Ladies on a Mission: The Official Site

[Pavati]

Hi, All:

I hope the Gloamers haven't run the course. I love coming to this familiar place to check in and re-tune. I am guilty of not posting as much. I have a big work thing going on which is fun and exciting but takes a lot of my time. Also, my kids use our two computers for homework, and often I am in bed before they are done!

I had a drinking dream last night that made me feel blech, but the weird part is that in my dream is was justifying "one or two" to myself, and telling myself I could handle it. Usually my drinking dreams involve guilt and horror over drinking. Here to remind myself that HORROR is it. Drinking was NOT good for me.

LB - Sorry you were sick, and I'm glad you got the help you needed.

Mr. G - GREAT to see you here. Get back on that sober horse and giddyup!

Nar - Seeing live music sober was one of the biggest surprises to me. I actually (and I'm not just saying this) prefer to see music sober. I get to experience it more truly, and I don't have to miss anything going to the bar or going to the bathroom. Have a great time.

Everyone else - happy Sober Sunday.

XO
Pav

[treetops]

Morning. I dont think we have run our course - threads wax and wane. I am guilty of having gone 'visiting' and posting elsewhere - partly cos it was more lively there. But if you look back over the past month there have been important times when I hope we have given support - i.e. Nar, LB, Choices and as Pav, says we all, regardless of where we are in the recovery thing, prone to irritations like drinking dreams, the 'what-ifs' and the niggles. I also think that we are very busy here and some doing quite a bit of travelling or dealing with others who are ill.
I am off to a funeral now, not a close friend but a workmate and a very nice person.

[Guitarista]

Hi Gloamers,

TT, I hope the funeral went as well as these things can.

Hope you're having a good one there LB.

Safe travels there SB.

On track here and feeling positive on day 9.

Big waves to y'all!

[little beagle]

Long afternoon nap. Finally.
I like this thread and will continue to post.
Pav I really like after I wake up from those dreams and realize it WAS just a dream.
Have a good trip NS. And squeeze in some fun. Hit the beach if you can.
Night all.

[treetops]

Morning all - well is it? Had a very rough nite with not a lot of sleep - its all the work deadlines over the next 6 weeks and these are biggies. I know a decent sleep would make me more productive but you cant force yourself to sleep. I will have to get through the day on semi auto-pilot and hope I get some sleep tonight.
Hope your trip is going well NS. And that you stay healthy this week LB.
Hi there Mr G - and Pav (another person with big work projects).
Not sure how J-Vo is, and Jane said she was preoccupied. Nar and Choices - it might be nice to have you check-in.
How are you doing Eloise and all others?
Sorry I sound like I am doing roll call - bit boring when I am in this work-mode but I care about how everyone is doing.

[narilly]

Hi everyone, I think TT is right, our thread ebbs and flows. We still help and support each other which is great. The Gloamers are my old friends and I will keep on coming back

El, my puppy is awesome. He is so cute and funny as Daschund puppies are! I love the little guy to pieces. My hubby works one week on site and one week at home so I need a little weenie around when he is gone...haha!

Lil B, what? You were in the hospital? I hope you are feeling better and I am so glad you are not drinking.

Nice to hear that work is good Pav and NS I am glad that you don't care about the wine. I don't care either because I don't drink!

Hello G, 7 days but who is counting? It is probably 9 or 10 now!

xo
Keep coming back Gloamers!

[Eloise]

Awesome Nar, enjoy the little rascal!!!!

Feeling a little better, NS, thanks.

[NoSugar]

Took a tandem bike ride for a couple hours this morning along the beach with my husband and now I'm sitting by the pool so I really can't complain that this has been all work and no play. Tonight is yet another cocktail reception. Last time I was here they didn't have anything like sparkling water available at the reception (just Coke). Weird, huh? So I asked them to go get some from the restaurant part. We shouldn't have to put up with being treated like second class citizens just because we choose not to drink! We'll see tonight if they've caught up with the real world in which many people prefer not to drink soda pop or booze.

I'm glad there's still interest in this thread!

[little beagle]

Many bartenderstudents here get an attitude if you ordee a specialty NA drink. This isn't a snowball stand! So I know what you mean NS.
Narilly glad you're having so much fun with your little dude.
TT hope you get more rest. I truly know how important that is!

[treetops]

LB - I must be wicked cos life is not allowing me to have much rest. Another deadline came my way today - its something I have to a apply for (and want) but the person who was supposed to send this info on to me had not bothered to do so. I managed to negotiate an extension but it was pretty annoying.
NS - Hope you get something other than pop or fruit juice. Yes it is damned annoying how we dont get catered for at fancy events or work things. Sparking water is like how expensive? It doesn't have to cost the earth. Then, moan, if they do bring - they put it in a regular tumbler and not a fancy one.
Add being a vegetarian to the sober options at these events and you can see why I carry a muesli bar in my handbag.
Good to see you Nar and no you damned well dont drink.

[STEADFAST]

Hi Gloamers,

Firstly, LB, sorry you were so unwell as to need hospital. From your recent threads I'm gleaning that you're feeling a bit better now; I hope so! :hug:

NoSugar, it's good to hear you're enjoy the AF travelling! It's funny that there aren't more AF drinks on offer at many places - after all, if they were to make more exotic AF drinks they could make more money out of us!

Have been feeling pretty low lately, and must confess have taken a couple of Valium tonight. That's something to watch or I'll wind up addicted to them like I was with Al.

It's hard to shrug off the blues as the anniversary of my Dad's death approaches, the weather in Australia becomes cooler and the days shorter, and I get burned out visiting my Mum. It's hard emotional work to witness her decline (Alzheimers.) Middle age sure has its challenges!

I'll end with some gratitude: I DON'T drink, I live in a first world country & have a nice partner, friends and a job. Very importantly, there is the camaraderie and support to be found on threads such as this.

Wishing everyone well,
Steady

[narilly]

Hey Steady, hang in there. We are here for you.

NS, yes the non alcohol drinks are not so easy to get sometimes. I stayed at a 5 star resort in the Rockies a few months ago and I had to pay $3.50 for freakin soda water. Geez!

SF, sorry you are feeling so blah. We are hangin in for sure. I know sometimes it is really hard not to eat sugar!

TT, I think you are a little wicked...haha I guess- no rest for the wicked.

Well, I am doing well. My hubby is going back to work for a week and now I can watch anything I want on TV, oh yeah. Its nice when he is here and nice when he leaves! No drinking thoughts here and I am looking forward to waking up everyday Un Hung.
I coloured my hair the other day and am getting it cut on Saturday so I am looking good too...lol.

I am thinking of JVo and SL, hope they are both ok. :heartbeat:

Talk to youz later.

[little beagle]

Good to see you Steady. My quit partner. Yep. I'm sorry your having a tough time. It's rough watching your mom struggle. But I am glad you have gratitude.
SF. I hope the blah's pass quickly.

[Pavati]

Hi, All:

I have had a series of crazy things happen to me, each of which would have sent me over the edge, and to the bottle, when I was drinking. Now I am able to ACTUALLY be grateful for other things that transpired BECAUSE of those things, and I am able to understand that a couple of unfortunate events are actually not going to kill me, and I can get through it all. Without drinking. THANK goodness. The attitude of gratitude and faking it until it is real (willingness) seem to be working. Imagine that, people here telling the truth.

Nar, I miss SL and J-Vo, too. And Jane. Hope all is good with the OG gloamers.

Night,
Pav

[NoSugar]

Back home, I'm happy to say.

I'm sorry you're down, Steady and SFx. One metaphor from the 3 Principles reading I've been doing the last several months has really helped me: no matter what is going on around us and how we think/feel about it, deep within us we are all fine and healthy just like no matter how awful the weather or gray the skies, just beyond those gray clouds, the sky is blue and the sun is shining. I love that experience flying when you take off on a miserable day and within minutes pop up into the beautiful sky. What appeared to be heavy gray clouds look so fluffy and white from above.

Sometimes our personal gray clouds seem to magically disappear like that but more often, the clouds shift, bits of sun show through, and eventually the "weather" changes. That's the part I try to keep in mind - my thoughts and feelings constantly are changing so I don't have to get all worked up when they aren't what I wish they were. I know I'm going to be fine. And I believe you are, too. We all have innate health and wisdom just like the sun and sky are always there - the "bad weather" of our thoughts and feelings eventually passes.

It sounds like you really do have your Power, Pav :smile:!