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[little beagle]

Having a good weekend here NS. Yes we've checked out SoberRecovery before, but maybe this time it'll be a too we can use.
Narilly hope your evening with friends was fun. Not drinking is a great accomplishment. It feels so great to be proud of it.
We went to see another counselor this afternoon. I think we're going to go with this one. He is using a medical approach along with the counseling. I'm pretty happy with this one.
I'll talk more later.

[narilly]

I got through the evening with my old buddies and did not drink! I was pressured to drink champagne and wine. My buddy is a total party animal and is one of the most hilarious guys I know. I did not cave though and I drove home at 11pm (2hour drive) and woke up this am Un Hung! Boom baby!
This would have been SO difficult for me a year ago but this year it was smooth sailing. I just kept thinking of the big picture and did not even let myself contemplate having a drink. I don't drink and that's it. No questions asked.

LilB, I really hope this counsellor workers out. That would be so good.

By the way, I have a second interview tomorrow at the company I interviewed with on Wednesday. In this climate of layoffs, that is pretty good. 35,000 people have been laid off in our city this year so it's pretty ugly.

Any way, Un Hung Sun today. Have a good one.

[Pavati]

Hi, Gloamers--

I was out of town for work. Drinking didn't even come up for me. Phew.

Nar - that party sounds like fun. I still get a little anxiety when I face situations like that, but inevitably end up having a great time. It takes me a little extra effort to put myself out there and connect at parties, but once I do, I am fine. Good luck with that second interview.

NS - Saying NO is so freeing. I know that trip would be fun, but I also know that down time is important to you. That was the hard part for me - learning how to say no to events that would be fun. But I just have to sometimes.

Jane - Glad Red has you. I want a dog but don't have one because of all you mention. We are not home nearly enough to be able to take care of a dog who needs walking, company, etc. All of my short quits were never quits. I would "take some time off" and at the time they were proof to me that I was ok and didn't need to quit for good. Even the year I finally quit, I had several longer alcohol-free stints. But really, they just seemed to make it worse. Thank GOODNESS that is all over.

LB - You are so patient and kind to Mr. B. I am glad he has you in his life.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY, TT. I know that you'll be sad to see your daughter go, but on the other hand, all of your parenting has been to help raise a capable, productive, happy adult. Her success away from you will prove that you've done your job.

G - thanks for the swing by.

Pauly - I see your like up there. What's happening?

Happy Sober Sunday,

xo
Pav

[treetops]

good morning everyone as its Monday here. Back from our short break for my birthday and it went very well. Thanks for the wishes Pav. Just the 3 of us. We went out to dinner that was expensive and OK but the best part was a long walk the next day through a beautiful gorge. My daughter went bungy jumping - her first and she loved it. I have never done this. Then lunch in a vineyard restaurant - outside in the sun - where a fly landed in her soup! rather than go wine tasting we went cheese tasting and I have to confess I have eaten a lot of chocolate (as well as cheese). On the walk back to our cottage (this time thorough several vineyards but no grapes to steal as its spring here) a lovely dog followed us for kilometers and I nearly thought we were going to be joining Jane in the dog-adoptive ranks. Jane, I had to google pee-pads- definitely not something that is common here.

Yes NS sometimes we have to say No - its important to not overload ourselves sometimes. And making any decision sober has to be better.

Nar- I dont envy a 2 hour drive at that time of the night though. How did the job interview go?
LilB - I hope the other counsellor is more suitable. Gosh it sounds like such a tough situation.

Pauly - if you are reading- I hope you are OK now and well done on chucking the cans.

Hi there Mr G. Sunny here today.

Better dash and get ready for work as its going to be another one where I surely earn my income!

[little beagle]

It's great to see our thread picking up a bit.
A long, busy day here. But it was wonderful. Nice and cool all day, a lovely walk this evening.
Looking forward to unhung Monday.
I'm happy for you Narilly. That sounds like a nice time.
Your birthday celebration sounds lovely too TT. I'm glad you had this time together. Vineyards sound beautiful in the spring and cheese tasting would b a treat. Chocolate too.
Yes Pav. Thank goodness.

[narilly]

Good morning, Un Hung Mon here.

TT,my our vacation sounds really nice. I love the chocolate part, it's one of my favourite foods. Have a great day.

It is raining here and cool all week.hopefully we have some warm days left.

My 2nd interview is at 11am and I am crossing my fingers. A few years ago I would have celebrated all weekend because I got a second interview and I would be hung over today. I would have slept in and would be all puffy with tired eyes. Now I feel great and my mind is sharp. I can't believe how much better I function without drinking. Oh yeah!!

Kick butt today everyone.

[treetops]

Quick hello there and good luck with the interview Nar. You will create a much better impression sober. Just another working day here but its warm and sunny. Really pleasant.
Have a good day and night all!

[little beagle]

Hope that interview went well today Nar.
I'm feeling hopeful. For both of us.

[narilly]

Thanks for the good wishes. My interview has been moved to tomorrow. I will be Un Hung tomorrow so no problem. I will keep you posted.

Have a great night.

[treetops]

More toes and fingers crossed for you Nar.

[little beagle]

To any lurkers, welcome. To all Gloamers, hello.

[NoSugar]

Hi, LB :hug:.
Hope tomorrow's interview actually .happens and goes really well, Nar!

[narilly]

Thanks everyone. I won't find out until Friday. Geez! It is so hard to wait.

I am super sleepy so I will ttyl.

[Pavati]

Hi, All:

Fingers crossed, Nar.

I agree, LB - lurkers welcome. Join us for the mission to stay sober.

I have taken on a huge project in my work life. I really am not quite sure how it will fit in with my life. I guess I'm going to have to make it fit. For the past two weeks it is my regular exercise that has gone away, and we all know that all work and no play makes Pav a dull girl. I WILL get back out there - yoga class tomorrow after work for starters.

Ok, now my toes are crossed, too, Nar. Good thing you don't drink.

xo
Pav

[jane27]

Hi there folks. Well its my last night of being 59. My workmates put on a lovely morning tea for me - and it was quite touching. I was given some lovely gifts too including some special ones.

TT, Happy birthday! Sounds like it was nice on all counts. Your post brought back some happy memories for me- from when I was still working, and my co-workers would do thoughtful things for me on my birthday. It really made me feel special.

Hi, All:
I have taken on a huge project in my work life. I really am not quite sure how it will fit in with my life. I guess I'm going to have to make it fit. For the past two weeks it is my regular exercise that has gone away, and we all know that all work and no play makes Pav a dull girl. I WILL get back out there - yoga class tomorrow after work for starters.

Pav, Been tied up with the puppy so had some back reading to do this morning. Your post regarding the new work project jumped out for me because the last time I checked in I recall that you were feeling overwhelmed and were wanting to dial things down a bit. I am sure you know what you are doing but just thought I would mention noticing this conflict. Maybe you need to stop, take it all in, and come up with a plan that gives you a framework to manage the stress and ensure soul time. It sounds like you are going to be busy- at least if you design a structured schedule to operate within (yoga on these days, meditate on these days from x to x) you wont have to spend time thinking about it / there will be less opportunity for life to build up more speed than you can handle. And let's not forget the dreaded holidays that are around the corner. We all need to set aside some extra strength and energy to deal with those. Would like to hear your thoughts.

My trip to the coast with my daughter was good. She is a good kid and I know she will do well. She is living in a house with 4 other girls though...I can't imagine the drama that is going to go on there. Hopefully there isnt too much partying. I drank a ton when I was in University. Not too proud of that.

I had a job interview this morning. It went well and hopefully they hire me. It would be so good if they did. My hubby still hasn't heard about his job. It wont start till October if he gets it, I hope they let him know soon. Not having enough money really sucks!

Nar, if not for comments that hint at age, I'd guess you were anywhere between 26 and 40- its the freshness of your attitude. Your demeanor is the opposite of jaded. Its nice just to be around you. Fingers crossed for you re the job! Also, thank you for the link to the low carb website. I like it! I'm on day 3 of a cleanse right now. My carb intake had become exactly like drinking. Automated & desperate. Hoping the cleanse will serve as a hard reset!

I was really hoping for a more medical approach. But he's going to get a prescription for antidepressants from his doctor and go back next week. We will see. I'm going go keep looking for a different approach. As long as he's doing something. And we can try more then one counselor. Until we find the right one.

Lil, did he get a scrip?

I hope you do start trusting yourself and feeling secure in your quit. It really doesn't need to be a stressful part of your life anymore. We don't drink. There's really nothing to debate or worry about.

NS, what a concept, right? Red has made me see some of the ways my OCD tendencies (bean counting) are hurting me. I cant turn over every stone, and every stone doesn't need to be turned over. As I was walking him the other day it occurred to me that I should ask myself, 'what if I didn't have to account for everything (every piece of mail, every piece of clothing, flipping through every catalogue, worrying about every possibility)? ' 'what if I lifted the obligation to worry about every worst possible outcome?' What's the worst thing that could happen? Just asking the question is about as far as I can go (the question launches me into OCD analysis of the answer). I would so love not to always worry about everything. I need to learn how to cultivate faith in my natural impulses- that I will remember the REAALLY important things (without trying to account for everything all the time).

Have a gr8 time Narilly! Glad to be not drinking here too. Sober is very very cool. Warm regards to Red, Jane. Take care everyone and have a beaut weekend. G

Hi G! Always nice to see you!

Had to give up my graphics hobby. (Creating personalized graphics to post for newbies roll callers when they hit a milestone). I'm OK with that. I realize that finding time to actively engage on MWO is more important to my sobriety so I am going to tend to that first. Red awesome. I have to stop baby talking him to death. He needs to know I'm in charge. Right now, he thinks I'm a big, fat push over. He lies down in the middle of walks "I protest-eth" style. I was told to carry treats with me to get him up and moving but he doesn't seem to like hard treats so I have to carry cold cuts with me. Cant shake the smell of bologna.

Here's my boy! Up 5lbs since we first got him ☺
Wishing everyone a nice day. xoxoxo