Ladies on a Mission: The Official Site

[Dottie Belle]

Hello all,
Gym then a meeting tonight. It is the train club that dh and I belong to. I am not sure I want to continue with it or not. I run a flea market in the spring and I am just not sure I want to do it without him. Need to make a decision soon so I can find someone to take it over. I am also on the board of the club. Only woman on the board as this is a boys hobby for the most part. Not sure if I want to continue this either but next meeting isnt until Sept so I have some time to think it over.
Happy Friday to everyone!!

[narilly]

SL, hope camp in is fun. Sometimes it's nice to just get away. Hang in there with your daughter. I was a very immature teenager myself. My parents never gave up on me and always encouraged me even though I had many failures. I finally 'grew up' but not until I was 22. My parents were a huge part of my success in life just like you will be for your daughter.
TT, prom dress alterations? Fun stuff. I hope it goes well. Sorry about your partner, that is tough. Really tough. Don't let it get to you- it must be difficult for you.

I am sitting in the sun in my back yard having coffee. Un hung and Un employed! Lol
I have to admit, having a break is nice, don't want it to go on too long though. I am going to the market with my kids, we are going to do some cheese tasting, buy sausage (from my sausage guy), get some veggies and visit the Turkish food booth where they make the best hummus, Borek, baklava etc.
It is beautiful here right now. All the farmers and Hutterites go to the market with fresh produce. Our summer is from June to sept if we are lucky so this time of year is always a treat.
Talk soon.

[treetops]

Hope you enjoyed the market Nar. I guess others are getting ready for the weekend. SL - maybe you are off already??

How did the train club go Dot? You may find you pull way from things you used to do but as you so there is no hurry.

Pav - good on you for walking past the white wine. Thats it, just "walk on by" and see it as another life - even if in that life you did not drink wine. I still sometimes taste a gin and tonic in my mouth - this is like once in a blue moon -and its just that, a memory. I seem to have quite a bucket-full of sensual memories in my old-lady basket.

yes it is tough with my partner G. for long periods of time. Its I suppose a bit like being a sole parent except I have him in the house as well. During these depressive phases he does almost nothing around the house and gets very nasty if I ask him to wash a pot, or even bring some wood in. He goes to work but sometimes takes a day off which is worrying because I would go insane if he was not working. So I have to deal with the home stuff - including all the housework - as well as my own demanding paid work. My daughter is not a lot of help around the house either - thats my fault I think. But she has huge school assignments and at least gets on with those at home Anyway I am out of here in 9 days time - and they will have to cope for 2 weeks without me - but this does mean I have to have some basic things organized, post lists etc. Otherwise I will worry when I am away.
The prom dress is now in the dressmakers being altered - that was not as painful as I anticipated and she will look lovely.

Hope everyone else has a great weekend and I am sorry if I have talked a lot about me. But it helps so much to get things out (thanks Jane and have you talked to A1 yet?) My partner is not well, has not been for years - but he refuses to have any talking therapy. He is on medication which probably helps to some extent - but its not enough for him. I think when I get back from overseas I will go with him to the GP and just lay out how bad it is. The trouble, my dears - is that he deflects his depression on to me - he just refuses to take ownership for his own recovery. But I guess thats part of the depression spectrum??

[little beagle]

I'm sorry gloamers. This post is sad. My Amy got in the road today and died. I feel like shit. I couldn't run fast enough.
I feel my planning ability is falling apart. How could I let something like that happen?
Am I just losing my ability to stay on top of things?.

[NoSugar]

Oh, LB, I am so sorry. Please don't blame yourself. We can't control everything (even though we want to) and certainly not high-energy, curious dogs. Losing a pet is so hard no matter how it happens. xx

[Pavati]

Oh, Goodness, LB. I am so sorry. That must be so hard to have witnessed.

I agree with NS that there are some (maybe even most) things we can't control. I don't think that means you are losing your ability to stay on top of things. My mom ran over a dog with her car in front of the young girl owner. She was devastated. I think it is a side effect of animals living side by side with humans and fossil fueled vehicles.

So very sorry.

xo

[treetops]

Very sorry LB. AS others said it was a tragic accident and it was not your fault or because you cant stay on top of things.
Please take care of yourself in this sad time XXX

[Ginger999]

I'm sorry gloamers. This post is sad. My Amy got in the road today and died. I feel like shit. I couldn't run fast enough.
I feel my planning ability is falling apart. How could I let something like that happen?
Am I just losing my ability to stay on top of things?.

LB, I'm so sorry for your loss. I know how much your furbabies mean to you. It was a tragic accident and I'm so sorry you are going through this. Huge hug to you my friend.

[available]

LB i am so very sorry for you and your baby. As much as we try and do for them, we cant control what will be. Try and not be too hard on yourself, you did try and save her and you were there with her. It breaks my heart to hear when one of our furry babies dies. Sending big hugs to you today.

[jane27]

Oh Lil, I am so sorry and wish I was there to give you a big hug and reassure you that you will get through this. Whenever things get too crazy for any reason, I find it helpful to ask myself what I know. This helps to put some base between the realities and the emotional realities. You'll get through this lil. RIP Sweet Amy

TT, the best I could do was write him a letter. I have meant to show him love, care and support but hubs feels that my tone is too harsh & intense. Tomorrow he & I meet with the shrink to hopefully come to some middle of the road understanding of how we need to approach A1s issues. Thursday evening NS & A1 meet with shrink. I'm feeling selfish about things. It's hard to stay quiet when ther are red flags popping up, but sucky to feel like th bad guy because I rocked the boat about it.

Love to all my Gloamers. Tomorrow is a new day . Xxx

[Guitarista]

Hi Gloamers,

Oh LB. I am very sorry to hear of your loss. It is always devastating losing a pet. You are a decent and good person. It's not your fault. Vale Amy. G

[paulywogg]

Sorry for your loss LB

[little beagle]

Thank you.

[NoSugar]

I'm thinking of you, LB :hug:. You must feel so hurt and sad. I know how much you love your pups. Amy was lucky to be yours. xx

[Dottie Belle]

LB I am so sorry. Fur babies are our family and to lose one opens a hole in the heart. I hope you cherish the memories.