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[Guitarista]

and the dog flunked....

Hi Gloamers.

Lol Choices.

There sure is something about swimming in the sea. Refreshed, reborn, reinvigorated! No walls or barriers, just the horizon. :happy2:

Big waves to all (pardon the pun).

[j-vo]

I love the beach, but to swim in the ocean, not my thing.

I'm a great aunt as of yesterday! My sister is a grandma! We have a new healthy baby boy in our family. He's gorgeous and a big newborn. Weighed in at 8 lbs 14 ounces! Here's to spoiling him like there's no tomorrow!

[lifechange]

Hi again, Gloamers!

Congratulations, J-vo!!! How nice to have a new baby in the family.. do they live near by? And your sister? I can't remember how far away she lives from you..? That's really exciting news..
Are you still with your parents or are you back home now? I can imagine how grateful you must be to be able to be fully present for them now..

Choices, I really had to laugh at your dog training stories.. damn! I couldn't find what Jane posted about her experience.. Red looks like such a sweetheart, but with a touch of trouble maker as well! Choices, I would love to be one of those wrinkly ladies swimming every morning in the ocean! But I also have a healthy fear of it..We have tons of lakes around here and the fresh water suits my skin better.. but I'm also a bit afraid at times of what might be lurking underneath! Try not to think too much about it.. You are sounding so well.. I enjoying reading your posts, hearing about your progress..

I wanted to tell you all about a very important encounter I had yesterday with a very dear friend/love. We hadn't been in contact for about 6 weeks because he didn't want to see me after I'd somewhat out of the blue decided I couldn't be with him any more romantically. We'd been very close and spending a lot of time together for a few months, most of it while I was still drinking.. though in the last 5 weeks most of our time was spent sober..after I'd told him that I didn't want to drink, but hadn't explained the extent of my problem (or even that i had one)with it. I think, now, because I wanted to keep an open door.. we had so much fun going out the first weeks when I still seemed to have it "under control"...the last weeks, though beautiful when we were together, I was more moody with him and confused in general.. feeling great about the decision to have my final quit, but conflicted about how it would change what we had.. so I bagged the whole relationship. Which is what I felt I had to do.. at the time, I couldn't do it differently. (Pre-3P's :happy2 And I must have known he was the perfect person to do it with.. not an enabler, not a game player.. he just listened to what I said I wanted and dealt with himself and what he had to do. Which allowed/forced me to do the same for myself..It's been a short amount of time, I know.. it feels much longer.
Anyway, yesterday we met up and talked for a few hours.. about everything except the drinking. It was crazy, but before our meeting it crossed my mind to postpone for some evening when we'd be able to drink a beer and relax and go back to how it was...I got up my guts and met him but I felt like I was still holding the door open..?? At some point, an hour before I had to leave, I said, in my "defence" that I knew the source of my problems, my insecurities, my craziness, my instability, my depression, my sadness and that it didn't actually have anything to do with him..He asked then, naturally, well then what is it? I was so scared to say it.. I really thought I would cry and I wasn't sure if I should tell him because I didn't have any sort of "security" that our friendship would carry on. When I said that I wasn't sure if I could tell him, he asked me whether or not I trusted him.. and I decided I did, at least as an honest, decent human being and then I told him the whole story. He said he'd had no idea that it was so bad and asked some questions and understood.. It felt so amazing to tell the whole truth to someone I care so much about without the fear of rejection or the unknown.. without expectations. As I was trying to decide whether or not I should tell him, all those things went through my mind.. plus a bit of shame and why me? returned for a moment.
Let's see. We left things with a plan to see each other again in a couple of weeks.
Such a long post, I know.. but it was very important for my forward march! And for my soul!

Love to all you wonderful Ladies and G!

I'm also sooooo grateful each and every morning when I awaken..

[narilly]

Life, that is cool that you were able to share that with this friend. I imagine it will bring you closer and I can understand how scary it must have been. Yikes!

1000 days for Lil B! Yippee!

I love hot baths and have one almost every night. It really helps me sleep and is part of my nightly ritual. I have lots of different bath oils and stuff I put in there.
The Ocean is beautiful and I have respect for it. It usually scares the SHIT out of me...just sayin' but it is beautiful. G, it is so cool how much you love it. I am sure it is awesome to swim in it all the time. I do love swimming in a pool though

My hubby and I get along SO much better since I quit drinking. He drinks way less too. I think he has a bit of a problem with it when he drinks a few he has trouble stopping. He is not a problem drinker like me though. He can have one and stop. It is amazing how much my drinking affected everyone else around me and they drank more because of my influence.

Talk later. Weather is going above 0 tomorrow. Oh yeah!

[j-vo]

My husband drank more because of me, too, Nar, but not nearly as much and not as frequent as I did. Mostly, he got mad at me. Really mad.

LC, that's awesome. So wonderful to let that go to someone you trust. I hope your next meeting goes well. My whole family knows about my drinking issues, and they're happy for me that I'm not. I sure would have been a complete waste if I'd come down to help Dad and was drinking. I'm grateful I can give them all of the 'good' me.

My sister lives near me. I'm not back yet, and if there's a snowstorm, maybe I I can stay in the warm a bit longer!! But I can't wait to get back to see Mr. J-vo and son and my new great nephew!!!! He's a beautiful baby.

I have a hot tube I'd gotten several years ago. I think it's about time I begin to use that again to reduce my stress levels. It's so amazing when I do get in.

Have a good night all. Stay warm.

[little beagle]

Quick check in for me. Miserable cold. But I'm here.

[jane27]

Hi Gloamers,
Just got a call that my Dad is in the hospy. He had a stroke. Little numb over here but I will get through this.xxx

[treetops]

Take care Jane. That must be a shock. Keep us posted XXX

[jane27]

Thanks TT. One foot in front of the other- that's my fallback procedure right now.

[NoraC]

Hi Gloamers,
Just got a call that my Dad is in the hospy. He had a stroke. Little numb over here but I will get through this.xxx

Jane - I am so sorry to hear this. :hug: :hug:

[Choices]

I'm very sorry to hear about your Dad Jane. Sending strength your way.

I'm in a strange bummer mood.. kinda sad. But I think it's hormonal. And it's really hot. So I feel house bound. My daughter was so understanding yesterday, as I had absolutely no energy to do anything but watch TV cartoons with her. She must of been hot too but didn't complain at all. And just played by my feet. Or wanted to sit near me. I'm so glad I've made this healthy decision. I can really feel how much better I am at parenting even when I'm kinda slacking. It's ok for her to entertain herself.. but I felt like a flattened pancake. So, I bought a fan today.... whooohooo.. exciting stuff.

[Guitarista]

Nice stuff Choices. Keep cool.

Jane, how is your dad? Any news? Take care of yourself my friend.

Big waves to all!

[j-vo]

Awe Jane. I'm very sorry to hear this. Prayers coming your way. Keep us posted.

Still here with my folks until tomorrow. My sister is coming next week and I'm so glad. I hate to think of them here by themselves. Mom started on the cough assist machine yesterday and it's suppose to help. It's the little things that really bother me such as Mom not being able to engage in conversation like I know she wants to but just can't. Like her becoming exhausted after the most easy tasks. I helped her with simplifying her emails and passwords for my Dad today. It was a long task, but she slept for two hours afterwards. And the smallest things that get done, she feels relieved. What seems like not anything important is REALLY important for her to get it done. And it breaks my heart. I know she'll be shying away more and more from social gatherings like the bingo, because getting her in the room amongst all the people is hard, then when people come up to her, she can hardly speak, I know this bothers her as it would anyone. It makes my stomach turn, makes me emotional. I hate this disease. Sorry for the rambling. Gosh I'm sorry. I guess that's what therapists are for and site is for alcohol.

Well, here's an alcohol related thing. Mom is becoming more and more trapped by her body. She can't go places, can't eat normally, just can't live and do the normal, everyday things that most people take for granted, including me. Her quality of life has gone down significantly. Her quality of life is reduced to relying on people, being stuck in the house more and more. And how are alkies any different? Our quality of life, actively drinking was significantly reduced also. As a drinker, I shied away from social situations, hid in my house, and I was trapped in my body like my mom is. Mom doesn't have a choice as this disease is attacking her nerves. Alcohol attacked our bodies and minds, and we have a choice to take it off the table forever and live and love the little, simple things in life. Eat a hamburger, interact with someone, work, work out, smile at someone, clean the house, watch a basketball game, help someone. This is what life is. Live it. Living a life of alcohol is no quality of life.

[Guitarista]

Hi Jvo. I reckon this site has become something more than just about alcohol. Keep yapping.

I wish peace and comfort for you and your family.

[TJAF]

Jane I'm sorry about your Pop! Hope you have support and love around you now.