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[DreamThinkDo]

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Hallo Loamers!!!

Pavati;1613666 wrote:

Today I had a great day but tonight I am feeling just tired of it all. I don't want to drink (although I have been eating like a heifer), and I love coming here and chatting with you all, but I am just feeling tired of all of the focus on getting, being and staying sober. I know that to stay sober I DO have to focus on it, so the parent in me is saying to the brat in me, "too bad, so sad." (I actually don't think I've said that to my kids, but you get the gist.) There are just some things in life that are not a laugh a minute that we have to do in order to make our lives good. For me, getting, being and staying sober is one of those things. For you teachers, I get the same feeling when facing a stack of papers, or several loads of laundry. I just get tired of doing it ALL the time.

Pav, I know that feeling, but I think it's a necessary process in rewiring/resetting our thinking patterns - almost like being brainwashed. In my first week or so AF, I remember sitting here and almost screaming at my screen for everybody to please just stop talking about Al Al Al the whole bloody time. I was livid with anger! But - the things that are worthwhile don't just drop in our laps - we have to work at it and work for it, but that work does pay off.

Oh Ava, I just laughed at you wanting to take a beer for on the way back home... Good luck with the heat today (probably your late afternoon now) - but you know what I mean :l

[Mein Sonnenschein]

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Hi All. Good morning from Germany. I'm a bit frustrated this morning. As some of you may know, my job was eliminated a few months ago... so I have been playing "Hausfrau" since then. Which is my choice, by the way. My German is not good enough to find a job in the area where I live, and, I'm really not sure if I want to go back to that lifestyle (I was a traveling IT consultant before). But last night I had a dream that I was with my old colleagues on a great project and it was awesome. I had WONDERFUL work colleagues that I loved to work with, and, we were also friends outside of work. I felt very lucky to have the unique situation. But, now it's all gone. Just feeling sad and a bit worthless this morning. So time to get productive and try to pick up my spirits. Even so it is only a bit past 9am here in Germany, I would normally think about a drink at this time to make myself feel better. Just a small one... I think that is stage three alcoholism??? Scary. But... not today. I'm going to be strong and stick by you guys.

I hope everyone is having a good day so far.

[available]

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Oh Dream i just shook my head with that thought, i detest the stuff. Glad no wine in the fridge. Its cooled down to 37 now, really enjoying this warmth but will stop complaining tomorrow night sometime when we get a cool change.

Mein, hang in there, the first few days are the worst, that al brain keeps nagging at us for a week or so, so you need to keep busy and have a full tummy. Post on here if u want a drink someone will be around to support you. We all want what we cant have but it must be extra hard with you not knowing the language and therefore restricting you so much. Just remember how worthless you were drinking al.

Pat hope your boy is okay, its horrible when you cant help them be better but damn me it was quiet when my kids were sick. Drinking up a storm trying to keep hydrated. Double the number of heart attacks today than any other time. Scary stuff.

[Mein Sonnenschein]

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available;1613744 wrote: Just remember how worthless you were drinking al.

Ava, I love this. So true! I shudder to remember how many times I was a public drunk... in front of friends, family... I tried to cook on Monday evening during my binge and ended up making a huge mess in the kitchen, actually turned on the stove! I could have burned down the entire house. Geez. Talk about worthless. Day 3.

[available]

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THIS is why i didnt cook as i didnt want to burn the house down, drinking was so much easier though i could have burnt the house down with a cigarette. You are definitely not worthless if you are not drinking Mein, one day at a time and day 3 is great, nearly over the worst of the withdrawals. Remember we put the crap into our bodies for years so it takes a fair while to start healing. I am grateful i am not pouring al down my throat and waking up dehydrated with this heat.

[Starfish1]

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Hi friends, old and new. Sorry I have not been around, but I need to get back to posting and holding myself accountable. Today is a new day, and as SL reminds us, we can have a fresh start anytime we choose. I choose to start fresh today. Thank you all for your support. Things have got to change for me. I am tired of the same old routine and admire you all so much. Thanks again!

[NoSugar]

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I was thinking about you last evening, Star, and hoping you were doing ok. I hope your daughter is safe so that you can have some peace in that part of your life.

But no matter what else is happening, as long as we're drinking, it is going to worse than it would be if we weren't.

Escaping seems so great at the moment but after awhile, even that short period of calm becomes elusive. It just isn't worth it.

Please please please just don't let taking a single drink be an option for you. Do anything else besides that - jumping jacks, a bath, luntic-linda-level posting on MWO (it really works!).

I know you know all this so I feel kind of silly typing it to you. You have done this before and you were happy about it. Your life was calmer and better and you handled all the crap that your job and family was throwing at you.

C'mon, Star. Please stay with us. Make a plan and don't drift away again, ok?

We love you and would love to help you if you can let us. :hug:

[Starfish1]

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Thanks so much, N.S. I love you too and want and need your help. I am just overwhelmed. My dtr has not come home and I still don't know where she is, but I communicate with her daily, usually through text message. She sounds ok and reports that she is doing very well. I just don't know if I can believe this or not.
I will make a plan for the day and stick with it.
I really want to go back to the nest, soon, but don't think I can handle the overload right now.
I want and need to do this again. Thanks for helping me.

[narilly]

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Star,
We are always here for you sweetie. It is so hard to go through things like this with our kids.

Remember, one day at a time, just get through this day without AL.
Big Hugs,

[narilly]

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Welcome Moss Rose!
I hope things are going better for you Mein, its a tough road but one totally worth taking.

Holy Smokes, gals, it is sooo icy here in Calgary. It was cold then it rained then it froze, then it snowed now it partially melted AND THEN froze again. FFS! It takes me 45 minutes to walk (skate) to work instead of 30. I have never seen it like this for so long. It is supposed to be +11C on Saturday, how nuts is that? Quite a roller coaster really.

Gals, I am going to Florida in February for 10 days and I want to get through that trip without drinking. I have been working on it to be mentally prepared not to drink so when the occasion arises I can deal with it. Anyway, I may be asking for some tips from you.

I have read your posts, Pav, SL, NS, J-Vo, Ava, Humble, Dottie and I love them all.

Hugs,

[acadiaofmaine]

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Hey, Star, so glad you are back. I was going to PM you yesterday but as it often happens, I got distracted. In any event, I was thinking hard about you. Maybe you got the vibes.

I think you need to think through, say, and believe, the serenity prayer. There are things you just cannot control, as much as you want to. Your daughter may be one of those things. I am struggling with this concept myself, but was thinking of you the other day when one of my friends, who is the mother of a 17 year old, came to the conclusion that she just had to detach from her daughter for awhile. (the daughter is highly dramatic, cuts herself, sometimes drinks and smokes pot, and blames her mother for everything.) She walked out of the room when her daughter was in the midst of a tirade, called a friend, talked it through. Later that night her daughter asked her to go out to brunch the next day!

sometimes, it works. Drinking doesn't, unfortunately. Stay with us, and of course, PM me any time!

Ann

[Starfish1]

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Thanks so much, ladies. I have been getting worse by the day over the past month. I have never been this bad before and I know it is just a matter of time before something horrible (more horrible) happens. I don't have a choice but to turn this horse around. NOW!
Ann, I LOVE the serenity prayer. In fact, my mother also reminded me to use it, just this past weekend. I will keep it in the front of my thoughts.
I am feeling okay today, but I know that can change at the drop of a hat. I will take it minute by minute and do anything it takes to make it through this day.
I wish I had left all my money and credit cards at home today. That would have assured that I didn't stop on the way home. I will have another plan.

[acadiaofmaine]

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Star,

Why don't you stop on the way home and buy yourself something really yummy to eat? Something that feels like a splurge. Or as K9 sometimes suggests, a little retail therapy, even at the drug store, can be good!

I feel for you. I really don't mean to reduce your struggles to the serenity prayer. But, I do believe there is only so much we can do to help our children. If you end up hurting your own health (or whatever bad consequences you are imagining) you will be even less able to help her.

That's the rational approach, but that's all I've got...that and my faith in you, that you can do whatever it takes to be healthy. I'm with ya! On the same journey, a mere 13 days ahead of you!

Ann

[Starfish1]

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That's a great idea about the food, Ann. One of the things I am worried about is that I didn't really bring enough to eat today. I need to lose weight I gained back from all this imbibing! But I am really hungry. I think I will plan to go to the health food store and get something really good and nutritious for myself.
Last time I quit drinking for an extended period of time, I also started a low carb diet. I really think it helped with the cravings, but I don't think it was very healthy since I ate a lot of red meat, cheese and eggs. It was yummy, and effective though. Today, I have just been eating fruit and I brought a spinach, tomato and avacado salad for lunch. I am hungrier than that though and definitely think that i should plan to get something else to eat. Thanks for suggesting that.

[giraffe1234]

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Hi all
Thanks to your support, kind advice and encouragement I have reached an amazing 80 AF days today.
:thanks: