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[scottish lass]

Pav - that news sounds promising - if you don't mind, where is the tumor? Hopefully it will be relatively easily dealt with - but totally horrid to have to cope with. I would not look forward to telling the girls, so really feel for you. The boys will let you know what they need to hear and how much, you will be so used to listening and watching teens cues, so let them lead you.
There was a fun post on fb about googling disease - will have to look for it!

Pepper - I have little tolerance for that version of Christianity - I wonder which God he feels he serves, not one that I have ever heard from. I am sure you could report him to his diocese. The cheek of the man! He will be getting his just reward fro sure, and hopefully your MIL will have a good laugh at him then!

Hi Ginger!!!

Pav - sure DB will be in soon, but so it doesn't add to your worry, it was a hernia repair if I recall correctly.

[scottish lass]

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[little beagle]

Wow Pepper. I'm wiping tears. I'm proud of you for being strong in. That is truly unChristian. And shameful.
Pav sharing this with your children is hard but this way they feel included. Families should stick together and help each other through times like these.
Ava that was a good laught. Tell Ty I hope he gets well soon.
Sorry for the short posts this week. I'm having killer headaches.
Hi Ginger.
Hugs Dottie.

[peppersnow]

Pav, I hope all went well with telling your kids tonight. I didn't see your post until just now and my gut clenched for you when I read that. It's so hard to predict how kids will process that kind of news, especially when it involves unknowns. They have an amazing mom - I hope your evening goes as well as it can for all of you. Sending hugs your way!

Thanks to all for your patience with my earlier rant.. it helped a lot to vent. We had a nice dinner at an Italian restaurant, then grabbed some jugs of water to last until 7:00 tomorrow morning when the water guy comes. Funny thing is that ordinarily the water would be a giant deal but with all of this, none of us really care. My oldest daughter is having a hard time -- she said he stole her grandma's funeral and made it about proving his power. Bingo. I need to watch my anger around my kids, I think, so this doesn't get harder for them than it needs to be.

Ava, I love hearing about your new love life. That cheers me immensely - so happy for you!

I also forgot to say how totally cool it was that several of you wore turqouise yesterday, whether you wore it intentionally or just on a whim! You are all awesome, wonderful people.

[MeinSonnenschein]

Hello LOAM. I'm sorry that I haven't checked in lately. I've been on such a horrible emotional low due to my depression. I know I should come here often when this type of emotion grips me but I feel so guilty about constantly complaining and not being able to be a support to myself or anyone. I just have to say that depression just sucks. It just sucks. I hate the fact that I'm not myself anymore. I seriously just want to go back to bed and watch movies all day. But I'm worried that I'm being immature by doing that. My therapist says that sometimes this behavior is acting like a child, not being able to create value within yourself but constantly needing reassurance from the outside. I just don't understand how I turned into this! I was an independent woman! I am college educated and I did have a great job that I was good at! Now just taking a shower is difficult. It's unbelievable. I really have to focus on not drinking today. I need to go to the grocery store but I don't think it's a good idea. I'm sorry for the vent. I just needed to get some things out.

[available]

Hi Loamers

Pepper i know what i would have told the priest and that was "to go feck himself". bloody pig. I mean i am so not religious but i have made a wonderful priest friend where i work, we became friends when i was pretty low and there was a reason for that. He would never have been disrespectful to me or my family. I did have a chuckle though at how you explained it. I hope she gets the farewell that she deserves and i so hope he does not do it. Makes my blood boil to think that some priests think they are better than others when i thought their purpose was to serve god and his wishes. My damn love life is still continuing! How i find time for it is beyond me lol. I am so damn tired.

Pav I hope the talk went okay. I know when i had to tell my 4 that their grandfather was dying from cancer that we told them to never be afraid to ask questions and i would try and answer them truthfully. I found being open with them was so much easier than hiding the truth good or bad but it sounds like your news is really positive.

LB i hope you headaches are gone soon. We do botox for patients with migraines and seems to work quite well when nothing else does. mind you the amount of needles that have to be injected sounds horrendous.

Mein i am sorry that you are going through depression, i have suffered on and off with it for 20 years and it is hard to deal with day in day out. are you on meds for this? I hope you are okay and bitch away, we like to listen. whatever you do remember that drinking will make things 100000000 times worse.

I slept in this morning, late for work, had to get fuel which i didnt get the day before, raining, cold and going to get colder apparently. Im over winter already and it has not started, i am sure i have bitched about this already! I need a ME weekend but not this one! Sometimes it was easier when i drank, oops! Not that i ever want that life again.

Take care everyone xx

[MeinSonnenschein]

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Mein i am sorry that you are going through depression, i have suffered on and off with it for 20 years and it is hard to deal with day in day out. are you on meds for this? I hope you are okay and bitch away, we like to listen. whatever you do remember that drinking will make things 100000000 times worse.

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Thanks for listening Ava. I've been trying to read through the thread but my concentration is horrible today. I had a plan for today but I said screw it and I indulged instead. No AL! I drove to McDonalds and picked an indulging lunch. Now I'm sitting on the couch with my dog, watching "Mean Girls". I know, it's a tween movie but it's mindless entertainment where I don't have to think. I am taking medication and I see a therapist for talk therapy. Some days are just worse than others. It's horrible thought, but I know a few bottles of wine would make the issues go away... temporarily. I'm keeping in mind the "temporarily" part. Sigh.

[Dottie Belle]

Grief counselor then gym later.
Woke up in a kind of funk but I hope it passes soon. I was dreaming all night about trying to find dh....hate that so bad.
Really cool here today. Rain maybe later. Was supposed to go to an event locally tonight but my allergies are so bad I might just hide in the house.
Gotta find some activities for the weekend.
Saturday night I get to do the ride along with local police as part of my class so that should be interesting particularly with the holiday weekend.
Mein I am sorry about the depression. I have had days lately where I wanted to stay in bed and hide. If it werent for the dogs I might just have done that but they dont understand why I am sad so I have to get up and be the mommy for them. Not always easy for sure. I say do what u need for you and what makes you feel better. I dont take much stock in what counselors say. But that is just me.

[jane27]

Mein,
I have a long history of clinical depression & have sent you a PM. Hang in there! I regard it as having a cold in my brain. Somehow that makes me feel a little less like its a character flaw/ something I should be ashamed of. xo

[narilly]

Pepper, what a story! Holy Moley, so glad you got through it and did not drink. That priest should be kicked in the 'you know what'. What a total Dick. He obviously doesn't get it. I will wear Turquoise anytime for you! Chips and dip sounds absolutely YUM.

Pav, My kids took my husband's diagnosis in stride. Kids are so resilient. It may be partly how the message is delivered and I know you will deliver it well. Hopefully everything is better than you think. SL's post about Googling symptoms is hilarious. I did that all the time for my husband and was sure he had stage 4 cancer and was going to die a long painful death. He is still around and as healthy as can be.

Lil B, hope your headaches get better. I got a massage yesterday, that usually helps me.

xo

[little beagle]

Narilly a massage sounds fabulous. Every time it gets really rainy like it has been this past week I get these stupid headaches.
Dottie a police ride along sounds fun.
Mein I hope you have a better day tomorrow. It takes awhile for all the alcohol to get out of your system and I've heard it can take up to two years for the brain to heal from the effects of drinking. But each day does get better and the longer you don't drink the better you feel. Well that's how it worked for me. We are all different. After two years I do feel a lot better depression wise. I still have low periods, but that's just life. And knowing that it will pass makes it easier. Hang in there.

[narilly]

Mein,
Hang in there. Remember drinking will make you feel worse, tomorrow is a new day.

Time for a massage Lil B!

[jane27]

Hi gals, Just checking in to say goodnight. xo

[Pavati]

Hi,

Stuck in the phone so short post.

Oh, my, Pepper. That sounds like a southern short story! (Anyone else read that genre?) yes, that P is truly an AH. Glad you kept the AL wolves at bay.

Sorry about depression, Mein. Hope you can find some relief.

Went ok w the kids. Younger is scared and worried that without surgery right away it will continue to grow. Older one seems to be choosing to believe it will all be ok as DH and I are. We are definitely understanding the relativity of time this week.

Enough with the phone typing. Too slow!

Night,

Pav

[treetops]

Pav - I am sure its much easier now that the kids know. Children dont like to be kept out of the loop from big things like this. of course there may be details you don't share and their security is crucial - but I think honesty works best with children.
Yes, quite a story Pepper. Pav- I don't know what a Southern Short Story is and since we shouldn't be addicted to Mr Google, I will wait for your response.
Strange that you get headaches with the rain LB. If that were the case here, you would get headaches a lot cos it sure rains a lot in NZ. Is it the humidity that gets to you?
Mein - its hard to break the cycle of AL abuse when you have depression or anxiety or both. I have suffered bad depression in the past and had various treatments for it. In my case, I see that being AF helps my mood and makes me less prone to depression. But I also know (from a recent episode) that I still could fall into the back hole of depression. But most definitely being AF gives me so much more protection against this and I think I react to negative situations in a more measured way now. Not always, but its better.
Not sure what the weekend will bring - maybe some snow!
Hope very one else is good - Jane, SL, Ava, others.