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[little beagle]

TT I agree with you totally. I've been wondering lately if I'm perhaps a little over zealous. I just enjoy my life so much more sober that I want to share how wonderful the experience is. That's what I like about MWO. one size does not fit all.
I'm going through a bit of a difficult time. Since hubby's counseling, he has totally gone bonkers. High almo every nght. Lying, acting like a total ass when he's not high. I am afraid. I can't live with someone like this. I told him he has to l eave Friday when he gets paid. I would just leave now, but with 4 dependants? Where would we go? And not wear out our welcome REAL Fast.

[NoSugar]

I'm sorry things are so tough for you right now, LB :hug:. No matter what, please make sure you are safe. xx

[Samstone]

What happening Ladies?? Cruising the freds and hadn't barged in here for a long time. TT, saw your post over in the med fred. That's a place of some strangeness. Very unlikely for someone who may actually need some advice or help to find it there, as you pointed out.

LB, the best part of being sober is that you are! Being is in a very real way, sharing.

Barging out, hope you all have a lovely evening
Sam

[Guitarista]

Yo Gloamers!

Another barger in erer here.

LB wishing you peace and strength and a positive outcome for you all. Geez, sounds like tough going for you at the moment. Hang in there friend.

Narilly, hope your first week's going well.

Yep, we all must find our own way out. I have to say though, once you've experienced the joy and happiness that sobriety/ natural highs can bring, I note that it's a very different level of existence to even having a couple of drinks a week. And I don't judge either choice.

Waves to everyone. L8tr g8trs.

[Pavati]

Hi, All:

LB, I am SO sorry Mr. B is doing that. I would let you and your four dependents sleep on my couch if you were near. I hope you are taking care of yourself and getting support from your local friends and family.

Sam and G - thanks for popping in. Good to hear from both of you. You, too, NS.

Up to my ears in work as usual. Trying to keep my balance, Jane, and I squeezed in a quick hike this evening as well as dinner with my family.

Off to bed now. Hope your week is going well, Nar.

xo
Pav

[treetops]

Hi there everyone. Great to see you Sam. Don't be a stranger. As I have said while we have been able to find our peace with sobriety I would never badger those who are doing this differently and using meds (Baclofen). Those folk Need to have the space to talk it out (including when they keep drinking) and not feel dominated and lectured to by he who shall not be named.
Back here I am very worried for you Lil B and I can sense that you are in a horrible situation. maybe you have to kick hubby out but let's hope that it does not come to this. But you have to protect yourself and the others. We can't advise much about him but we are here if it gets too much for you. You are one strong lady and I hear that there is not going back to AL for you. But it will be really tempting I am sure.

On a far less serious level I have had to work through crap with someone today and know I don't have the escape route of the wine bottle to go to at night. Afterwards I felt a lot of anger, then tears and then calm. I'm OK and I have zero cravings but it's just me and I realised my old partner AL has gone. It's a bit lonely at times with My old buddy gone for good but it passes and I have my family and one or two friends. Often for me just getting some food inside calms me down as well because when I am emotional I forget to eat.

You get lots of sleep Nar. I imagine restarting work is exhausting. It will get easier.

[treetops]

How's things today Lil B? Thinking of you.
Hope everyone else is good.

[little beagle]

I'm hanging in there. No it's not even tempting to drink right now. Watching first hand how devestating addiction is, well I'm glad I can prove that sobriety is possible. As Sam said, just being.
Thanks to everyone here I have a "safe place" when it gets to be too tough.
In other news our air conditioning went out last night. It was a balmy 95F in my house today. It'll be out for about a week, maybe a bit longer. But we are going to have a spell of cooler weather. Maybe starting tomorrow. We can live without central heat down here, but mess with the air conditioning.....

[narilly]

Lil B, I'm thinking about you. I wish I could help somehow. Please stay safe and make sure you put yourself first (if possible).

Hi Sam and G, it's so nice to hear from you.

Thanks for all the good wishes everyone, it means a lot.

I was driving to work this morning and was thinking about all the times I drove with a hangover in the morning and how much it sucked. I am so glad to be in bed early and to be sober. Oh yeah!
Goodnight.

[jane27]

Hi Nar, LilB, TT, G, Pav and all Gloamers
Nar, I hope your 1st week at the new job has been going smoothly. Lil,I'll try you tomorrow. Hang in there.
Love to all

[Pavati]

Hi, Gloamers:

Nar - Driving? Can you still walk to work?

Sorry about your air, Lil. I lived in Washington, DC for a summer without air conditioning. It was brutal. Fans were my friend. Hope it gets fixed soon.

I am bone tired today. I can't wait to get my jammies on and get to bed - and it is only 5:30! Well, I guess I can make it through dinner.

Good night, all.
Pav

[narilly]

No more walking to work. This new job requires me to drive...8 minutes. Pretty quick but far enough that I have to drive. Transit is an option but I have to take 2 buses to get there and it takes 40 mins so I prefer to drive. I love driving my car to work though, it is a nice change. I do go for a quick 20 minute walk before I drive to work just to get things going.

I am really tired too Pav. It is amazing how tired work makes us. It was fun spending the summer on my deck but it was stressful too.

I think I will do really well at this job. People there are pretty relaxed and it isn't as crazy stressful as my last job. I can see my Sober self going places here. Thank goodness I quit drinking. I can actually perform my best and not worry about being hungover. That was so gross. My career has done so much better without AL.

Stay sober peeps. I quit drinking after 38 years...if I did it so can you. Like I say- you can have the life you want Or you can drink.

[little beagle]

I like that Narilly. You can have the life you want or you can drink.
Cooler here today. Yay!!!! Yes fans are my friend. I'm running about 7 of them.

[treetops]

Hi there everyone and glad to see that you are surviving both the humidity and the hubby situation Lil B.
I am very tired - didn't get enough sleep but trying to stay awake soI dont get into a stupid sleep cycle. When I used to ingest AL this would be a time when I turned to the instant pick me up it would bring. Not an option now.
Strangely my career did go well when I was drinking. Thats not a recommendation- its just a statement. But it was a balancing act because I had to keep up the front - i.e. perform well and not let hangovers interfere with my work. I managed but it was psychologically and physically so exhausting.
So even when drinking I could plough through a huge amount of work and do a good job. Its a quieter and more steady pace now. And if I feel yuk or tired I can advertise the fact because I have nothing to feel ashamed about.

[NoSugar]

You sound really positive about your new job, Nar. I hope it turns out to be as rewarding as it appears to be. I admire your discipline in walking before you drive. I am having trouble making exercise a priority right now and I know I feel better mentally and physically when I do it.

LB, you mentioned today was the day Mr. B. might be moving out. If that needs to happen, I hope it isn't too awful and that you both end up where you need to be and safe. Maybe this can be the 'final straw' that leads him out of addiction. I will be thinking of you :hug:.

Sounds like the new part of your job is kind of wearing you out, Pav. I hope the benefits are worth the costs and that this intense part won't last too long (and that you're doing better than I am in the exercise department - I know that's your sobriety touchstone).

Hey, Jane, how's Red doing? Has he settled in to the household? My poor dog wishes I'd get back to walking her everyday. She acts out by nabbing things like cloth napkins and coasters and walking around growling at us, acting super-tough, trying to get us to chase her and get back the prize. It was really cute when she was a puppy and now looks kind of funny for a grey-faced 8 year old!

And if I feel yuk or tired I can advertise the fact because I have nothing to feel ashamed about.

You got it, TT. In some ways this is the key for me. I was exhausting myself in an attempt to appear absolutely fine on all levels. I never mentioned being tired or having a headache, I never admitted when I was feeling a negative emotion (unless, having suppressed everything, I had a total meltdown), and I over-exercised and under-ate so that I looked like what the world defines as "healthy". I acted like I had everything under control and now realize that was because in truth, I felt so out of control due to addiction. It is so great to be able to say that I feel like sh*t and am going to bed (even if it is 5:30, Pav!!).

Please come back when you can, Sam and Mr. G - We are GLoamers, you know. I miss our other friends, too, but I know a couple of them feel like MWO is actually detrimental to their sobriety at this point. I'm sorry they feel that way but like the name says, we need to all find our own ways out and what we need can change as we grow into our new and better selves.

Have a great weekend- xx, NS