Ladies on a Mission: The Official Site

[NoSugar]

LB, you are an amazing woman and one of the least self-centered or self-pitying people I've ever met. I so hope for both of your sakes that Mr. B. soon realizes that it can't go on this way indefinitely. I wish we could just make people do this but you're right, it has to come from within the person. I'm glad you remembered that Loamers don't drink and left that beer right where it belonged in the refrigerator. Playing it forward is such a great tool!

I used to be so jealous of non-drinkers and am so happy to be back in that club!

Hi and good night to all my Loamer friends. I'm tired from a full day of talking and entertaining with more to come tomorrow. So grateful to be going to bed and know I'll wake up totally UNHUNG.

[mama bear]

This is a lovely group of people. I have been reading your posts for a few minutes and I enjoy how close you all seem to be.

[narilly]

Hello Mama Bear, nice to hear from you. Drop in anytime. Yes, we are a close knit bunch and have had a lot of success staying sober. Come back again.

Lil B, I agree with NS, you are one of the least self-centred, self pitying people I have met too. I am so glad you did not drink those beers last night and played it forward. That would have been awful to wake up filled with regret knowing that you drank. I think of that too when I have a weak moment, it is So helpful.

I am sitting on my deck, it is hot hot hot here today, 31C or 88F. It is awesome to have some really hot weather.
Hello to all my friends, I am glad we can be on this journey together.

[narilly]

Hey Lil B, I wish Mr B wasn't getting high all the time. I can't imagine how hard that is for you. It sucks to be caught up in an addiction and to watch someone you love self destruct. Take care of yourself Lil B, hopefully things will get better. Xo

[jane27]

Haven't read back yet as have a precious moment to write. Trying to be positive, but looking forward to this trip being a memory. Twas an ambitious undertaking. really uncomfortable. love to all

Hang in there LilB. I'm thinking of you, sending you strong thoughts and hoping you'll send some back my way. xoxo

10pm...2 days down, 4 days to go. I am a Loam, hear me roar!

[scottish lass]

LB - so sorry, I feel that this si a really tough situation, and it would be very hard not to say feck it all! Your husbands behavior must be so demoralizing, both getting high and the waste of your precious money. you are very brave and very strong, and I am delighted that you were able to wake this morning being proud of your accomplishment. The mornings are definitely the best to wake unhung, come back again this evening if it gets tough. Stay strong! It truly is worth it....:hug:
Hi MB. I nosy on the steppers thread too
so happy to be at ease again today - I do admit to having a feeling of waiting for the bubble to burst, but I am feeling differently about my not drinking and long may this last as it is truly freeing!
Have a wonderful Sunday everyone - off call tomorrow, but even working this weekend I am so happy!
Happy to be a LOAM!

[little beagle]

Happy unhung Monday. It's such a great feeling. I never get tired of it. I think I'll treasure this feeling the rest of my life. Worth every bit of struggle getting sober.
Jane I always send you strength. I think of you often.
Good to see you MB.
Thank you my Gloamers for listening to me and sending me your support and strength.
Playing it forward is honestly one of my strongest tools. Works every time I think of drinking. Ugh. I just don't want to go back.
Gotta run to work!. Really looking forward to this weekend. Freedom day. Hip hip hurray.

[NoSugar]

Glad to hear you're feeling good SL and LB! So am I other than the large pile of work that is waiting for me. I usually do some work over the weekend but skipped that this time so today I'll be paying the price...

Hope your vacation improves, Jane. It sounded like a wonderful get-away. If you're like me, you might be trying to orchestrate things so everyone has fun, gets along, etc. Well... it's not our job and we're not responsible for everyone's happiness. I hope you can relax a bit and enjoy (for yourself!) what is good.

I spent much of yesterday reading a book SL recommended, Being Mortal (Thanks, SL!). Several friends have read it and were really saddened/disturbed by it. I found that I've already thought about many of the issues that come up in the book over the last couple of years. Recovering from an addiction really does provide the opportunity to examine one's life and figure out what is important. I'm still not glad to have had the experience but I've had several conversations and experiences lately where what I've learned has helped me so much and enabled me to help others in a way I would not have been able to do before I faced and dealt with addiction. So, I guess that means that in a small way, I can be grateful for all that has happened.

Anyway, I'd encourage all of you to read the book. Have a good one, NS

[jane27]

NS, Bought the book...thanks for recommending it! Bil/ Sil & kids arrived yesterday evening, and this has been a nice climate changer. Love to all

[Eloise]

Question ladies: how does posting as a guest work here?
There are so many posts by guests I had never noticed ... And then guests use their names in the posts too? I dont get it?
We have that many visitors?

[NoSugar]

I don't think guests can post anymore, El. Are the ones labeled guest from sometime like 2008 or 9? I've seen old ones like that and it seemed like people often signed what I assume are their real names. I don't know how many guests we have anymore.

Glad your trip is improving, Jane. Hope you get a lot out of the book - I hesitate to say 'enjoy' :wink:.

Hey, Pav, I was thinking of you today - I hope you and your family are doing well :hug:.

[Pavati]

Hi, Gang:

LB - So sorry about Mr. B and your no good terrible evening. I have found that when I have to deal with a night like that I am SO GLAD I'm sober. I hope Mr. B continues to see you as a role model and eventually is able to get out of his addiction.

I'm a BIG Atul Gawande fan - I will definitely read that book. I love this article from the New Yorker: Slow Ideas - How do good ideas spread. I refer to it a lot in my work, but it can apply to sobriety, too. One on one coaching and connections!

Jane - Hang in there. Enjoy the scenery and beach. I hope you find lots of shells.

I am vacation tired today - having trouble motivating to do anything. A LAZY day for sure, although I did do some work this morning.

Hope you all are excellent.

xo
Pav

[scottish lass]

Evening all - well done LB! Happy sober Monday - if Mondays are to be good days, the only way is sober!
Monday is my usual work from home day, but had to go into the office today....
I am glad you liked the book NS - definitely food for thought, and so tied to the work I do...and such thought about our society...
Are you off now Pav?
Hot couple days coming - and I hate AC - we are lucky where we live as a delta breeze comes in in the evening which is natures AC - no delta breeze just now, so it will get HOT....
Hope all going good Jane.
3 day boozy weekend coming up, so happy to be sober, will enjoy it so much more.
I have just agreed to go out for dinner - with two old friends - they drink, but do not over drink, so the pleasant sort of drinking I wanted - this will be first time I have been out for dinner in a very long time (like years) but no running around to tutoring etc so going to give it a go...
Excellent here Pav - hope that you are too, and everyone else as well....

[NoSugar]

Great article, Pav! Thanks for the link. I had read the one he wrote about checklists but hadn't seen Slow Ideas - you're right, it can apply to many things. Enjoy the movie!

[little beagle]

It was a good day for me.
NS that book looks interesting.
Jane sounds like your vacation has picked up a bit.