Ladies on a Mission: The Official Site

[scottish lass]

posted a thread - hoping you will not kick me off the island!

DB - wow, I am in awe - separated almost 5 years and divorced coming up to one, and not a hint of a date.

LB - so very sorry for your doggy loss....

Pav, continue to think of you...

TT - hi! Hot here, came back from wearing sweats in the tent to 100 plus temps!

[narilly]

SL, great to hear from you. 100plus temps? Holy moly that is hot hot hot.

It's raining here today and our block party was cancelled, bummer. Usually it is a lot of fun.

Dottie, whoa, you go girl! My self esteem is going up just watching you! Seriously, you are amazing.

TT, ya teenagers, I know exactly what you are talking about. My kids would not dress properly for the weather and its freakin cold here. Now they dress fine. They are 18 and 20 now.

Saturday night here. Drinking my tea and watching tv tonight. Saturday was alway a big drinking night for me but not anymore. I am having tea and a bit of chocolate. They have chocolate covered coconut at Costco, I love it. Yummers.

Xo

[jane27]

Hi Gloamers, Busy day here. Hubs survived the workout. He was exhausted afterwards but I know he felt good about himself, and probably also some positive endorphins. I got my jawbone activity tracker set up and pushed myself out the door for a very slow 1/2 mile jog, but it's a start.

Tomorrow we'll go to MILs in the morning, hopefully with both of the boys. Having them with us makes it easier to peel away after a few hours.
Wishing everyone a bewdie. Xoxo

[little beagle]

Happy unhung Sunday. Yay. I love it. It just never gets old.
TT I remember trying to convince my daughter to dress warmly in the winter.
Jane glad to hear you will stay out of the sun. That was frightening.
Dottie the dating does seem to be going well. You are beautiful so it's no wonder you are popular.
SL I'm going to say it. Better you then me camping in 100+ temps. We are trying to plan our vacation. We were going to Yellowstone and Mt. Rushmore. Sturgis bike rally is the first week of Augustvand they are expecting around a million visitors due to the 75th anniversary. Everything is super expensive too. $40 a night just to pitch a tentvand have running water and electricity. Crazy. Well the thought of that many people visiting that area changed our minds. I think that's off. We're working on plan B now.
Yes I did it. I felt so devestated about Amy that I went down to the local animal shelter and brought home Sadie. A beagle. She was turned in by her people. She was scared and confused. She's just starting to adjust a little. All rhe hair on her rear half of her body is gone. Flea investation. It's starting to regrow already. Poor baby.
Jane that workout sounds interesting. I'm going to check it out.

[peppersnow]

Hi LOAMERs...I just returned from a week in the woods. We needed to take our youngest up to her camp where she'll leave for a 5 week remote camping canoe trip in Manitoba with 4 other young women, and have a cabin about 15 minutes from the camp. So we spontaneously decided to leave a week early and regroup at the cabin after my MIL's death. My MIL was born at this cabin in the woods and it was hers, so it was a bit sad being there without her, but there was a sweetness to it, too.

Our lilacs are just blooming now and the perfume is heavy throughout the first floor of my house. I'm glad to be home and grateful we didn't miss that!

So sorry to hear about your pup, LB., but happy for your new arrival. Jane, I'm glad you're feeling better, and Nar it sounds like you have a really healthy outlook about the job-hunt and are able to live in the moment and enjoy this time of not working. I was unemployed for 6 months and had a hard time with making the most of my down-time, but that was also when I was drinking. It's amazing how so many other areas of our health and wellness (emotional, physical, mental) improve when we quit drinking.

Take care, all, and enjoy the rest of your Sunday.

[scottish lass]

Morning all, lying in bed with a cup of tea and my thoughts. Lots going on in my brain - do wish I could shut it off once in a while.
Can't quite believe my vacation is over, planned for so long and stressed so much - I find it hard having 'family' vacations as the only adult.
Lots going on that I can't do much about just now and starting to realize the impact that has on me and my peace of mind. Wish I could go back to easier times - younger kids with younger kid issues that I could sort out, and a partner to help .... but not to be, so need to get myself sorted out....
Bit of a blue mood - sorry ladies...glad to be here though...
Jane - intrigued by your tracker??? I think exercise might help me..... Did a bit of hiking and walking when the weather cooperated last week, need to get back to the running

[NoSugar]

It sounds to me like you're still on a mission, SL :smile:. I'm sorry your vacation is over but it's nice you have another one to look forward to. I hope the summer settles down into a good one for you and your girls.

Today was my first day back to a more serious exercise program. I've gotten pretty casual about it, preferring to spend time w/ my grandson than work out but after all my shorts shrank in the drawer over the winter , a step on the scale revealed the sad truth and I realized I'd better step it up a notch. I don't like feeling uncomfortable in my skin so time to deal with that.

Pepper, what a wonderful surprise trip. It must have felt good to in a certain way be close to your MIL again. It sounds like your daughter is set for quite an adventure!

The stories about teens who don't dress right cracked me up. Our son didn't wear a coat to school his entire senior year of high school - he drove, parked close, and darted into the building. In November of this freshman year at college (large campus w/ a lot of walking), he called home and asked if he could have a coat for Christmas. We said we'd be happy to get him a coat NOW if he was going to actually wear it!!!

Pav, I hope your family is doing ok and you have plans in place that you feel good about.

Hope you're all doing well, NS

[narilly]

Happy you are back NS, I missed you. Weird how your shorts shrunk...mine did the same. Cheap shorts! So good you can spend time with your grand son. That is nice, I am sure he loves his sober grandma.

Lil B, that is so cool that you rescued a dog. So sad what happens to dogs.
Pepper, I love the smell of lilacs in the yard. We have some in the front here too.

SL, I wish things were easier for you. Hang in there. You can do it! Keep coming back and talking to us, it helps.

Jane, enjoy your MIL visit

Have a great Un Hung Sun.

[scottish lass]

Just realizing how really hard it was to post that I had been drinking - making me realize many things and working out a plan to address "stuff" that is causing me concern....
Let's get fit together, and all that that means :thumbsup:

[NoSugar]

I admire you for posting and not just disappearing, SL. And you're right that you have to do it for you, not to avoid disappointing others. I found that a useful back-up tool, though, when I was down on myself and wasn't even caring what I thought about anything.

Thanks for the cheap shorts laugh, Nar. But my absolute favorite 10-y old shorts are suddenly tight so I'm not sure I can blame those old girls!

[Dottie Belle]

I have a "date" with yet another fellow later today. I am getting confused....LOL
So many men and so little time...

[jane27]

Yes I did it. I felt so devestated about Amy that I went down to the local animal shelter and brought home Sadie. A beagle. She was turned in by her people. She was scared and confused. She's just starting to adjust a little. All rhe hair on her rear half of her body is gone. Flea investation. It's starting to regrow already. Poor baby.
Jane that workout sounds interesting. I'm going to check it out.

Lil, Our phone chats are the gift that keeps on giving. Having repeat chuckles I love that you took the bull by the horns and went to get Sadie. Makes me feel so good inside. What happened with Amy was tragic and you have honored her memory with the beautiful tree you planted. You didn't let it get you down. You empowered yourself and Sadie's got a wonderful new home because you did. Such good stuff.

SL, I LOVE the jawbone thing. The one I got is the Up24. It is sooooooo friggin cool, and it is not tight around the wrist, rather more like a bracelet. Its totally working to motivate me. The 1/2 mile run was so heavy and slow. I'm looking forward to seeing that improve.

There is video of the TRX thing on YouTube. I didn't watch hubs working out, but when I went downstairs to put the laundry in the drye,r I heard him breathing so heavily that it scared me & I rewashed the same load of clothes again. He has got a long way to go, but the change in his demeanor after 1 time was amazing.

A1 got another flat tire and is in prick mode. I'm glad they are going back to the shrink this Thursday. He's wearing over sized headphones in the limited time he's been around us, and pretends not to hear anything. I want to punch him. Going to go try to run a little further today. Love to all.

[narilly]

I used the jawbone thing for a while then got tired of it. It's good though to know exactly how much you do in a day.

SL, I am glad you are here. Keep coming back and don't let AL take a hold of your life again. I know you can do it. You are a strong woman.

Holy Dottie, where do you find these guys? There must be a line up at your door!

NS, so glad your back.

[jane27]

SL, I am glad you are here too. You are an important member of the Gloamer family :hug: How can we continue to be a supportive part of your life, and do you have any thoughts on what role drinking will have in your life? Will it be a special occasions thing, an if the mood hits thing? If you continue to post, and I hope you will, are you wanting to put the subject to rest? What can we do to keep you interested, engaged and comfortable staying in the conversation? I see this as one of many firsts for our gang, and I have faith in all of us to get through it in tact and healthfully.

hubs is blabbing all the while that I am writing this...looking at restaurants for our upcoming vaca....reading me menus- asking me questions- I just keep saying 'sure!' If the tone of this sounds weird, this is why.

[Pavati]

Hi,

SL - I want to say NNNNNNOOOOOOO! I really wish you didn't drink. I wish that you found the contentment you were looking for without thinking you could find it in booze. I wish you didn't feel like you had to scratch that itch. I wish that you came and talked about it here before you did rather than after. I want to say that a lot of what you wrote in your post sounds like the denial of an alcoholic. I wish I reached out to you when I saw signs of your pulling away a bit. I wish alcohol wasn't the dastardly bastard that it is...

AND

I also want to say that you are my friend and I will support you in whatever you decide. Your support and friendship, especially your kindness and vulnerability, are what make you a good partner in sobriety. I am so glad you post on this thread, and so happy that you came back rather than disappearing. Maybe it isn't denial and I am wrong. Whatever the case, we all DO need to find our own ways out. I know from hearing about your daughters that you will have them in mind at all times, in addition to caring for yourself. We are here to support you in whatever way we can.

Good night, Gloamers. Wrote too much elsewhere and now I'm fading. Happy UN HUNG weekend. It was a great one.

xo
Pav