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[treetops]

Thats sad about your dog Pav. Take care.

[Choices]

I realised I hadn't checked in today. Great work Jvo your amazing just keep on keeping on with AF. I'm really sorry about your dog pav. So hard to loose a pet. I'm happy to hear of some positive news for you and your mother Jvo. I am tired after a productive day doing mundane things. In a good head space. Hope everyone is well.

[j-vo]

Good morning,

It was a rough night for Mom last night. I posted this in NN:

Mom had a rough night last night. I was right there with her and my dad, providing support to both of them as needed. I would not have been able to be so helpful in my drinking days, and I'm happy I can do this for them. It hurts to see, but I am right there, clear-headed, and emotionally strong when I need to be. Sobriety is a gift, especially right now.

She's extremely tired this morning, and I'm sure she'll have several naps. But again, I'm glad they can count on me.

Have a nice day all.

[jane27]

Hi Gloamers,

A little on the cranky side. (Hubs got on my nerves today). Hopefully tomorrow will be a better day.
xo

[narilly]

Sometimes marriage is tough that is for sure. Its hard but try and focus on the good stuff or the bad stuff will drive you nuts.

JVo, I'm thinking of you. Sorry you are going through such a shitty situation. Hang in there. Thank goodness you are sober.

Pav, So sorry about your dog. That is really hard. Dogs are so precious.

Un Hung here on Monday. Everyday I think of how grateful I am not to be hungover because I had the Worst hangovers. It was totally unbearable. I felt like I had taken poison the night before (which I had). My hangovers were ruining my life and that is why I talk about being Un Hung. I am just so happy to actually feel good.

Have a great Monday everyone.

[jane27]

Nar, you are so right.

[Choices]

I had the worst hangovers too Nar, just ill. Sorry things too a turn Jvo. Your doing so well. I have days like that Jane in my relationship too. I actually haven't really ever heard romantic dog training stories ever. My dad actually had a women end her relationship with him because he just wouldn't do it with her and her dog. And my sister and her husband fought so bad at a dog training school that my sister ended up doing the rest of it on her own and the dog flunked.... Which meant they could do it again... They choose not to, and their dog is such a jerk. My sister still gives her husband the evil eye when the dog is behaving badly. It was his mothers dog, and they inherited the dog when his mom passed away. So, your not alone on the not cutting the mustard spouse on that front... Now he may just need to cut the crap,,, and get more into it... (Forgive the pun)... Or, just really lower your expectations of him.. He did show up. Better then my dad. I get down on my man too sometimes... It helps to vent. Your writing is so vivid.. I couldn't help but laugh.. Because I've so been there. Not with dog training.. But other things. A good friend of mine told me years ago to do what Nar suggested. It does help. But don't get me started on clean laundry baskets and wet shower towels!!! I hope everyone is doing well. I'm good. I've started swimming every morning in the bay. Well, more walking in and then dunking myself in and getting out. Yesterday it was really windy so there were more waves. I feel a little scared of the sea. (Growing up landlocked)... The feeling was dizzy in a good way.. And once my head is under I just love how it takes me out of myself. I see elderly wrinkled women doing this every morning all year long with huge smiles.. Might be something to it.

[narilly]

Good morning everyone. Hope you are all feeling good this morning. I am Un Hung and happy to be that way. I already walked my dog...sort of. It is -8 so really I carry him most of the walk. I can hardly wait for it to warm up so he can actually walk.
I went out with my girlfriends on Sat. night and they ordered wine. I was kind of caught off guard because I 'forgot' they would be ordering it. I just ordered my soda and did not think much about the fact I could not drink. It is nice not to obsess. It is true, the longer you are sober the easier it is not to drink. At least it seems that way for me. I guess all those old habits related to drinking have changed so there are less triggers. Thank goodness! We will win the battle

[Choices]

Hi everybody,
I like that this is early days, or early months but I can feel a shift in my old habits too Nar. It feels so freeing. My husband mentioned he had a beer on his way home from work to celebrate his year anniversary at his new job. I didn't realise I did this but I gave him a disgusted look. He got defensive and asked if I was mad. I wasn't, well at first I misunderstood .., I thought he was saying he was going to drink a beer at home. (I still can't believe there isn't an open container law here). And, I just don't really want him drinking in front of me... I'm just not strong enough to handle it.. Yet. But mostly the look was because I thought it sounded really gross. Not him, but the beer. I'm so glad my off switch is working. Now I just have to get more of a poker face. He has cut back heaps. Probably only has 3-6 beers a week now. So really supportive

[j-vo]

Jane, hope all is going better today for you.

Nar, Unhung is the best, isn't it? Everyday we can have that. Everyday we will have it. I'm grateful, too.

Choices, my husband doesn't drink much either, and if he has a few on the weekends, that's all. When I was drinking, he was drinking along with me. But not nearly as much. He never drank during the week and would get angry at me when I did. Life is much better at home as is our relationship.

I splurged on a massage at the fitness center this morning. It was the best massage I think I've ever had. Or maybe I just appreciated it so much more. Don't know, but if I had enough money, I'd do that once a month. I might try, as I'm sure I drank more away than I'd spend on a massage! I'm sure of it.

LB, congrats on your 1,000 days. You're awesome and I'm glad we're on this journey together. I hope you celebrate with some cake or something special. You deserve it! :hug:

[little beagle]

J-vo my celebration is a nice, quiet, hot bath. Ahhhh. It's the small things sometimes. I turned off the TV in the family room, hubby is back in his man cave and it's Quiet. Relaxing. Thank you.
Choices I love the ocean. I cry when I have to come home from visiting. It's like saying goodbye to a really good friend and I'm never sure when I'll be able to visit again. The time there is tooo short, the time away tooo long.

[treetops]

Happy thousands to you LB. I am a great fan of the hot bath. I treat myself to things to put in the water and love it when my daughter buys me bath salts and such like.
I really love the ocean too - but I am in awe of it. It can be very dangerous and powerful - we have some amazing waves and cliffs and beaches here in New Zealand and the Pacific. I have been through some very rough seas and I have had friends who have drowned. Rough seas, drowning often figure in my nightmares and I sort of get a shudder sometimes - so as I said, I respect the ocean and am very cautious.

[Choices]

Jvo a massage is just what the dr ordered for you I believe. Even if you could every other month. I like the once a month idea though. Especially when times are tough.

Congrats Little B! 1000 days is awesome ! I well done. I also love baths.. I put essential oil in it and almond oil. Sometimes rose water.

I am in awe of the sea. I literally can't go further then below my waist. I just bend down to get my head under. I'd like to actually swim but too scared, and where I'm doing it is on the eastern side in a bay. The west coast beaches are so raw magical and intense . I'm sorry you lost friends to drowning TT. That is a tragedy . I'm scared of sharks too... But I don't think they are too common where I'm at... Until one shows up I guess. That 7 meter one in Australia is really scary.

[lifechange]

Hi Gloamers!
I've been a bit MIA here.. and now I'm flying by on my way to work..
but I wanted to say hi and I'd love to hug you all! Now that I'm more or less on my own, I'm finding that's what I miss the most about my ex (with whom I still live but can't really hug)... he might be the best hugger ever. So now I'm looking to whomever will have me!:happy2: Thankfully my daughters are great huggers, as are some of my friends/colleagues.. and I'm trying to learn to self-hug.. but so far it's not the same!

LB, Congratulations on 1000 days.. amazing.
that sounds like a wonderful way to celebrate! Like you all, I love baths and all the special salts and oils that go with them..

So, this evening I have time to read back and catch up with you all..
very much looking forward!

[STEADFAST]

Congratulations on 1000, Little Beagle! :hug: That must mean I'm around the 1000 day mark, too. April 29 is the anniversary, I know that much. Yes, bubble baths are a great treat. I used to keep vodka hidden in the bathroom cupboard so I could "top up" in there, so glad that's all behind me.

Best wishes to all Gloamers,
Steady