Ladies on a Mission: The Official Site

[NoSugar]

Just when I was thinking there's not much point to this thread anymore, Nar, you reminded me why we're here :hug:. It must have been kind of hard not to participate in the celebration they were having but you sure did the best thing for you. Congratulations on that and on your husband getting a job!

[narilly]

I guess Maple Scotch is for people who don't really like Scotch, just like lime beer is for people who don't like beer!
Ya, I was a little ticked off at Mil for that. She thought it was cute to give him some drinks...I say it's not cute. We do not do that at home. Geez.

NS, I know exactly what you mean. Last night when I had a small pull towards having a drink I thought of you guys right away. It was in that moment when I realized how important it is to keep up this group and this website. You guys were key to me getting sober and are also a big part in me staying sober. That is easy to forget. I don't want to learn the hard way.

So I woke up Un Hung today and I am grateful for that.

Thanks for the good wishes everyone. It's been a long haul for hubs being unemployed.

[jane27]

Nar,
Congrats on the good news re your hubs job! I really appreciated your post ( the twinge reference) . I get them too, and it's important to remember how small one twinge is in the grand scheme of what we have worked so hard to build. Xo

[little beagle]

Narilly I'm glad I'm here for you to remember. And I'm glad it was only a twinge. Not cool to encourage your son to drink though. I'm sorry. Glad your hubby is getting a job offer.
I come here to remind myself that I don't drink. We may not talk about it everyday, but for me just the act of signing on and looking for the gloamers thread gets my brain into gear. It reminds me that others count on me to not drink. It reminds me of hhow far I have come. It just plain reminds me I don't drink. And I still need a reminder. Or else that twinge will grow into an urge, into a craving, into a why not. So here I am!

[narilly]

Hello Ma Jane. Yup, we have to remember where we came from.

Hey Lil B, that is true, we count on each other not to drink. Accountability is definitely a strong driver in staying sober. We are strong together.

Well, time to sleep. Goodnight everyone.

[treetops]

Evening people. Just a quick hello to you all. Yes it is important that we remind ourselves that we don't drink - and twinges be damned.
I cooked a yummy meal tonight - baked salmon and couscous - its wonderful to be able to raid the garden for some fresh herbs.
You all take care!

[Guitarista]

Guess what ?? Hubby is getting a job offer this week! It's been a long year for him but now it looks like it's going to happen! Oh yeah!

:thumbsup:

[NoSugar]

LB, I just love this!:

Narilly I'm glad I'm here for you to remember.

It is good to know that someone might notice if we left and that others count on us to be here. I'm glad those of us who are here are! I keep remembering those who aren't, though, think about them often and hope they are ok.

My life is full of ups (new grandchild) and downs (sick parent) and it feels like there are at least 3 places I "should" be. So many times in the last several days I've been so grateful that all of this is happening now, not 3 years ago. It is just never too soon to quit - and for many things for me, it was just in time.

Hope you're all well. xx, NS

[narilly]

We all need each other that is for sure

[little beagle]

A new grandchild sounds wonderful NS. Lots of fun. And you're lucky you found your way out so you can fully enjoy it.
There's just nothing happening around here. Still waiting for that Dr. Appt for hubby. It feels like an eternity. My daughter has almost completely isolated herself from me. Grrrr!

[Pavati]

Hi, All:

Interesting posts about how important we are to each other - I came here to tell you about a drinking dream I had last night. My first in MONTHS. I figured it was a reminder to come check in on you all...and have you check in on me!

In the dream I had a drink and then didn't remember the rest of the night. I was living through the next day, feeling like shit and trying to piece together the night. It was brutal as I tried to figure out what I did, if I made an ass out of myself, where I went, etc. I was REALLY glad to wake up, I can tell you.

Nar - When the (REAL, not maple) Scotch gets passed around I feel a strong tug every time. I actually loved sipping whiskey and miss that warm, melty feeling. I just have to play it through, however, to realize that those days are over. Sipping a great tea and being with my loved ones can also bring that warm, melty feeling, without all of the regret. Amazing that your husband got the job. What a relief.

Sorry that Mr. B still can't get an appt., Lil, and sorry for your daughter as well. You are so strong! I highlighted the same sentence that NS did - love it.

Good night, Gloamers. A good day to be reminded about how we need each other.

xo
Pav

[STEADFAST]

Hi Gloamers,

Am such an infrequent poster, that it's difficult to catch up when i do log on. But i echo the sentiments of many posts here - i really do appreciate the support and goodwill of you guys. Despite not logging on regularly, i do think of the nice people here, and hope they're travelling well. I feel guilty that i log on and get support, but don't have the psychic energy to give as much as i receive. Hopefully down the track when i'm not tearing my hair out at my angsty thoughts, i'll be in a better position to support others. Working on a computer and answering the phone all day makes it hard for me to log on at night. Am really struggling with anxiety. Going to see a shrink next week. Staying 'steadfast' is crucial. I don't even know if my post makes sense right now, but am going to hit 'post' without reading it and hope for the best!
And hoping for the best for all of you, too. Steady, x o


best wishes to all, and i'll try and log on more regularly.

[NoSugar]

Glad your dream brought you back, Pav! I haven't had one of those in a long while. I like to have them now and then, just for the reminder.

LB, I'm so sorry you're almost estranged from your daughter. That must really hurt. My relationship with mine was a little tense during her senior year of high school and freshman year of college and even that tore me up so I feel like been shut out would be awful. I hope you can break down that wall between you with time. Waiting for Mr. B's treatment must be stressful, too. You are such a strong woman. I always think of you anytime I feel even the slightest inclination to take the easy way out. Remembering you is one of my tools :hug:.

Steady, I'm so sorry you're feeling anxious and am glad you're taking steps to deal with it. Knowing you're reading and it helps you is a reason for us to post. I think helping others when we can and asking for support when we need it is so key to long-term sobriety. I'm at early stages of dealing with a parent with confusion/dementia/whatever is going on. It is so hard and unsettling. That little kid in each of us still wants our mom and dad in their original role and it is hard to accept that it's gone. At least it is for me. I hope you keep checking in. xx, NS

[narilly]

Hey Steady and SF, come and post anytime. We are all happy to hear from you.

Pav, nice to hear from you. I was never much of a Scotch drinker. Play it through to the end, yes, that is what we need to do. That initial warm feeling is nice but that is just the beginning. I hate having dreams like that, they really freak me out and I feel guilty even though nothing happened. I guess its a good reminder of what we don't want to do.

LB, you are amazing. I am sorry about your daughter but maybe she just needs to mature a bit and she will eventually see what a great momma she has.

NS xo

Hey, I think my new job is going to be good. I am tired from working 8 hours a day...I have to get used to that again. My hubby will be getting an offer next week and then he will be working 1 week on and 1 week off. He will be flying up north for his job to Ft. McMurray where the oil sands are. I am thankful we will both be working soon. Its tough especially with both kids in University.

Anyway, I'm glad to be sober. Nothing like going to work Un Hung.

Talk soon.

[little beagle]

I feel the same Narilly. Working unhung. No stupid residual anxiety. And you'll have some time to yourself. I hope you enjoy it. I had a really relaxed time when my hubby worked out of town this summer.
SF and Steady I think it's great that you take inspiration from us. This is a great reason for us to stay active here. I'm glad you both chevked in with us.
NS i kind of know what you are going through with your parent. One of my ladies had dementia. I really loved her. She was a saint to me. One of the most selfless people I've ever known. I miss her constantly. Her family got rid of me and had women stay with her full time to take care of her. A couple of them just weren't very nice and they came and went so often it was confusing for her. And some of them were thieves. Terrible for anyone going through that. Thank you for using my experiences.
Pav I kind of like drinking dreams because it reminds me of why I can't. Plus the relief when I wake up is SO great.