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Lol SL could you imagine what my post would be like if i did not check in daily? I think i have to move states to find a nice man but i am not in a hurry anymore and i dont have to chew off my arms to get away from the dregs that i used to meet. Being sober i am so much more choosier!

NS have you gone quiet after that long speech?

[HumbleRider]

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Hi Loamers,
Ahhh....I'm finally able to sit down for a minute with no one around but the animals. I can enjoy all your posts in peace. So I'm starting a few pages back in my comments. This place is hopping, which is wonderful.

Ava, please don't try to shorten your posts as you mentioned. I love them just as they are, long and full of fun and insight, helping to keep me sober. Waffle on! So I'm at the part where you're going out with him soon...I see from your post you "have a shitzu and a maltesex"...I have never heard of one of those, but he sure sounds irresistible. Fortunately, dating won't suck when you meet the right guy. That is so nice of him to check you on your 2 months. I mean, he could have said why not have one? He's sounding pretty good from here. About your daughter's anxiety, now I know that's what I suffered from early on, and I self-medicated by drinking my ass off, even at 22. What a waste of time. Good thing your daughter is getting the attention she needs. Tapping is a great tool, I've found. So is muscle testing for triggers, etc. She needs ego boosters right now, not ego busters!

Nar, I'm with you about the dating scene. I also have memories of alcohol fueled dating, not pretty. Actually, most of my proper dates did not include a lot of drinking because of course I was hiding that little problem from potential partners. It was the nights out trolling that weren't pretty. Fortunately, the guys I found attractive in those blotto moments did not find me so, and kindly did not take advantage of my inebriated state. And about your dog peeing in the house, Frankie has that problem when he gets upset, like when our work schedules change. Geez, sensitive or what? Pisses me off, lol. About going to restaurants where we once drank, I've done it when I have had to, like the memorial celebration, and I've been fine, mostly because I have you ladies here when I get home. I can not believe that woman sitting there with her full glass of wine at dinner for so long. Can you imagine not even having a thought of it in your head, too busy with other, more important things?

Pav (and J-vo, poor kid) sorry to hear about your son's hand. That's rough, hope he is okay emotionally about it and that he heals quickly. Loved About Time Tooo's post, especially coming from someone who has been AF so long. That's right, "Drunk is not a nice look." All I have to do is think of some pictures of me in my drinking days. So not a nice look. More like humiliating. Even though I also miss the numbing alcohol provided, I do not put myself in situations where numbing is required anymore. Those situations are going to have to hunt me down, and I have a pretty good hiding place (here!).

Patrice, good to see you here.

Acadia, that's so important to accept, that we can't do it alone. I swear, if I did not have you all to answer to, I would not be sober today. Nice that your local AA is providing you with tools and forward thinking. As for my weekends in the past, whoa. My husband works Saturdays, so you can imagine my day...up early when he got up, down to the store for wine or even vodka or Jack Daniels (never thought I'd drink that) before the town began to stir, home to drink all day, and sometimes I'd even go out smashed for more. Insane. I love lying around reading and watching TV in comparison now.

Miley, you mentioned having to catch up? I've not posted or read much in a day or two, and I feel so behind! I'm having lemon water with the doggies beside me right now as I catch up. Sorry to hear about the shooting there. What is wrong with everybody in this world?

Woohoo Rivergal, sounds like an exciting Friday night alcohol free with your fianc?. Can't get better than that. Belated congrats on your 30 days. My husband had similar words about me as your fianc? had about you, that I became someone else entirely and it was not someone he wanted to be with.

SL, take care and ward off that bug. Curl up with a book and a cup of anything but alcohol! I got 5 books from the thrift store today, so exciting! Good to see you.

J-vo, good that you know yourself and how you might react in the bar and choose to stay away. I still don't go to the Mexican restaurant we loved because I was doing shots of tequila there one on top of the other towards the end of my drinking career. Don't want to go there and be reminded. I want to watch the Aunt Diane doc, sounds line a good one.

NS, I loved your 1 year post, have read and reread it. That woman with the sundry items and two bottles of wine was me. That was me, trying to think of a couple of necessities to bolster my alcohol purchase, like oh no, I really need these Cheetos and this can of creamed corn right now, really the wine is just an afterthought. God, how transparent I was, not even realizing it. I echo your thanks to J-vo, and Anne for starting this one-of-a-kind thread and to all the Loamers for being here.

Spuddleduck, I hope it's not going to continue, whoever this is. I got a pm about baclofen from someone, but thought it was a mass posting of some kind. It wasn't inflammatory in any way, though.

Omg, I think I may have outdone Ava, ladies. This is looking long and I haven't even hit submit to see it in its entirety. Maybe I should zip it for a bit.

As a part of this group of strong AF people, I'm happy to use Ann's words to describe myself, serious, focused, and proud! xo everyone.

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I'm impressed Humble, very impressed and a great read. I wont comment as well we know where that ends.

As we all can say if not for here we would probably all be still drinking, i know i would be and thats as honest as it gets. No more day 1's for us loamers if we can help it.

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Sounds good Ava,no more day 1's. Hey, great post by the way. Holy smokes, a long sucker too!

Humble, same to you, holy long post! A great read too.
Funny, I had a daschund named Frankie. I just loved that little weenie, she would pee every time she got too excited.

Well, going for Thai food now and green tea. Yum!

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Ava, hope your daughter is able to get the help she needs. I've struggled for so long with severe anxiety. Sounds like a lot of us have. I hope she get the therapy she needs to help her. It's painful to see our babies go through things like this.

Humble, you sound fantastic. And I loved reading your Ava/Pav-like post! Wow! And I have that same thing--missing the numbing of al. I suppose that will lessen the longer we are sober? I hope so. I know I avoid places and triggers, but can't do that forever, and don't wanna do that forever. I used to hide because of my social anxiety and I hated myself for it.

Nar, I have a mini daschund. Love him, but he's been struggling with his back legs. He had surgery about six years ago because he blew a disc. Now he has a bulging disc and has been on steroids. He's 12 years old.

[Rivergal]

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Hey Loamers. Thank you for entertaining me this Saturday Night. Ed, my fianc?', is engrossed in 3 different games is Words with Friends ( on-line Scrabble, for those who are unfamiliar ) with his adult children. I am having much more fun, I believe surfing MWO...you gals are the best. Loving the comments about how we observe "normal" drinkers & think they are crazy for not guzzling or sucking their glasses dry! Ava, you absolutely crack me up. It feels so good to laugh aloud & at myself again. You are so kind to respond and remember so many of us on this site. Makes me feel worthy and a bit special. Thank you to all of you who have reached out to me. It is keeping me sober & for that I am forever grateful. I think of drinking when I am alone ( not to be confused with being lonely ) and bored. Because of this site, I am never lonely or bored!
Wishing everyone a warm, safe, & sober MAE,
Annie

[Dottie Belle]

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nar and j-vo I have a dachshund/puggle mix. She is 11 months old..name is Penny..she is a cuddle bug. She tortures the other dogs....that is what puppies do...

[patrice]

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Hi Girls,
Great to be reading all the posts.. mine are short!!
Found quite a nice quote which kind of embodies what I am trying to do at the moment


If you don't make the time to work on creating the life you want, you're eventually going to be forced to spend a lot of time dealing with a life you don't want. — Kevin Ngo

Have a great day/night
Patrice
x

[narilly]

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Pat, that's a great saying. I like it!

River, so glad this site helps you. It really helps me too. It is great how we help each other us Loamers.

J-Vo, my Frankie was a mini too! I actually had 2 mini daxies. Franky and Daisy. I loved them so much and still miss them. They have been gone for a couple of years now. I know they can have back problems, we had a few with Frankie. She lived to be 17 and Daisy 15.

Dottie, so neat you have one too. Those pug daxie crosses are Cute!

I went for supper tonight and drank a ton of Green Tea. The guy we were with had 2 beer, a monte cristo coffee with An extra shot of Sambuca on the side. I thought that was gross! Hubs drank too. I had no desire to. I knew I was coming back home to post and was afraid one of you ladies would kick my ass! Haha! Actually it wasn't an issue and I do feel accountable to my beautiful friends here.

Anyway, G'night!

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Pavati;1618059 wrote: ...that it really works to also have you be relentless in helping us achieve sobriety. We don?t get punished by you, but we can?t get off the hook easily,

This cracked me up! It is by far the nicest way it's been pointed out to me that this tendency of mine not to let things go has been noticed :H. Sorry if it drives anyone a bit crazy but I take this mission very seriously .

Rivergal;1618213 wrote: Alcohol is a toxic demon to our beautiful souls, Ladies. We all deserve all the love & happiness we can receive ( and give ) during our limited time on this Earth!
What a great way to look at this, Annie. We just can't waste any more of our precious time.

Miley;1618279 wrote: I have to say, it was nice to wake-up without a hangover. I haven't been feeling well for the past two days but at least it's not from alcohol. !

I hope you are feeling better, Miley.
Another shooting is so sad. I think it is alarming that there no longer is a big or sustained reaction unless numerous people are killed. The recent school shootings where only a couple people died received very little attention. What are we waiting for?

scottish lass;1618311 wrote:
Signing on to get inspiration - so agree Ann, worst time is when I am alone and happy...
Need to remember that to stay happy I can't drink......

You've got it, SL! We shouldn't give up one bit of our happiness to AL. Perhaps you can develop another ritual for private celebrations.

available;1618372 wrote: NS have you gone quiet after that long speech?

I thought you would have sent out the search patrols for me by now, Ava! :H

I've had a busy day of festivities with family and friends. AL was hanging around for the whole dang thing but not with me! One thing that was nice was that it was clear that these friends finally really get it that this is my new normal. They offered me an AF mimosa when I arrived at the first event rather than checking to see if I didn't want a real one first. This is progress.

I've read all your posts that I missed - I just love them! I wanted to respond to more but I'm really tired after my long day of not drinking . Thanks again for all of your good wishes and positive responses. All the reinforcement we give one another makes us less likely to make a bad choice. I love being like all of you.

xx- NS

[Pavati]

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Hi, All:

I had a nice walk and lunch this morning with some good friends in this crazy January DRY and 74F weather. So great to catch up and good to get out in the sun and fresh air.

I am feeling pretty blue this last week or so. No particular reason why - usually it goes away more quickly. I am trying to have a positive attitude and I wouldn't say I have a negative one, I just feel logy. Blah. Blue.

The good news is that it is not due to alcohol and I'm not making it worse by drinking. I don't want to drink, which is also a good thing. OK - I'll stop now. Blah.

I am having a MWO co-dependent few days, too. I haven't seen G-Man post in a long time and I have been worried about him as well as Gambler. It feels sort of weird to ask about people who aren't around, but just in case you're lurking, come back! We need a little XY energy around here some times. No Sugar - you're the veteran around here. What do you do when people you've come to like to communicate with just drop out like that? There are others that I think about, too - we're even missing some loamers!

OK - enough with the Debbie Downer. Everyone sounds great. I totally get that feeling of watching someone nurse and not finish a glass of wine. WTF. Who does that? I would drink mine and swill that last inch of someone else's on the way out. SL - I feel you - alone and happy is a time to drink (of course, also always with friends and sad also). Hope you tucked in tight and stayed with your plan.

I really want to answer you all but I am wiped out. Hope you all sleep well and I'll try to catch up better tomorrow. Thanks for being here for me when I feel like this.

xo
Pav

[Pavati]

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Hi,

I was just trolling my first week's posts to see where I was when I first came here. It was a nice trip down memory lane that reminded me of why I am here - everyone was so DARN nice! Of course there were names that I now am worried about, but I won't go there. I guess either it wasn't their time or this wasn't their way out.

I found this Ava gem that made me laugh - you do have a way with words...

I don't want a drink but my AL brain is trying to coax me and I am ignoring it. Like a toddler saying "mum mum mum mum" and I am like shut the F*** up.


xo

[HumbleRider]

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Pav,
I was also wondering where LClem has gone to. Please post ladies if you're out there. Yeah. The toddler routine. Then we stick our fingers in ours ears and start chanting (yelling) "lalalalalala I can't heeaar you lala"

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well hello Loamers, just a quick post, i love saying that, one day it may come true.

I am sitting on my bed watching "biggest loser" with my eldest daughter she decided to come and suprise me with her hubby so that was lovely although i did have to make pizzas but they were delicious and i dont mind cooking for them as they appreciate it.

Humble my maltese is a cross between maltese and something else. she is so smart and i love her to death but is getting on like Jvo's puppy. I cant imagine her not being here and the kids all tell me that when she dies they are going on a holiday so they wont be around as they know how much of a mess i will be. I know they wont! This guy actually is nice and he rang me today. God i nearly fell over, most men say they will ring and dont. Its going to be hot on Tuesday and he has air con so i told him i may visit, not that i am using him ha ha and i will wait to be invited.

River you are a treasure on here and always something nice, your fiance is right, you are a beautiful person. the thing i love about not drinking is waking up and smiling in the morning, feeling happy to be alive, feeling proud of how far i have come and much further i can go and making my kids proud, nothing beats that feeling and not failing you guys.

Dot your penny sounds so cute, i would have 100 dogs if i could. what is a puggle? My boys have an american staffy x pit bull and he is 1 year old and in that toddler stage and my girls have it over him for sure. He is so scared of them, its quite funny to watch as he could eat them if he chose to.

Hey Pat any post from you lovely is always good, i like it when you check in, not that i am worried but i care. Loved that quote, i was living that before i gave up al. Are you feeling better?

Nar you know what my posts are like but hey i have been paying attention and you do lots of little posts which i am sure would make one GREAT big post if you added them all together. method to your madness i reckon. You know i am always lurking Nar so i would have kicked your arse big time, you would have gotten the "and why the fark did you do that" comment and everyone else could have been compassionate! though you know i love you to bits.

NS hello, it is so good that your friends finally get it, it makes it more enjoyable that you dont have to be accountable for why you dont drink. I told a friend on fb that my kids were coming over and i told her i was not drinking weeks ago and she told me to enjoy myself, have a drink. I said i dont need al to enjoy myself and i was without it. FFS what is it with people.

Hey Debbie Downer cheer up lovey, i still agree with Pauly that we suffer from PAWS. i dont miss al at all and i am so much better in myself so i suppose we are actually now feeling like normal people do. Before we were so in an al haze that every downer we had we thought was due to al and not everyday crap. god i posted crazy stuff back then too, i told my daughter this and she just laughed, my how times have progressed.

Well this is not really a short post i am feeling but im always full of words. I cant understand why i talk in my sleep, one would think i say enough during the day. Take care my friends and stay positive. Monday tomorrow and a day off woo hoo so i will be on all day again. I still want a LIKE button on here please and thank you.
xxx

[Rivergal]

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[QUOTE=Pavati;1618489]Hi,

I was just trolling my first week's posts to see where I was when I first came here. It was a nice trip down memory lane that reminded me of why I am here - everyone was so DARN nice! Of course there were names that I now am worried about, but I won't go there. I guess either it wasn't their time or this wasn't their way out.

I found this Ava gem that made me laugh - you do have a way with words...

[I]I don't want a drink but my AL brain is trying to coax me and I am ignoring it. Like a toddler saying "mum mum mum mum" and I am like shut the F*** up.

Classic! Hahhahahahahahaha!