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Must focus on gratitude mmm, will work on that one, resigned is easier. I know i wont drink also and i dont want to but gees i am going to have to find a hobby very soon. Hols are always a start of a celebration but then again any day was cause for celebration to drink myself into pass out mode. Like wanting a drink on Friday, whats so different about Friday that i also did the other 6 days of the week.

My boys smoke so maybe i should go and have a bit but then i would get paranoid and want to eat everything in site.

Oh i have been drinking milo and skinny milk like it is going out of fashion, just need something sweet although the packet of lollies i devoured tonight were quite nice too.

Going to go and watch some Dexter Pat so make sure you check in tomorrow so we can say our goodbyes. I will miss our nightly chats.

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Cool Ava sleep well! We are both doing excellently yay!!
x

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That we are and when you get back we will still be trudging along doing well with no al.

I think i am getting a juicer for xmas off my children so that will make my drinking much more interesting. Maybe no dead vegies and fruit in my fridge anymore.
xx

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Morning Ladies,
Pat, enjoy your holiday break! I hope you get the rest and relaxation you deserve!

Available/Ava, what an absolutely beautiful pic of your daughters! And, yes, that means the world when your child is proud of you. I got your pm about the downloads. I will try it eventually. I will have to print up the instructions and follow carefully, because I, too, am technically challenged. I downloaded Smashed from AMazon. Too much money. Stay strong, dear!

Humble, I will check out blipfoto, too. And sounds as though you have lots of fulfilling "acronyms!" I'm currently reading "drink" and enjoying it. Little too much research, but it's research regarding women, so it keeps my interest. You know, my husband is 6'3" and I always kept up with him - drink for drink. Yep, never wanted him to get ahead of me, although I'm half his size!!!! OMG. Day 40 for you!:goodjob:

Narilly, I loooooooooooove what you said!!!!! "It's nice to just be forgetful and have NO GUILT associated with it!! thanks for that! So true, pretty lady!

NS, yes, it is nice being my goofy self again. I am a bit weird, but I was never myself under the influence. Always trying to be careful not to say or do something stupid. Now it's ok to do something stupid and I just laugh. Laughter is wonderful medicine.

Hi DTD!! Hope your well! Hi Star!

SL, the switch was hard for me to find. It took a lot of self-reflections and acceptance that AL and I just don't mix. I hope you get past those desires. Keepin my fingers crossed for you, dear lady.

Ok, ladies, plan period almost over. Have a wonderful AF Friday or Saturday!

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Hey J- Vo - yes I'm reading Drink too and there is a bit too much research for me also. I also think it's a bit repetitive in parts but I'm still enjoying it. Want to read ' Drinking a love story' how does that compare??
I'll be checking in tomorrow in between packing.
x

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Congratulations Scottish Lass


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available;1598474 wrote: I find that i am bored now at night since i am not drinking.

patrice;1598475 wrote:
Quite frankly, I'm bored shitless too.

available;1598477 wrote: The excitements not there i am telling you Pat. I miss that glass just not what was in it i think. I'm just resigned to not drinking, not happy about it at all but resigned if that makes sense.

patrice;1598479 wrote: Makes perfect sense and i think I am at the same stage.. I'm resigned to it also, i'm trying to feel gratitude but it's not working tonight. I won't drink tonight I know that but I feel a bit cheated as I've just started my hols and feel really wound up..

available;1598482 wrote: Must focus on gratitude mmm, will work on that one, resigned is easier. I know i wont drink also and i dont want to but gees i am going to have to find a hobby very soon.

You guys are TOTALLY NORMAL in my opinion! And being resigned is good - it means you aren't going to drink. You don't HAVE to be all whup-dee-doo happy about it. Just take it day by day by day.

There was a related discussion about this in the Nest this morning:

Originally Posted by Pinecone
Hi Friends,
I like the concept of "the switch," commonly associated with baclofen (I have no experience with it), but I like the idea of there being "a switch."

What I wrote:
That is an interesting way of looking at it, Pinecone. The switches are similar, also, in that you can't really predict when it will happen and you can't make it happen by force of will (though it sounds like most of us have tried!). Sometimes, like you said, it is a rock bottom that throws that switch and that is that. My experience was one of just hanging in there day by day by day, kind of doggedly going after this elusive "happy AF life", acting like I saw successful people act, trying to appreciate what was good about this life (basically just noticing little things) and then one day -- I realized the switch must have been flipped because the light was on !
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I know I sound all upbeat and happy about AF living and I am - but I sure wasn't always! However, I was resigned to the fact that I just had to do this and for some reason, I felt like this was my LAST CHANCE. I realize now this was sort of ridiculous given that MWO was the first time I'd tried to get any help, but anyway, that's how I felt. In a way it was good because it really motivated me to do whatever it would take. Don't worry if you're not having fun or feeling grateful or even if you're not sure you're doing the right thing. Just believe that you are and hang in there. It is good to post about it, too. I mean, weren't each of you glad to know you weren't the only one feeling that way yesterday? That is what MWO (and LOM ) are all about :l.

So, ladies with forgetful boyfriends who don't have a clinical problem: are they on statins? More and more data are coming out about memory problems associated with statin use.

STAR!!! So good to hear from you. Keep checking in, ok? I love knowing that you are here and hanging out with us even if you don't feel too chatty right now.

Love all the book and video recommendations - thanks! I like learning as much as possible about all this. Knowledge is Power, right?

Lovely bride there, Available! Even though it was a challenging time for you, it seems like you have good memories of the occasion :h.

Pav, you'll have another notch in your belt after you make it through the holiday party and (more importantly for me anyway) the evening on your own. Is the Fam going to The Hobbit? Thank goodness my husband took our kids to those kinds of movies - I just don't like them.

Have a great AF weekend LOMs! xx - NS

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Hey, just saw the news about SL!!

CONGRATULATIONS! Please don't give up all you've gained - I promise the worst is behind you :l.

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NS yes dh is on statins and I have told him about this and am going to bring this up today at the docs..also about a water soluble statin that is not so hard on the liver...if dh would just eat more plant based like I have been cooking for him, he wouldn't need the darn meds...imho...docs are pill pushers..oh don't get me started on that..

Congrats SL on 30 days...WooHoo!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Great job!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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NS, Narilly, and all,
That's one of the things I also love about being sober. Now I know what I said and did and no one can take that away. I showed my husband an email yesterday, then showed him another one related to it. He got this shocked look on his face and said "What is wrong with you? You just showed me this." As if I had been drinking. I pointed out that he was the one with the problem as they were completely different emails. Egg on his face.

Dottie, my husband has also been driving me crazy with not remembering what I say. Arrgghhhh. And he doesn't have statins in his system as an excuse. It seems like every day at least once I will say "I told you already" and then try to jostle his memory.

I've also got my humor back. I went out to lunch with some folks from work yesterday, and when we left, another table of work people from a different department said they were going to have to either join us next time or take pointers from us on how to have an uproarious lunch. We were laughing so hard we were crying. No one had a drop of alcohol.

Day 40 here, yay! I don't drink.

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CONGRATULATIONS, Scottish Lass (30 days) and Humble Rider (40 days)

Great Work!!!!

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Patrice,
Drinking A Love Story is excellent! The best memoir!!! I haven't read it for several years, but it's in my closet and I'm going to reread it. I highly recommend.

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:clapping2: Scottish Lass!!!!!!

NS great post and analyzing the conversation. I agree. Sometimes we do feel just "flat." Just blah. We don't have to be happy all the time. Even the people we associate with being happy all the time aren't!

Pav, good luck tonight at your party. Keep your plan in front of your mind. Our thoughts are with you dear.

Humble...haha about the hubby and egg on face!! And I feel as though I've gotten some of my humor back as well. Well, I'm kinda weird, and it feels so great being my weird self.

See ya girlies.:h

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c:And I really do work, I just post on my breaks!!!!!

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Congratulations on 40 days, Humble Rider! You sound very secure in this quit so keep on doin' what you're doin' :goodjob:! Isn't laughing 'for real' fun? And not to be too self-conscious to let yourself fully enjoy the people you're with is the best.

I KNOW I remember things better than my spouse does (even before I quit, frankly...) but I lost the courage to be to vehement about my side of the story just in case... I hated that questioning of myself - it made me so insecure about everything.

I actually work, too, j-vo but I have a work computer and a personal computer running so I can pop in now and then.

My book club read and discussed Drinking a Love Story a few years ago. I think it hit too close to home for many of us -- there was clearly discomfort in the room during the discussion.

Talk to y'all later.