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[patrice]

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Good for you, stand your ground. God.. work is just filled with characters that you really don't want to spend 8 hours a day with but have to...

My son is fine now, he bounces back pretty quick.
I'm finally back on track again, just have to gather the momentum. All i know is that I have to drive to pick my son up so I won't be drinking today.. It's that old ODAT thing again. One thing I am learning though Ava, is that i have to find something to do with my spare time which increases a lot when you don't drink. I like checking in here but then I spend all night online and it makes me feel quite sluggish!!

Speaking of which, I found an interesting website Alcohol, Drug Addiction and Recovery News | Resources – The Fix
It's all about addiction, lots of interesting articles..

Yeah, the lozenges are fast acting, really good so far for energy

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Its hard to amuse ourselves when we dont drink especially when we were so focused on it. I wish i could focus on other things as much as i did al. Have you watched the al doco's on youtube they are a real eye opener and so very sad. when i first watched them i thought to myself "oh i am not that bad", now i watch them and think "thank god i did not get an al related disease". Luck of the draw and i was so lucky. Being online is better than drinking. I spend my time watching tv now and online also but for the moment that is okay.

that site looks interesting for a read will check it out in more detail later. Going to try and have an early night tonight as i am so tired. i need to stop drinking coffee before bed but i dont listen to myself!

[patrice]

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Yes, I'm watching more TV which is fine.. Just got the sport channel for my son so been watching a bit of the tennis..
Yes I also feel very lucky I stopped before any big damage was done ( well that I know of..)
I think with time and healing.

I try and stop the coffee by 4pm.. i just can't sleep
Have a great rest Ava, you'll feel super fresh tomorrow!

[Starfish1]

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G'day, Ladies!

Quick check in from me today. I have to go out of town for a couple days for work, but will combine a visit with my family (three sisters), since my meeting is in my old home town. I am very excited and I will NOT drink!
Just a funny story about MY dreams last night. I know we have all been plagued with these damn drinking dreams of late, but LAST night, I dreamt of the one and only Byrdlady and her three year celebration. In my dream, she actually came to visit me. Well lots of crazy stuff happened, but I bet you can guess there was NO alcohol involved in that dream. So all we gotta do is dream of Byrdlady every night. She will keep us straight even in our dreams! Thanks, Byrdie!
Oh, I will try to check in as much as possible over the next few days, but will be limited and just trying to use my phone. I'll be back Wednesday afternoon and I think that will be day 7 for me!
Lots of love!

[j-vo]

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Star, you sound so strong! Yes! Keep in touch when you're away!

Patrice, do you like to do any needle work or knitting...? I used to do counted cross stitch and enjoyed. I think I need strong reading glasses to be able to do that again! Def find something to fill up your time. And yes, I find myself on here lots and lots and get very sluggish. But I think it's something I need to do to keep myself on track, although I do need to get my butt up off the couch in between posts!


Dottie Belle, that's huge!!! Good for ya!

[j-vo]

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Pav!!!!!

Cograts on your 50 days today, sista! You're a rock star!

[NoSugar]

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Congratulations, Pav! Enjoy your day .

[narilly]

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Pav! You go girl! 50 days...yahoooo!!! Oh yea, uh huh, uh huh...!

Patrice- I take vitamin B complex and find that if I don't take it I really notice that i am a bit more tired. I really think it makes a difference in how I feel and its not just psychological. My vitamin guy says it is a gateway vitamin and enhances absorbtion of other vitamins.
Way to go Dottie! That is an accomplishment!

Ava, we are ALL lucky aren't we? It is so good to be AF! I am glad you are here babes.

J-Vo, is your picture all of us watching a basketball game? You sound great, by the way.

Star, have a great time with your sisters, glad you don't drink!

Humble, NS, SL, ALL,
Big hugs,

[narilly]

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NS, love the picture!

[narilly]

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Gals,
I was channel surfing the other night and I landed on a movie called "Paul Ballart, Mall Cop". This is a movie I would never normally watch but I just started watching it a bit and it is a GOOD MOVIE for us to watch as a reminder of what happens when we drink too much. It shows a guy giving him a drink and he says "I don't drink" then he proceeds to get just hammered and acts stupid etc. Anyway, it is a good reminder. It is totally over the top but it is still a good reminder for all of us who have had blackouts etc.

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Yeah, our Pav is a cutie, isn't she Narilly ?

I've heard that movie is pretty funny and I like the actor from a TV show he used to be in. Thanks for the recommendation.

Well, I get to go hiking today so it will be in honor of 50-day AF Hiker Pav.

[Starfish1]

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Woohoo, Pav!!!!! Way to go!!!!:wd::wd::wd:

[Pavati]

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Hi, Loamers!

Thanks for the congratulations. I honestly don't think I could have done it without you all - I feel so comfortable here, sharing my successes AND my struggles - it is a great place to contemplate sobriety as well as life. Thanks from the bottom of my heart for all you have done for me. I still remember that first day after the Thanksgiving Massacre when J-vo told me about this thread - you were all so welcoming, funny and sincere. THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU!

Here's what I posted in the Nest:

I honestly can't believe that I am happily at day 50. Once it finally clicked in my brain that I had to stop drinking alcohol in order to have the life I want to have - a relationship with my kids and husband, a good job, health - I knew I could probably make it sober for a while, but I honestly thought it would be a white knuckle journey of pain until I just accepted that life was less fun because I have a problem with alcohol.

Surprise, surprise (shouldn't have been a surprise as I had read here enough), life is GOOD without alcohol. I have fun, laugh, enjoy food, contemplate life, cry, get angry - all just the same as when I was drinking AND I wake up after a good night's sleep (no GSR at 3am) with NO hangover and no disappointment in myself. Of course it is not all fairies and glitter - it is hard work sometimes, frustrating and sad - but like Byrdie says, I haven't had those bad days last longer than 24 hours.

The difference for me was surrendering to the fact that I can't drink (read NS's link from yesterday). I used to be able to go extended periods of time without before, but I was essentially white knuckling and counting the days until I could drink again - that made living without alcohol seem like it was going to be terrible. By contrast, accepting that I can't drink made me focus on life instead of when I "get" to drink next, allowing me to heal and move on.
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Yes, NS, I am going hiking to celebrate, too. Thanks for the picture! Have a great time on yours - such a good way to get exercise! I like the idea of looking at the problem clinically - I am a very emotional person - I actually do KNOW logically that I can't drink, so why waste time and why give it the attention? I gave up wheat after discovering I have an allergy (annoying but not life threatening or anything). I still can't look at a loaf of sour dough without my mouth watering - I'm not yet at the acceptance stage of that addiction!

Nar - Like your song. I take a B vit, too, and D. And lots of fresh air. Hope you're thawing out up there.

Star - sounding strong. I wish I would have Byrdie dreams instead of AL dreams. Last night for me it was a crazy quest to find something to trim my nose hair :blush:. I LOVE getting older...

Dottie - you sound great. I am looking forward to the days when I can think about alcohol less.

J-Vo - thanks for the encouragement and for getting me here to this thread in the first place. Hope you have a nice day off today.

Ava - glad you told that guy off at work. I feel more confident in a lot of ways - I know I'm not forgetting anything and I know I don't have red eyes, smelly breath, etc. Keep it up.

Patrice - I have taken to reading again - I LOVE getting lost in a good book. Also, as you can tell, hiking and playing games with my family.

Ann, SL, hope you are well!

It is Martin Luther King, Jr. day here in the US. A great day for contemplating peace, love and humanity. Stay strong, Loamers - onward and upward.

[giraffe1234]

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Belated congrats from me too Pavati. Your posts are always an inspiration. Well done to you.

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Hello Loamers

Well god damn i had a drinking dream last night, Pav i am totally blaming you lol. It was a blur although i do remember chugging down the al and thinking it was ok and i would not tell anyone so i was fine. Mind you i also woke up feeling like i had a hangover, dont miss those days.

Dot what a fine feeling that must be, i cant wait for that day i must say.

Star have a great time away, we will miss you but nice to spend time with fam if they dont drive you too nuts.

Nar hello lovely hope that weather has warmed up and you have stopped skating to work, mind you great exercise.

Jvo i am so not old enough for needlepoint and god i would not be able to see what i was doing and i dont have the patience for that. i am just lazy and i admit that!

NS happy hiking, i will be hiking my way to work in the peak hour traffic, it is now getting back to normal and i so dislike driving for an hour to work but take my travel mug for the journey.

Pav what a great post and yes its not easy is it but it is so worth it. I knew i could rely on you to nearly do a thank you post nearly a page long, go girl. I love your posts and you and so proud of what you have achieved. Its great to be normal and as someone said before it is better for us as we have come out of a fog and now get such enjoyment out of what we see and do and experience.

Well as usual i am running late for work. god it used to be fb that kept me occupied but mwo is the place to be, if only they could put in a LIKE button my life would be complete.

Take care everyone, some great big days wracking up now and such positive vibes.