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[j-vo]

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Great post NS. Love the daily motivator!

Have a great Friday everyone! Stay cool, Miss Ava! You are already cool, way too cool, but you know what I mean.

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Well the heat is finally over thank god for that and i am hoping it stays away or being in the 40's at least. The house is so overheated it will take a day or two to return to normal but my dog survived and she is the cleanest dog in Australia after all the showers she had. She is a treasure of a dog.

Previously i would have drank the heat away and being sober i am actually excited that i will get to clean the house tomorrow as absolutely zero has been done since it got hot then there is food shopping and visiting my daughter on Sunday with my other daughter so a mother daughters day it is. If i was drinking basically none of the above would have occurred.

Sometimes you guys make me really appreciate being single, i think if i had a DH he would be dead.

NS another great post. I find i just appreciate more everyday, i have a better mindset, i am calmer and happier in myself and fatter! I cant remember what a hangover felt like anymore though i will never forget how easy it would be to have one. I am just more involved in life and i can participate in it fully. I cant say my life is magnificent but it is definitely better being sober.

Pat how is your son i hope he is better now and you are doing well. Star and Mein i hope your af time is getting easier. Moss and Caper keep posting please, i love other peoples stories!

Pav speak for yourself, that is a pic i sent NS of me waking up, fresh as a daisy in the morning, always with a smile on my face, makeup on, clean fresh white sheets and ready to jump out of bed, oh and 30 years younger, i have been lying about my age! I wish!

Well i am hoping for a bit of a sleep in tomorrow and a cup of coffee i can enjoy.

Jvo nearly a week and that has gone so quick. You are doing really well. the good thing is another 3 weeks till PMS time again, i will let you know as same time as me and like you i turn into dr jekyll and mr hyde.

Have a great Friday Loamers. Hugs to all.

[Starfish1]

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Good day, lovely Loamers!

Thanks for all your kind suggestions and words of support. I woke up feeling really well, positive and excited about making the commitment to stay sober. I have so much to look forward to in the coming months....one dtr's wedding; my youngest dtr graduating high school and heading off to college; another dtr and her husband moving to a new home and hopefully, my oldest dtr (the missing one) getting straightened out and moving on with her life. I really want and need to be around for all of these things.
My plan for the weekend is to take some long hikes and be outdoors as much as possible. I need to begin exercising for the health as well as the mood benefits.
I will be 55 in May and I want to feel like I have some life left to enjoy, not like I have one foot in the grave, as I have recently.
I enjoyed reading all the posts with reasons to stay sober and would like to add one. I want to STAY OUT of JAIL for the rest of my life FFS!!!! Heck, if I get myself imprisoned for the rest of me life, these next 30 years may just creep by! Scary!
xoxo Star

[narilly]

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Ava, I am SURE you wake up looking absoloutely ravishing in the morning! Maybe it's just YOU thats so Hot in Australia Glad that you felt great Star. You certainly have a lot to look forward to, it is a great time for you to be AL free for sure.

J-Vo, thanks for the suggestions about Florida. I have already started planning to implement some of them: exercising, visualizing etc. I think I will try and do some yoga or maybe a fun exercise class at the hotel. I have to see what they offer. We will be walking all day so these things just may be plain silly to even try to do! The great thing about Disney and Universal is that you can have fun without drinking so that will help.

Thank you SL, NS, Pav (my husband is the same), Humble, Dottie, Caper, Giraffe! Your posts really make a difference to me.
Mein, I wish I could come over to Germany and keep you company. Hang in there sweetie. Please stay sober.
Hugs,

[j-vo]

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HI Ladies!

Hope everyone has a great start to their weekend. Mine will start with two basketball games this evening but will not end like it did last Friday night. I realized after reading Honeysoup's post when she was struggling, that a trigger doesn't have to be huge, like being an emotional wreck, or H.A.L.T. It can be something as little as a comment someone makes to you. That one comment can get your mind moving in directions that it shouldn't be in. The comment that got me going last week was (among other triggers like being emotionally unstable and tired) someone saying to me, "I'm gonna drink heavily tonight after that game!" I really think that got the AL brain going. I'm going to be careful of these kinds of comments that people make, especially during trigger periods like Friday or Sat. nights. What will I do when that happens? Make statements to myself such as, "thankfully I don't drink" "I don't drink" or something like that. Replace those thoughts that are coming into my mind with other thoughts - distractions. Then ask for help - call or post.

Ok, have a great night everyone!

[narilly]

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THAT is exactly right J-Vo! It's the little comments that can wreak havoc. The same thing happens to me, I have noticed that.
We have to be aware when that AL demon peaks out at us we have to squash it. I try and be aware of that.
All that adrenaline at the basket ball game probably doesn't help. Maybe you have to think of a way to deal with the post game let down.
Go for a dessert perhaps?
Maybe we can come up with some ideas.

Have a great night!

[HumbleRider]

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http://uploads3.wikipaintings.org/im...-waking-up.jpg

This is more like it for us. Here we are collectively waking up alcohol free.

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Agghhhh my other post is still at the top of the page, hate that!. Well Humble i am thinking your pic is more like me for sure, Humble thanks and gave me a chuckle. I am so going to get photobucket to work this weekend and even if i post a link that will have to do.

Star you have soooo many daughters, must have been a nightmare in puberty for you. I have a couple of boys thrown in for good measure. You sound really positive and that is so good to hear, keep it up but remember to post if you feel that craving hit you like a truck. Touch wood i have never been arrested or in jail. K-9 has some great stories about her adventures that makes me never ever want to go there and she has been sober 2 years now.

Nar it i back to normal now but here i was thinking i would jump out of bed looking like that pic but i woke and dragged my sorry arse out and feel exhausted.

Jvo I hope T gets a decent play with his basketball and you stay calm and focused. Maybe when/if someone says a comment like that you should reply to said person with "i dont drink". Saying it aloud i find makes a difference and actually feels good. I had a patient at work ask me what wine i drank the other day as he wants to buy me a xmas present. I just looked at him and thought "i dont drink" but i said sauv blanc and then thought who i could give it to. I dont want it but i dont want chocolate either (getting fat) so i will give it away. i am unsure why i didnt say i dont drink but i definitely thought it. I wont see him for 3 months anyways. We are here for you.

Well another day in Aus land and also a note to self not to drink 3 cups of coffee before trying to go to sleep. Be safe and good on your af Friday Loamers.

[NoSugar]

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HumbleRider;1614527 wrote: http://uploads3.wikipaintings.org/im...-waking-up.jpg

This is more like it for us. Here we are collectively waking up alcohol free.

Sleepy... but not hungover :H:H:H!
And yes, you are probably getting a bit closer to the truth than my posted photos !
I bet we had a fun slumber party!

[NoSugar]

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Hi, Ava! So how is Saturday going to be? Hanging out with you is like time travel or something!

I'm sort of on vacation (getting my online work done away from home). Spent a lot of time this afternoon outside facing the sun full on. It felt SO good. It has been gloomy so much this winter I think I have a sun-deficiency. 50 degrees F isn't all that warm but with bright sun, it feels pretty good .

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9.30am here NS and cool and cloudy. I thought i would bounce back now it is not 44 degrees but feel like a washed out dishrag so i am laying in bed still with a cuppa and my son is starting a new job so trying to find out when he starts so i can drive him hungover free and sober. Isnt the sun a grand thing, i am low in Vit D and i think it is an age thing but got my fix of that last week. I wish i could time travel so i was sitting there with you NS having a cuppa and a chat and watching you work.

[NoSugar]

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Wouldn't that be fun :l !

Do you have an iPad? We could FaceTime!

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I wish NS, i have an old clunky laptop. My plan this year is to upgrade and i can do that now i dont have to scrape together money daily for that bottle shop stop in. Even the web cam doesnt work which was definitely a bonus when i was ploughing the al down my throat and on chat sites, ha ha. God those were the days i dont want to go back to. Its good to like ones self again.

[NoSugar]

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available;1614561 wrote: Its good to like ones self again.

I would probably say that liking myself, being self-confident, and feeling like a worthwhile person again are the greatest gifts of this whole process. When you don't feel good about or value yourself, it is almost impossible to truly feel those positive emotions about anyone or anything. In fact, I didn't really feel much at all - like Bren? Brown wrote, you can't selectively numb your feelings - you kill the good ones as well as the bad. It is really nice to feel alive again

[acadiaofmaine]

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Hi All,

Another sober Friday! Yay!

I did something tonight, though, that is concerning me. Typically I have taken myself out for sushi or the like on a Friday or Saturday night. By myself. Kids are usually busy, husband at work or on a different schedule. Of course, I used to drink before I went out, and then have 2 glasses of wine at the sushi bar. I'd take a book, chat with the servers, have a nice, relaxing time. Except that I'd be pretty drunk by the time I got home. Rolling home at 6 pm, wild drunk that I am!

Tonight I really wanted sushi, and I was hungry. So I went to this restaurant. I had tea and sushi. Well, it was hard. There was a woman by herself at the sushi bar, having wine with her meal. It looked so good!

My concern is whether or not this is one of those "I'm having a slip night before I even take a drink." That insidious process that can start days before. I guess I should not go to these places, at least not alone. The triggers are intense.

I did just come home, eat a large cookie, and now I'm in bed watching the news. Thank god for that. I didn't feel as much tempted as deprived. I haven't felt deprived so far. Sucks to feel that.

So I am thinking about how great I will feel tomorrow which looks to be very busy! And I'm going to practice some gratitude as soon as I stop typing.

I guess this is a cautionary tale for us all!

Ann