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[Pavati]

Hi, All:

Ice cream for me, too, SL. We're having sundaes in Melbourne one day...

I am beat today - just about on the edge of sanity, but happy and able to let some of it go. I just signed up for the new Oprah and Deepak meditation series - it is called Manifesting Grace through Gratitude and starts July 13. Anyone interested in joining me? https://chopracentermeditation.com/

Have a great trip, Jane.

g'night all.

xo
Pav

[peppersnow]

Hi Pav - I heard about that too and just registered! I would love to learn to meditate. I've tried it several times, guided and on my own, and have had mixed results. One time I worked at blanking my mind so hard that I developed a headache while I was doing it and to stop (so I obviously did something wrong). I need to just start the habit, even for 5 minutes a day, which is a pledge I've made to myself 100 times. Maybe this time!

My joyfulness plan was a bust yesterday, so I'm giving it one more shot. Actually I think the meditation would help my morning attitude at work. Yesterday was more like partly cloudy with intermittent sunshine. I'm committed this morning, though. Happy Sober Friday to all!

[jane27]

Hi gang! Just finished reading an article in Psychology Today, Chatter Matters. Its about how positive or negative language can impact mood, health and outcome. Its a message I needed to hear. The fellas had session 3 with the shrink last night. A1 spent the greater portion of the appointment with the shrink, then hubs and shrink met alone for 10 mins, then all met together. Their homework assignment is to make an effort to spend time together engaged in an activity they'd each find enjoyable- hitting a bucket of golf balls for example. Hubs tells me that the 15 minute ride to and from the shrink alone is worth the appointment. A1 & he ride in one car together, and they have had nice conversations. I see possibility for their relationship that I never did before. I am so grateful that this doctor was in our path; finding a therapist that you click with is a luck thing- we got super lucky this time.

Pav, have you ever been back to see your therapist since stopping therapy? My 20 year long relationship with my psychologist ended on a sour note. I felt like she wouldn't let me go (stop having weekly appointments), and I boiled over when she sent me a bill for 3 or 4 appointments dating back more than a year that had somehow slipped through the cracks billing wise. I know I need to make peace with her & the relationship, but I think it will probably take place via letter, because I don't want to spend 175$ to try and get it done live in 45 minutes.

Gotta bust out our suitcases and start packing. We leave in the morning. I hope I'm able to carve out MWO time while we are away- at least to check in. Its important to me to maintain connection with you guys.

Wishing everyone a great day. xoxo

[scottish lass]

Have a good time away Jane and hoping that you find some peace and joy in it.
Pepper and Pav - I have been reading about others success with meditation on various threads, but I am not sure it is for me - my mind chatter is incessant and can't locate an off switch. I really need to get back to running and will make an effort to do this at the end of summer (with same program that worked for me last year). I cant do much more than breath, so that helps me to switch off a bit.
TGIF, even though I remain on call - should cool below 100 tomorrow so hopefully will get a walk in..
Love to all xx

[narilly]

Pav, Pepper, meditation sounds good and positive chatter sounds good. I need that right now. It is a bit tough with my hubby and I both unemployed. Not a good situation.

As soon as I go back to work I am going to sav to meet you ladies in Melbourne. We can eat ice cream there too. Ava, watch out, all us XAlkies are comin to town!

It is a beautiful day here +27 C and sunny. Awesome weather. I am sitting on the deck having a staycation. Wearing my hat and sundress and reading. AL is far from my mind and I am enjoying my fizzy drink.

[narilly]

Way to go on 19 months Ava! Your strength and determination have been amazing.

[Dottie Belle]

Evening all,
I guess I am in for the evening. Had a potential date with 2 different men but decided to just stay home. I have a favorite so far and was hoping to see him when the other fellow asked. This is just crazy and I am having fun....who would have thought there would be so many nice eligible men my age out there....and a few crazies too but so far so good.

[treetops]

Hi folks. Sorry this is about me. As you know I am far away from home on a holiday/work related stuff. Just heard that a close co-worker has suddenly died. He was young and a lovely person. I am on my way home tomorrow (as planned) but have to try to sort out some things related to this tragic death from afar. Only had a few hours sleep and feel shattered. Life is so precious and we must take care of one another, including those we work with.

[narilly]

Oh TT, that is awful. So sad. I'm sorry you have to deal with this now. Big hugs from me. Glad you are not drinking.
Xo

Goodnight everyone, it is a warm evening here (a rarity in these parts). I am sitting on my deck enjoying the weather. I have lights on the railing and it is beautiful.

[little beagle]

TT I am so sorry. You are right. A big reason I quit drinking was to enjoy life.
Narilly sounds beautiful.
Have fun Jane.

[Pavati]

Hi, All:

Jane - that's great to hear, I'm glad it is doing them well. I haven't gone back. I feel like I would maybe try someone new, even though my time with her helped. I wasn't sure I liked her style. We'll see, if I feel like I need to talk.

Yay, Pepper. Let's remind each other to log in when July 13 rolls around. SL - I have a chattery mind, too, but you CAN calm it with practice. Not cajoling, just stating. They give you lots of guidance on this one.

So sorry for your loss, TT. That is scary. I was kept awake last night with ruminations about mortality and death that I haven't had in a long time. My son is going away for the summer, and my dad (who is losing it mentally) is traveling, too.

Going to work on the positive chatter. Nar, I can imagine that situation would be stressful and tough. Positive thoughts toward jobs coming your way.

Dot - that seems like a nice problem to have...

I have to go to sleep now...Good Night everyone.

xo
Pav

[narilly]

Hi everyone, thanks for the good wishes re: the job. If all of you are sending good wishes to me I will get a job soon, I can just tell, it's going to happen. The Universe will align.

Well, it's Saturday and time to relax on my deck and read. Life is good.
OH and the best thing is that I am UN Hung!

[scottish lass]

Happily unhung here, managed my Saturday walk, even though work was unkind enough to keep me up thru the night!
TT - life is precious and I get reminded daily, but it sometimes takes something a bit closer to make us realize - so sorry about your co-worker.
Nar - hoping the universe aligns soon.
Hi everyone else - off to get some of the list of 'to do's' crossed off - strange how the list keeps growing.

[Pavati]

Hi, All:

Happy UN HUNG Saturday to you all. I LOVE that calm cup of coffee in the morning when I don't have to rush to work - and when I don't feel like I NEED it because I have had too much to drink.

Seeing friends for a BBQ tonight - one of them drinks a lot. I don't judge, but I think she is curious about my not drinking. We'll see.

Happy SOBER Saturday,

Pav

[little beagle]

I use to look at the other people who didn't drink at our social gatherings and wish that could be me. Well it is now. Last night was a bit bittersweet. I had yo clean the office by myself because hubby decided to get high. Then I went to my daughter's because I felt a bit weak. There were beers in the fridge at work. I thought about having one. Then of course I played it through. Realized tgat one wouldn't br enough. And I knew that the beers would be missed. Wondered how I would explain that. All of the nasty consequences. How I would feel when I woke up at 3AM with that nasty, regretful, anxious feeling. Yuck! My daughter was getting prettied up to go out on a date. Something we haven't been able tomafford to do because hubby's been spending tons of money on getting high. Well it goes on. Left my purse at my daughter's house. Was broke and out of gas because all my access to money was in the purse. Grrrr.
But guess what. This morning I woke up. And I was glad. Well some days will be off, but drinking will make ALL of them be off. No thank you ma'am. I'll take the off day here and there because I know tomorrow will be better.
Pepper I thought of you last night. With your coworker who didn't pass the drug test. My husband is responsible for his own sobriety. Bottom line. There is nothing I can say or do to MAKE him not get high. I see the regret his actions bring and I think there go I but for the grace of God. Finding the strength to help ourselves is hard. It has to become more painful to continue our addiction then to seek out help and do the work. And this is something we must all come to in our own time. I just pray my husband comes to it. And soon.
Sorry. This was all about me. But I needed a good purge of frustration. Just restating what I know helps. Thanks GLOAMers.