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[SHADES_of_IDAHO]

Hi Beagle,
Wow!!! You shared something so real and honest. I am so proud of you!
Stay as wonderful and kind as you are. You are truly a beautiful beagle. After all the parade is coming up. Are you dressing up the dogs? We have a doggie parade here too every summer. It's amazing so see all the beautiful dogs and the creative costumes.
1000 days is 5 days away. So much to be grateful for.
Many blessings sent your way.
SHADES

[peppersnow]

Lil B, Happy Birthday! You are one of the strongest people I know. I appreciate your posts and support very much. Enjoy your birthday!!

My son finished his first year of Uni and now is taking time off to travel, work etc. He is such a nice boy, a gentle soul. I hope he figures things out. I know eventually he will do a trade or go to University but for now he is just not ready for school. We live in such a different world now. I think there are way too many Choices for kids these days and it is so hard to decide on anything.

I am not looking to the -20 degree temps because of my doggie...its no biggie for me but not good for potty training a puppy!

G, I hope you find lots of good information. Once you start looking you will find lots of stuff. It is really interesting. I cannot believe how much we have been influenced by big pharma and big food. Their agenda is about money and not about health.

Nar, I agree with you about the choices - my 18 yo is graduating this spring, and she went into hiding when a bunch of relative were over as she was tired of the well-intended questions. I was laid off several years ago and had a period of unemployment. If everyone I ran into were peppering me with, "Where will you be next fall? What do you want to do with your life? What are your long-term goals?" I think I never would have left the house. There's a lot of pressure on kids to make decisions that are not developmentally appropriate decisions yet (choosing a career or major when you're just 18) and with I think that with the entire world being so much more accessible than when we were young, they get overwhelmed pretty easily. I'm not saying they shouldn't make plans for the short-term...I just think they need more space to be who they are today versus making commitments about who they will be 5 years from now.

[j-vo]

Choices,

This is a good one!
" I felt like saying I'll be 30 days AF soon. Only because I feel proud." Perfect!

Not too much going on here. Glad you had a nice birthday LB. You deserve the best.

TT, it's great you and your daughter have that rapport. Boys are much less likely to talk about anything. It's like pulling teeth for me to get anything out of him most times. I def. have to initiate the conversation.

Kiddos on their way back in. Break is WAY TOO SHORT! Have a good one. Basketball tonight!!

[narilly]

Choices, yes, that is definitely something to be proud about!

Pepper, I try not to ask my son about his goals and all that stuff...I mean what is the point? He gets overwhelmed and bummed out about it. I just want him to be happy and figure out what works for him. My mom pressures him enough for the whole family. I am trying to just let him 'be'.

JVo, break is WAY to short, I agree!

Talk soon,

[lifechange]

Hi Gloamers!

I agree, Choices, you should be really proud of those 30 days coming up.. when is your celebration? It's funny, but in the mornings when I sign in on the roll call, I have to look back to see where I am.. but the rest of the day it just comes to mind.. ahhh, I have... days AF!
I can really relate to what you said about finding the balance between alone time and being lonely.. I try really hard these days not to over plan, even if the meeting/date has nothing to do with alcohol.. just because I know I need a lot of time to myself and people were getting really sick of having me cancel!

LB, sounds like you had a lovely birthday! And just 2 weeks until we get to celebrate your 1000 day anniversary.. looking forward to that!

I'm feeling lucky right now to have kids still 14 and under.. it's good to hear how you all handle the "pressure" situations.. Pepper, I remember well that feeling, when all my relatives (and especially my dad) were drilling me about what I was going to do with my life, going to college, etc. I still tense up a bit when I'm asked about my life/work in a tone that makes me feel I have to defend what I'm doing.. Fortunately it doesn't happen too often!

J-vo, you're sounding well! 2 days in a row is mighty impressive, I say! I did the snooze thing again until 645 this morning.. I was upset with myself at first, but realized that I was just tired and needed the sleep!
I thought of you today because I have a stressful 3 days of interviews beginning tomorrow.. interviews and "observation" of my work. The observation and conversation WHILE working are ok, but I hate being asked specific questions and feeling put on the spot. Today I was asked if it would be ok if the interview was recorded and I said, as long as I don't see a recording device, ok.. otherwise I know I'll react like a deer in the headlights. Frozen. It just reminded me of your recent visitors..

I have to say, I'm feeling much better than I was yesterday.. I have to be ok with the fact that this all just takes time. I'm by nature fairly impatient and I'm finally getting a chance to work on that, and alone! Which is quite scary for me. I've never really been alone.. without a man, I mean. (though I've often been very lonely with one.) And though I'm excited about the change, I'm at times also unsure as to whether or not I'll be ok. In my sane, grounded, 8 am mind I know I will be.. I just have to continue to learn how to cope with the pms week.. this month I have a PLAN! which includes disappearing to a remote island..:happy2: or something to that effect. I'm wondering now how the 3P's works with hormones/extreme physical discomfort, etc.? I know meditation can be used to help.. I'll have to head over and ask..

love to all!

[lifechange]

Hi again!
I was wondering if any of you have experienced this with work... not living up to your full potential?

I was thinking about the anxiety I have about this interview coming up.. I'm pretty sure it stems from the fact that, because of drinking and all the physical/mental problems it caused me, I haven't been nearly as productive at work as I could have been the past 2 years (which is essentially the time period I should be addressing).. I've done the daily thing, that which must be done well.. but at my job, I'm allowed as much freedom and opportunity as I have ideas and motivation.. it's a very lucky place to be and I haven't taken advantage.. not just for myself, but for the betterment of the entire project. There isn't a lot I can do tonight to make up for that time.. but I've decided that I'm going to get some sleep, get up early and stretch, have a coffee and read for a couple of hours.. old plans and ideas, some of which have been started, as well as thinking about the positive things that HAVE been accomplished and the work we are succeeding at on a daily basis.. then I will do my best tomorrow..

[NoSugar]

Here's the line my kindergarten teacher gave me when I was 5 years old and then she needlepointed it on a canvas as a wedding gift years later:

Do your best, forget the rest, and don't worry.

The canvas still sits on my hearth - and I still need to read it!!

xx

[Choices]

Hi everyone just a quick check in.. I'm running on about 4 hours sleep. There are some shops up the street from our house and one of them was broken into. Funnily enough, it was the liquor store., the alarm is so loud that it woke me up.. And I couldn't get back to sleep. This isn't as bad as being hungover but pretty close! (I'm exaggerating a bit). We met a friend and her two kids at the aquarium .. I was going to cancel but there is a playground inside and I figured it would be easier then staying at home. I'm pretty happy my cravings have gone away... Because tired is a huge trigger! I've started my diet again, only because I gained 4kgs this past month getting back on track.. I think I'm 30 days tomorrow. Anyway,,, luckily I prepared all of my meals last night so I can just easily do this, and went shopping yesterday so have food for hubs (Jay) and daughter (Sara). I'm relieved to be through these 30 days.. And I'm glad the chocolate is gone.. I really have not eaten so much trying to quit before. Which is telling me something about coping and compulsion. I feel stronger now.. And my plan is if I get in a pinch like I did when I got tripped up.., I'll go back to plan A.. Which is, do whatever it takes not to drink. Sugar isn't in this diet at all, and I think that will be good to stay away from.. For a while. I just feel like a slug. So I'm excited to do some healthy eating now. Also, my Jay bought tickets for us to go to the USA in June to surprise my mother for her 70th. No harm in thinking about it now. Thank goodness I've quit drinking again, really don't need to be wasting any part of my holiday recovering or being embarrassed... Struggling etc, The vanity part of me just would like to look good, feel good when I see everyone. Also, I need to really work on my resolve for all situations because this is where I fell off the wagon and definitely do not want that to happen ever again!

[little beagle]

I too have people still ask me if I want to do something else with my life. One lady is constantly trying to "find" me a job. Grrrrr! They don't seem to understand I'm happy working for myself and I make more then I would at a job.
LC sounds like you have a good plan.

[Pavati]

Hi, All:

LB - I guess I missed a birthday. Happy happy, my friend. I hope it was spectacular.

I am checking in to say hi but no time to read back. Jumped from vacation into 100 miles an hour at work and home. I hope all is well.

xo
Pav

[j-vo]

LB, people seem to stick their nose in other's business too much.

LC, I'm thinking of you today and hope that the next three days go well for you. I like your morning plan. Don't forget to breathe in between all of that. Sometimes when I go to the bathroom in between classes, I do some deep breathing, and yes, it helps. You can do this my friend! :happy2:

Day 3 exercising, and it's funny, but before I went to bed last night, I was excited for what I'm doing. I like getting up to quiet, spending a bit of time on the computer, then the exercise. My morning doesn't start off rushing to get ready, just easing into the day. And I don't have to struggle with thinking about it after work when I'm exhausted. This is a good deal!

What a sweet Kindergarten teacher, NS. And to think you still have that.:love:

Have a good day all.

[lifechange]

Hi Gloamers!

J-vo, I love it when I get up extra early to enjoy my coffee, MWO, a bit of meditation or yoga.. It's something I look forward to every evening.. and when I press the snooze because I'm too tired, I fully enjoy the lie-in! Never a headache..

I also wanted to thank you for the above, J-vo-- and NS..that actually really helped me this morning as I was getting ready to go. I was so nervous because I was fighting it all in my head, thinking the whole thing was stupid and not wanting to do it at all! But I'm very happy to say that everything worked out just fine.. I didn't let my mind and thoughts get the best of me.. I had to keep reminding myself that my insecurities and anxieties were in my own mind. That I didn't have to live out my bad self image.. so I decided to try and be the Lifechange person I wish I could have been the past couple of years.. to take this as a new beginning. And, first of all, NOTHING came up over which I had tried to worry my head off.. 2nd , I think I succeeded in being that person I want to be (am).. which felt REALLY good. Let's see what comes of it.. the next two days should be easier.

Had to share with all you Ladies and G because you are a huge part of the reason I'm finally getting it.. finding my way out..:hug:

[narilly]

Good morning Gloamers. Hey Lil B, I am glad you have a job you enjoy. I can imagine it is nice to be self employed, I sometimes wish I was. Tell that lady to quit bugging you
The job I have now kinda sucks but I am hoping it will get better once I learn more. I make about 25% less money which definitely effects my job satisfaction.

Pav, nice to see you back and of course you are going 100 miles an hour. Hope to read some posts from you soon.

Way to fit exercise into your day JVo. When I was first sober, exercising really helped. I am sure you feel better

NS, your kindergarten teacher made you that? How sweet. Teachers can change your life and a good teacher is very special...right JVo?

I have been exploring the 3 p's. I try and let negative thoughts just float by and hold on to the positive ones. I want to create a reality that is uplifting and obsessing about things that make me feel bad is wasted time which I can't get back. I like looking through Rose coloured glasses, why not? Its my life.

Today I woke up at 5:40, took care of my dog and came to work. It is so nice to be Un Hung and able to enjoy my life. Although I do have an infected tooth and have to get a root canal in a few weeks. That makes enjoying coffee a bit difficult because the heat kills me! But whatever...at least I can get a root canal and take care of it, I am lucky to be able to do that. I am sure many people in the world could not even afford to get a root canal or live in a place where this is not an option.

Stay sober Gloamers.

Choices, you are doing great.

[NoSugar]

Nar, we wouldn't watch an upsetting movie over and over so why repeatedly relive past events ?- when it changes Nothing! I'm not saying we shouldn't learn from the past but once we've gotten the lesson, why not move on? I'm so glad to hear you're having the same experience I am!

[j-vo]

LC, I'm so happy for you! Glad you were able to let those thoughts go and apply the 3 P's knowledge.

Nar, you sound so great. Happy for my happy friend. Can't you just snort or shoot up the coffee until you get your root canal? OMG. Just Kidding! Get that tooth fixed lady and yes, thank goodness for dental coverage.

What a long day! Almost time for bed. Yay! Worked my butt off today, went to chiropractor after work, and am finally cozying (word or not?) with Ramsay.