Ladies on a Mission: The Official Site

[narilly]

Goodnight everyone, talk tomorrow.

Glad to be sober.

[Pavati]

Hi, Gloamers--

Sorry I've been MIA.

Has anyone heard from J-Vo? I am thinking about her today for some reason. Maybe because my son will be in 8th grade next year, and that is the grade level she teaches. I hope she is ok.

I am with NS - I read back but too tired to comment much.

Jane - although I have worked with teenagers for more than 20 years, I find having one at home to be completely weird, frustrating, annoying and wonderful. They are STRANGE creatures. Good luck.

Pepper - that must have been so hard. I am glad that she got to talk to you as you understand addiction. I find that people get so mean and judgmental about people using drugs/alcohol as bad people - I am happy for her that you understand and could help her feel better.

Nar - Good luck with the search.

One thing through all of this hard part about life that I am reading - it is a farking good thing that we don't drink so we have clear heads and strong minds to get through it all. Imagine trying to do this drinking. I have NO idea how I functioned before. So glad to get my evenings and weekends back.

Good night, all.

xo
Pav

[paulywogg]

Pav,I've been missing J-vo too

[scottish lass]

Hi - busy as usual, little time to check in (or to be bad either!)
Not much to report - staying strong. I am hungry all the time just now, no idea why! Strange, don't wish to feed the beast as I have got my weight quite nice, but keep going on food hunts!
Pav - teenagers! I do think it was easier when they were smaller....

[jane27]

Hi Gloamers, got news that an old coworker of mine passed away yesterday. non Hodgkin's lymphoma returned after nearly 15 years remission. Young guy in his early 50s. Very sad.
I stopped by to say hi to an old friend/ my ex of many years back , and as so often is the case, it was brief and ended with me feeling hurt. I'm sensing with more clarity the complexity of the relationship I have with him.
I think I might be trying fill an abuse void. Makes me think of the expression like a moth to the flame. Going to google that to get the solid low down... The basic premise I guess is that moths are attracted to light- but if a moth flies into a flame I'm guessing its wings would burn to ashes pretty quickly. I know whatever this thing is is related to my relationship with my mother, codependent in nature and rooted in associating emotional abuse with love.
In other news took hubs to his dr today for his annual physical. Only got half way through. Treated myself to rice krsipie frozen yogurt after, feel kind of down and sad but not going to wallow in it. Life is too short. Everybody stand back.... I'm about to perform an attitude adjustment. Ready?
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Sad mood be gone!

Love to all

PS its 9pm and I'm back to grateful folks. Who needs that shit :-)

[little beagle]

I need a SHAZAM!! Whew. Feeling better too. Thanks Jane. Sorry about your friend. ((Hugs)).
Iagree Pav. It wasn't just my nights and weekends. My drinking affected every part of my life. I'm glad to have my whole life back.

[jane27]

Goodnight Gloamers! Lil, hope Sadie & company are all adjusting well. What I'd do for a Sadie hug! Xxx

[treetops]

Hi there ladies. Checking in from Belgium – we are not in Brussels at the moment. Its so cold here – hard to believe its summer! Have skyped my partner and daughter and pleased to see that they miss me. Requests for lots of Belgian chocolate.

Hope you are feeling better Jane cos what you are going through is so hard.

Nar – how is the job hunt going? That is so too tough too.

How is Sadie –LB? I bet your love for your new pet is working well.

Pav – I work with older teenagers too (also work with adults). At least one thing with having my own teenager is that I think I have a wee bit more empathy for the ones I deal with at work. My daughter said today (on Skype) that she is really looking forward to tertiary education – and I can tell. She has always had a very enquiring mind – and now her love of learning is showing up. Please let this last – cos its fantastic to be able to talk about all kinds of things with your child – that's not just personal drama stuff.

SL – I see you have some time off from the girls. I hope you treat yourself and relax – and don’t overthink! I can say that because I am very guilty of overthinking – as are many of us I bet.

I am really enjoying having this time with my friend from England. We go back to working together in the 1980s and have always kept in touch. She is also the godmother of my daughter. But she is not a morning person – which I am – and I am antsy to get moving today.

Hi there everyone else and I hope you are looking forward to the weekend as best you can. Lots of beer here (its everywhere) and no, I am not tempted at all

[NoSugar]

Good job on your attitude adjustment, Jane. Sometimes it works to act like I want to feel and the feelings follow. Other times... not so much. Hope you (and you, too, LB!) feel pretty good on this nice long Friday. I love this time of year with the many hours of daylight.

What sights are you seeing in Belgium, TT? What other countries will you be visiting? Glad to hear the beer doesn't even look good. It's all kind of "dead" to me (or I to it, I guess -- just really don't have any reaction).

Pav, I hope your whole family is doing well. Aren't we so lucky we don't drink? I figure the older we get, the more "stuff" there is going to be to deal with and we are going to need to have all our wits about us. As I was packing for a little trip I'm on (in a small suitcase), it struck me how great it was not to be burying those nasty little bottles of wine in my underwear. What a shameful memory! I hated being so sneaky and fearful.

SL, I've been thinking about you often. I hope you're feeling better and are comfortable back in your AF life :hug:.

Have a great day, Loamers!

[jane27]

Thanks NS.

TT, I would love to see pictures.
Lil B, I would love to see pictures.
Everyone, I would love to see pictures!

Here are some photos of the lillies blooming. You would think I gave birth to them lol. Like a textbook addict, I'm jonesing for MORE.
Happy Friday Gloamers! PS These photos (particularly the bottom one) are a gross contrast to our monthly bank statement...but we all know about THAT kind of thing from FB.

[giraffe1234]

Good evening everyone!

Jane, what exquisite flowers - glorious!

I feel guilty for being so quiet for a long time - so many things happened in my life. Most important, I quit my kinda well-paying management job and went back to what I love best: teaching. Started on 13 April, and have not regretted the move. My bank statement begs to differ on that one, but it's ok, I will manage.

Jane, what you said about drinking too long and too hard: so well said. Drinking embedded itself in my mind as well for that same reason. So nice to have someone voice the words. Same as you, my daily agenda for months included 1) don't drink, b) seek constant MWO support. b) was my lifeline during that time. It's easier now, but the thoughts are still there.

LB - I agree with you re. the intervention theory. Divine or from some inner sense of self-preservation, or whatever - but something intervened and kept me from complete self-destruction.

Anyhow, tomorrow is 600 days for me. I remain grateful and still stay sober one day at a time.

It is so wonderful to find you all here, and MWO back to its former user-friendly format. Hope you all have a fantastic week-end.

Lots of love and good wishes to all xxx

[NoSugar]

What a treat to see you, Giraffe! It's great to hear that you're doing well and living your dream :smile:.

[giraffe1234]

Ps - The most important thing left unsaid: I would not ever have managed to get sober and I would certainly not have persevered but for the support of LOAM. Never. That much I know is true. Good night all and thank you thank you thank you.

[giraffe1234]

Thank you NS! xxx

[scottish lass]

Well done Giraffe and so good to see you.
yes, two nights without the girls, but sadly I am on call so will be working!
Hanging in NS - and feeling good - I have pretty well been 'sober' by definition for almost two years and that is something to be proud and grateful for! The AF time will come back and I am glad that I have the LOAMers to ensure that I stay on track and get to where I want to be in life- happy and healthy....