Ladies on a Mission: The Official Site

[STEADFAST]

Hello,

It's Friday night in Australia, and I am glad I'm sober. This thread seems to have slowed down a little lately. Hope everyone's doing okay.

Best wishes for an unhung weekend for all,
Steady

[NoSugar]

Hi, Gloamers

I'm sorry this thread isn't busier but I'm happy knowing that for most people who used to post regularly here it is because they feel like the mission has been accomplished, not because they are back to drinking. It's a shame we can't gather statistics on the number of people who use MWO to free themselves from this beast of addiction and then leave because they simply don't need it any longer. Over time, I know of more and more people who do just that. It makes me very hopeful that this does not have to be a life-long battle.

I think we all need to know ourselves as we decide what to do. I know that I am a master of forgetting the 'bad stuff' and so like the reminders of where I never want to be again that this site offers. The other night I had a drinking dream and in it, I wasn't upset that I was drinking - I liked it. Usually I wake up from drinking dreams flooded with relief that it was only a dream. This one, on the other hand, concerned me. So I got myself back here right away!

Which brings me to another thing I've been thinking about. I might be fine if I leave MWO but if everyone has that attitude, there will be nothing for any of us to read and be strengthened by when we need to come back! There are numerous other support forums and blogs that would probably work but in times of stress, it helps to come back to what feels like "home". I hope it's always here.

Have a good weekend, NS

[jane27]

Hi Gloamers, Quick check in for me on a rainy Friday here in NJ. Awaiting my wax appointment....ouch / yay (after). Wishing everyone a nice weekend and for anyone struggling, the patience to believe better times are ahead. Sobriety hasn't been all roses for me but it's better than being handcuffed and imprisoned by alcohol addiction and all the fear and shame that come with it. Xxx

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[Guitarista]

Right on Jane!

Yo Gloamers. All very good here. Raawkin. The world is full of possibilities ain't it? I feel i'm moving into a brand new phase and adventure. Looking at teaching English as a second language (TESL) in Europe or Asia, Sth america, not sure yet, but i'm liking the vibe and possibilities. work in some jamming/music/chicks and who's a happy chappy? I hear they pay you for it too!

Have a beaut weekend out there. Jane, Red looks happy and healthy. I bet he is very grateful. What a handsome devil.

[little beagle]

Jane Red does look very happy.
I recently met someone who is struggling horribly with drinking. I tried to give a perspective. Show that it is doable. I'm just so grateful that I'm not going through that despair of making it 3,4,6 months and then drinking again. He's just so full of despair. It hurts me to think of someone in that kind of pain.

[Pavati]

Hi, Everyone:

QUITE slow here, right. NoSugar - I am with you. Keep posting here, even if it isn't every day, to keep track of you all, to support newbies, and to keep a check on myself. I don't want to forget either.

Jane! Good to see you, and glad you're feeling better if only slightly.

G - If you make it over here to teach, let me know. I have always wanted to live abroad sometime - I briefly lived in the UK earlier in life. Keep us posted.

Glad you're feeling better Steady and LB.

HI, SL - great to see you, too. I've been thinking of Narilly, too. Has anyone heard from her?

TT - Hope all is well.

Hope all Gloamers near and far are busy living sober lives. Not perfect lives - that would be impossible. But at least content to have the monkey off your backs.

Happy Sober Friday,
Pav

[Guitarista]

I'm just so grateful that I'm not going through that despair of making it 3,4,6 months and then drinking again. He's just so full of despair. It hurts me to think of someone in that kind of pain.

Will do Pavi!

LB that has been me time and time again these last couple of years. You'd think i'd have learnt after having 2.5 yrs sober...........Well, that repeated return to boozing and despair, if only for a few days each time, became a real circle of hopelessness and a life on hold. That despair is so very real and so painful and stressful. It is a dangerous state to be in for many reasons that we all know of. But if we can just decide to take our life back and push through the fear and uncertainty, we will come out the other side and get a glimpse of the freedom that is ours, and is totally possible no matter what situation we are in. We have to find some sort of hope and grab onto it in those early days, weeks, months. This has been my experience anyway. So far so raawkin.

W'dup!

[jane27]

Loving your positivity G! Great to hear all of your voices. It's a great comfort to me - our Gloamers thread. "Where everybody knows your name...". Getting ready for a workout with hubs. Trying to keep up with his 20 reps per set. Love to all

[NoSugar]

I went back & re-read "The Sober Revolution - Calling Time on Wine O'clock" over the last week or so which written by the woman who set up soberistas ... I prefer the more grounded aspects of being here. For sure life's better without booze, but it's still life with all its ups & downs nand unexpected turns.

So true, SFx! I know the writers are trying to be upbeat but sometimes it is just so unrealistic and setting the person who is trying to quit up for some almost inevitable disappointment. I also started following some women on blogs and Instagram but after awhile, I kind of got creeped out at such an intense level of oversharing - in one direction! It also occurred to me that the ones posting numerous (staged) photos of themselves in their awesome AF lives were unusually attractive. The whole thing started seeming pretty narcissistic and I stopped "following" them (another creepy sounding part of the whole thing!).

LB that has been me time and time again these last couple of years. You'd think i'd have learnt after having 2.5 yrs sober...........

Someone who hasn't been addicted to anything probably would think that. Most of us know that past experience, rational, logical thinking, and awareness of consequences usually isn't enough. If it were, quitting wouldn't be that big of a deal! You're sounding good - hope you come visit this hemisphere and do some teaching and make some music!

If you're up for working out, you must be feeling somewhat better, Jane - at least I hope so. xx

[Guitarista]

Getting ready for a workout with hubs. Trying to keep up with his 20 reps per set. Love to all

Whenever i'm in the hood, i train with these fella's. No limits!

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[little beagle]

I got all dogs out and to the park today. Met someone new. Had a nice visit. And I'm always grateful that no matter how bad I feel about things I don't make it worse by drinking.
Narilly I'm thinking about you too.

[NoSugar]

Hi, LB. glad you had a nice time today. I think Nar said she was going on a cruise.

[little beagle]

A cruise sounds fantastic. Hope she has a wonderful time

[little beagle]

Good job SF. People can be oblivious unless it directly relates to them.

[Pavati]

Hi, All:

Keeping busy with an exciting project - not enough time for me, but it will be slowing down in a month or so.

Just a quick check in. Out to dinner with a bunch of drinkers this weekend. I had to tell my husband he was annoying me. What used to be cute can really get tiresome now. And I felt so much better in the morning than he did!

xo
Pav