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[j-vo]

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This is my first mini vacation Al free, probably since I was 10! Anyhow, it's really a great, relaxing vaca. and I know it's rejuvenating me for the upcoming weeks. Lots of rest, exercise, and sun. It's so wonderful waking up hangover free and going through the day with loads of energy.

I watched a documentary called, "What's Wrong With Aunt Diane." Diane Shuler was a wife, mom of two, and had a great job. She was driving home from a camping trip with three nieces/nephews, and her two children in 2009, when she got on the Taconic Expressway in NY driving against traffic. She was killed along with 7 other people. Only survivor was her son. They found equivalent to 10 shots of vodka and THC in her body. Anyhow, interesting video if you get a chance to watch.

NS, thanks for that link. I'm going to send it to my sis as I was telling her about it. I thought it was a nice interview, and she's going through what we all do in early sobriety. Someone said it sounds as though she's white knuckling, but I think early sobriety is a mix of that as we learn and grow. And acceptance.

Pav, how's your son doing? Hope you're feeling better. You're right. It's not a hangover, and I'll take a headache over a hangover any day. Advil!

Patrice, hope you're feeling better too, lovely! Glad you're here and posting. And good idea about not going to festival so early. These little sacrifices early on are smart choices.

[j-vo]

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This is my first mini vacation Al free, probably since I was 10! Anyhow, it's really a great, relaxing vaca. and I know it's rejuvenating me for the upcoming weeks. Lots of rest, exercise, and sun. It's so wonderful waking up hangover free and going through the day with loads of energy.

I watched a documentary called, "What's Wrong With Aunt Diane." Diane Shuler was a wife, mom of two, and had a great job. She was driving home from a camping trip with three nieces/nephews, and her two children in 2009, when she got on the Taconic Expressway in NY driving against traffic. She was killed along with 7 other people. Only survivor was her son. They found equivalent to 10 shots of vodka and THC in her body. Anyhow, interesting video if you get a chance to watch.

NS, thanks for that link. I'm going to send it to my sis as I was telling her about it. I thought it was a nice interview, and she's going through what we all do in early sobriety. Someone said it sounds as though she's white knuckling, but I think early sobriety is a mix of that as we learn and grow. And acceptance.

Pav, how's your son doing? Hope you're feeling better. You're right. It's not a hangover, and I'll take a headache over a hangover any day. Advil!

Patrice, hope you're feeling better too, lovely! Glad you're here and posting. And good idea about not going to festival so early. These little sacrifices early on are smart choices.

Nar, how was your night out?

Ava, you sound magnificent, lady!

SL, Acadia, Humble, Star, Miley, River, BK, and all, have a great day!

[j-vo]

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Rivergal;1618213 wrote: River now that sounds interesting, tea and coffee. Mmm not sure on that one. Now River it takes a bit to become a long winded poster like PAV and myself, cant forget her. its kind of a competition now! Does your fiance love the af River now?

Without a doubt. He would become so frightened when I drank, as he describes it, " you became lifeless, withdrawn, and sad. As if a demon took over your soul and killed my precious Annie". Alcohol is a toxic demon to our beautiful souls, Ladies. We all deserve all the love & happiness we can receive ( and give ) during our limited time on this Earth!

Right on, River!

[HumbleRider]

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Everyone, I'm a walking zombie, but not from drink. I always wondered what I would do with my time if I quit drinking. Well, now I know. I did not get to sleep until midnight and now I got up late and have to rush and shower just to get over to my elderly friend's house on time to take her out shopping. She is a stickler for being on time. LB, thanks for checking in on me--we need friends like you! I'm still alcohol free, just swamped. Now, this afternoon I will have time to write-- it's chicken soup for my soul to read everything here. Miss you guys and a quick shout out to NS. One year, yahoo!!!!

[Pavati]

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Out of curiosity I just went back to Ann's first LOAM post (I joined a week or two in) - here's how she signed off:

Anyone want to join what I hope will be a serious, focused thread so we can be proud of ourselves?

Here I am day 55, serious, focused and proud of myself. Thanks, Ladies!

[acadiaofmaine]

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Yup, I am proud of all of us! This is the most focused thread I"ve seen and I've seen MANY!! Seems like we're all having good results and successes. Some of us with fits and starts (me), others on a straight trajectory.

Day 22 here, feeling good. Going out for Mexican food with my family, my son's last evening home before returning to college tomorrow. Not too worried about being tempted, as I have managed this restaurant before. Also, with kids along, I really want to be AF. The worst temptation for me is when I'm alone.

Have a great day, everyone!

Ann

[narilly]

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Yes Acadia, I totally remember you starting this thread and I have loved it since inception. I find the ladies here to be so inspirational and I have learned so much from all of you. You have really really helped me to stay AF. So unbelievable that this can happen just over the internet.

Mexican food is good. I find it easy not to drink when I eat Mexican food. Enjoy your meal with your son. I just dropped mine off at Physics prep for exams. This is grade 12 for him so he has to do well.

Last night I went out with hubs to The Diner and I did not drink. I was watching this lady across the restaurant from me. She ordered a glass of white wine, the waitress put it down in front of her and the lady did not even look at the glass or acknowledge that it was there. She was reading the paper and then she got her food and was eating that. I did not see her touch that glass of wine the whole time. It was still at the same level as it was when the waitress dropped it off even after she had her meal. FFS!! I could not believe it! I had a running commentary going on about it and my husband and I were laughing about it. I told him that I would have had 3 glasses of wine by now. So when we left the lady was still there and MAYBE she had a sip of that wine over about an hour and a half. Wow. I was amazed. I kept saying "what is wrong with her?" Actually, it really is that I was jealous of her being able to drink normally.
Anyway, it was interesting to watch. I Know I could NEVER EVER do that! Holy self control.

I am happy to be un hung over today and tomorrow I will feel great too. Just like our ladies in the picture.

J-Vo, that is so cool that you are enjoying our first AL free vacay in soooo long. What a difference eh? You can get up and DO things and FEEL good! How awesome is that? What a great present to yourself girl!

Ava, have a great weekend. Glad you got through Australia Day yesterday. They were having parties here at Lake Louise ski resort for the Aussies because so many work there. I was glad not to be there
NS, Humble, Dottie, everyone, have a great Sober Saturday,

[spuddleduck]

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LADIES.. please tuck me up. something is going mental out on the boards // .. there is someone who seems to be what they call a troll. I am getting messages. even though I don't want. someone has put something out there ./READ THIS PLEASE... this is not me .// if I wanted help I would ask.. im suspecting some crazy fucking jerk has seen my posts and decided to be odd..

[Miley]

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I have to say, it was nice to wake-up without a hangover. I haven't been feeling well for the past two days but at least it's not from alcohol. I watched 20/20 last night and found it very interesting.

J-VO - I saw the documentary about Diane Shuler....it was frightening.

We had a shooting at a local mall....3 dead and 4 injured (I live in Maryland)....so I'm a little down this afternoon. It's so sad to me that in this word today, you can't even go to the mall on a Saturday without worrying about a shooting.

I'm going to clean, have some hot chocolate and head to Wegmans....for those of you that don't have one in your area...it's my favorite grocery store in the whole world (well, besides Whole Foods, which I can't afford).

Everyone sounds really good. Have a great AF Saturday!

[scottish lass]

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Well, a treat - a day to myself, girls are out for the day. Got some divorce paperwork sorted out (and a beg to the lawyer to get this thing done!) and started taxes - now all I can think of is to curl up with a book.......and a glass of wine! DOH!
Signing on to get inspiration - so agree Ann, worst time is when I am alone and happy...
Need to remember that to stay happy I can't drink......

[j-vo]

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SL, that is def. a big trigger for me, too. I love the part about curling up with a book, though. Don't do it! I mean the wine. It will put you in a place you don't wanna be. As Byrdie says, take the choice off the table. Think of how you want to wake up tomorrow morning, refreshed and ready for a great Sunday. You won't have that if you drink wine, and you'll get mad at yourself tomorrow, or even later tonight if you drink. So, the choice is off the table, SL! Stay happy!!!!!

[j-vo]

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Nar, my awareness level has increased in those situations. I do the same thing! I did it at the airport the a few nights ago. The guy left a whole sip and a half in his freaking glass. What!!! Really??? And I had to laugh at myself, because it is kinda funny how we watch and observe. Yes, a twinge of jealousy for sure is inevitable at times. So it helps to laugh about it. We are not normal drinkers, and it's ok! All we have to do is not drink and we can be happy and fulfilled. Drinking sure didn't fulfill me. It sucked every bit of life out of me.

MIley, that's awful! OMG.

Acadia, enjoy your Mexican with hubby and kids!

[bkyogagurl]

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Man I cannot keep up with you ladies every time I get a chance to get caught up on your posts there are more...

I will keep reading and chime in when I can.

[available]

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Hi Loamers, well just a quick check in for me (as SL says). Oh as if......

Hey SL glad you are well and checking in, one day we will get you to do a post as long as Pavs and Nars i am sure!.

Pav i have been single for nearly 5 years and now only beginning to love myself. The previous years were drowned in al and self loathing. Now i am not searching for the "wrong type" which i think i found every single one of them, now if i like him and he likes me then fine, if not i will bide my time. I am realising i am a good person and i deserve the best. Not that there is a perfect man! the last two weeks i have finally been headache free, they were a killer for me and isnt it just the greatest feeling to wake up and know it was not al induced. Funny how we still wake up though and wonder what we drank and that was so forever ago.

Pat i hope you are feeling better, did you go for that run? Stay in bed and chill (probably literally). Let your body heal itself, it deserves some TLC like you do.

Oh River what a lovely fiance you have. I think spouses/children etc watching us destroy yourselves must be hard, especially while maintaining a loving relationship with another, being AL. He must be a happy man now to have you back as you should be also. Thank you for sharing that.

Jvo that piece on aunt dianne was devastating and the denial that the family expressed was very sad. My kids would have said "yep mum was pissed so dont be so stupid and do what she did" and just maybe it would help someone to think before they make the decision to drive. Was your sister a drinker like you? I would not call it "white knuckling", i would call it hell for the first week or so but a choice that when we make it to stop al makes us determined to succeed and acceptance that we have a problem. I still have a problem not drinking but the choice i make now is to remain sober. You sound like you are having a great break, i wish i was there with you.

Humble isnt it wonderful to appreciate our sleeping now. The days of those horrible al sleeps are behind us and now we get annoyed if we dont get a good sleep, i love waking up being able to function after my 2nd coffee and not pop paracetamol and look in the mirror and think OMG who is that freak in the mirror! Now i look and think "who is that woman with wrinkles", but this woman has a smile on her face and a clear complexion. Cant wait for your catch up post lovey.

Aca i love this thread, it is serious and fun and has the loveliest people in the world on here and if not for you starting it I would be meandering through other threads just popping in and not really being accountable to certain specific MWO'ers. thinking i was lucky if i got a reply and sometimes we really need to be acknowledged to keep us focused. It was harder for me being a woman that has few words to say!

Nar Aussie Day is today and the thought of al and celebrating did not even cross my mind, woo hoo. It will be sad watching the news tonight on all the af fueled violence and maybe deaths. You are too funny with that glass of wine, i would have done exactly the same as you. How can people do that, just sip a wine, wtf do you get out of that i wonder! I used to look at other peoples i was drinking with to see what stage in the wine glass i should be up to so i looked normal when drinking, when all i would prefer to do was skull it and order another. Keep up your posts they are getting longer, soon we will be on a page a post, well i am now sigh!.

Spud i have had a few spam emails lately, some jerk wanted me to add them on fb or email them. I have blocked them since.

Miley hello, i seen the shooting on tv here and i thank god that we dont get them here, just people on the streets. I cant get it in my head how someone can go and do that to others. Please stay safe for us.

BKY i always wake up to 2 pages of posts and then i have to answer every damn one but i love it, not sure if you guys like reading my long winded posts but do i care, nope, lol, i need to catch up and comment. Never short of a word. I totally cant understand why this guy i went on a date with said i talked a lot.

Well for me today i am going to have another coffee and start some house cleaning. Going to be a lovely sunny day here. My daughter is not doing very well with anxiety/panic issues so i have made an appt to go to the drs tomorrow again. She is too young to be suffering like this at 22. She is booked in to see a psychologist in 2 weeks so fingers crossed. I have organised with her work to have a few weeks off as this seems to be a big trigger for her (she works in a supermarket). I sent her a link to "tapping" so i hope she will take note of that, so any ideas my lovelies on trying to get her back to that happy content girl i had a few months ago would be wonderful. It kills me to see her pain and it all came to a head when my mother told her she would never amount to anything as she did not complete a hairdressing apprenticeship. I wont comment on that as this will turn into a 20 page post.

Chat soon loamers, love you all. xxx

[scottish lass]

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And is that a short post Ava!! Yikes....
You give me hope, I have been separated for just over three years and am getting back on track....looking forward to better times for sure...