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[little beagle]

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NS I love that recipe. And dark chocolate.
Ava your posts are so fun to read.
Good going Daisy. Almost a week.
I had a rough day Friday. I was just so busy I didn't post. Worked really hard Friday, a new house. They said they moved in 6 months ago, own niether broom or mop, so my best guess is neither have been done thoroughly in that time. Whew!
I was so tired driving home I almost nodded off. So of coure dick head chose that moment to start the nattering on about having a beer. I firmly turned my focus to other things. When I got home hubby was high. He slipped. I have a different definition of fwad. Him sometimes.
So he lect. No getting high in my vicinity allowed. Rule #1. Zero tolerance. I am only human and not bullet proof.
My daughter had to come over before I destroyed something. My house, his stuff? I was going to do damage, she got it under control and we were laughing and having a good time before I knew it.
Anyway I made it with help from those I count on including all of you ladies. Thank you. I always think of you guys when faced with those huge challenges.
we are going to have little support meetings here in my living room. There are three of us here in my house fighting dick head and my plan is to use items I find here and talk about them.
wish us luck.
My first thing will be that wonderful list Patrice. Thanks.
Sorry to ramble on so much.:l

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Well another brutal day nearly over and another brutal day tomorrow and the next and the next. Brutal quite appeals to me to describe the heat!

Satz, i would like a salad but i dont want to get into the stinking hot car to go to the shops oh and i am still in my nighty, well it is sunday and nothing day! The vegan, well he was just damn annoying, like most men i have met! I much prefer soups, so easy to make and just heat up and eat. Salads you have to cut things and if you dont eat it pretty well straight away it wilts and goes yuk.

Humble, a long post i love that and a good read to boot! We have Costco here now and man they have BIG bottles but i was not a spirit drinker just wine, lots and lots of wine. I do like Costco but there is only the three of us so not really worth my while spending $60 on membership each year and its a bit of a drive. Of course you can come to Thailand, i pack a suitcase in a suitcase for all the stuff i bring home, the kids are so looking forward to presents already and i have not gone yet. Hate to tell you Humble but i say "really" to people who say something stupid but i would never say that to you, whatever you say i love to read. I love your acts of kindness that is so sweet. Mia and i both got sunburnt yesterday in oh 20 minutes if that, i dont like the beach at all unless it is at 4.30pm and the sun is nearly gone. Not worth sun cancers.

LB a car, wow you must be behaving to get a new car. What colour is it? Even if it is 2nd hand it is still yours. Its funny how you wash it and clean it for a month then yep thats it. Mine looks like i have half my wardrobe in it now. I keep thinking i must wash it but too hot and then it will be too cold or i am too busy.

SL you would look hot in anything! I am not sure how to look hot either but i like to wear dresses and put makeup on then i feel hot! Who cares what others think. You can do this SL, the only one that wil lose when they drink is you and your daughters. I cant possibly drink due to my children, i have seen a change in them since i have not drank al. I thought we were close before but i know we are closer now. Mia said to me yesterday that she did not know how i got up everyday with a hangover and drinking everyday. I said that i did not know either and she told me she loves the new "mumma" even more than the old one. For this i will never drink again! Keep smiling and keep plodding along, i for one am plodding with you and one day at a time.

Daisy, god sleep i am still not sleeping that well but 6 hours is better than nothing and its such a deep sleep. When i first gave up al, i slept when i got home from work as i was bone tired. i knew i would be up till all hours but i figured any sleep i could get i took as i was making myself overtired by staying up late then could not sleep. even now i nap when tired, my body has years of healing to do to be normal again. Good on you for 5 days, having the right attitude makes it easier. Once i realised that i could never drink again and mourned that fact by drowning my sorrows then my next quit was the last.

LB what do you do for a living, i was a bit confused lovely. God i bet you want to hit hubs over the head with a brick. You have the patience of a saint but even saints can only take so much shit thrown at them. Your daughter sounds special like mine, they are a great support, i could not imagine having sons only, they are boring! How long had hubs stopped drinking before he drank again? Are you still going to counselling. God so many questions, sorry but i am nosy and concerned. Ramble away girl we will always try and help. I can send a brick!

Can someone call in at the shops and get me a cold chicken, lettuce, cucumber, capsicum, and cheese please. I have the rest of the ingredients. 35 degrees at 8pm so i am thinking i will starve tonight. drinking lots of water, enough for you guys that arent drinking it as it is tooo cold.

Still skating Nar? Rox where are you? Home yet star? Pav a long post please with some goss. Dream i love your coffee over at the NN. NS this post is a "lift out" from your newspaper today.

work tomorrow, woo hoo back to wanker heaven. I put in for my holidays tomorrow - 3rd april to 18th i think. My boss will have to organise someone to work and then when i get back i need to hear how efficient they were, then i need to find the work they have hidden and take 3 weeks to catch up. I love my boss! I so love a bitch!

Love you guys and i know i will cringe when i "quick post" and its not quick. One day i will have shorter posts i am sure! xxx

[satz123]

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HumbleRider;1621606 wrote:

Instead, I'm cooking up a wild rice quinoa almond apricot side dish to go with delicious leftover salmon

Oh, and, I'm a redhead, too, know all about the freckles, burns, etc. And how about a tomato Brussels sprout recipe then?

Satz, welcome! We have a habit of saying FFS around here and variations thereof, so you fit right fecking in!

Morning ladies :waving:
So HR red hair & freckles eh? Sounds like an Irish connection there :goodjob:
and with the usage of 'feck' I'd say deffo

Can I please have the receipe for the quinoa side dish - sounds scrummy and just what I'm looking for to stick to Paleo .

[NoSugar]

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MAE, Loamers. Is everyone doing well and on track? I love waking up on Sunday mornings fairly early and feeling fine with the whole day ahead .

Hope your party went well, Pav, and that you didn't feel left out or odd for not drinking. The party I went to was pretty much as I'd expected and I found myself looking at the generous glasses of wine everyone else had and thinking how drinking did make occasions I found tedious more tolerable. I didn't crave the wine or have any thought that I would drink it -- it was just a reminder of one of the reasons that I drank.

Narilly, when do you leave on your trip? You deserve warm weather after the cold you have to endure!

SL, I hope you are waking up this morning feeling good. In many programs, what you have accomplished over the last 6 months would be considered success and you should be proud of the progress you've made. It sounds like for you, as for many of us, total abstinence is what you want because alcohol still is limiting your life. You are so close -- you just need some new tools for those 5 or so nights a month that your current plan isn't handling. Can you identify what happens on those nights? Maybe you could "crowd-source" the problem here and someone will have an idea that will help.

SweetPea and Satz, I saw you over on some of the Eat Right threads - there is a lot of information in those. Hey, HR, if you would put that quinoa recipe in that Real Food thread, I sure would appreciate it! Sounds delicious!

LB, don't apologize for rambling! Like Ava said, this is my favorite newspaper and I love long articles! Your clients and your family sure are fortunate to have you in their lives. I have a friend who cleans homes and some of her tales of what she finds waiting for her are absolutely shocking. There is a book called something like "Other People's Dirt" - I bet you could write a sequel!
I'm so glad you can count on your daughter to support you. I don't know how you would handle everything without her. I hope your discussion of Pat's list helps reveal routes your family members can take to heal :l.

For those who watch, football with beer is just as boring as football without beer, it just.seems better (sort of like my party last night)

[giraffe1234]

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HumbleRider 90 days!!!

A belated but heartfelt hug to HumbleRider for 90 days. You were there for me all the time - thank you and well done to you!

[j-vo]

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I'm sorry to report that I drank last night. No reason. Nothing bad happened. Just Al overpowered me once again. I'm sorry to have let everyone down, and let myself down. I don't know what to say right now except that I'm ashamed and Al seems to be bigger and more powerful than me.

[HumbleRider]

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Well, if that isn't a blow this morning, j-vo! I woke up with a splitting headache and was just thanking God it wasn't from a hangover when I started reading here and saw this. There seems to be some sort of glitch in this quit for you, and it might help us all if you tried to figure it out. You say there was no reason, and that may be so on the surface, but... I get the feeling that "I can have and enjoy a drink/drunk every so often" is playing subconsciously on the broken record in your brain. Many of us have tried several times to quit and hope this is our last. We keep going on about why we think this is our last, and maybe that will help here. I know now that I could never truly quit with a relatively peaceful outlook until I took my consciousness in a new direction, with a brick wall between me and al in my brain and a positive desire, not a negative restraint, to back me up. Each time before it was negative restraint that kept me from drinking, which is why I couldn't go very long without the urge to break those chains and drink. Now, with, positive desire, I'm much more likely to stay sober. Hope you are taking care of yourself today. Cuddle up with some tea, a good book, an old movie, fer feck's sake, us here! We love you to bits and support you 200%. xo

[scottish lass]

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J-vo - its ok - trust me, i know - after wed and thurs I felt horrible, such a let down, but I am chosing to learn from it and move on - come with me, we can hold hands and do this, I know we can - we just have to know we can....no beat up, ok - just move forward.....
see my quote - Big :l's

[giraffe1234]

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Oh, dear j-vo, I am so very sorry. I'm thinking of you as I am sure everybody else is. Like Humble said - 200% support with love and kindness and empathy and deepest best thoughts. I wish there was something more tangible I could say or do. You have always been and remain an inspiration to me.
Hoping to hear from you soon. xx

[little beagle]

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J-vo don't be ashamed. Just keep going.
Ava I got a white Mazda 5 2010. It has a wonderful hatch area to haul around all my housekeeping equipment and still have 2 rear seats for passengers. My doggies love it.
Yes I could use that brick.
No Sugar I have thought of writing a book before. The old ladies and their eccentricities. I don't drink though so it makes that part easier to be patient. Dealing with that feeling like crap was really hard.

[Marylou123]

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J- Vo - we're here with you. Forgive yourself - let's move forward together. I know we have to be AF for ourselves, but it's sure nice knowing someone is holding your hand. Hang in ther sister. You are definitely not alone. I love you.

[j-vo]

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Humble, I tried to quote a part of your response and can't. But if I'm honest, this is it:

You say there was no reason, and that may be so on the surface, but... I get the feeling that "I can have and enjoy a drink/drunk every so often" is playing subconsciously on the broken record in your brain.

And even though I know the dangers of drinking like I do, I need to get this to stop playing in my head. It was just 20 days ago when I fell and I see the pattern here. A weekend night. Nothing to do. No one will know. WTF. I drank so much. It's not those times where I'm challenged being around it when others are drinking. I think I like those challenges and it feels good when I don't drink. But if I'm honest, my challenge lies on the weekend, after a week's work (which I actually had two days off in the middle of the week due to cold weather) and I think of it as a relief. A relief that will inevitably cause me pain and disappointment.

Humble, that's what I need to do. Take my consciousness in a new direction with a positive desire, not a negative restraint. I thought I had that, but obviously when I think about relief and Al is in the equation, that is not positive desire.

I've got lots of work to do. SL, I'd like to hold hands and move on with you. Love your quote.

Giraffe, thank you for you support. It means lots. LB, I will keep going.

Ok, so I have lots of homework to do. Lots. Thank you for your support ladies. I love you girls.

[j-vo]

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Thank you Marylou!

[scottish lass]

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Holding hands J-vo! I am honoured to hold hands with you - you are special...

[Pavati]

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Morning, all:

I was up until 2am having a great time last night, but I woke with a terrible sinus headache again! At least I had fun, drove home and am not hungover.

I am off to another event, but will check back and reply more later. I see Ava has a couple of nice, juicy posts for me.

xo
Pav