Ladies on a Mission: The Official Site

[Pavati]

Hi, All:

Coincidentally, I posted this in the nest tonight. I think it is fitting here:
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(trigger alert - violence mentioned in this post)
I was listening to a Bubble Hour the other day and they talked about a saying from Mike Tyson - "everybody has a plan until they get punched in the face." It made me laugh out loud. Life does keep punching us in the face, so while a plan is good, you need a plan for when the plan falls through. And if all else fails, you need a plan for who to call to talk you through that punch in the face. Don't know if that resonates with anyone else, but it did with me.

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I was thinking about life being lifey. This is a great group of strong women - I'm glad to be here with you all.

Choices - I am so glad you got rid of that stuff - and got to see your friend along the way. What good CHOICES!

J-Vo - That is so scary to hear. Yes, I worry about my sons, but I have tried VERY hard to not let it unduly get in my way. I hope your son is ok, too.

Nora - great to see you pop in. LB, You, too.

Nar - Yes, reduced drinking seems to be "in" these days. People are more curious about me sometimes because they want to know how I "did it." That's when I feel a bit guilty that I don't go into detail. I don't want them to think, "oh, just a piece of cake..."

And thanks, NS. I can't imagine growing up without alcohol at the center of EVERYTHING as it was for me. I mean it was the center of nearly every event in my life - except child birth I guess.

I have to go to bed now.

Night, Gloamers.

xo
Pav

[j-vo]

Great work, Choices. You were able to talk through this, take the choice literally off the table, and once you did, you were relieved. It's never worth the risk of keeping it in the house, and you taught me that if I ever get a bottle, I'll regift right away. Although, my husband was always really good at hiding the wine or any alcohol in the house! Yep, he had to do that.

Pav, great post. Mike Tyson...everybody has a plan until they get their ear bit off is more like it!

I made it to 100 days today. I'm proud of this progress, and ready for more. Lately, I'm really feeling that this sober life is so right for me, no doubts at all.

[treetops]

100 is a lucky number J-Vo!
Nite nite everyone sleep calls.

[Choices]

Well done jvo! 100 days! Extra challenging ones for you as well! Your such an inspiration.

So, it is 11:30 pm here and I am very relieved I am not on my second bottle right now. I am slowly letting go of the devil on my shoulder. I was almost in hell again.

Pav, I do relate to the punch in the face.. Plan stuff. I think my addiction brain or whatever goes on in my head overrides my plan. And the voice of me bargains, turns its back, goes to sleep, doesn't care.. It's really compulsive. I am so visual too .. Even an empty beer box with a label can trigger me into thinking good times. I'm this way with scenes in movies that disturb me too.. It's like they get on a loop and I can't stop being upset. I don't think I'm making much since. My head is so tired resisting temptation. I really would have been at square one tomorrow. Thank goodness I'm not!

[Choices]

Good morning (from my time zone) I'm just checking in completely sober and unhung would be the word!!! I made it. Very pleased. Very. Having that away from me is for the best. I've forgotten now what it looks like and don't care about it less and less. Amazing. Hope everyone is well. This mission is very worth it!

[treetops]

Morning also! Try to get some new images in your mind instead of AL. Just keep busy as well but don't overwhelm yourself.
Remember an empty beer box is just a piece of cardboard with logos on it. I find a good trick is to deconstruct what the thing is that I am craving. That is , think of the component parts and separate them from the whole. I used to do this when I was dieting - I made myself think about the separate ingredients in a piece of cake. Often it's a pretty yucky image. Doesn't always work but if you mentally remove the object from its glory then it can take on a whole different image,

[narilly]

Pav, that made me laugh! Everyone has a plan until they get punched in the face...and then their ear bitten off, is that right? lol
I think that is a great saying. We can go along with our sober lives and just go day by day and then WHAMMO we get punched in the face and have to deal with it SOBER! Can't use our old crutch of AL anymore and we have to come up with strategies to deal with it. Our only strategy used to be 'get hammered'. JVo, you are doing so well getting through your mom's illness and staying away from the bottle. I am proud of your 100 days.

Go JVo Go!!

Way to go Choices, throwing out the booze. I like your deconstruction TT.

Have a great sober Wednesday.

[j-vo]

100 days parties! I had some kids in for lunch and we had a hot chocolate party today. Yes, we know how to party! These girls are the 'mean' girls in the class, and I'm trying to show them their softer side. Ain't easy, but most of the time, hot chocolate does the trick.

TT, I like how you 'break it down.' Very interesting. Triggers are just the idea of something. We don't have to react to them, and that's a good thing.

Have a great night all.

[Guitarista]

You are the most badass at your school Jvo. Those kids will learn a lot from you. Congrats again on 100 big ones!

Speaking of lunch, I'm starving. Off for a run then some healthy tucker. :flip:

[little beagle]

I'm proud of you J-vo. 100 days. That was my first really big goal. Congratulations. Thanks for that idea TT. I'm really trying to diet. I'll use that.

[narilly]

Chocolate party, oh yeah that is my kind of partay!
Those kids are lucky to have such a good teacher.

Un Hung and feeling good here. Love to feel good all day, what a treat...I feel like I was hung over for 30 years. Seriously, my face was perpetually swollen!

Have a good one!

xo

[j-vo]

Me too, Nar. And I'm seeing good results from drinking lots of water and green tea. I feel like my face glows a bit!

[little beagle]

I'm sure it does J-vo. You are sounding strong.
Nar I think I was hung over for 30 years too.
Sorry I haven't been saying much lately. I'm working some things out in my head. I think I'm going to have to leave my hubby. Or make him leave. I just can't keep letting him fall on me. Support his using. This is very difficult. Not really sure how yo deal with this and my four dependants. I am a bit overwhelmed. Oh well, one day at a time. And I'm not overstressing because that defiantly won't help.

[treetops]

LB I am truly sorry that you have had to deal with this for so long. If you leave hubby or he leaves, will you have support from your children - I mean emotional support?
Sending you strength to deal with this, one day at a time.
XX

[Pavati]

Hi, all:

LB - so sorry for what you're going through. We're here for you, too. I can't imagine what that is like. My friend and her husband are separating - alcohol is the culprit - and trying to figure out how to pay the bills is a major stressor in her life. She can't take it any more, either. I am sure you have a network - make sure you ask for the help that you'll need.

Mrs. J-Vo's Hot Chocolate Lunch. Sounds delightful.

Nar - my husband and I were looking back at old photos recently - SO MUCH PUFFINESS! Hard to believe. I do feel a bit more wrinkly, however, without the puffiness to fill everything in...

Glad you're feeling better, Choices.

Night. Too tired to chat.

xo
Pav