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thanks guys, i am amazed and stunned about the indifference and it truly was a test for me, i have failed before with this dating and drinking. I actually do think i will see him again Pauly, he told me i was a really nice person so fingers crossed. It is so much better being sober and remembering and not pretending to be sober but just being me.

[NoSugar]

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A poem that made me think of all of you.

I think the people on this thread already treat one another the way the writer hopes it will be:

Katy Stevenson Wirth

In my heart of hearts,
I no longer want to be
Better than you
Smarter than you
Thinner than you
Prettier than you
Faster than you
Stronger than you
More accomplished than you
More creative than you
A better mother than you
A better friend than you
Better educated than you
ANYTHING more than you.
I want to walk this path
Side by side
In awe of who you are
In awe of what your gifts are
To see you only in love and light
With your beauty shining through
Just as you are.
And I want you to see me the same way.
For I really do love you
Just as you are.
I only thought I had to be better
In order for you to love me.
I drop this cloak of outshining at the gate.
It has been such a heavy burden,
An unnecessary burden
A self imposed burden.
Will you still love me
Being just as I am.
In my heart of hearts,
I know you will.
***

Thanks to everyone for being here and I hope others who want friendships like this join us.

:h NS

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Oh NS that is so beautiful and so true, "i only thought i had to be better, in order for you to love me" is how i felt when drinking al. Now i am me, truly me, the person that has been found again. I love our friendship poem and i am glad to have you as a friend and the other Loamers

[Dottie Belle]

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WooHoo Ava...great job on the date!!!! You should be very proud of yourself!!

[Rivergal]

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He sounds like one lucky man, Ava...congrats on loving you! Hi Pat! Hi Nar, I check in every night, but most often find myself reflecting in thought on everyone's posts and not responding much in writing. It sure is helping me to be here, though. Good night to the finest group of ladies I know!
Annie

[scottish lass]

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thank you all for the encouragement to say hi and check in...just got in from terribly long day at work and on call until Monday morning, so little sleep and too many meetings - lots of triggers here....I will continue to check in and say hello, but will not be value added to this thread - maybe one day i can add???

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Hi, Annie

As you see, some of us can really jabber :H so don't hesitate to join in and ramble on if you feel like it!
In any case, it is nice to know that you stop by and listen to us go on and on.

You're doing so well with this AF business! You seem so happy about it already and I'll tell you, it just keeps getting better.

:h NS

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scottish lass;1616779 wrote: thank you all for the encouragement to say hi and check in...just got in from terribly long day at work and on call until Monday morning, so little sleep and too many meetings - lots of triggers here....I will continue to check in and say hello, but will not be value added to this thread - maybe one day i can add???

Read the poem on the last page, SL :l.

You are enough just as you are and you are contributing simply by posting and letting us see you and know that you are seeing us.

Sorry about all the triggers- don't pull them, ok?

[narilly]

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SL, just drop by and say hi, we are always here for you sweetie
I don't always have a lot to say either, I get that.

Ava, wow! And he wants to see you again! That is so cool. So great you were able to say no to AL, that's a tough situation for sure. Going to a bar and then dinner, all with no booze? WAY TO GO!!!

NS, I love that poem! Let's make that the Loamers poem. I think it really embraces the motto or vision of this thread perfectly


Hope everyone is safe out there. For once, my weather is nicer than a lot of places. 0C and sunny!

Take care,

[DreamThinkDo]

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Hallo Loamers!
Go Ava go!

NoS, a beautiful poem - and do you also hear Dory Previn singing it?

Lovely day/night/whatever, ladies!

[Pavati]

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Way to go on feeling so strong, Nar. You sound great! I agree that a lot of us are doing well here. I knew I depended on the loamers, but it was hit home to me when I had those drinking dreams and my biggest dread was having to come here and report to you all!

Humble, I switched my addiction to MWO (staying up too late at night to catch up), chocolate (STILL working on Christmas candy – I should throw it out), and salty crunchy things. One step at a time…

J-Vo – Hope you have a wonderful trip. I am jealous of your trip – Florida sounds great right now (mostly dreaming of the water as it hasn’t rained here to speak of this winter).

Patrice – a weekly massage is the least you can do for yourself! I should do that – it makes me feel so much better. Maybe I’ll start with monthly and work my way up.

Dot – you have had unbelievable weather – I guess most of you have. It has been so hot and dry here that I feel like a raisin. Breaking records, drought declared. It is a mess. Makes for great hiking, but my allergies are awful. There is a rain dance called for at noon tomorrow (PST) – if you remember, think positive thoughts our way. If anyone could conjure rain, it would be this group.

Love it when you fly by, Dreamy. Any time. I love Jane Austen but haven’t read anything of hers in a while – maybe that will be next. I’m reading Americanah – interesting ideas about race, immigration, class, etc. Nar, I too love that I can read every night and not have to flip back and remember what I read the night before…

Ava – so proud of you for saying NO so many times, and for talking about why you didn’t drink. Very brave. FFS, what was wrong with the guy? Or do we like him? Glad you had fun, and so glad you are doing so well. Your kids sound wonderful, too.

A visit from Pauly! Come by more often.

NS – Wonderful poem. I did spend a lot of time earlier in life comparing myself to others. I agree that this is a solid group of friends supporting each other – there really is strength in our numbers. Thanks for taking the time to post that.

Thanks for dropping by, River (or for checking in). Some of us do tend to be long winded (ahem). Feel free to skip posts any time! You sound peaceful with your sobriety (also in another thread I read). Keep checking in and letting us know you’re well!

SL – you add value! I know you’re close and working hard to stay sober and be a good mom. Stay strong!

Oh, and Giraffe – if you see this, thanks for dropping by on day 50. Hope you’re well.

OK – I think I hit you all. I felt very grateful today for this site when I was telling my therapist about my struggle and anger on Saturday night. I told her about the support I got from you all, and from other MWOers (even if they don’t always know that I read their post). It brought home to me how much I value this site as a way for me to reflect on my sobriety, not just merely quit drinking.

I’ve said it a thousand times, thanks to G – Attitude of Gratitude. I am grateful for so much right now.

Good night, all. Thanks for reading this far!

[Pavati]

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It's funny to me when I write a long post like that and then click "post quick reply." There's nothing quick about it!

[HumbleRider]

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Haha, Pav. Love your posts. Quick check in here. Yes, it's that Vikram Seth's Suitable Boy. Geez man, I love a good long read but this is ridiculous, at over 1400 pages. Still and all, like you ladies say who've read it, it is worth it.

Got to sleep--I'm getting tired but it's the feel good kind of tired. 80 days and still AF, woohoo. Congrats to all on each day sober.

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Hello Loamers, now i know you have missed my ramblings so here i go. Took me 2 and a half hours to drive home 29 kilometres which i was extremely impressed about NOT. 5 car pile up on the bridge i go over but thats life i suppose. Before if i was drinking i would be like "my god this is cutting into my drinking time".

Hey River how are you going? i cant facetime as my cam does not work blah. Who knows if he will be lucky, i cant understand men but yes i will find some lucky man one day who deserves me. I am not in a hurry now, its amazing how much self respect one has when one does not drink. If i am alone for the next 90 years then thats okay.

SL its always nice of you to pop in and say hello, I always check here morning and night so i dont lose the flow of conversation oh and im nosy. Whatever you may say is always worth reading.

Pav i love your posts, i love everyones posts but you write as much as me so i dont feel like i am the only typing lunatic here. Yes that is so how i felt last week but this week is so much cooler thank god, i am not a heat person at all. Yes i think we like him Pav but we will see, most men i meet are dickheads to put it nicely so time will tell, i am not chasing him. He was suprised that i didnt drink as everyone drinks he said and i was like, well i dont.

Nar not brutally hot anymore, melbourne is more of a cooler state so it is such a shock when we get a heatwave like that, it kills us. glad to hear you arent having al thoughts, i am the same also and damn it is a great feeling. I remember the early days when that is all i thought about and thought how that one drink would be heaven on a stick (or in a wine glass) but now the thought does not do anything for me and i know that one glass would be leading me back to hell.

Jvo i wish i was with you, what fun we would have, lots of coffee and chats and relaxation. Enjoy that time.

Pat, massage, cleaner, damn you i am so jealous woman but you have humidity and so therefore you are forgiven your treats lol. you are sounding stronger everyday and your sleeping will settle. Mine is finally getting better after 7 weeks and my headaches are virtually gone. God i feel sorry for my body that it took that amount of time to heal itself. The crap i put into it!

Dot i love cashews and pistachio nuts though my thumbs get sore from breaking the shells! does it every stop snowing there? Wont be long till it starts to get warmer and we get colder.

Humble im with you. Caffeine in the morning and then when i get home i think i will have a cup of coffee, end up having 3 and then cant sleep. I just ate a packet of lollies too. I figure it is better than shoving wine down our throats but i dont want to not sleep, this is as i am having a 2nd cup of coffee at 8.30pm.

NS i love you, you are so strong and such a support for us on here and i love you pics and positive affirmations and i cant wait for you long speech on your year, yes year anniversary. What an accomplishment that is. You are my Byrd on the loamers thread.

Thanks Dream, i am definitely going, full steam ahead. I messaged my daughter last night and told her i was out having a drink and the poor girl nearly had a coronary, she thought i meant a wine. I spoke to her today and she was so upset at me and i said i wasnt drinking wine and she was like "wow" you went out and didnt drink and i said yes as i dont drink. I dont want to fail my children or me or you guys.

Humble 80 days, everyone is doing so well and keeping on here and supporting each other. I really dont think we could ever do this without each other and i personally would not have it any other way.

Pav i so laughed that your "quick reply" is not quick and then i look and think "god i have taken up nearly another page" so between us we just flow through pages but as you say it gets our thoughts in order and obviously you and i have a lot of thoughts.

Take care everyone and anyone i have missed. Where is Mein?

Love you guys and just a short read from me to you all for when you wake up. Life is great and sharing it with my Loamers makes it even better. I so missed not posting last night and could not wait to get to work to come on here, im addicted!

[patrice]

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Hi Girls,

Great to see everyone positive and slaying that beast!
Well talk of reading makes me want to read more.. I read on my ipad but still prefer reading a real book..
Massage is a saviour for me, I've been having regular massage for the last 2 years- it's a Chinese style massage with accupressure and oil.. can be quite painful at times but I always feel great the next day.
That's one great thing about Asia, things like massages are cheap !!
Ava, I was so encouraged to read a bout your date.. wow that is so great to do that and not drink.. and feel good about it... you sure are climbing girl!!!
Anyway,take care all
x
Patrice