Ladies on a Mission: The Official Site

[NoSugar]

That's wonderful that you got to take a beach vacation, LB. For a variety of reasons, we aren't going to the beach this year - we've gone most years since the early 90s so it's a little disappointing. I hope your weather is good and you enjoy your time off. Sounds like you had nice weekends, as well, TT and Pav.

I was with my SIL this weekend - a former drinking pal. While she had a glass of wine with dinner, she commented that she had been looking forward to it all week. That seemed odd as she has always had wine each evening but no one commented. Later I found out that she is on a diet that precludes daily drinking. It was so interesting - she always enjoyed her wine very much (first to open a bottle and last to be done) and not getting to have it was annoying to her but that's about it. And Friday night, she had her one small glass and seemed fine with it (and this is someone who I know can consume a lot!). It was good to observe and realize (yet again) that my response to alcohol (and to giving it up) were problems. An onlooker would have said she and I drank similarly and in many ways, we did. But apparently her drinking is by choice and mine was a compulsion.

[narilly]

NS, it's always amazes me when people drink 'normal'. I didn't realize how dysfunctional my drinking was. I knew though that I couldn't control it like other people.

Beach vacations sound awesome. I haven't been on one since I went to Cuba 3 years ago. It was amazing.

Yesterday I went to my cousins house and they were drinking wine. I had a brief moment of saying 'I'm just going to drink' and then I pushed the thought out of my mind. I did not dwell on the thoughts and just moved on. That works for me so far.

Have a good Sunday night everyone. TT, have a good Monday

[jane27]

Hi TT, NS, Pav, Nar & PetitB,
I'm hanging in sober. Have packed on 10 lbs since last year. Not too thrilled about it, but I had it coming. Looking forward to posting more tomorrow. Miss & love you guys. Anyone heard from SL?

[treetops]

Great to hear from you Jane. Sorry about the weight increase. Is it diet, exercise, medication, hormonal - or all of these? I am a great believer in not going for extremes in dieting but I know everyone's metabolism and habits are different.

Yes I have heard from SL. Haven't heard much though but she and the girls seem good.

[NoSugar]

I would agree with you about extremes, TT, except that our current diet (in the U.S. anyway) is so poor that radical change is needed if we're going to get our health and health care problems solved. Perhaps the situation is different in NZ.

Hey, Jane, I've been holding my breath all day waiting to hear from you :wink:!! It never even crossed my mind that you were out drinking- just wondered what was up with you and where you've been hiding.

Nar, the other night when I was cleaning up from guests, it crossed my mind to just drink the rest in the bottle and get it over with. Now where did that come from??? Like you, I just pushed that away.

If you're an Anne Lamott fan, this is a good one:

https://www.facebook.com/AnneLamott/posts/720031968126449

[Myluck]

Yes I still do yoga 5/6 times a week - it's great therapy and helps to cope with stress very effectively. I am still feeling very focused, balanced (inside-out) and happy as well as relaxed and enjoying the present moment.

[Myluck]

Ladies, I wanted to share this article with you "I don't drink don't judge" - I found it in August Cosmo - I normally don't read magazines like that but I was on vacation so I read It. It's pretty nice so here is the link: http://www.cosmopolitan.com/lifestyl...nk-dont-judge/
Special thanks to Pie for finding electronic version of it.

[NoSugar]

Thanks, MyLuck - good article! It is so great to hear how well you're doing! It sounds like you must have adjusted to the empty nest you were worried about. Does you daughter like her college?

[All done drinking]

Ladies, I wanted to share this article with you "I don't drink don't judge" - I found it in August Cosmo - I normally don't read magazines like that but I was on vacation so I read It. It's pretty nice so here is the link: http://www.cosmopolitan.com/lifestyl...nk-dont-judge/

Thank you for recommending this Myluck. It was an excellent article!

Addy (All Done Drinking...Yes!)

[Myluck]

Katiya loves her college -it's a wonderful place and she had a great first year. Not only being strong for herself, but also helped her BF through some issues in the beginning. She determined she will be in 5 year Master degree program. Very proud, but still when we said good buys this time it still hurt and tears come out. And I remind myself that I grew her up so she can become I dependnt.

[narilly]

Thanks My Luck, I will read that. My daughter loved her first year too which is great. Yoga sounds good. What a great thing to do to relax.

NS, that's for the Anne Lamont link, that was a good one. It's weird how that urge to drink come up so fast and then it's gone. We bothe did well

Have a great sober night everyone.

[jane27]

Hey, Jane, I've been holding my breath all day waiting to hear from you :wink:!! It never even crossed my mind that you were out drinking- just wondered what was up with you and where you've been hiding.

Thank you! The day whizzed by! Will touch base manana! Love to all xoxoxo

[narilly]

NS, that article was spot on. I used to judge non drinkers all the time. Why would I ever want to hang out with one? Boring! I love being one though, I love not having: blackouts, hangovers, puffy face, regrets, bruises I don't remember, drunk fights with my Hubby. And so on.
Love being Sober!

[little beagle]

Quick check in while I have data. Everything is ok. Hubby and I are talking and relacing.

[Pavati]

Hi, All:

Glad you and Mr. B are talking things out, Lil.

NS - That Anne Lamott article got to me - I ended up crying for a while. I'm not sure exactly why - but that "yes, me too" sentiment, I think. It goes back to my continued shame for "letting myself get like this," even though I know intellectually that I am not at fault. It makes me feel weak. That's why I like this community here - we all get to say YES, ME TOO! I'll check out the cosmo article tonight...

I hit a tired wall last night and can't seem to get over it. I have A LOT going on these days and nights and can't seem to find some down time. None coming this weekend, but maybe next?!

Good night!

Pav