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Pavati;1618482 wrote: What do you do when people you've come to like to communicate with just drop out like that? There are others that I think about, too - we're even missing some loamers!

Hi, Pav.

When someone who was a fairly active poster that I had had some meaningful interaction with disappears, I usually send them a PM. I figure the risk I'm taking in being viewed as a pushy and annoying pain in the butt is worth it if a note of encouragement might be enough to help a person who is struggling try again. Sometimes there is no response and sometimes the person is fine but needs a break from MWO. When that is the case, it is nice to know about it and not worry. There are a couple of friends who aren't posting and told me they are fine but I'm concerned that might not be true. This is when it is hard for me to decide whether to be relentless or step back .

I'm sorry you're kind of down lately. It is tough to learn to actually live with those feelings when you can no longer just shut them down in an alcohol-haze. You and a couple others mentioned missing that feeling of oblivion. I do, too. It was such a relief. Although not as powerful, I can feel relaxed in a similar way in a sauna or while getting a massage. I think many people get a similar feeling (without the horrendous consequences) from meditation. I am going to try to put more focus on that in the upcoming months.

I have another day of activities but today AL isn't even invited so I don't have to show him how little I care.

Have a great MAE, Loamers, and please post, you quiet ones, so we know how you're doing . And remember that that is MOST important if you're struggling! The whole point of this is to help one another get and stay off this poison. So if you're holding back, please take the chance - someone just might be able to help.

:h NS

[j-vo]

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Hi all Pretty Loamers!

So, this is the day I return to the bitter cold. I'm not ready for that, but my body is rested and feeling like I can handle just about anything that life throws my way. So bring it on, baby!

River, you're sounding like you've got a great grip on this beast. Being alone is a huge trigger for me, and I think for lots of us. Last night sounded like a really cuddly kind of evening.

Dottie, I'm going to look up a pug/daschund. I'm sure Penny is sweet! And I love the name Penny. One of my favorite Beetle songs is Penny Lane. And for the first year of my 22 year career, I have a student named Penny. Her parents gave her the middle name, Lane!!!! She hates it when I called her that, so I don't.

Patrice, loved the quote! Thank you!

Nar, Franky and Daisy. Pretty names. My nieces dog's name is Frankie. She's a girl. Um...something's wrong with the sentence, "she's a girl." FFS, what kind of Lang. Arts teacher would say something like that! Oh, yeah, we'd come after your ass, for sure.

NS, how do you quote a part of a post? We missed you yesterday.

Pav, sorry you're feeling blue. We do have to go through all kinds of emotions. Just hang in there and it'll go away, promise! I think we're experiencing so many feelings and emotions that we just numbed for years and years, and we're surprised when we feel them, really not sure what to do when we have them, as we always reached for the bottle when it happened. I think we just have to say to ourselves, yeah, this is a normal emotion and it'll go away. Kind of like that happiness high doesn't last, even though we want it to, it's not realistic. Loved the Ava quote. So funny!

Ava, loved your post in your journal. That was so wonderful. You brought me happy tears.

Humble, hope you're staying warm! Yea, that's a good question Pav had. When people disappear, it's sad, because we think the worst. Anytime I disappeared from MWO over the past several years, I drank. So I can understand the uneasy feeling we get when people leave.

Ok everyone. Have a super sober day. Love you all!

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I was just trolling my first week's posts to see where I was when I first came here. It was a nice trip down memory lane that reminded me of why I am here - everyone was so DARN nice! Of course there were names that I now am worried about, but I won't go there. I guess either it wasn't their time or this wasn't their way out.

I found this Ava gem that made me laugh - you do have a way with words...

[i]I don't want a drink but my AL brain is trying to coax me and I am ignoring it. Like a toddler saying "mum mum mum mum" and I am like shut the F*** up.

Classic! Hahhahahahahahaha!

River, you are so cute! I am glad you are doing so well.

Ava, he called you again and has air conditioning?? Yes! If you add all my posts up they MIGHT equal one of your biggies....:H

Pav, I heard exercise helps those feelings. Glad you don't feel like drinking though.

J-Vo, so good that you had a small break from the cold. I can't wait for mine next week! I agree with you about disappearing from the thread. I have done that too and yes, it was because I went back to the drink.

NS, love ya. Love your posts.

Gotta go!!

xo

[giraffe1234]

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inkele:
Hi all
I couldnt find a dancing giraffe or a big enough smiley, so the elly must do.
90 days today, and all thanks to your support and encouragement.
A special thank you to he ladies with the lo-o-o-ng posts; I also love reading them and these posts sustain me on a daily basis.
Its Sunday evening here, watched the tennis, and its so amazingly cool for me to be sober at this time.
Hope you all have a wonderful week. :h

[scottish lass]

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Well done giraffe! Thats just great!
Hanging in here just fine - I do find that when i put my thoughts down in writing that I have to deal with them - they become reality instead of something I can ignore - it also makes giving up and drinking feel more pathetic...
So feeling just fine this morning - long may it last before the mum, mum, mum, mum....starts up again..
Hi Pav - that is hard for me - I know when i first started I thought stopping drinking was my key to eternal happiness and was so saddened when it wasn't - as so many have said, we have ability to numb our feelings and stopping that makes feelings there to deal with, and isn't that interesting!
Happy Sunday all..

[Dottie Belle]

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Penny's mama is a puggle which is a cross between a pug and a beagle and her daddy was a dachshund...she is long body but short nose...I will try to post a pic after I go back and figure out how.

[Miley]

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Happy Sunday Afternoon Loamers.......It's almost 3:00 and I've had a nice day so far. Woke up without a hangover, which made things so much better. Made breakfast for the family, did some spring (not) cleaning with my husband, did some laundry and now I'm chilling before my BUSY week begins. Lot's going on for me this week and it will be stressful. This is when I am inclined to think that a drink will make it better....I know it won't. Oh sure, I would feel good for a couple of hours but the hell I go through the next day just isn't worth it....guilt, shame, remorse, etc.....

One question I was asking myself before I came back to MWO when I would have a drink was "did AL really make this experience better"? I can tell you that 100% of the time, the answer was no. It didn't make spending an evening watching TV better, it didn't make dinner better, it didn't make spending time with my daughter better, it didn't make cooking better, etc....

Sorry to be long-winded but just wanted to get that off my chest and wanted to put out there the struggles I could be experiencing this week. I will be taking Ipad to work so I can be close to MWO.....

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Giraffe

inkele: inkele: inkele: inkele: inkele: inkele:

Wish I could give you 90 giraffes, but six ellies doing the happy dance will do. Well done - very proud of you!!!

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Hello Loamers, well NS said for the quiet ones to post so here i am. Bet you have all been wondering what i have been doing in oh the last 8 hours!

NS you sound so amazingly strong and honest in what you post. I love "al is not invited", i will keep that close for when that beautiful thought of "moderation" comes to the fore. Why i still have an inkling of moderating is beyond me. Ava lets have a drink of wine, its different than water or soft drink, will refresh you, give you a nice warm fuzzy feeling. Ava is a fool to think she can have one glass, alas she can never! Some days it is harder dealing with life sober than others but normal people do it so i figure i have to as i am normal too.

River i am glad i can make you laugh, gees those must have been early days for me, its great that the toddlers have now left the building so to speak although i do still have my boys (20 and 25) saying it. You are sounding a pretty happy girl at the moment and that is so good to see. When are you getting married if i may ask or is it a long term engagement?

Jvo your sounding good girl which is lovely to see. I wish we could all go on a holiday together, maybe one day! I never have the glorious benefit of being alone, my boys always have friends over. The last time was NYE and i had a tiny urge to get a bottle or 20 but you guys scared me too much to do it. I am glad you liked my post, thank you. It was good to put down how i feel now to what i was feeling when i first started on this journey.

Pav where are you sweetie, i miss your post to wake up to. I do hope you are okay. You are such a positive force on loamers and i treasure your posts even though it takes me two cups of coffee to get through them ha ha. We need you here. I agree with you that it is sad when people drop off here and like NS i have pm'd a few but i dont want to be pushy. At the end of the day we can only look after ourselves and hope they find their way back. It took me 2 years to find my way back as i obviously was not ready to totally commit to a sober life and the positive thing is when they do post it gives us hope they are back to stay. I am worried about MrG and Gambler though. I do wonder if Gambler got back with his wife, not that i like goss. I hope they are safe.

Nar, yes air con, i think i am in love already! NOT! After 2 months i still have not gotten motivated to exercise and yep well the gym went by the wayside but i was keen there for a week or so to join. I did manage to buy an exercise dooby that hangs off your door and i look at it every morning and night, it looks great. I hope you have a lovely doing what you gotta do.

Giraffe love the elephant and 90 days, time flies when you are having fun. I love the long posts too, wish i could do what the others do! I just love everyones posts. I didnt watch the tennis but i so loved the speech the woman gave who won, she was so funny.

SL hello, i can so relate to those thoughts of feeling pathetic. Why did we drink and god we could think about that for the next 20 years but no point really, we drank, we got drunk, we numbed every god damn emotion for years but now we dont want to and it is such a fantastic feeling. I love everyday i wake sober but al is always there, not a huge figure in my life but like someone who has died, always in my thoughts but i can never be with them again. I still miss my friend but the memories are fading, the good and the bad.

Dot a pic would be lovely, i still must work out how to do pics but i think posting a link like Rahul did for his holidays is the go. Wonder how he is doing now.

Miley, i wish i was long winded like you! Al never made anything better at all. As you say, everything is better, hold those thoughts girl. You so dont want to go back to day 1 and feel the shame, remorse, guilt, hangover, anxiety, nausea, headaches. So not fun. Being sober is fun. Knowing you have achieved another sober day is something to be very proud of and if you feel wobbly post on here, eat, sing, dance, ring a friend or foe or waffle on like some on here! You have made it through the weekend and i found that a great achievement as it was so hard, you can do this, do not leave us like others have.

Hey Dream how are you? Pink elephants, think i used to see them when i was drunk.

Well i have a day off today being long weekend and what i really hate about that is when my alarm is set to go off automatically and it wakes me at 5.45am. My steam mop wont steam so i will be working on that today and taking my daughter to the drs and going for coffee with a friend if he does not make an excuse not to meet. Washing my dogs is on the agenda but that involves me having a bath also as they dont like their baths but they look so cute after.

Love you guys and have a great Sunday night. xx

[narilly]

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Wow, Ava, you clean a lot! Have a great coffee with your friend, I am sure he will meet you!

Way to go Giraffe!!!! 90 days is awesome!!

Pav, how are you doing hon?

NS, yup moderating...what is that? I have tried that so many times. What a joke.

Dottie, I bet your dog is cute. I just love dogs, mine is a cutie too. PitbullX. Big suckie dog.

Well, no drinking AL for me today. I am reading the book by Alan Carr. It is taking me a long time but I will finish it. I think it is good so far. He has a good message for sure.

I made chocolate chip cookies if you ladies want to come over for some. YUM!

Hugs,

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Nar so much dust in this house. I am renting and the landlord wont put screens on the doors which means dust and more dirt and my backyard has weeds and dirt as no rain. gives me an interest.

I was reading LOAMERS week 3 before and that was when i first started. I am very impressed that i only typed 3 to 4 paragraphs. Maybe i should start drinking and stop again lol.

I am still trying to get started on "drinking a love story".

Oh yum and yes please nar and a cup of tea, one sugar and milk xx

[j-vo]

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Congratulations on 90 Giraffe! Wow!!!!! Speech!!!

[Dottie Belle]

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[Dottie Belle]

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Sorry that is huge..no clue how to size this..
Left to right is Annie, chihuahua/pug, middle is Penny, puggle/dachshund and Emmy Sue is a beagle mix.
This the doggie kids...will look for pics of the kitties.

[Byrdlady]

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Giraffe, the Prize Patrol has tracked you down to award you this!
:crowned:

You are the Queen! Great job on your 90 days!!!