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[treetops]

Good on you LB. Sounds like you got quite a bit done and lovely that you enjoy the sewing. I used to really also and I was quite good but at some point I started to dislike it - I think it was dealing with a shonky machine. We have a good one now but i cant get excited - I sew only when I have to (e.g. curtains). Daughter likes it though.
I can work at home this week which is great - especially as I am like a snake at the moment - shedding my sunburnt skin. Its so itchy.
But today was emotionally tiring - daughter had to work out some things with friends and she was in a bit of a state. I think it helped that I listened and I didn't give up on her.
Now some work and then some TV.
all the best for everyone who is going back to work this week

[Guitarista]

G, the diet I follow is lchf and it has really helped my friends and family with depression, diabetes, weight loss, inflammation. My mom's leg swelling has decreased substantially and I have lost 15 lbs along its my hubby. My aunts diabetes is definitely being reversed. Google diet doctor.com and there is all the information there. Dr Jason Fung, a Canadian nephrologist has lots of blogs which I highly recommend. He is my hero.

Thanks Narilly! Much appreciated, will check it out. Regard's to Elvis! Big cheesy waves to all.

[Choices]

Thanks for your post NS regarding not being able to get even the initial feeling unless you didn't eat. I've been thinking about it all day. I really think your amazingly strong. Sorry about your daughter being upset TT. It sounds like you were really there for her. I'm not quite sure what I'd do without my mother's support it always feels so comforting to have. Every time I hear of you sewing little B I get inspired to take out my machine and each day goes by so fast! Hello to everyone. I hope your having good days and nights.

[Byrdlady]

Popping in to wish Little Beagle a Happy Birthday!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Hope you have a wonderful day! xoxoxoxoxoxox, B

[j-vo]

Happy Birthday LB!!! I hope you have a lovely day whatever you're doing. You're such a special person, and someone I have learned that no matter how hard things get, we can do it sober. Actually, I was just thinking about that today. I feel as though so many things are happening in my life. My mom is the biggest and on my mind almost always. I'm afraid, angry, and sad. My emotions are up and down and even though I'm going through this, I'm trying to be grateful that I'm doing this completely sober. My son, in the home stretch of his senior year is another. OMG. This can't be happening. But it is and it will. I'm grateful for such a wonderful boy, but I'm afraid that I'll be so sad when he leaves, and it's just like me to start worrying about this. Not that I worry he won't be ok, just that I'll miss him so much. It's all a part of life. I feel like I'm losing two people I love so much, yet in different ways. Gosh. But look at you LB. You've been through so much, and you'll standing tall. I'm so proud of you, and I want what you have for sure. Amazing, you are LB. Strong. Beautiful. What an example you are for all of us here. Thank you!

[narilly]

Lil B, Happy Birthday! You are one of the strongest people I know. I appreciate your posts and support very much. Enjoy your birthday!!

My son finished his first year of Uni and now is taking time off to travel, work etc. He is such a nice boy, a gentle soul. I hope he figures things out. I know eventually he will do a trade or go to University but for now he is just not ready for school. We live in such a different world now. I think there are way too many Choices for kids these days and it is so hard to decide on anything.

I am not looking to the -20 degree temps because of my doggie...its no biggie for me but not good for potty training a puppy!

G, I hope you find lots of good information. Once you start looking you will find lots of stuff. It is really interesting. I cannot believe how much we have been influenced by big pharma and big food. Their agenda is about money and not about health.

[jane27]

Quick pop in to wish Lil B a happy birthday! In Florida finishing up prepping for renters. Home Wednesday. Miss you guys! Xxx

[treetops]

Morning Ladies and Mr G.
Happy birthday LB :congratulatory: - I hope you dont have to work too hard on this special day and you can put your feet up.
Hi there Jane.
J-Vo- this is such a tough time for you - with your son and your Mum. You are so close to them both. Quite a few of us here are going through (or about to or have) the teenage child leaving home bit. And as Nar, says we keep on worrying. There always seems to be something going on. We can be philosophical and spiritual about the passing of time - but the emotional bonds are so strong too. That is to be human after all.
We took the Christmas tree down last night - and it reminded me of the passing of years - of having my own family. Decorations packed away. It all felt strange - how so much can be focused on a celebration or time of the year - and then, poof, its gone - next thing comes. Many people here are still on summer holidays so that adds to the limbo-like feeling. Well thats enough musing for me - I have my own somewhat boring and mind numbing work to get done. But first - that second cup of delicious coffee - like NS,I am not about to give up that treat. Its so so much better without indigestion - something that plagued me during my drinking years.
Choices - no doubt you are up and on with your day too. Mr G is probably still getting his beauty sleep! Come on, time to take the face-mask off!
Hi there is everyone else I have missed - Pav and all others.

[NoSugar]

I have started grinding Chinese 5-spice with my beans -- delicious w/o the weird taste of "flavored" coffee beans, which I can't stand. It is kind of a 'winter' taste so it might not sound too good to you right now, TT.

Having your children leave home to begin their adult, independent lives probably won't feel at the time like you think it will now. I wasted a lot of time dreading their exits and wish now I'd been more able to stay in the moment and just enjoy their presence.

xx, NS

[lifechange]

Hi Gloamers!!

First of all, Happy Birthday, LB!! I have to ditto what J-vo said.. you have been such a great example of how to do it sober.. and such an important source of support to me. I thank you for that and hope that you have a lovely birthday..

Happy New Year to everyone!! It's been good to read back and see how you all are. I'm afraid I'm a couple of days late as well as a few dollars short. I have had you all on my mind.. but have also been so wrapped up in my own problem, that it's been all I can do to stay focussed on the girls and present in my day. I don't want to complain.. I just want to move forward. I can relate so much to the conversation regarding expectations.. I'm afraid that's what I've been caught up in recently. I am very confused about whether or not I can trust my intuition, my gut feeling, even my memory of somewhat current occurrences. I know that I was very unhappy for a good couple of years before finally ending things with my ex (with whom I still share a flat).. while drinking and during sober periods. For the past month he has been making a huge effort with my girls, with trying to help out around the house, with letting me know how much he'd still like to be together. I've noticed how much easier it is to "accept" him when I don't have expectations.. because I've been able to distance myself and don't care any more (so i thought). Lately I've been wondering why it wasn't possible to lose the expectations when we were together..?
It clears things up a bit just writing it out. I've been a real prisoner to obsessive thoughts the last days.. and the 3P's and meditation help me a lot with daily, in the moment situations.. but these things that don't yet have full closure drive me a bit mad..

I'm not drinking. That's really good. And I'm trying to be patient with myself.. I know this all takes time.
I just feel so self-centered.. and would love to pull myself out of it for longer than 2 hours at a time! I keep hoping that if I continue to do the work, it will fall into place at some point..?

Big hugs and love to LB and J-vo and Nar and Choices and Jane and NS and Pepper and Pauly and G and Pav and TT and SL (where are you?) and Shades.. who am I missing?

[Guitarista]

Yo Gloamers! W'dup?!

Happy birthday LilB! :spin::moonwalk::balloons:

I think you absolutely Raaawk my friend. Have a great day whayever you're up to.

Good morning from Oz. This avocado and peanut butter face mask is proving difficult to peel off but I'm sure i'll look radiant. I love my 2 coffee's in the morning too. I mean, I really look forward to them and cherish this time.

Hi LC. Geez, sounds like you have your hands full there. Living under the same roof with an ex partner when feelings are still present would def be filling your headspace. I hope you can negotiate these waters so it's all working for you. Take care of yourself first and foremost my friend.

Take it easy out there and safe travels all.

[j-vo]

You look pretty G!!

LC, wow, that has to be difficult. I didn't realize you were still living together. I can see how you would have your head full of 'stuff.' I don't even know how to help you, but possibly applying the 3 P's a bit more throughout the day? I'm just learning myself, as you can see, it's not about applying anything! It recognizing and being aware of your thoughts. After you become aware, then I don't know where to go from there. Maybe NS has some wise words. :hug:

Nar, isn't it crazy how kids need to know what they're going to do for the rest of their lives at such a young age? I think it's great your son can take a break, work, and ponder that stuff. It seems everybody's in a rush to get somewhere, earn that degree, like life's a big race that needs to be won. I don't want to be in the race anymore.

NS, yes, I need to enjoy the moments right now. That's the old me, the one that starts worrying months ahead. That's not going to do me one bit of good, so out with those thoughts.

TT, when will your daughter begin her classes? This is for you...:hug: Hope things have worked out with what was going on earlier this week.

Good luck, Jane!

Well, getting up at 4 was not much different than 5. Got up, drank some water and cup of coffee, started my exercise video promptly at 4:30. Showered at 5:30. Pretty amazing that I felt pretty good all day. Gonna do it again tomorrow. When I tried this exercising before work in the past, I would just get up and start. I think giving myself a half hour to get myself hydrated, then unhyrated with coffee helped!

Have a good night all.

[Choices]

HI Everyone! Happy Birthday little B! I hope you had a good one. Happy to be getting to know you! My daughter is back at preschool today, and husband at work, so this has been my first day to myself in two weeks.. I'm kinda all over the place. I had a long talk with my mom which was nice. She has a budding romance starting with a man she has know for a long time. I'm excited for her. She has been depressed after her second divorce two years ago, and sounds really happy.

I just had to make my insurance claim for the car I ran into over the weekend and it was really nice when asked if I'd had anything to drink to answer no. The question was "had you had anything to drink or drugs within the 36 hours of the accident" 36 hours is an interesting number. I felt like saying I'll be 30 days AF soon. Only because I feel proud.

Not a lot going on, I'm eating too much chocolate but the Christmas candy should be gone soon...

Suddenly social stuff is picking up again.. which I don't feel like but going with it. I saw an American antenatal friend yesterday with my daughter and her son.. She told me she was 9 weeks pregnant.. which caught me off guard. We still want another baby.. but I am thinking maybe of trying 6 months from now. It's not a good idea because of my age, to wait, but maybe it's not meant to be.. still time to see. It's best it I don't think about it too much really.

A couple of catch ups this week, and a mum asked me to go paddle boarding, which I've been dying to find someone to do this with.. I am so weird. I'm either lonely or wanting to be alone. I push people away, but then when I want to have contact e-mail everyone.. and then get myself too busy. I'm sure there is a balance. Luckily, non of these gatherings have anything to do with alcohol... but sometimes becoming overstimulated can get me craving once I'm away from the event. Meh, just thoughts. I have 2 hours now to start making my list shorter of all the things I was going to do today that I don't think I'll get done before picking up my girl.

[little beagle]

Choice thoughts, like clouds in the sky, can pass on by. That's how I've been looking at it lately. It works sometines. Others I just have to really think abouf something else for a minute.
Thanks for all the birthday wishes. I had a great day. Easy work day and a long afternoon nap. Dinner at a BBQ restaurant with hubby. A real treat for us.
J-vo and TT I still miss my daughter and she's been out on her own for almost 15 years, but when we spend a lot of time together, honestly I'm glad she lives on her own. I love her dearly, but we both have our own way of doing things and they aren't alway compatible.
I'll think of you being in Florida Jane. Wish I coupd go to the beach. We have Mardi Gras very early this year. I probably will only attend the doggie parade and giveca donation. I have the two dogs who've never been in a large, public thing like that, so the first year we'll just be spectators so we can leave if we need to.
NS I've been using those 3PS quiteca bit lately. Holidays were challenging. So much to do. Watching television makes drinking seem so reasonable. No one gets out of their minds. Embarasses themselves, acts stupidly. Well my addictive voice tells me I can do that too. I know the truth. Stupid thought. Just float on past. It's just these thoughts have been coming a bit more then ususl lately. And I'm putting it down here so I can get it out.
I honestly enjoy my sober life SO much more than my drinking one. I never want to relive that again. Maybe it's that big number coming up. Yep. 1000. Today was 985 so later this month.
Just rambling on.

[treetops]

Thats great that you had a good birthday LB. Again expectations are relevant here too I think. I used to want the most superdooper amazing birthday for myself and for others. Now its OK if its pleasant. This doesnt have to win Oscars. But in honesty I cant just put this down to only being sober - I also see it as something I have grown into with experience and as I have got older. Post-menopause has many advantages!
Also dont dismiss all your thoughts - hold the thoughts that serve you well.
I am as much as possible, living in the moment with my daughter - the 'crisis' over her leaving was a lot more in mid-2015 and I sought some help for me in dealing with this. She needs me a lot at the moment (just to be there and sound off things) as I can see that having left high school and some friends is a bit sad and confusing for her. She doesn't start Uuniversity though until mid Feb.

OK folks - I am watching something now (not right now as I am supposed to be working) I bet you have all seen this before - The Sopranos. I never saw it first (or second) time around. I am not so keen on the gangster angle or the violence but the relationships are very interesting.