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[j-vo]

LB, I can't imagine doing all you're doing right now. But I hope it's in my future somewhere. YOu sound at peace and wonderful.

Jane, the compliment thing...I got a love note from one of my students last week. It was sweet and made me feel good. She said, "Mrs. J-vo is the best teacher you could ever have, but just sayin', don't make her mad." Those kinds of compliments I hold close to my heart. It keeps me going when I think I can't do this anymore. Knowing I've touched one kid is huge for me.

Have another basketball game tonight. Should be a tough game. Hope our boys have the confidence they need to continue on as a team and kick ass! Have a good day Gloamers.

[jane27]

Morning Gloamers,
Rainy day here in Jerz. Eating cheerios and watching Red vigorously rolling back and forth on our brick patio. I include the brick detail because he seems to do this rolling thing almost exclusively on covered-with-other-animal-poop-grass. Wondering if the ground hog is changing up his style (by pooping on the brick). Things that make you go hmmmmm.

[lifechange]

Hello Gloamers!

I think I've mostly caught up here now..
trying to see if Nar posted a picture of Elvis somewhere? If so, I missed it! Congratulations on the new addition to your family!

I've been in a strange mood.. and it's why I haven't posted in a while. A bit lethargic, exhausted, overwhelmed.. not to the point of being concerned.. just not feeling too much like interacting with others. Which is difficult with my job and family.. so in the evenings I've been reading and thinking about all of you, but haven't had anything to add.
Today I'm forcing myself because I don't want to my mind to go in the wrong direction.
My ex went out last night with a friend and this morning and most of the day he was sick as dog hungover.. which is strange, because he never usually drinks more than a beer or 2 and last night he drank 2.5 liters.. which is a heck of a lot for him. I was so happy to be awake and feeling fresh at 5 this am.. and now reading all the drinking dreams..uggghhhhhh.. so don't ever want to go there again.
I'm glad that the shortest day of the year is over with and we can begin to look forward to the light! And I'm going to start up with some vitamins and L-glut and the gym again tomorrow.. I haven't been active with my maintenance program. And I'm still feeling a bit heartbroken over a break up almost 2 weeks ago.. though I'm trying to be ok with the fact that I can still really love and care about someone without having them be romantically involved in my life. Usually I'm all or nothing with these things and I try to shove out/ignore feelings that cause me pain. And now I'm seeing it's less painful to accept how I feel, embrace how I feel and let it run it's course..
so, I already feel a bit better getting that out.

I loved your compliment stories.. Great idea, Jane! I've been trying to think of one and couldn't until this moment..
I either don't get that many or disregard them because I don't believe the person giving it..I may have already told this because it made me very happy.
A while ago I was feeling down about not doing a very good job as a mom, especially to my 14 year old daughter..it came up that my younger daughter wanted to spend the night here with a friend even though she was at her dad's for the week. The older one and I were talking about it (because they were afraid their dad might be offended or hurt) and I said, yeah, they just want to be here 'cause they can watch netflix.. she said, no mama, they can watch that at dad's, too. i don't know how it is in the 5th grade, but in my class you're the number one mom. when i asked why? she said it's because I treat everyone the way I treat my own kids. That they feel loved and accepted and that they can be open and honest when they're here..
That brought me to tears after all my self doubt..

Everyone is sounding so strong here.. J-vo, I'm so proud of you!!! Good for you with the luncheon.. for getting your excuse in line ahead of time! You are so dedicated to this quit.. as am I. It's the most important thing I have/own. I have so much riding on it now.. and I don't feel stressed about it. I feel secure in a way I haven't before.. Like really and truly, no matter what I won't drink. Anything else, but not that. And like you, (and you, Choices!) I'm trying to go easy on myself when I can and when I remember to! Last night I had so much I wanted to do (including posting here) but I was soooo tired and feeling down, so I packed it up and went to bed at 9. I bagged out on the work Christmas party last week, which I got some shit for.. but the next morning I was fresh and ready to go while others dragged themselves in (if they bothered to show) looking and feeling like hell. And, looking at the pics afterwards, I know I didn't miss out on much..
I guess it feels really good to finally be looking after myself and putting my needs first.. even if I have to fight the "wanting to fit in" side of myself. I find that, as so many of you have said, I haven't really ever fit into the main stream crowd.. which is part of the reason I drank.. at least in the beginning. Now I'm also looking forward to/already enjoying walking to my own beat!

NS, I really liked your post in the Nest regarding some of J-vo's concerns.. I've been reading a lot on the 3P's thread and find it useful..

LB, I bet your napkins are beautiful... and I'm so jealous. Mine all STINK! How long is it possible to use cloth napkins? No matter how hot I wash them, they smell a bit rancid.. looking forward to visiting my Mom in March so I can get some more!:happy2:

HI!! to Pav and Treetops and El! How's your thumb doing?
and G-man! and where has SL been hiding out? I didn't see her on my read-back.. I hope all is well.

Hugs to you all and good luck and little stress getting all the last minute Christmas stuff done!:love:

[jane27]

*while its fresh in my head* got a PM from Eloise. She is happy to be moving into her new apartment, but will have limited internet access through 12/29. Her dog was hit by a car on Sunday but is OK thank God! She's grateful to be dealing with all of it booze free. More later. xoxox

[j-vo]

LC, just saw your post. Stay strong, my friend. You're doing so well. And when you're tired, just do what you do and don't force stuff on yourself just because it's the right thing to do. Sometimes we need to just rest. And I loved the story of your daughter. Wow. That one hit the jackpot! Kids are very honest, and that's why it's easy to believe their compliments. And they're honest about other stuff that's not so easy to take!!!!

[little beagle]

LC that's a great compliment.

[Guitarista]

My biggest compliment has been being called cute. Thanks J vo! Lol. Gr8 topic actually because I know for some reason I won't take compliments on board even though I love em. Great guitar playing is another one. I'll take that! Beautiful stuff LC from your daughter. Glad to hear Eloise is happy with the new joint and dog is ok Jane. TT, what do u know of Aussie men? A dalliance on the ski slopes one summer? LB you rawk! Have a bewdy out there.

[jane27]

Now there's a notch on the headboard I wish I had.

Night folks Oh...I wrote a poll on New Years Resolutions under the General Discussion forum. Would love to hear your thoughts! Besos!

[j-vo]

Morning all,
We won last night!!!! It was a close game, down to the last seconds. Son had an awesome game.

Will be leaving work early today. Boss is letting us go as kids have an early dismissal. Have to pack and give myself a pedicure. Flight tomorrow at 6:45 a.m.

I'll be checking in everyday. Hope everyone is having a good day.

[Choices]

Yay for the victory Jane. Enjoy your pedi and I'll be thinking of you a lot on your trip. I'll be checking in myself. Well, we are here at the Bach. Arrived yesterday, and it is just great. It is so nice to be out of the city and in a relaxed town. When we arrived there was a tiny pity party over.. Wouldn't it be nice.. Blah, blah. But I just treated hubs and myself to our 2nd barista coffee of the day. We only allow ourselves one. Or at least I do! Only because all my money would go to it. ;-). I'm still in bed taking it lazy, and I can see the inlet from my window. I was going to bring my paddle board but at the last min decided we were just bringing too much stuff. Last night we were watching Christmas movies and the wine add ran every commercial break.. It was a wine add and the wine bottles made a wreath that was moving in a circle the more bottles you buy the bigger the wreath and discount. In the add they name off all the different types of wine etc. I liked all wine for all different reasons... Well we all know the main one! Pretty clever. Hypnotising subliminal advertising! I just averted my eyes and or just noticed how it made me feel. I feel strong overall on the AF front, but I know I need to be posting this whole trip. There is just a lot of Devils on the shoulder out there. Hope everyone is well.

[lifechange]

Choices, how long will you be away? Sounds lovely there! I have also been treating myself to extra coffees.. realizing that I can drink them for a treat. When I was drinking I rarely drank coffee because I didn't want to add to my dehydration.. plus I was too sick most mornings!
I hate those frickin' alcohol commercials and advertisements. It is so pushed here as well, that that's the only way to celebrate. Well, we're proving them wrong, aren't we? This year we'll stay close here, do what we need to to keep the thoughts thoughts, work on creating new and better traditions..I'm trying to stay in the moment as much as possible.. I know this is my NEW life, it's a journey/process and I'm building the road a step at a time. It helps me to have a visual of this path moving forward and away from where I was... on down days or if drinking thoughts come out of nowhere I head over to the 3P's thread and repeat, they're only thoughts, they're only thoughts! I CAN deal with discomfort.. I CAN choose not to act on my thoughts!
I think it's a great plan to post here a lot! It's what you've been doing and it's working! And it helps us all out, too!:happy2:

Congrats on the game, J-vo!
Hope you have a nice trip and look forward to hearing from you...

Jane, heading over to the poll.. great idea.

I also think you're cute, G-man!!

I already posted this song in the Nest.. but I'll do here, too, because it makes me happy listening to it. This really is OUR time to be free!! And I also think Eddie is a babe! (where's the winking smiley guy?)

Blackbird..

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1yOifFvYW2o

p.s. are any of you having a white Christmas? Here's it's almost 50°F..

[Choices]

We are away until the 27th. I picked a Bach close to the inlaws so we could be close but have our own space too. We will be there all day tomorrow.. But back here for the night. Then they are all going to come here for Boxing Day. Hopefully I've started a new little relaxing tradition for our little family. We kind of get swallowed up in the extended family..,especially me. It's nice just to have everything done a few days earlier as well. I pre cooked everything or have a plan for all meals so just can kick back... Food prep being my biggest trigger. So funny, I use to sneak drinks.. Now I sneak time on MWO.. Better get back..

[j-vo]

Have a wonderful get-away, Choices. And LC, you're sounding strong. I love reading your posts. Both you girls make me think and think in the right direction. I appreciate it and am grateful to you both.

[little beagle]

Hope you have love time away ladies.
J-vo coming here for me keeps my thoughts going in the right direction too.
I'm working on my resolution Jane.

[narilly]

Hi everyone! You are sounding good. I haven't been able to check in and. am just dropping in to say hi. We were in the mountains today, it was beautiful but very cold. It was -14C! We had a great time thought, the four of us.

G, you play good music.

Have a bewdy