Ladies on a Mission: The Official Site

[narilly]

Pav, like lil b, I will share my hot summer night wit you too...all 5 of them! It's getting hot today and then cooling down a bit. I am sitting on my deck, just ate my lunch here. We went for a nice walk today, visited my mom and then I did some gardening. Having some time off is sweet. Pav, it is hard not having a job though, you are right. That made me laugh about your not so white couch!

Dottie, you are amazing. Enjoy the gym.
Have a great Un Hung Wednesday.

[jane27]

Ahoy Loamers! Bactrim + gardening does not a party make. Wowsers do I feel sick. Hubs is at shrink with A1 as a write this. Fingers crossed for anything positive. Love to all

[jane27]

Jane that is so funny....I have wanted to punch a few myself but none were that eloquent in their stupidity...
Gym in a few then nothing for tonight. I can just chill out..WooHoo.

Now you got me reminiscing! This will be a work in progress.

My Hunky Online Dates - The Roll Call by Jane 27

The professor that struck it rich, blew all his money on cars, had breath that smelled like vomit and sang tie a yellow ribbon round the old oak tree so beautifully, I paused.

The Liquidator, who lived at a W hotel, got wild eyed over the prospect of Eddie Bauer potentially going bankrupt, whimpered over the soreness of his just pierced nipple....and....wait for it....confided that his last girlfriend had tied him up and locked him in the basement for 3 days; Perfectly titilated about the whole experience and I got the feeling the story was told as a "hint".

The sole looker at 8 minute dating ( overlooking his freakish height 6'8), who talked about his admiration and love for his mother, who at 85 still attended regular Flamenco dancing sessions, which he somehow felt the need to physically demonstrate then spastically tripped over his own 6'8 long umbrella.

The guy who'd just lost 250 lbs & was very self conscious about being really fat even though he wasn't anymore.

The nightly news writer who confessed that he had a big nose and no chin, and tried to cover them up by hooking his fore finger on his nose, and dangling his hand in front of his chin. All the time.

[little beagle]

I'm laughing Jane. I don't even have stories like that.
Narilly it sounds like you are enjoying your time. I'm glad for you.
It's pretty quiet around here. Hope everyone is ok. Un hung. Its wonderful.

[jane27]

Goodnight Gloamers! I'm relieved to be feeling a lot better. That was scary. I don't know what happened but apparently when a medication says to avoid sun, a sunburn isn't the only reason why. I felt so crappy I had to lie down on the foyer floor for an hour because the cold tile felt soothing against my beat red face. No gardening for me tomorrow!
Hugs to all

[Dottie Belle]

Evening all,
Off to a pool/dinner date. Had storms earlier so the temp had dropped so not sure how this will turn out. He seems like a nice man and I have been able to verify everything he has told me so not sure what else to do.
How my life has changed so dramatically is just beyond me at times.

[treetops]

Bit quiet on this thread. Jane - glad that you are feeling better -you have to be careful when on some of these sun-s sensitive medications. How are the sessions with your son's psych going? (I am always a bit skeptical with psychs and counsellors - and for damned good reason! But it can be very helpful).
I read you post on another thread (in response to Stuck) - gosh, you really hit it when you were drinking and you must do everything you can to not return to that mess again. Yeah, its scary to recall how overpowering the monster can be.

SL -has returned from the wilds and I gather had a great time with her girls.

Nar - is it still warm where you are? We have a storm here at the moment and its rather dramatic - but I am off to Europe on Monday to seek some calmer weather. Really looking forward to a break and seeing my friend, as well as taking in lots of rich history and art. Been packing - which after all my years of experience I am very very lousy at.

Dot - sorry cant give any advice about dating. Hope you have a good weekend. Same to everyone else. Good weekend (not dating advice that is!:eek-new.

[Pavati]

Hi, Gloamers:

Happy Friday. It is that time of year for me as I work at a school and have been so busy trying to make sure students graduate, plan graduation, email nervous parents, deal with exam cheaters, rehearse the speeches, make sure my OWN kids don't fail, etc., etc. I will have more to say soon, I promise.

I did just read an article about how busy is a badge of honor these days. I mean busy in the good way - busy with a great job, trying to make sure we finish the job and get those diplomas into those little hands. I'll say my life has been FULL.

It was quite hot here today. I guess maybe I don't long for those LONG HOT summer nights. Just warm enough to sit on my deck on my lovely pillows with my friend Narilly and the 100 day pool boys (or a bowl of ice cream).

Night.

Pav

[jane27]

TT, Thanks for asking- A1 & his Dad went to the therapist yesterday evening & it went very well. Today A1 even stopped by with 4 of his friends to help hubs sort out the back porch furniture. Finally got to meet “Pree”, the ring leader of this apparently bad group of kids A1 hangs out with. Was relieved by the fact that the kid is about 20 pounds over weight- from the stuff I’ve been reading heroin users are mostly on the thin side. The 4 kids weren't super cool looking or arrogant. They were polite, goofy, and still naive (based on bits of conversation I caught). I made them scoops baked with a dollop of tomato sauce and melted cheese. They ate them all up, and A1 gave me a hug and said thank you. Being a parent is hard. Being a kid is hard. Its not so hard to see where each of them is coming from in their feelings- but difficult to imagine getting them to blend more organically, and for A1 to treat his father with respect & appreciation. He & his brother both are loved so well and thoroughly by hubs and MIL, that I think I think they blow right past taking it for granted and into feeling suffocated. Their mother is bipolar, borderline, unpredictable, and at times unstable. Hubs and the ex divorced when the kids were quite young- 4 and 1. Everyone tried their best, and now we have to figure out how best to teach and prepare them for living in a grown up world; How important it is to plan and prepare for new experiences in order to have the best outcome. Thinking things through, and using common sense.
And who wrote the book on how to be parents? There must be one!

Been so quiet lately. Was nice to see Lifechange back and posting in the Nest. Happy to hear that Lil B has brought home a beautiful rescue beagle named Sadie as of yesterday. She has sprinkles of gray and white along her muzzle and ears, so I'm guessing she's an older pup- 8 or 9? Lil I hope you'll check in and let us know how she’s liking her sisters and new digs. I know she will help heal your heart from the loss of sweet Amy. She is going to be so grateful that you brought her home, and it wouldn’t surprise me at all if she senses a bit of what happened. I hope she's giving you good cuddles.
Hubs turns 50 in a couple of weeks. Tomorrow he will have his first personal training session in the gym we have created in our basement. I found the trainer years ago through the gutter cleaning company I was using. The company’s prices seem to sky rocket year after year so eventually I started to call him directly. His main gig is fitness and he competes in muscle building contests. He was diagnosed with diabates1 10 years ago at the age of 30, so I think he’ll be a great outlet for hubs.

Pav, is must be an exciting time of year. Even if its a short pop in, its nice to hear your voice and know you're still with us.

Wishing everyone a good MAE. xxx

Some of the lillies are starting to bloom!

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[narilly]

Morning everyone. Un hung Saturday's are awesome!
I had a drinking dream last night and oh man, I am so glad it was only a dream. I used to black out all the time and have to live with really not knowing what happened. So glad I am not worrying about that anymore.
TT, Europe sounds great.
Nice lollies Jane.
Pav, I'll spend my hot summer nights with you it's nice for you to have a break from work.

[narilly]

You know, that is the strength of having this group. Being able to talk about something we have in common which is our struggle with AL. I am so glad you all can understand what it feels like to have a problem with AL.
I had a drinking dream last night and was trying to talk to my hubby about it- there is no way he could understand the fear I had thinking that I drank. The feeling in the pit of my stomach when I woke up and then the relief when I figured out it was a dream. You all Understand what I mean.
It is so scary to have these dreams. In my AL dreams I always forget that I don't drink and then I drink by accident and then I black out. Black outs scare the crap out of me.
Anyway, thank goodness it was just a dream and a good reminder about why I don't drink. I am so relieved not to be drinking right now.

[jane27]

Nar, I'm glad too that you awoke to find out it was just a terrible dream. I blacked out a lot of the time too. Sometimes I wonder if my short term memory issues are related to all of that. Wishing everyone a great day!

PS I'm soooooooo excited! Hubs is having his 1st personal training session right now.The trainer uses this system called TRX. It all uses your own body weight. (He had to drill an eye hook in the basement ceiling for the straps that connect to it). I'm also wearing my new Jawbreaker Up24 activity tracker. Cant believe hubs is exercising and so psyched there's a person in charge of making it happen.

[narilly]

Jane, blackouts suck and I used to think they were so much fun...ugh.

TRX is great. My hubby does it all the time and I do it too. It is a good ab workout for sure. So good your hubby is getting in shape!

[treetops]

Nar - drinking dreams are scary. Try not to dwell on them too much but you sound like you know this. Blackouts - really bad news and I suspect its worse as one gets older. That I do not wish to experience. I have things that happened to me as a result of blacking out that I can't share here (too public). Just so glad I am here now and able to say hello this un-hung morning.
Still very stormy - and I couldn't sleep last night as my daughter was out with her friends. They were at someone's house but then walking to another one very late at night - I was worried about the weather. of course she did not dress for a winter storm. Have any of you tried to tell a teenage girl to put warmer clothes on? She refuses to wear jeans (her body shape) and will not wear sensible winter jackets or coats. At least the boots were sturdy! It all sounds very familiar to me - I was like that at her age too and drove my Mum batty! If only all we had to worry about was our kids wearing warm clothing! (Jane I hope this raises a faint chuckle for you because I know you are going through such a tough time with your boy).
Hmmn - the fitness workout sounds a bit kinky:exclaim: We don't have a basement in our house and no spare rooms so my partner will have an excuse to stay fat. Last time he went to the gym he ended up in ER - but there was nothing wrong with him health wise.
Have a good day or sweet dreams as the case may be - one and all!

[Dottie Belle]

so far the dating is OK. Nice men and they have bought lunch and we have talked. I have had several second dates and 1 3rd date so far. I have no desire to get serious with any of them but am enjoying the attention so far. I am flattered and surprised that I have gotten that much interest on the dating site. My self confidence is through the roof. And I am sure it will get shot down at some point....such is life.