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[scottish lass]

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really quick check in - fighting off a cold bug with all my mite, refuse to be sick....also we had a three day weekend, and management seems to think we still have to complete a 5 day work week (oops, I am management too - just have some different views..)

Quick note too - j-vo was great to set up the final version of Ladies on a Mission, but it was actually Ann's thread....she started it a while back, some folks tried to make it a daily thread which didn't work too well and j-vo made it a continous thread again, so thanks to Ann for getting us all going!

[Miley]

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What a great post NS....and thank you for all you have done to help the Newbies and members like myself that have come, gone and are back again. Here's to year 2!!!!!

[Dottie Belle]

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Women and drinking on 20/20 tonight...Elizabeth Vargas and her story...saw a clip and it was interesting....

[j-vo]

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Dottie, I'll watch that. Thanks!

NS, wow, beautiful post. That is one that should be reposted in the tools section! Or somewhere newbies can read. Whatcha think? Thank you for sharing!

SL, yes! I was going to post that Acadia Ann started this thread! I wish I could take the credit, but all I know is that we are lucky to have each other now.

Nar, enjoy your night out Al free!

[j-vo]

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NS's posts are very poetic. I told her that her posts are like music to my ears. You've got a great gift, Lady, and thank you for using it here! I love words like "loquacious!"

[available]

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Hey lovelies

Pav do you ever think i could shorten my posts. I type away and think "oh this is not a long one" and then it comes up nearly a page. I did have an idea of not putting paragraphs in though! Sorry to hear about your son and his hand, i hope it heals okay. the positive is you get to look after him and be patient! What a great post Pav and yes i totally agree about the 2nd paragraph, this time i am totally honest with myself and everyone here, i have lied to myself and others way too many times and it achieved nothing.

Nar yes dating sucks but i get a free coffee or two so that is a bonus and if i am lucky a meal. It is so much nicer when not drinking though, god i have had some cringe worthy episodes when i have drank, its a wonder i have arms left after wanting to chew them off to get away.

Hey Aca. I think the need to be honest with ourselves is the main point of giving up al and having support. Like you i always thought i could give up by myself, god forbid i wanted to admit i was an alcoholic to myself let alone anyone else. 2 years it has taken me to get it into my head that it is basically "do or die". Maybe i didnt drink as much as some but 2 bottles a night, 7 nights a week is not normal although for me it was. Now i cannot lie about my drinking to my children or myself, they are my life and now it is such a better one. My first weekend af was horrible, i didnt know what to do as all i did was drink and do the washing. I watched a lot of docos about alcoholism on youtube and watched movies on drinking, all the while thinking i did not have as big a problem as everyone else. FFS how the al mind works is amazing! A few weeks later i watched them again and thought how damn lucky i am that i have not had liver failure etc and i do have a life to live.

River now that sounds interesting, tea and coffee. Mmm not sure on that one. Now River it takes a bit to become a long winded poster like PAV and myself, cant forget her. its kind of a competition now! Does your fiance love the af River now?

Jvo good choice lovely. I have not put myself in those situations (take my SIL visiting) as as much as i wanted to i prefer the option of keeping temptation out of harms way. As you say line dancing will still be there when you are stronger and in the long run we are not missing out on anything being af. Everything is so much better never forget that. as soon as we pour al down our throats our lives are never the same. Glad you could talk to your parents too, its an eye opener openly talking about our addiction and hoping people understand.

Oh NS all i can say is thank god i had a tissue in my pocket. The way you put into words how we all feel is beautiful and to realise that we are really not alone in this journey if we choose not to be. To have people that understand, truly understand what a battle al is and to be non judgemental and supportive is what i needed and sought and found. Its people like you that make this journey worthwhile and believable that it can be achieved. You are a dear sole NS and i truly value our friendship. And yes you have joined the Pav and Ava club so i totally expect this each and every single day!

SL, Dot and Miley hello guys and keep warm and safe.

Well after commenting on everyone now finally i can say that i had a great night on the 2nd date. It was actually harder to not drink than the first meeting. he was having a wine and i said "that looks nice" and he said "why would you after two months"? Thank you and yes you are right. it was a thought that quickly went and he is not an enabler so that was good to know. Oh now believe it or not he told me i talk a lot so maybe there is no 3rd date but you know what guys i am not worried like i was when i was drinking. If he doesnt think we connect or whatever then so be it. In my al fueled haze i craved love, i wanted attention, i wanted to feel what everyone else had/has but now i know i am a good person, i know i will find love again eventually but i wont settle for second best. This is what i deserve. He told me i was a great chick and i was waiting for the BUT that normally goes after that sentence but thus far there has not been one. Time will tell and i am in no hurry. So it was fun and he is a genuinely nice man and i will keep you all updated if there is date 3.

Two months af for me today, my son said well now you can celebrate with a drink. Smartarse kids! They can see how much happier we all are now that they have a sober functioning mother.

Love you guys and it was great to get home and read your posts though i did do a sneaky post for NS last night. Oops but she was so worth it.
xx

[j-vo]

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Pav, I just saw that your son broke his hand. I'm sorry about this. Another boy stepped on my son's arm and it was one of those zig-zag breaks that made me want to vomit when I saw it. It was a month before we were to go to the biggest baseball tourny that we'd been fundraising for a few years. Before surgery, they gave him some drugs, and he lay there with his eyes moving back and forth crying, "Am I going to Cooperstown?" over and over. He didn't play, and it was sad. I know how heartbroken I was for him. I hope your son heals quickly. That's so hard for them and for us to see them in pain.

[Dottie Belle]

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I am disappointed in 20/20. I thought there was going to be a whole story on women and alcohol...darn. The commercial was misleading...

[j-vo]

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me too, dottie. but I'm glad people like Elizabeth share their story. It certainly is inspiring. I think it helps to minimize the stigma that we are afraid of.

[NoSugar]

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Dottie Belle;1618021 wrote: I am disappointed in 20/20. I thought there was going to be a whole story on women and alcohol...darn. The commercial was misleading...

I didn't see 20/20 but this is a good interview with her:Elizabeth Vargas Interview: 'I Am an Alcoholic' | Video - ABC News

Thanks for all of your kind responses to my reflections on the year. It is nice to be heard. I hope someone is helped.

Have a lovely AF weekend, everyone.

[narilly]

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NS thanks for posting the link to the Elizabeth Vargas interview. It was interesting.

Ava, glad your date went well And that you didn't drink.

Thanks for the post Pav.

I'm pooped, G'night!

[Pavati]

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NS – I love your new avatar! What a great one year post. I hope you take Byrdie’s advice and put it in the nest. I think the thing I like most about MWO is how much we are all alike in spite of our differences. You are such a kind, steady, reasonable and thoughtful person that it really works to also have you be relentless in helping us achieve sobriety. We don’t get punished by you, but we can’t get off the hook easily, either. Thanks for being here for us all!

The single tomato with a bottle of vodka? Check. I did that (pretty sure I added chips and salsa, too, like K9 pointed out – I’m having a party!). It is amazing how much time I spent saying to myself, “I’m not THAT bad.” Well – if I look myself in the eye, I see that I was.

Nar – more focus on not drinking has helped me, too. But not just on that – getting through normal emotions and day-to-day life without needing to numb it all out. I totally get what you’re saying, Acadia – I miss that feeling of almost oblivion sometimes, too. What came AFTER that feeling was bad enough to make me want to stop for good, but sometimes I do miss that numbing.

River – did I miss your 30-day celebration here? Congratulations – that is a huge milestone. I hope you got a Byrdie moon – sometimes people fly under the radar and I know she has been busy. You sound great – DO let us know about teas you like. I am drinking a lot more tea now, too. I’m going to have to figure out which ones taste good iced for the summer.

J-Vo – I don’ think you’re weak at all for not going. You are the person who knows yourself best. I will say that I went to a concert totally sober, thinking I would be thinking about drink all the time, but I got SO into the music that I wasn’t. Granted, it wasn’t a dancing type of music – more sit and listen. You’ll get there eventually. I hope you’re having a great vacation.

SL, Miley, Dottie – stay warm and focused (SL – dance for rain!). Humble usually is by around now, too.

I woke up with a nasty headache today – I had a moment where I was saying “really? I didn’t even drink? WTF?” But waking with a headache that isn’t a hangover is a completely new experience – no guilt to go with it. I didn’t bring it on myself. Interesting (if painful) realization.

OK – I’m ready for bed. Humble sometimes stops by around now. Hi, everyone else I missed! Night sweet loamers. Happy weekend, everyone.

[Pavati]

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I was about to fall asleep and somehow realized I forgot YOU, Ava. FFS - how did that happen.

Sounds like your date was great - so glad that he's not a pusher and didn't try talk you into alcohol. And I'm so glad you're loving yourself first. My sister who is going through a divorce and is spending some time figuring out who she is after 20+ years of marriage, has been saying that atm she doesn't want to be with the kind of person who would be attracted to her unhealed self. She wants to love herself first. Sounds like you're well on your way, my dear!

xo

[patrice]

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Hi all,
Quick check in.. up at 5am for the annual cross country.. woke up feeling terrible, sore throat and fever, think I'm getting sick. I was supposed to go to a film festival tonight but I won't go now. In a way that's good because it's still a bit early in my AF days to be socialising around booze.

Everyone is sounding great!
Glad your date was relaxing Ava
x
Patrice

[Rivergal]

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River now that sounds interesting, tea and coffee. Mmm not sure on that one. Now River it takes a bit to become a long winded poster like PAV and myself, cant forget her. its kind of a competition now! Does your fiance love the af River now?

Without a doubt. He would become so frightened when I drank, as he describes it, " you became lifeless, withdrawn, and sad. As if a demon took over your soul and killed my precious Annie". Alcohol is a toxic demon to our beautiful souls, Ladies. We all deserve all the love & happiness we can receive ( and give ) during our limited time on this Earth!