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[j-vo]

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I'm in sunny Florida! It's quite beautiful. I'm sitting in the sunroom, getting ready to start my day. Going to go on a bike ride, then whatever we do we do.

NS, thank you for that beautiful poem! I love it.

Pav, love your posts! You and Ava both. Don't quit. And I'm doing a rain dance for ya right now, as long it doesn't rain here!

Hi Ava! Glad your date went well! And wow! Indifference is huge. You are doing so well and sound so happy!!!!!

Pat, love massages! My girlfriend is a massage therapist and we are having a girl's massage party on February 9th. About 5 of us will go and bring something to eat (and drink - but not me--no worries!) and we'll chat, do our nails, pedi's and take our turn being massaged!

SL, don't put so much pressure on yourself! Do what you can. You are "enough."

Humble, Acadia, Nar, (glad it's sunny for ya!) giraffe, R4L, Star, SL, Dottie, Dream, River, ALL LOAMERS, have a great day. Goin for a bike ride, hungover free!!!!!

[narilly]

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Going for a bike ride, hungover free. AWESOME J-Vo!!
I am hunover free but I'm not getting on any friggin' bike! It is icy here in Calgary and -4, so walking to work was just fine today. It is funny because my husband rides his bike to work even when it is -25 and snowing...why? Because he is a Maniac! He is one of those guys, exercises a ton, gets up at 4:30 or 5:30am to go to the gym. He had colon cancer in 2011 and I think he wants to make sure it is never coming back through exercise. That is pretty cool.

Pav, I am glad we are in your dreams! I probably dream about you too and just don't remember.

Ava- you won't be alone for 90 years, I thought we were going to live together?

Pat, I like a real book too. I have had electronic books but enjoy reading a physical book more. massages are so expensive here. $90 a massage but we are covered up to $500 on our benefits so I go for them as much as I can.

Anyway, back to work.

[Miley]

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Hello Everyone....I am joining this thread at the suggestion of my dear friend No Sugar, so I hope it's okay.

A little about me.....I am a 48 year old professional and I have been battling alcohol addiction for years. I have been on and off MWO and I am ready to jump back in. I have given this a lot of thought and when I look back, it seems like I never truly made a serious commitment to my sobriety. I had a couple of decent runs but then always found a reason to try to drink. I could actually moderate at one point but that was just lying to myself because I ended right back where I started.

I am considering this Day 1 and I look forward to getting to know all of you better and taking this journey with you.

[NoSugar]

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Miley, how great to see you!

I was just about to post something here that I put in the nest. I'm having a bad/sad day so it is especially nice to see a dear friend here :l.

So, ladies, here's my lament:


I've got one of those situations going where someone tangential in my life is reacting to me in a way that is causing great stress for people I really care about and so, for me, too. Believe it or not, this is the first time since I quit that I've experienced the frustration and sadness and anger and hurt feelings that come from this type of thing with someone I cannot confront (without worsening the situation). My life has not been free of controversy or stress but until today, I have been able to work on the situation or with the person to resolve the problems. This one is simmering inside... My stomach hurts, I can't eat, my chest is tight. Guess what I used to do under these circumstances ???

But no matter what, I'm not going to do that! This is why I think it is so important to do what it takes to get some precious AF time behind you. Get that moon on 7 days, and then the hat at 30 days. Celebrate all those milestones! It is a good thing to have too much to lose. This has been one of the greatest times in my life but I sure don't want to have to do it over again.

If I'm tempted later today, which I really don't think I will be (especially since even just opening up here about how I feel is letting some of the tightness out of my chest ), I will use one of the tools I've learned about since I joined MWO. If I have internet access, I'll just hang out here reading and posting. If I don't (and I won't at some points due to travel), I'll text someone or write in a journal. There is always something to do besides take a drink.

Thanks for listening, NS

[giraffe1234]

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Miley welcome!
Sugar, sorry to hear you are having a stressful and difficult time. Will be sending positive thoughts to you. Hope all is well with you soon.

[NoSugar]

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Thank you, Giraffe! While I was getting all teary, the thought crossed my mind that I was 'gonna go tell my friends'! This is new for me - I've rarely shared the less than great parts of myself with others, even close friends. That is why some people I've met here truly do know me better than many of the people in my real life. And I certainly know more about them than I do most of my friends. It really is a relief to put down the armor and just BE .

[Miley]

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NS.....hugs to you! It sounds like a tough situation but you are tougher. I really loved your honesty and appreciate that you shared. Situations like this are a trigger for me so it reminds me to stay focused....I want the moon on 7 days!

Giraffe...thank you for the welcome!

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NS lovely you know you are never alone here. No one is worth drinking over, that has become my motto when people piss me off and they seem to do that a lot now i am not drinking. You are a strong wonderful soul who deserves to be happy. Dont let their behaviour make you into someone you are not. You are strong and beautiful and deserve the best in life no matter what. We have struggled to get to where we are and godforbid going back to Day one is not an option for us anymore. Ever! We will always be here for you no matter what. Take care friend and big hugs from me.

Miley welcome to the loamers, get those typing fingers working as Pav certainly likes a chat (ha ha). me i am the quiet shy type. You can fark al off and get so much support from us. I would never want to be anywhere else in this journey and there is basically nothing you wont know about us.

Nar now maybe you should ask hubs if its ok if you guys move here. he would love riding in Aus. I will never be alone as long as i have my children so not too worried. Arent men only good for a couple of things anyways?????

well as usual i am late for getting ready for work. I need to stop thinking and typing and get a move on.

Be safe NS and we love you. xxxxx

[narilly]

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NS, we are always here for you. You have given us so much inspiration and have supported us when we were 'weak' and strong both. I have had similar situations with my brother where I could physically feel the pain in my chest and stomach. (what a dick)
Anyway, one thing that really helped me is tapping. Just Google tapping for anxiety. I know it sounds wierd but tapping and thinking of the issue that is bugging you actually will change the way your brain is processing something. (this is how I describe it and it is not totally acurate). The point is that it works. I stopped obsessing about it and I think the tapping was really what helped me.
Try it, it works!!
Miley, welcome!

Ava, ok, Austrial it is! Yes, you sure are the quiet shy type for sure! too funny

Hugs,

[Miley]

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Available and Narilly.....thank you for the warm welcome! Narilly, I was looking at your earlier post about it being too cold to get a bike ride in. The only exercise I got in today was shoveling freaking snow and cleaning off the car....it's freezing. I am going to miss my yoga class tonight because my Husband took our SUV to work because the roads were bad this morning...ugh!!!

[bkyogagurl]

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Hey.... can I join in here? Acadia sent me this way...

My threads have crickets on them right now... so I am feeling a little lonely it will take me a bit to get caught up with reading past posts...

I am 22 day AF... and not only do my threads have crickets.. my life does too... it seems that my friends who drink don't want to have tea with me... HA! shocker... not really...

[j-vo]

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Miley, welcome to the Loam thread! So glad to have you. Any friend of NS's is a friend of ours!

Nar, I think it's wonderful your husband takes such great care of himself. What a great role model that is for your kids, too. I'm glad he's doing so well in his recovery.

NS, I'm glad you were able to express your feelings. You are always the rock here. Everyone of us goes through these hard times, and you are no different and need us now. Guess what. We are here for you. You did the right thing by expressing your troubled feelings, and you're making the right choice of not using alcohol to make it worse, then regret all of your hard work this past year. You're coming up on one year, my dear. The 24th is your anniversary. You will be one year sober, and that is so awesome. Don't forget why you decided to come to MWO and how far you've come. Look how many people Al ruins. Never take this past year for granted. AND, we cannot confront all the situations to make them right or better. This is when we need to let them go. It's not going to help you by letting it continue to simmer inside. It will, if you let it, cause more stress and tightness. You don't need to take any chances letting this continue inside yourself. So, let it go. Let God take care of it. We cannot solve all the problems we face daily. Only He can. Sorry to be religious and all, but that's how I feel. NS,

[j-vo]

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Miley, welcome to the Loam thread! So glad to have you. Any friend of NS's is a friend of ours!

Nar, I think it's wonderful your husband takes such great care of himself. What a great role model that is for your kids, too. I'm glad he's doing so well in his recovery.

NS, I'm glad you were able to express your feelings. You are always the rock here. Everyone of us goes through these hard times, and you are no different and need us now. Guess what. We are here for you. You did the right thing by expressing your troubled feelings, and you're making the right choice of not using alcohol to make it worse, then regret all of your hard work this past year. You're coming up on one year, my dear. The 24th is your anniversary. You will be one year sober, and that is so awesome. Don't forget why you decided to come to MWO and how far you've come. Look how many people Al ruins. Never take this past year for granted. AND, we cannot confront all the situations to make them right or better. This is when we need to let them go. It's not going to help you by letting it continue to simmer inside. It will, if you let it, cause more stress and tightness. You don't need to take any chances letting this continue inside yourself. So, let it go. Let God take care of it. We cannot solve all the problems we face daily. Only He can. Sorry to be religious and all, but that's how I feel. NS,:l

[Starfish1]

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Hi girls, back in town and still sober! Seven Days! Haven't had time to catch up, but will do so when I can. Just wanted to check in.

xoxo Star

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I really should stay away during the day from my loamers but sitting at work having a cuppa and reading away.

Miley we had 44 here last week and i nearly died with that one but i dont think i could survive in your cold over there either. Exercise for me has not come into the equation yet, lollies, chocolate and lots of coffee have though!

BKY hello and welcome, well done on your days being af. It seems boring not drinking doesnt it but i went out the other day for a drink, soft drink and he drank and i actually enjoyed myself. I know i cannot moderate at all but i wont feel sorry for myself, i am an alcoholic pure and simple or whatever we want to name it.

NS 7 days woo hoo and a big hug and congrats. How was your break?

Jvo you are sounding so positive keep up those great thoughts they will never let you down!