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[narilly]

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Mein,
Welcome!!! keep posting. I will chat later this afternoon- oh I have so much advice for you!...kidding

You have gone through alot, we will help you and you will help us. We are a bunch of really supportive women. J-Vo has some great points above.
It sounds like you are ready to really quit which is great. Time to be gratfeul not to drink AL.

I have to go so I will post later.
Hugs,

[available]

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Hey loamers

Aca send that cool please. I was up at 3am with my 10 year old dog, she is not coping at all and then again at 5ish giving her a bath to cool her down. God i hate the heat and i dont have fur! My eyes are hanging out of my head and i have a really busy day at work.

NS i might make that a plan this weekend to read back and see how we have all progressed, everyday is different. You getting to one year is taking forever for me atm, i am waiting so patiently for that one!

Jvo, when i first started on here i was nervous about my birthday as i did not know how i would cope with al and i thought i would give myself till April to not drink then maybe have a few. What was i thinking! I was not accepting that i could never drink that was what i was thinking but now i dont want to drink for my 50th, i actually want to make the big speech about me not drinking and how good my life is now. Every person knows i was a drinker, a constant drinker, always a buddy to drink with but not anymore. I plan on staying awake till the 21st so i can congratulate you big time on your 100 days and if i win lotto i will fly you over to celebrate the day with me.

4 days is better than no days and we know what we used to drink like so every sober day is a bonus to us! I started with NS and Dot and they are now 130+ days, that could have been me but as i said on NN it was not my time, now it is.

Nar you have lots of great advice girl, i love your posts.

Well so much for the short and sweet message this morning. At work and having a coffee and thinking of getting into the groove so to speak.

be good and take care

[scottish lass]

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Quick check in again...sitting in my office, no time for anything - but have to check in! Was feeling overwhelmed as we drew a year to a close, now overwhelmed as we start the next one up...feel like I am trying to get off a merry go round...when can I retire?? Won't be forever as I have two kids determined to go to college - and as for lotto Ava - great idea, but I have to start to play

[j-vo]

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Nar, I love your posts, dear. You always leave me with a good reflection, a giggle, and always a smile.

Ava, Wow! Hurry up and win, love! I would love to party "Clean" with you for your 50th! It is your time now. You sound so great and in a good place, minus the heat! I hope your doggie feels better. Could you get a room air conditioner? Then the family can all pile into one room and have some great quality time!

Hi SL! I hope your merry go round slows down a bit and you can hop off to hang out a bit. Oh, retirement? Hehehe! I think about that, then laugh again. I'm shooting for 11 years. And I hope the last 11 years are better than the first 22 while I dragged myself to work hungover, used too many sick days, and didn't have the patience I wish I'd had.

Have a lovely evening all!

[MossRose]

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Hi all. I can see that I am very far behind on posts. NoSugar told me this was a great place to be. Can I join in?

[NoSugar]

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Glad you found us, Moss! I know you are determined to get AL out of your life forever so I think you'll like what is going on here. We're all trying to figure out what we each need to do to gain and maintain an AF life and how we can help one another get the job done.

[scottish lass]

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J-vo, think i have about 14 years....maybe we can plan a get together then??
Well now, running around after my teenagers and found my mind had made two good plans to stop off and pick up wine - think it was HALT stepping in - so am fed, sitting down, checking in with you guys and chosing to be happy!! Amazing how easily that can creep up....

[NoSugar]

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Great job recognizing what was going on and doing what you needed to do, SL!
I'm glad you're happy :h.

[Pavati]

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Hi, Everyone:

Welcome Moss and Mein - this is a great place to get sober!

Warning: Self-Indulgent Whiny Post (I swear I'm not always like this, MR and Mein).

Today I had a great day but tonight I am feeling just tired of it all. I don't want to drink (although I have been eating like a heifer), and I love coming here and chatting with you all, but I am just feeling tired of all of the focus on getting, being and staying sober. I know that to stay sober I DO have to focus on it, so the parent in me is saying to the brat in me, "too bad, so sad." (I actually don't think I've said that to my kids, but you get the gist.) There are just some things in life that are not a laugh a minute that we have to do in order to make our lives good. For me, getting, being and staying sober is one of those things. For you teachers, I get the same feeling when facing a stack of papers, or several loads of laundry. I just get tired of doing it ALL the time.

I understand from the old timers around here that the focus isn't always on not drinking, and I have seen some great changes in my short time here in that regard. I just am feeling whiny and irritated.

OK - complaint over. Focus on gratitude.

I am honestly and truly GRATEFUL for being sober, and this focus has gotten me to where I am - the end of day 45. I am grateful that I sleep better, feel better and look better than I have in a loongg time. I am grateful to be present in the evening lives of my family, and to not spend at least one weekend day hungover and full of regret.

So there, bad mood. Take that.

SL - great on recognizing your HALT signs and getting home to eat and check in.

I want to head to Oz to celebrate Ava's 50th - whose in?? OK, not me, but I'm sure it will be a fun party.

My big event that I will have to face sober is a big family reunion in June. I mean BIG family, and a big family of drinkers. When I first logged on in October I was thinking that I would be sober until then and then would have a couple beers. Since the Thanksgiving Massacre I have seen the light and I know that's not possible. This is one of those things that when I get going on my therapist says "don't get too far ahead of yourself." Yep. One day at a time. I will be a lot more time in by then, and who knows what it will feel like. I'm hoping I'll still feel great and committed.

I am now officially rambling, and this one is all over the map. Take care lovely ladies (and G when you stop by). Happy sober humpday (I guess Thurs. for you, Ava.)

xo

[NoSugar]

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Pavati;1613666 wrote:

Today I had a great day but tonight I am feeling just tired of it all. I don't want to drink (although I have been eating like a heifer), and I love coming here and chatting with you all, but I am just feeling tired of all of the focus on getting, being and staying sober.
OK - complaint over. Focus on gratitude.

xo

Hey, Pav

I felt just like you describe here and not to be a downer, but it took awhile for me to get past it (but I did and you will ). The thing is, even with the large amount of time and energy it seems to take not to drink, at least for me, that was nothing compared to the time, energy, money, and self-image I sacrificed in order to drink.

xx-NS

[narilly]

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Gals I am just checking in to say hi.
I'm pooped.
But I am AL free. Love that.

I will post tomorrow.
Hugs.

[HumbleRider]

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Hi loamers, welcome Mein and Moss, you're in a great space here to stay sober. Just checking in like Nar. I'm pooped too after a long day. But AF and looking forward to waking up without a hangover! NS, loved your post about no sugar and need to really buckle down and stop the sweets. Will check in longer tomorrow. Stay safe and AF all.

[scottish lass]

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Pav - so true! I am a bit tired of fighting this! When I realized that I was planning to drink tonight without really thinking about it I was taken aback - it does seem a bit like painting the Golden Gate Bridge - keeps on going, just when I feel I may be winning something proves I am not. I know I have been so disillusioned with focusing on not drinking, that I have backed off MWO before. I do hope NS is right and that this too will pass!
HR and Nar - pooped too! Or as they say back home - totally knackered! Hope we all get recuperating sleep tonight!

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SL i have to start playing too and maybe now i am not drinking i can play it. Funny how our al thoughts surface as i opened the fridge before i went to work this morning and seen a beer and thought i will put one of those in my bag for the drive home after work. I dont even drink beer!

Moss hello there, NS is a very wise woman and you are more than welcome here. I am going to reread the posts here this weekend.

Jvo that thought of quality time is not doing it for me. Atm i dont even think any of us has the energy to talk it is so farking hot. Now they say it is going to be the same temp (44) tomorrow with no breeze. My puppy nearly had a seizure today but my boys (bless them) gave her her pills and put her in a cold bath. Not sure how she will go tomorrow but she is the cleanest dog atm.

Pav i can sooooo relate to how you feel about focusing on being sober and "what now, tomorrow, next week, next month, next year" and like you i know i still have to focus on it, it has to still be my main focus, i dont know when that will change but until it does i will be on here. Make that two heifers on this thread also. I would so love you all to come visit for my birthday and introduce everyone to you guys. My children would probably cry and thank you all profusely for giving their mother back to them, actually no probably about it, they would cry as they know how much you all mean to me and what you have done. I know if not for you guys i would be drinking, hiding, lying and i truly dont want that anymore. I think we have seen the light in our thinking Pav and that is a great thing at the end of the day.

Mein where are you and how are you going today? Be strong. Pat, pat, Pat hello!

Well as you can tell it is sooooo hot even my laptop is running slow. I am having tomorrow off as i may have to take my dog to the vets as i would never forgive myself is something happened to her. Work was so busy, so many calls over our intercom system of people needing medical help after collapsing, mainly visitors visiting patients. Last week it was only in the 20's so a jump of 20 certainly hits us Melbourians hard. A few bushfires out of control and apparently South Australia is offically the hottest place on the planet at 46 degrees, we lost as we only got to 44.

Take care all, please check in guys who are quiet.

[patrice]

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Hey Ava,

Yep I'm around.. had the day off because my boy was sick.. have cooked lots of nice food, started a little bit of sorting out, cleaning stuff. Very tired actually, hot here today too but not as hot as Sth Aus! Hope your'e having loads of water...
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