Ladies on a Mission: The Official Site

[little beagle]

Checking in. It's pretty slow here.

[NoSugar]

It's kind of slow all over, LB. Maybe on this thread, many of us feel like "Mission Accomplished". I do, in a way, but I'm reluctant to be giving up what I know got me to this point. I know I tend to view the past through rose-colored glasses and have to work hard to remember what my life was like for several tough years. Hanging out with all of you helps me keep it in mind because our common problem is what brought us together in the first place.

I'm so glad to hear that Mr. B. has a positive attitude about counseling and kicking his addiction. As we all found out, drinking is 99% a thinking problem once you get past the initial shock to your whole system. I hope NOW is his time!

[narilly]

It is easy to forget how difficult it was to get sober and how easy it would be to start drinking again. They say the biggest success rate is with people who have a support group to whom they are accountable to. I think it is important not to forget how integral accountability is towards staying sober. Accountability is key. Keep coming back!

Goodnight everyone.

[Pavati]

Hi, All:

I am not posting as much these days because I am very busy with a fun and exciting project at work. I really have very little time.

BUT...

I agree that EVERYTHING I have read says a sober community is key - and you all are that to me. Anytime anyone wants a waffle, we're here to listen to each other.

I'm leaving town for the weekend starting tomorrow and will not have much time or space to read and write. Might try to check in with my phone. If you don't hear from me, I'll be back Monday. Hope you all have wonderful weekends.

xo
Pav

[treetops]

I did write a long post the other day but feel like its just rabbiting on - so I often dont write long posts as much as I used to. I see that there are a lot of people saying they are leaving the Meds threads - which is a great pity. Its a different route some there have taken but I like to be supportive and we have different paths and ways we approach our problems with AL. I think folk there felt that the meds threads have been derailed by one person.
In general MWO seems very slow. Since I dont keep up with the newbies I dont know if there are new people coming on board or not. But I need an on-line support group and I like to see how folk are. When I can that is.
I have had a huge decision to ponder lately and its been upsetting and preoccupying me. Every time I think I have made a fixed decision I get people pulling me the other way. Its nothing awful or personal - but its been eating away. Its to to do with my career and future options.
Hope you have a good weekend Pav and everyone else.

[Guitarista]

I have had a huge decision to ponder lately and its been upsetting and preoccupying me. Every time I think I have made a fixed decision I get people pulling me the other way. Its nothing awful or personal - but its been eating away. Its to to do with my career and future options.
Hope you have a good weekend Pav and everyone else.

TT. If I've told you once, I've told you a thousand times, take the Ski instructor
job. It's only 2 arvo's a week at $900.00 a day, with all expenses paid flights and accom to the Bahamas in the off season.

[treetops]

How did you know I was offered that job? They offered it even though I can't ski. I did try ski-ing once but got concussion - on my first run. Anyway I have turned it down and will keep to supervising the people who watch paint dry. I help to hold them up!

[STEADFAST]

Hey, a quick ditto from me. This community is very important to me, despite my infrequent posts. "See" you this weekend. Love, Steady

[treetops]

Morning all - and hi there Steady.
Still early where you are Mr G. but have a great day. Your humor yesterday was just what I needed.

How are all the other Gloamers? Any more appointments for hubby this week Lil B?

NS - I hear you on the Mission accomplished but I dont want to ever stop being self aware about my vulnerabilities on the AL front. And if I can sometimes offer a smidgen of support to another person weaning away from addiction, then I will try.

[narilly]

TT, I agree with G, yes go for the ski job

Hello Steady.

Hey, I am just checking in. I am starting my new job tomorrow and am super excited. Thank goodness I found a job. So many people have lost their jobs here. They are saying around 35,000 people. So for me to get one in this climate is Amazing.

Goodnight Gloamers. I am looking forward to starting my job Un Hung tomorrow.

[treetops]

Hey - another poster! Lets hope we get some more life this week.
Nar - good luck withe the job and its bound to go well.
The snow melted - so I returned to my original job! Nice try Mr G.
Hope all who usually post here are doing well.

[little beagle]

Well I suppose I could say mission accomplished, but I still hear that naggy voice, listening to what people here have to say drowns it out. I was busily reading the meds section. Sorry for my absence. Funny how people just want to justify drinking while being on a site to quit. Just my take on it.
TT i really hope you come to a decision. I hate being pulled like that.
Narilly I hope you had a fabulous first day.
I know a lot of people are feeling a bit of discontent lately. I know that's probably why things are so slow. But I am happy to have MWO.
Steady great to see you.
Mr G. Hang in there.
Have a great one.

[Pavati]

Hi, All:

Wow - it was slow around here this weekend. I didn't even have to read back very far.

I had a wonderful time away and now have to run like mad to catch up on life that seemed to keep happening even though I was not here.

I hope all is well with everyone. Good to see you pop in, G and Steady.

I'll waffle more this weekend.

Nar - Let us know how day 1 at your job goes. Good luck.

xo
Pav

[treetops]

WElcome back Pav. Yes it has been very quiet here.
Lil B - just spit it out when you hear the naggy voice. Its in the background with varying degrees for most of us. You have chosen not to drink and thats what works for you. Its also what most people on this Site choose but I think we have to respect that the Site it is called My Way Out. There are different routes to how we deal with our AL addiction and for some it is through meds and for some it is not going to be abstinence no matter what.
Or others have stops and starts, relapses, whatever. I think the special nature of MWO has been that folk can post about this and not feel isolated. Recall SL and her 'experiment'. I personally feel that some people on MWO are too strident in a one size fits all approach and stand on a soapbox - reciting the same mantras.
This is not going to help many vulnerable people and especially some of the newbies. There is a newbies nest and it takes a definite approach - well and good, but there should be space on MWO for slightly different ways out.
i spent years trying to moderate, quit, manage my drinking -and I heard many different kinds of advice. Ultimately I had to believe in what I would do and buy into my own goal of quitting. But all the ranting, all the slogans - well meaning people offered - washed over me. And some advice was downright dangerous (don't take anti-depressants ) or just stupid (like quit my job, my profession and throw my career in the ditch).
On the other hand I needed support in those years when I was stopping and starting - and when I decided to quit - I needed even more support. I found that on MWO, from my family to some extent, and from my GP.
Sorry I am not very articulate - brain is over-tired. But I can understand, I think, why people may not choose the route I have taken - and yet, they are trying to find a release from AL addiction. Its sad I think that some people dont feel like they can post because certain voices will continually drown them out.
Lets not let that happen on this thread!

[narilly]

Good post TT. I like what you said and totally agree with you.

I am So tired right now. 2 days of work and not enough sleep. I am going to bed early tonight so I am in tip top shape for work tomorrow. This job is really good. I have lots to learn sinc they use different systems and all that but I think it is a great place to work.
So glad I am not drinking.

Keep coming back everyone!