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    Thanks NS, I try to respond to folk and points they make but sometimes we cant get on regularly and we get left behind. Then for me I am sometimes reading at times when you guys are asleep!
    I have never bothered with the Like or Thanks button - I dont even notice them. Its not intentional, its just not something I do here. Personally i think its a silly function to have.

    I am also hit and miss with like buttons on Facebook.

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      Hey NS - interesting thoughts. I rarely use the likes buttons. On fb it feels a bit like a popularity contest. I do wonder when I see people "liking" a post and not parting in that thread, gives me an inkling into who is reading :happy2: I have used like when I have been checking in, but not in a place where I can post and just acknowledging something - but I do feel MWO is very different to the old site, wonder if this is why....
      Pav uses "like" and it lets me know she is checking in - it makes me comfortable to know she is around. Jackie always likes and thanks for the Sunday shout outs and i notice that too...
      I am working hard on doing what is right for me, and not trying to fret so much about being a people pleaser - if something makes me smile, I like it - may not need to say anything - and that is kind of what I do on fb...a thank you for a bright spark in my day?
      I do like it when people take the time to be personal, but I am not good at that - and that has stopped me posting in the past - so now I just try to past daily, try to remember to acknowledge people and don't stress it when I cant...or that is my aim...
      “The only courage you will ever need is the courage to live the life you want"

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        It seems that the Like and Thank buttons can be enhancements if they're not used as a substitute. For me, they've become the latter. I didn't mean to try to write to everyone every time, SL. I'm not good at that, either. But I know I've gotten lazy about communicating via buttons.

        TT, it must be challenging sometimes to stay connected from the other side of the day from most of us. I'm glad you're willing to continue making the effort. Hope you're finding Saturday to be a good one :smile:.
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          TT i enjoy reading your posts from the other side of thecworld and other side of the seasons. Since I check in before bed it just seems a continuous flow.
          NS I am guilty of using the like button. I do need to try and respond more.
          Jane I found myself driving home from work today. I was multi tasking. Talking on the phone. And I realized I had absolutely no idea where I was. I mean I was miles out of my way. After turning around I finally got back on track. That was no fun. But it had to be the multi tasking. I hear stress makes our memories less reliable. So I'm not going to stress about my memory.
          Narilly I too miss your cheery posts. I know your going tgrough a rough time right now. You are often in my thoughts. You can contact me anytime you need a friend.
          SL I was thinking about you today. What a busy life you have. I'm glad you are here with us.
          Here I am stuck in the summer doldrums. Just getting through the days. I went outside this late afternoon and it felt like stepping into a hot, wet blanket. Hubby and I have decided to take the doggies to the beach here for vacation and not worry about traveling across country this summer.
          Have a good one GLOAMers.
          No matter how far you go or how fast you run, you can't get away from yourself. ....said at an AA meeting. It stuck with me.

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            Hi there Soft Focus. Welcome and join us.

            I dont know about us being cool kids but its certainly cool where I live. Around 1 degree celsius at the moment!

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              Hi gang,

              NS your post reminded me quality vs quantity and has me thinking about the like/thanks button issues. I think you make some great points. I use both of them frequently. Somewhere there's a stats button that'll show you top 5 for most likes and thanks given, as well as received. Last I saw I was right in there for giving thanks and likes. I like to use them for quickie props (thanks, if the post makes me feel gratitude- like, if I feel emotionally moved or want to let that person know that I took the time to read their post in a thoughtful way- like stopping by for a cup of tea- or to say "I was listening to what you said".

              I enjoy writing posts, but I'm not a speedy writer, I have add, and I make a lot of mistakes -mixing up analogies (yesterday I posted that I *felt* a bell go off) , going off on a tangent if I'm in a mood, getting too OCD about making sure what I write makes sense. If I could say what I thought easily without going through this obstacle course, I'd post a lot more often- but it really is a bit of a task for me. As it is, my polished jewels still tend to drift or be disproportionately moody compared with the norm.
              I have become comfortable wit the fact everyone doesn't always weigh in on my posts. (There was a time when I thought maybe I should take this as a polite message that I should look for another home thread).

              Most importantly I wanted to say that was happy to see your post and hope to see more. That Nar was feeling down was a surprise for me to hear. I know the job situation is stressful, but I didn't pick up on her being unusually down.

              Got a late start today, so have some errands to do. Wishing everyone a nice day & sending love & strength to all.
              AF since January 7, 2014 *Never, never, never give up. ~ Winston Churchill*

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                Hi, Soft Focus! It is nice to see you here. I read your gratitude posts on that thread - it seems like you really appreciate all you've gained. I sure think that is key. Are you in the Southern Hemisphere?? I've never really known where you are.

                Yeah, Jane, my Like finger is a quick one! The fact is, I do like many posts I read and I'm sure I'll continue to press that button. But - I hope to also take a moment and "talk" to the person, too. I think we all like to see Likes and Thanks for our posts registered (isn't that the part of Human Nature that sites like Facebook have really tapped into??) but I know it means a lot to me when someone actually responds. A person on MWO who has great posts and zillions of Likes and Thanks commented to me recently that it didn't seem like s/he was really reaching anyone. I'm pretty sure part of that is because nothing is more meaningful than direct conversations. Well, I should get off my soapbox on this issue. I just hope we all take some time to talk to one another and keep this thread (and MWO) an interactive, vibrant place where people can get the information and support they need to quit and stay that way.

                xx,NS

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                  Hi SF - the more teh merrier, hope you hang around.
                  LB - I am truly lucky that I have such an amazing job. I feel for you, it can't be fun clearing up after other people - I love the lady who comes around to help me keep on top of my mess - it is a joy when I get home every other Wed to clean floors, and bathrooms - one of the highlights of my month! I try to acknowledge her enough.
                  Long day and got lots of those hanging around jobs done (like a trip to the recycling (with all my fizzy water bottles:welldone) - nothing 'fun' today, but sense of accomplishment for which I am grateful!
                  Nar - miss you....check in....
                  Good MAE TT, Jane and NS...
                  “The only courage you will ever need is the courage to live the life you want"

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                    Hi, All:

                    I am glad to see you, NS, and glad you tracked her down, SL. I like when this thread is busy and we have good conversations. I do know that it comes and goes in ebbs and flows. We're in an ebb right now, for sure. Maybe some more will join us down here like...

                    SFx! Welcome. Glad you checked in here. Always room for one more, or more than one more.

                    I am doing the Oprah and Deepak gratitude meditation series (well, I've done two of them). I woke up to face a huge pile of laundry this morning and started getting grumpy about it. I said to myself - but... I AM grateful that we got to do all of the fun things that made these clothes so dirty. Getting irritated at laundry isn't going to make it go away.

                    I also found this great Pema Chodron quote (she's one of my faves) about dealing with "bad" feelings:

                    “…feelings like disappointment, embarrassment, irritation, resentment, anger, jealousy, and fear, instead of being bad news, are actually very clear moments that teach us where it is that we’re holding back. They teach us to perk up and lean in when we feel we’d rather collapse and back away. They’re like messengers that show us, with terrifying clarity, exactly where we’re stuck. This very moment is the perfect teacher, and, lucky for us, it’s with us wherever we are.”

                    And I am a "liker" for the fact that I really DO like posts, and because I can't possibly respond directly to everyone, I want to show my appreciation. But you're right, NS, I won't get lazy.

                    Hope everyone has as swell a Saturday as I did. Yes, a good hike, SL - it was a beautiful day here.

                    xo
                    Pav

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                      Hey hey everyone I am still here! I thank you for mentioning me so many times ❤️
                      I went to the Rocky Mountains yesterday and just got back my friends were staying there and invited me out. It is So beautiful there, just Un real. They were drinking wine last night and I just drank Perrier which was fine. I woke up Un Hung today at 7:45 am and sat outside and had a coffee in the sun. It was freezing but beautiful.

                      Hi Soft, nice to see you dropping in.

                      Sorry, I haven't been around as much. I am just busy I guess. It is hard work being Un employed! I have been spending a lot of time with my 80 year old mom and that is a blessing. Maybe I am unemployed for a reason, this is such a good opportunity to spend time with my momma.
                      Don't worry NS, we will keep this thread moving. We Need each other. Hey, where did Ava go anyway? Post here once in awhile missy!
                      Jane, you're MIL sounds a bit wacko for sure. Tell her to keep the furniture and just suck it up!
                      Pav, it is good to read your posts, you sound good.
                      Hi Lil B.
                      Good job SL, getting all that stuff done.
                      Keep warm TT.
                      Hello Pepper.

                      I will check in tomorrow. Looking forward to an Un Hung Sun
                      Narilly

                      "Nothing in this World Can take the place of Persistence"
                      "You can have the life you want OR you can Drink"

                      AF April 12, 2014

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                        Cross Post Pav? I 'like' your post
                        Goodnight sweetie pie.
                        Narilly

                        "Nothing in this World Can take the place of Persistence"
                        "You can have the life you want OR you can Drink"

                        AF April 12, 2014

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                          Hi everyone,

                          Feels a little weird for me to post on a thread other than the 100 Day Club; like being at the same party, at the same house, but in a different room with other people! I like the Ladies on a Mission title of this "room!"

                          Nice place you got here!
                          Steady
                          AF free since April 29, 2013

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                            welcome Steadfast - you will find we are a busy lot and dont always post everyday but we have a common mission and that is to stay AF and to support one another in the different ways we do this. Sometimes its really hard and some may waver a tiny bit or we have niggles but we have a very strong commitment here - we dont drink AL.

                            Nar - glad that you posted and I do hope you get a job soon. Its great that you can spend time with your Mum but long-term you will need a job. The reality is that unemployment is not fun for most people.

                            I had a bracing walk today and did the most exciting of tasks - grocery shopping. But we have to eat and we use toilet paper - and of course the cat needs his daily fix.
                            Hope you are all well and enjoying the weekend as it unfolds. Tonight is my 'Indian Summers' TV mini-series and then Devil's Playground. One is from the UK and the other is Australian - you probably won't get them on Netflix.

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                              Hi, Steady! Good to see you. Now you are in the S hemisphere, I know that :smile:. You definitely have been on a mission for the last couple years. I think of you often as I struggle to handle the emotions that arise with aging parents. You're a good role model. Thank you.

                              So you're in the UK SFx? Visiting that part of the world is on my Bucket List (now that I have one again).

                              Narilly, thanks for popping in and letting us know you're ok. xx

                              SL, we have to pay to recycle - how do your girls get paid for it??

                              I love that quote, Pav. I've been thinking about stuff like that lately -- when I feel hurt by someone else, I've been trying to explore why I'm reacting that way. My response undoubtedly says more about me than about the person (who maybe didn't even mean anything by what s/he did or didn't say).

                              I've been watching season 1 of True Detective. It is really well done but watching Matthew McConaheys's (sp??) character drink his way through interrogations is so sad. He conveys the pain and hopelessness almost too well (although drinking is far from his only problem!). I've watched some other shows you suggested, TT, and enjoyed them. I'll have to see if those 2 are available here.

                              I inadvertenly ate some gluten a couple of days ago and am paying the price now :sad:. It has been so long since I made that mistake, I'd forgotten how it feels. I'm glad avoiding alcohol is easier!

                              Have a good MAE, NS

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                                NS, I did not know you could not eat gluten. That is too bad you had some inadvertently, poor girl. I make this yummy bread called oopsie bread. I found it on pintrest. It is super easy to make and is gluten free. Ingredients are : psyllum husk, cream cheese, baking powder and eggs.

                                Good Un Hung Sun everyone. I was surprised to see everyone asking where I was. Lol. I thought I was here everyday...hmmm...I guess time flies when you are shopping, gardening, going to the mountains, swimming etc. I have been swimming because my back was hurting so bad from gardening. I think the swimming helps to strengthen my back. Anyway, my back is finally starting to feel better. That's IT! I probably wasn't posting because I was in So much pain last week and could hardly move. My neck and upper back just seized up. I went to acupuncture, did stretching, swimming, and took a lot of Robax for the pain. Now I am good. Whew!

                                Well, I have already cleaned up the house a bit and am going to go for a walk and finish reading my book. My kids have gone to a concert North of Vancouver. It is a huge concert in Pemberton, BC with about 20,000 people there and a big tent city. I am sure they are having fun and that there is a lot of drinking going on. I am just glad I am not doing that stuff anymore.

                                TT, you have the best suggestions for shows and NS, I watched the first season of True Detective, I liked it and with watch the second. Mathew McConaughey is not too hard to look at, his character is certainly flawed. You can see the pain behind the drinking. Everytime he drinks I just thank God I am not drinking.

                                Hi Steady!
                                Have a great day everyone.
                                Narilly

                                "Nothing in this World Can take the place of Persistence"
                                "You can have the life you want OR you can Drink"

                                AF April 12, 2014

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