long like some of you gals are trying to do and it drove me crazy so I got it lopped off and Oh yeah, I'm lookin' good. And Ava, what do you mean you don't come here for beauty tips? Lol.

UN Hung Sun, love that too.

Have a great day everyone.

[treetops]

Its so nice when the thread is busy!
Pepper - condolences on your MIL and what a sad time. Well done you for not giving in to the pull of drowning your sorrows. I think a big leap forward in my alcohol abuse (which was already really bad) was in the aftermath of my Mum's sudden death c 19 years ago. Drinking through sorting out all her stuff, reading the sad memoirs she left, drunk calling relatives to ask questions abut why she had such a tough life. Pain, and more pain - and drinking through this. At least now I know she would be happy and proud that I had quit.
I also had that situation last year of people who I meet up with every now and again at conferences - and are friends as well - who talked to another close friend about the fact that I was no longer drinking. At first this embarrassed me, also angered me. But my close friend put them in their place and was very supportive of me. I guess many people are sticky-beaks - and also some of the people asking about my sobriety, themselves drink too much on occasions I have been in.
BTW - I went to a dinner this weekend and could confidently and easily say to strangers - "I don't drink AL" when they asked if I wanted a glass of expensive pinot noir. No questions asked. I also had a great time and the food was delicious.

Dot - I also just get up if I wake up early. Its often the time of the day when I get some writing done. I hope you have had a good weekend.

OK - big wave to you all - I better go and get ready for work. Sunrise just coming up and its Monday morning already.

[little beagle]

Pepper I'm sorry for your loss. It's good that she had everything planned.
Dottie your sounding good today.
I'm tucked in bed with my doggies, feeling good because it's Sunday and I'm Unhung. No regrets. Just a peaceful, restful weekend. We're having guests next weekend and I know that's going to be fun. No worries about drinking too much, saying the wrong things at the wrong time, talking repetitively, too loudly......well you get the picture. I'm finally beginning to look forward to these social times for the first time in my life.

[NoSugar]

LB, I love the feeling of no regrets or moments missed.

Pav, I'll be thinking of you and your husband today. xx, NS

[jane27]

Pepper,
I’m sorry for your loss but also so proud that you’re getting through it sober. It wouldn’t surprise me at all if the peeps discussing you are problem drinkers themselves. Red flags go up when a “team member” is down because it cracks the denial shell for people that have buried their guilt and fear over their own drinking. Drinkers surround themselves with drinkers and at the same time cultivate the art of tuning out any noise that threatens to rain on their parade until the only thing that stings are stories about people close to home, that got sick because of drinking, or quit. It’s a royal buzz kill, a wake up call and a little like a horror movie for them. If a person isn’t in the mindset to give up drinking, holding a mirror to their face in a brightly lit room is unsettling. Coming together to talk about it- “Oh my God. Peppersnow has quit drinking! I’m OK are you OK? You’re not thinking about quitting are you? Is what we’re doing bad? PHEW! Everything is OK!”
It sucks that you have to deal with this. Hold your head high, and have faith in the knowledge that those folks either have drinking issues of their own or lives that are so small that they need to look to other people for substance.

Pav,
Thinking of you & hubs.

Lil,
Happy to hear you tucked in, cozy & cuddled up with the babies.
Hi NS, TT, SL, Nar, Ava & everyone else! Wishing everyone a great day!

[scottish lass]

Hi all - I am out of sorts today - no idea why:sad:! I cannot believe it is Monday - weekend flew by...I am not a fan of fully booked days, but seems that I can't escape with the teens. I did manage to get beds washed this weekend, but that is turning into mammoth task. I have a moon app on my phone - I had worked out that the full moon played on my emotions, but I can't even blame the moon today...
Pav - hope your waiting is done today.
Hi to everyone else...

[Dottie Belle]

Off to the gym...gloomy day...yuck...

[treetops]

Heres a recent article that may be of interest - on the radical pleasure of sobriety. Its not preachy either.

http://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2015/may/16/im-no-prohibitionist-but-sobriety-is-my-most-radical-pleasure