Ladies on a Mission: The Official Site

[treetops]

Good on you for getting it out Pav. You are going through a really hard time - so many uncertains and of course you are drawn to a way to find relief from this. But it almost always ends up messy down the track - so take it off the options. I wouldn't even suggest you experiment with your AL thoughts.
As SL and others suggest sleep, exercise - and time all help with AL callings. These are not cravings, just a calling, a gentle seemingly innocent reminder of what you could do. Time is our friend - and it don't have to be much time either. Just some hours, even minutes, to get through. Then as we all know its days, months and years. But first the little chunks of time..
We can do this.

[Dottie Belle]

Morning all,
No dates for today. I am having lunch with a gal friend to catch up.
Going to hit the treddie too last nights dinner was fantastic but off the diet for sure. But it was fun and the company was good too but he is never going to get to know me if he doesnt stop talking. He has more stories and can talk and talk...guess that is the salesman in him. He also likes to talk about his money and trips he has taken etc, Trying to figure out if he is full of bs or just very please with himself....but whatever I enjoy his company and if wants to see me again I am good with that.

[jane27]

Top of the mornin Loamers, It is hubs 50 th birthday today. He's taken the day off from work, so we'll spend some time in the pool, maybe take a bike ride, play some Scrabble. I ordered dinner for the 6 of us to be delivered at 430 and the gang will arrive at 5. I think it's going to be a lovely day. Pav, I hope today is a better one for you. Pepper, it must be strange being the minority non drinker.
Whenever we had friends or family over in the past I made sure to have an endless supply of wine and anything else folks liked. I know my MIL enjoyed these occasions, and I feel a little bit badly for not having AL. It just the 6 of us tonight, 7 with MILs health aid. Wondering if I should pick up some wine for the 3 of them . Maybe I'll text mil to run it by her, and see what she says.
Wishing everyone a nice day and thanks so much for tolerating my down days/ lists. SL, thank you for keeping my but in line. It's helpful to have someone say, 'think about the good stuff'. I know it's not fun to be the one that has to say it. You did good.
Love to all xoxo

[scottish lass]

Content again today - surprised how easy it has been to get back on track and so assuredly so. Going to bed last night felt good, getting up this morning felt good (apart from getting up this morning:egad, drive to work was just fine - now to get to work! Really working things out in my head worked for me, and focusing on the good of it all....

[giraffe1234]

Good evening and good night from another grateful, proud and happy Loamer xxx

[jane27]

Just checking in. I'm feeling a bit wistful about AL. Not so much wishing I could have one, but yearning for the quick release & warmth it delivers. Any party would be more fun under the influence, but those days are gone. As SL advised I've got to do the work to create the conditions that result in the outcome I want, which is more joy, more fun, more lightness and less worrying, obsessing, expending energy on anxiety. I wish I could drink today. I just want to have some fun and let go for a while. I won't. Love to all

Ps Going to start using mood tracker again. May help me to raise the bar effort wise with looking for the positive. Actually feeling a little pms ish

Oh...one more thing, saw this little baby deer in back yesterday. ( my neighbors back yard)..out for a stroll with her mom.
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[treetops]

Jane I know how you feel about the party being more fun when under the influence - no harm in admitting that. Thats exactly one reason why I don't want a 60th birthday party this year. I realise one can have fun at a party without AL but for me, my partying days are pretty much something I did in the past. I will put in an appearance if I have to, but its not top of my list anymore.
Tonight my friend tried to get me to dance to some African music. She had been drinking a little bit and was mellow but I couldn't get in the mood. I felt uncomfortable. I guess its better than making a fool of yourself but I felt mean about being uptight.

[jane27]

Thanks TT. Consider yourself virtually hugged ! :hug:

[NoSugar]

SL, I'm so glad you came right back here and didn't let an addiction get a grip on you again. I sure wouldn't advise anyone to run that experiment now and then because there's no guarantee that you'll make it out again (at least without a huge struggle) but I have to believe that limiting your exposure and quickly doing the "mind work" has made a huge difference for you.

Pav, I hope you're feeling better today and that some of the stress has abated. I feel so confident that you won't drink (even when you feel like you want to), I can't say your post even alarmed me. You know what to do, and you did it. You know what you want, and that means not drinking. Our rational brains are in charge now and we both know what an irrational choice it would be. So we don't make it :hug:.

Are you relaxing, going with the flow, and enjoying the birthday celebration, Jane? Hope so!

[Dottie Belle]

Had a great lunch with my friend. Then I went shopping. I had my birthday coupon and there was a sale too so I bought 3 knit tops. Then I came home and did 60 minutes on the treadmill. I was able to jog for the first 10 minutes so I am making progress toward my goal....showered and now trying to relax....

[available]

Hi Loamers

SL maybe you have found mind peace with your al. I know when i accepted i could never drink and i didnt want to then it made the journey so much easier.

Pav, i know i could never lose my quit buddy, we still have the 1000 day celebration next year and i could never imagine you drinking now though i get the temptation aspect, just to make things better but they would never be better with al.

Great to see you Giraffe, a wonderful time af for you.

Life is busy here, never a dull moment but have had 2 good nights sleeps so feeling kind of human.

Hi to everyone!

[little beagle]

Jane you've been in my thoughts all day. Hope the dinner was great.

[peppersnow]

Hope you're having a nice time AF Jane -- if you could quit, your MIL can live through one night without!

Pav, you can make it through any craving. With the curve balls life has thrown you lately, I know you know that there isn't anything that AL can do but make it all so much worse. Glad you found some bolstering up here!

I said yesterday that I was going to be a bucket of sunshine at work today and that turned out to be one big fat fantasy. I was annoyed as hell with everyone and everything, snapping left and right. Ranting even when I was alone at my computer without an audience. The problem is I woke up that way, and forgot to remind myself about the whole sunny bucket pledge crap this morning. ANd also, I'm on this diet that cuts out all sugar and it's been 8 days and I WANT SUGAR (hmmm.. maybe that's it?) But tomorrow is a brand NEW day and I'm saying it one more time: I am going to be a bucket of sunshine tomorrow. I am going to make it my mission to say kind, compassionate and caring things to everyone I interact with and hope that they walk away feeling happy. And here's the biggest challenge: I'm not going to be fake or lie in order to accomplish that.

Happy mid-week all!

[narilly]

Pepper, yup, the sugar is probably making you cranky. I bet you will be a bucket of sunshine in the morning

Hello Lil B.

Pav, just remember You Don't Drink! You helped me through some tough times and have been a huge part in my sobriety, just take it one day at a time. I know things suck for you right now.

TT, NS, I read your posts on Alkies getting on your nerves. Ya, I am sure I got on some people's nerves over the years with my drinking. Thank goodness that is in the past.

Oooh, knitted tops Dottie, you sexy thing.

SL, glad you are doing well.
Happy Birthday to your hubs Jane.

Ava, nice to hear from you. I was going to go to Costco tomorrow and squeeze that Australian liquorice and think of you

Good night everyone.

[Pavati]

Hi, Loamers--

Thanks for the support. That's why I come here...

Jane, I hope that party went well.

I had one small thing go badly today and burst into tears on my way back to work. I wish I could have just let it all out then, but I had to make it back to work. I feel like a good night's sleep, a good cry, and some good exercise will straighten me out.

Yes, NS and Nar, I don't drink. Thank goodness - Ava, I am reaching up for some gratitude lately, too. One thing to be grateful for is that when I am struggling I have a lot of friends and family who reach out to me and support me. That is nice.

SL - Looking for that bucket of sunshine tomorrow. This sugar thing must be a closed system because as you have cut out, I think I have increased (yes, I know that can't help my mood either!).

xo
Pav